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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I'm trying to get my first meet and I've briefly talked to a few not many and we swap kik or whats app. After an introductory message on these apps there is radio silence, they don't even message on here. Now I'm definitely not coming across strong in my messages and I'm polite.
Whats their game? Are these timewasters? Scammers? What is the issue? I'm perplexed. Geniune advice would be appreciated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Possibly, for some reason, they're reaching the conclusion you're not for them.
Inviting people into our most intimate and private part of our lives takes time and the cost correct connection |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Could be any number of reasons and without having seen your message exchanges there's not a great deal to go on - just chalk it up to experience though.
Would ask why the need to move to Kik/What's App so quickly though? Maybe spend more time chatting to and getting to know people on here first and establishing that they are as interested in you as you are them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a fucking clue.
Could be blokes wanting wank material.
You could bore them.
Something shiny got their attention.
So many reasons but without being them or you I really couldn't tell ya.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could be any number of reasons and without having seen your message exchanges there's not a great deal to go on - just chalk it up to experience though.
Would ask why the need to move to Kik/What's App so quickly though? Maybe spend more time chatting to and getting to know people on here first and establishing that they are as interested in you as you are them "
He doesn't want to waste time on idle chit chat, preferring a quickly arranged social instead. Not realising that many women prefer some dialogue before putting themselves out in public and meeting  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Possibly, for some reason, they're reaching the conclusion you're not for them.
Inviting people into our most intimate and private part of our lives takes time and the cost correct connection"
Fair enough but why give me their number or kik? Or ask to talk there and after I send a "hi its xxx from fab" they say hi and when i say "how are you" or something like that its radio silence so it's not lile we had a long convo and they realised I wasn't for them. |
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Do you have your real name or face pic on Kik? Perhaps once they see you on there they recognise you? Or just don’t fancy you.
Plenty of people use a fake name or nickname for fab but put their real full name on kik, once they’ve got that they may have looked you up on social media and seen something that doesn’t appeal.
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By *LFB.Woman
over a year ago
Farnborough. |
When i gave out my kik all i got was message after message, even when i asked them to stop because i was at work. Now i only accept messages through the site as cant be doing with that and no longer have any messaging service |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you have your real name or face pic on Kik? Perhaps once they see you on there they recognise you? Or just don’t fancy you.
Plenty of people use a fake name or nickname for fab but put their real full name on kik, once they’ve got that they may have looked you up on social media and seen something that doesn’t appeal.
Lou x "
No my kik and whats app doesnt have my name or picture. By the time we move onto kik or whats app they have seen my pics already as they ask and i send it so that isn't it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why."
What do they want to hear then? You seem like you have experience and meet all the time |
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"Maybe put something other than 2 cock pics up?  "
Exactly this. Not very interesting or exciting pictures are they? I read from the ladies comments there are hundreds to choose from, so try and be ORIGINAL. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why."
this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe put something other than 2 cock pics up?
Exactly this. Not very interesting or exciting pictures are they? I read from the ladies comments there are hundreds to choose from, so try and be ORIGINAL."
I'm not asking why I'm not getting replies. Your comment doesnt apply since they've responded and I've sent them face pics to which they ha e replied with their number |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Possibly, for some reason, they're reaching the conclusion you're not for them.
Inviting people into our most intimate and private part of our lives takes time and the cost correct connection
Fair enough but why give me their number or kik? Or ask to talk there and after I send a "hi its xxx from fab" they say hi and when i say "how are you" or something like that its radio silence so it's not lile we had a long convo and they realised I wasn't for them. "
No idea then, only guessing with the limited info you initially offered.
We only use Kik to send face pics and WhatsApp (or phone) when arranging a meet.
Maybe stick to messaging here until you begin to put plans into action to meet, then swap numbers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond. "
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree people want to hear something original when they move to another platform.
That kind of message is no different from the vast majority people already get on here .... and ignore
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm. "
Humans with a life. I can only go by how we’d react to a how’s you message. Take it or leave it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Possibly, for some reason, they're reaching the conclusion you're not for them.
