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What do the majority of men really think of the women on here?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be fairly soul destroying trying to form any kind of connection here. I feel a lot of women on fab can be very dismissive. I enjoy browsing and chatting and that's enough to keep me entertained. But it becomes harder to find a reason to stay. |
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. "
To be honest it’s tiring and every time you another lady’s profile It just feels like another demand on top of another demand. Me personally I try to be in the middle kinky but respectful. But nothing works no luck at all but it doesn’t help that you got 100 guys to one woman and if that one guy is a idiot will doesn’t make the rest of us any good |
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"It can be fairly soul destroying trying to form any kind of connection here. I feel a lot of women on fab can be very dismissive. I enjoy browsing and chatting and that's enough to keep me entertained. But it becomes harder to find a reason to stay."
I so totally agree with you bud  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. "
Molly I would never bash you!
99% of women on here are bloody brilliant. They come in for a lot of stick, and they show a great deal of patience. Some (such as yourself) have suffered with evil comments, which makes me boil with anger. Xx |
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. "
If you want to know what I think of women pm me I'll let you know you will like the response  |
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Personally I prefer the women that are a bit more picky, (a pity really considering I'm an overweight balding shortarse with a smallish dick) but considering the kind of site this is it's not really a surprise some men treat the ladies as an easy shag, thankfully the good ones don't fall for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some men see the word sex and come to conclusions (Dodgy lock analogy).
The irony is often the shoe is on other foot and it is the women who are not the desperate ones."
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I think both men and women can give each other a bad name.
I wonder if the roles were reversed and there were few men on here, how that would translate.
Ultimately, it's about respect for yourself for others and a live and let live attitude. With do unto others as you have done to yourself that I think is important. Being an asshole isn't just in the realm of the male sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well i just had a 3 year anniversary with one of my fab friends.
Year and a half with another