Inviting people into our most intimate and private part of our lives takes time and the cost correct connection
Fair enough but why give me their number or kik? Or ask to talk there and after I send a "hi its xxx from fab" they say hi and when i say "how are you" or something like that its radio silence so it's not lile we had a long convo and they realised I wasn't for them.
No idea then, only guessing with the limited info you initially offered.
We only use Kik to send face pics and WhatsApp (or phone) when arranging a meet.
Maybe stick to messaging here until you begin to put plans into action to meet, then swap numbers. "
I think you're right. I'm not going to move to kik because it's probably catfish or dudes after wank material. There is no logical reason for it other than to waste someones time. I think talking on here will seperate the fakes from the geniune people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well as it's none of the very plausible reasons that have been suggested so far OP - I'm going with P of Exquisite Deviance that either it's a bloke or something shiny caught their eye  "
He's 28, he knows best.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree people want to hear something original when they move to another platform.
That kind of message is no different from the vast majority people already get on here .... and ignore
P"
No even when i send different messages its the same. Literally after 1 message its silence. Very odd. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well as it's none of the very plausible reasons that have been suggested so far OP - I'm going with P of Exquisite Deviance that either it's a bloke or something shiny caught their eye "
I am starting to think this also. Because it's unusual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree people want to hear something original when they move to another platform.
That kind of message is no different from the vast majority people already get on here .... and ignore
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No even when i send different messages its the same. Literally after 1 message its silence. Very odd. "
Then maybe your kik is broken.
I still think something shiny caught their eye, or something with heels.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm. "
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Well as it's none of the very plausible reasons that have been suggested so far OP - I'm going with P of Exquisite Deviance that either it's a bloke or something shiny caught their eye
I am starting to think this also. Because it's unusual. "
No no it's not unusual to not be loved by anyone ba-da-da-da-dah |
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"Maybe put something other than 2 cock pics up?
No because why give me your number with 2 cock pics? "
Fair enough, but have you sent them anymore, i.e. face or body pics? How many times has this happened? How many ladies do you make contact with? There's a myriad of questions that you could ask, to which only you and the lady of your desire could possibly answer. Good luck in your ongoing quest OP. Either that or just fuck of down the pub and chat a lovely (8 pinter) lady up at the bar  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it. "
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe put something other than 2 cock pics up?
No because why give me your number with 2 cock pics?
Fair enough, but have you sent them anymore, i.e. face or body pics? How many times has this happened? How many ladies do you make contact with? There's a myriad of questions that you could ask, to which only you and the lady of your desire could possibly answer. Good luck in your ongoing quest OP. Either that or just fuck of down the pub and chat a lovely (8 pinter) lady up at the bar "
Ofcourse I send them pics of face and body on here. I don't have those public due to work ofcourse but they never swap numbers without seeing what I look like otherwise that would be the obvious factor in the silence.
I'm gonna take your advise and not let it bother me. I just thought it was strange. I know there are alot of cam girls on here who will want to snap chat you then try to get you to buy their premium chats so I was thinking is this a similar scam |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess"
Could still come down to frame of mind.
A let's look at the messages on fab frame of mind is very different to a received message when in the park with the kids.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess"
It’s not the instant messaging per se. But even when I sit down, I’m not excited about messaging someone I barely know who’s asked a bland question. I’m crap at messaging people I do know.
Is it not just as easy to carry on whatever you were chatting about on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.
What do they want to hear then? You seem like you have experience and meet all the time"
I don't know it depends on the person you're talking too, you have to think of something like mentioning a thing off their profile.
Say for example if they have somewhere written on the profile that they like biscuits, mention that to them and spark a conversation about it or something.
But something other than "hey how are you doing?" Can go a lot further. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess
It’s not the instant messaging per se. But even when I sit down, I’m not excited about messaging someone I barely know who’s asked a bland question. I’m crap at messaging people I do know.
Is it not just as easy to carry on whatever you were chatting about on here? "
No.i do that also. It's not always a how are you message. I may send an introductory to say who it is but then may carry on from the convo we had on here. Then silence.
I assumed it maybe one of these call girl or cam girl type profiles but people don't seem to think that so perhaps it's just people wasting time. |
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess
It’s not the instant messaging per se. But even when I sit down, I’m not excited about messaging someone I barely know who’s asked a bland question. I’m crap at messaging people I do know.
Is it not just as easy to carry on whatever you were chatting about on here?
No.i do that also. It's not always a how are you message. I may send an introductory to say who it is but then may carry on from the convo we had on here. Then silence.
I assumed it maybe one of these call girl or cam girl type profiles but people don't seem to think that so perhaps it's just people wasting time. "
You seem to have already made up your mind.
Surely if a cam girl, they'd try to direct you to their pay to view cam, surely.
Could be a number of reasons (several suggestions on this thread), but we don't know who you contact or your conversations.
Personally, we're not aware of any cam girls here, at least we've never come across any. |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them. "
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message"
It's a forum, be thankful this thread has stayed so close to subject for so long
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess
It’s not the instant messaging per se. But even when I sit down, I’m not excited about messaging someone I barely know who’s asked a bland question. I’m crap at messaging people I do know.
Is it not just as easy to carry on whatever you were chatting about on here?
No.i do that also. It's not always a how are you message. I may send an introductory to say who it is but then may carry on from the convo we had on here. Then silence.
I assumed it maybe one of these call girl or cam girl type profiles but people don't seem to think that so perhaps it's just people wasting time.
You seem to have already made up your mind.
Surely if a cam girl, they'd try to direct you to their pay to view cam, surely.
Could be a number of reasons (several suggestions on this thread), but we don't know who you contact or your conversations.
Personally, we're not aware of any cam girls here, at least we've never come across any."
Are you kidding? There are tons. I can refer a few profiles that are cam girls right now if you want.
Any one who sends you their snapchat or has their snap chat is highly likely to be a cam girl. I now don't respond to anyone who has their snap ID for that reason. |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message"
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
It's a forum, be thankful this thread has stayed so close to subject for so long
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I know that actually is an achievement |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances. "
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number. |
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"Maybe put something other than 2 cock pics up?
No because why give me your number with 2 cock pics?
Fair enough, but have you sent them anymore, i.e. face or body pics? How many times has this happened? How many ladies do you make contact with? There's a myriad of questions that you could ask, to which only you and the lady of your desire could possibly answer. Good luck in your ongoing quest OP. Either that or just fuck of down the pub and chat a lovely (8 pinter) lady up at the bar
Ofcourse I send them pics of face and body on here. I don't have those public due to work ofcourse but they never swap numbers without seeing what I look like otherwise that would be the obvious factor in the silence.
I'm gonna take your advise and not let it bother me. I just thought it was strange. I know there are alot of cam girls on here who will want to snap chat you then try to get you to buy their premium chats so I was thinking is this a similar scam "
Well I've never used Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook or any of that bollox, so I'm in no position to give you any advice about that, but I suppose there has to be some kind of rapport before you actually meet someone, and I've met a few single women who have traveled up from the South Coast to come and stop at mine for at least a couple of nights. As others have said, we don't know what the conversation is between you and the lady of your desires. |
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess
It’s not the instant messaging per se. But even when I sit down, I’m not excited about messaging someone I barely know who’s asked a bland question. I’m crap at messaging people I do know.
Is it not just as easy to carry on whatever you were chatting about on here?
No.i do that also. It's not always a how are you message. I may send an introductory to say who it is but then may carry on from the convo we had on here. Then silence.
I assumed it maybe one of these call girl or cam girl type profiles but people don't seem to think that so perhaps it's just people wasting time.
You seem to have already made up your mind.
Surely if a cam girl, they'd try to direct you to their pay to view cam, surely.
Could be a number of reasons (several suggestions on this thread), but we don't know who you contact or your conversations.
Personally, we're not aware of any cam girls here, at least we've never come across any.
Are you kidding? There are tons. I can refer a few profiles that are cam girls right now if you want.
Any one who sends you their snapchat or has their snap chat is highly likely to be a cam girl. I now don't respond to anyone who has their snap ID for that reason. "
Yup, I'm serious, we've never come across any.
Not staying there are none, only that we personally have not discovered any.
I'm sure though, their target audience is more likely single guys. |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances.
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number. "
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess
It’s not the instant messaging per se. But even when I sit down, I’m not excited about messaging someone I barely know who’s asked a bland question. I’m crap at messaging people I do know.
Is it not just as easy to carry on whatever you were chatting about on here?
No.i do that also. It's not always a how are you message. I may send an introductory to say who it is but then may carry on from the convo we had on here. Then silence.
I assumed it maybe one of these call girl or cam girl type profiles but people don't seem to think that so perhaps it's just people wasting time.
You seem to have already made up your mind.
Surely if a cam girl, they'd try to direct you to their pay to view cam, surely.
Could be a number of reasons (several suggestions on this thread), but we don't know who you contact or your conversations.
Personally, we're not aware of any cam girls here, at least we've never come across any.
Are you kidding? There are tons. I can refer a few profiles that are cam girls right now if you want.
Any one who sends you their snapchat or has their snap chat is highly likely to be a cam girl. I now don't respond to anyone who has their snap ID for that reason.
Yup, I'm serious, we've never come across any.
Not staying there are none, only that we personally have not discovered any.
I'm sure though, their target audience is more likely single guys."
That's probably why. They usually put up sexy pics and never send first replies. They just reply to dudes with their ID. |
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.this. If you’ve got onto kik, you should have something more fun to say than this. People come into fab when they’re ready to answer. On Kik you’re interfering more. So you need to give them a better reason to respond.
I'm messaging human beings not magpies. A standard introduction message is the norm.
Like touched upon here.
People pop onto fab when they're ready to chat with strangers about meeting with the possibility of sex.
Receiving an instant message (Kik, WhatsApp, text) at any given moment is a different situation.
They could have family or friends around, or be at work. Anything.
So may not be in the frame of mind to get into conversation with a stranger regarding a possible meet for sex.
That could possibly explain it.
Well I'm not a psycho that expects instant messages. I send a message and get a hi then reply with another and get nothing for days so I delete the number. I don't pester them.
I'm gonna chalk it up to dudes or just timewasters here for ego boosts and stay away from whats app. That'll filter the real people I guess
It’s not the instant messaging per se. But even when I sit down, I’m not excited about messaging someone I barely know who’s asked a bland question. I’m crap at messaging people I do know.
Is it not just as easy to carry on whatever you were chatting about on here?
No.i do that also. It's not always a how are you message. I may send an introductory to say who it is but then may carry on from the convo we had on here. Then silence.
I assumed it maybe one of these call girl or cam girl type profiles but people don't seem to think that so perhaps it's just people wasting time.
You seem to have already made up your mind.
Surely if a cam girl, they'd try to direct you to their pay to view cam, surely.
Could be a number of reasons (several suggestions on this thread), but we don't know who you contact or your conversations.
Personally, we're not aware of any cam girls here, at least we've never come across any.
Are you kidding? There are tons. I can refer a few profiles that are cam girls right now if you want.
Any one who sends you their snapchat or has their snap chat is highly likely to be a cam girl. I now don't respond to anyone who has their snap ID for that reason.
Yup, I'm serious, we've never come across any.
Not staying there are none, only that we personally have not discovered any.
I'm sure though, their target audience is more likely single guys."
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances.
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number.
?? You know best clearly.. "
No it's just common sense. If I sent you a message with my avatar you wouldn't even reply. You would delete my message based on your preferences. I'm talking about women who respond, see my pictures, swap numbers then don't reply. Clearly a different thing to what you're talking about. |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances.
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number.
?? You know best clearly..
No it's just common sense. If I sent you a message with my avatar you wouldn't even reply. You would delete my message based on your preferences. I'm talking about women who respond, see my pictures, swap numbers then don't reply. Clearly a different thing to what you're talking about. "
Well if your avatar was your chest maybe you'd get more genuine responses and the conversation would go further. It opens up more possibilities. |
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Just a hunch but are you sending messages to so many profiles that the law of averages is throwing a few back at you? And have you considered that you might only be one of hundreds who is getting the Kik or Whatsapp no. from that female?
I'm just suggesting that you might not be of much interest to them from the start - some people enjoy the thrill of being chased more than the prospect of being caught. |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances.
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number.
?? You know best clearly..
No it's just common sense. If I sent you a message with my avatar you wouldn't even reply. You would delete my message based on your preferences. I'm talking about women who respond, see my pictures, swap numbers then don't reply. Clearly a different thing to what you're talking about.
Well if your avatar was your chest maybe you'd get more genuine responses and the conversation would go further. It opens up more possibilities."
I can't put up any photos that may be recognizable due to my work. I have tattoos so limited to what I can put up but I mention this on my profile and i always send face pics when asked. Maybe it eliminates geniune women and why i have a higher timewaster ratio, sure yes. But now I know those people are timewasters I'll not bother with other platforms.just talk on here until i know they are real |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances.
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number.
?? You know best clearly..
No it's just common sense. If I sent you a message with my avatar you wouldn't even reply. You would delete my message based on your preferences. I'm talking about women who respond, see my pictures, swap numbers then don't reply. Clearly a different thing to what you're talking about.
Well if your avatar was your chest maybe you'd get more genuine responses and the conversation would go further. It opens up more possibilities.
I can't put up any photos that may be recognizable due to my work. I have tattoos so limited to what I can put up but I mention this on my profile and i always send face pics when asked. Maybe it eliminates geniune women and why i have a higher timewaster ratio, sure yes. But now I know those people are timewasters I'll not bother with other platforms.just talk on here until i know they are real"
Exactly this.. I'm heavily tattooed and manage to keep mine mostly hidden. Your avatar is your first impression. To increase choices it's best to be anything else. It's just law of averages. |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances.
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number.
?? You know best clearly..
No it's just common sense. If I sent you a message with my avatar you wouldn't even reply. You would delete my message based on your preferences. I'm talking about women who respond, see my pictures, swap numbers then don't reply. Clearly a different thing to what you're talking about.
Well if your avatar was your chest maybe you'd get more genuine responses and the conversation would go further. It opens up more possibilities.
I can't put up any photos that may be recognizable due to my work. I have tattoos so limited to what I can put up but I mention this on my profile and i always send face pics when asked. Maybe it eliminates geniune women and why i have a higher timewaster ratio, sure yes. But now I know those people are timewasters I'll not bother with other platforms.just talk on here until i know they are real
Exactly this.. I'm heavily tattooed and manage to keep mine mostly hidden. Your avatar is your first impression. To increase choices it's best to be anything else. It's just law of averages. "
It's different for a guy. Unless women want to see my hairy legs I don't think its appealing. Women have more area they can take pics of. Frankly speaking a woman can take a pic of their hand and guys will still respond. Also you have no issue with having your face on here. I do due to work. hense my avatar. |
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"Just a hunch but are you sending messages to so many profiles that the law of averages is throwing a few back at you? And have you considered that you might only be one of hundreds who is getting the Kik or Whatsapp no. from that female?
I'm just suggesting that you might not be of much interest to them from the start - some people enjoy the thrill of being chased more than the prospect of being caught."
I think there is alot of truth in all of that. |
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"I don't talk to anyone that has a sausage shot for their profile pic. I have no wish to see that before I even speak to them.
That's great. Not sure what that has to do with my question or how it relates but thanks. I'll make sure i don't send you a personal.message
Many females I know have the same opinion and won't consider conversation with those avatars. You asked how to increase chances.
I didn't ask how to increase chances. I think you responded to the wromg thread. If a women want interested in a cock avatar she wouldn't be sending me her number.
?? You know best clearly..
No it's just common sense. If I sent you a message with my avatar you wouldn't even reply. You would delete my message based on your preferences. I'm talking about women who respond, see my pictures, swap numbers then don't reply. Clearly a different thing to what you're talking about.
Well if your avatar was your chest maybe you'd get more genuine responses and the conversation would go further. It opens up more possibilities.
I can't put up any photos that may be recognizable due to my work. I have tattoos so limited to what I can put up but I mention this on my profile and i always send face pics when asked. Maybe it eliminates geniune women and why i have a higher timewaster ratio, sure yes. But now I know those people are timewasters I'll not bother with other platforms.just talk on here until i know they are real
Exactly this.. I'm heavily tattooed and manage to keep mine mostly hidden. Your avatar is your first impression. To increase choices it's best to be anything else. It's just law of averages.
It's different for a guy. Unless women want to see my hairy legs I don't think its appealing. Women have more area they can take pics of. Frankly speaking a woman can take a pic of their hand and guys will still respond. Also you have no issue with having your face on here. I do due to work. hense my avatar. "
Only added that tonight. Won't stay. I'd rather see a thigh. But that's just my opinion. I've never seen cockshots from anyone I've met. Priority for me is friendship and connection. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Genuine question OP - you say you can't post pics other than your cock due to recognisable tattoos and the need to be discreet due to work - what line of work are you in that they would know what tattoos you have on your chest, back, bum, torso, legs etc which there are very few jobs where those would be seen?
Not asking for specifics but my colleagues wouldn't have a clue whether I had tattoos or not other than on my lower arms/hands and face, let alone be able to recognise them.
And even if you do do something where they're visible, unless you are completely covered head to foot there are still (pics clothed and unclothed) you could take - bum, unbuttoned jeans and shirt, suit etc are all popular.
There's also pretty good and easy to use editing software you can blur tattoos with |
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It's realistic to assume that most people that are liked by one person will not have the same level of attraction in return.
It takes a fair bit of interaction with each other, before people are able to determine if you are matched. All along it may seem really positive but the moment that it's clear it's not a match, dragging things any further is wasting both sides time. No reply means no interest, as Fab rules state.
Not being matched isn't doing anything wrong - it's perfect to be able to spot it before meeting.
It's important to set your expectations as realistic as possible. Engage with loads of people, so some may become meets. Single men have tons of competition, so it's easy for people to find good matches.
If your profile is good and accurate, it is your foundation and the rest is down to effort and fortune, when others find you a good match.
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By *ce AFWoman
over a year ago
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why."
"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why."
Correct. I'm terrible for this I hold my hands up because it's just boring. The attention span goes when the convo or banter is lacking. I think oh potential then boom all goes Pete Tong lol
People brand them as timewasters but they are the ones that's wasted their time also in engaging with the person only to be given not what they expected either. There are loads of reasons why chat stops it's just one of those things it's a site full of different variety of characters just move on lol |
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.
Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.
Correct. I'm terrible for this I hold my hands up because it's just boring. The attention span goes when the convo or banter is lacking. I think oh potential then boom all goes Pete Tong lol
People brand them as timewasters but they are the ones that's wasted their time also in engaging with the person only to be given not what they expected either. There are loads of reasons why chat stops it's just one of those things it's a site full of different variety of characters just move on lol"
Let me.put it to you in a way You'll understand. Imagine you're chating to a guy on here, it's going well and he says here is my number lets meet up. You text him directly he says "hi" you write something and he doesn't reply after that...ever. You wouldn't think that was weird? |
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over a year ago
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"Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.
Most women don't want to hear "hey how are you?" ... That's probably why.
Correct. I'm terrible for this I hold my hands up because it's just boring. The attention span goes when the convo or banter is lacking. I think oh potential then boom all goes Pete Tong lol
People brand them as timewasters but they are the ones that's wasted their time also in engaging with the person only to be given not what they expected either. There are loads of reasons why chat stops it's just one of those things it's a site full of different variety of characters just move on lol
Let me.put it to you in a way You'll understand. Imagine you're chating to a guy on here, it's going well and he says here is my number lets meet up. You text him directly he says "hi" you write something and he doesn't reply after that...ever. You wouldn't think that was weird? "
I didn't need you to put it in a way for me to understand as I already knew crystal clear what you meant.
No I don't think it's weird as I stated there are a number of reasons why it happens and it happens to me also but I don't get hung up about it because it's just one of those things. It's no form of rejection just no the person your meant to fuck.
Just chill and continue fabbin
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"So I'm trying to get my first meet and I've briefly talked to a few not many and we swap kik or whats app. After an introductory message on these apps there is radio silence, they don't even message on here. Now I'm definitely not coming across strong in my messages and I'm polite.
Whats their game? Are these timewasters? Scammers? What is the issue? I'm perplexed. Geniune advice would be appreciated. "
They aren’t interested. |
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Hi OP
I think the people you’re talking to are men.
Women on Fab (due to the ratios) can be really choosy. Many won’t respond to guys with only cock pics displayed and with demanding profiles. Lots don’t respond to messages at all due to the number they get.
Men who only use Fab to find women (without going to clubs and socials) tend to say they get very, very few responses.
You’re getting lots of responses (on a profile that doesn’t have broad appeal) and they’re all disappearing as soon as a private conversation begins...
“Cam girls” wouldn’t disappear without trying to direct you to their paid-for site. So either you’re repeatedly getting women into a one-to-one conversation and putting them off (unlikely if the conversation is simply “how are you?”) or they were never women in the first place.
Go back to basics. Make yourself as attractive as possible to as large a number of women as possible. Remember that women have a lot of choice on here so try to be easy-going and not demanding. You’ll attract many fewer women but they probably will be real women.
Remember - every time you insist on displaying your cock, or you demand a face pic from the woman, or you stipulate up front how you’ll fuck her, or say you don’t want to be chatting for long before the sex starts, you reduce the pool of real women who want to chat.
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"Possibly, for some reason, they're reaching the conclusion you're not for them.
Inviting people into our most intimate and private part of our lives takes time and the cost correct connection
Fair enough but why give me their number or kik? Or ask to talk there and after I send a "hi its xxx from fab" they say hi and when i say "how are you" or something like that its radio silence so it's not lile we had a long convo and they realised I wasn't for them. "
This has happened to me in opposite OP.
I'll chat and it's late at night I've had a couple of beers and I'm messaging someone. They ask to move chat over to another platform. I don't want to be rude and say no in case it hurts their totties, but it breaks the flow. I fall asleep then in the morning I have a Kik chat and I don't have a great connection to the person so I'm unsure what to talk about and I have a busy day so the conversation falters and I delete it some time in the next week.
Try waiting longer to make sure there's a connection maybe? |
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Some very good advice throughout this thread.
However, after looking through your profile, I think Mrs Trellis makes some,very fine points.
Sell yourself to your target audience and you're part way there. |
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"So I'm trying to get my first meet and I've briefly talked to a few not many and we swap kik or whats app. After an introductory message on these apps there is radio silence, they don't even message on here. Now I'm definitely not coming across strong in my messages and I'm polite.
Whats their game? Are these timewasters? Scammers? What is the issue? I'm perplexed. Geniune advice would be appreciated.
They aren’t interested. "
Clearly but why give your number to someone you're not interested in |
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"Possibly, for some reason, they're reaching the conclusion you're not for them.
Inviting people into our most intimate and private part of our lives takes time and the cost correct connection
Fair enough but why give me their number or kik? Or ask to talk there and after I send a "hi its xxx from fab" they say hi and when i say "how are you" or something like that its radio silence so it's not lile we had a long convo and they realised I wasn't for them.
This has happened to me in opposite OP.
I'll chat and it's late at night I've had a couple of beers and I'm messaging someone. They ask to move chat over to another platform. I don't want to be rude and say no in case it hurts their totties, but it breaks the flow. I fall asleep then in the morning I have a Kik chat and I don't have a great connection to the person so I'm unsure what to talk about and I have a busy day so the conversation falters and I delete it some time in the next week.
Try waiting longer to make sure there's a connection maybe? "
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"Possibly, for some reason, they're reaching the conclusion you're not for them.
Inviting people into our most intimate and private part of our lives takes time and the cost correct connection
Fair enough but why give me their number or kik? Or ask to talk there and after I send a "hi its xxx from fab" they say hi and when i say "how are you" or something like that its radio silence so it's not lile we had a long convo and they realised I wasn't for them.
This has happened to me in opposite OP.
I'll chat and it's late at night I've had a couple of beers and I'm messaging someone. They ask to move chat over to another platform. I don't want to be rude and say no in case it hurts their totties, but it breaks the flow. I fall asleep then in the morning I have a Kik chat and I don't have a great connection to the person so I'm unsure what to talk about and I have a busy day so the conversation falters and I delete it some time in the next week.
Try waiting longer to make sure there's a connection maybe? "
I think that's some good advice. I'll have to take angeled pics to not show who I am I suppose. Like I said due to work I need to remain discrete. |
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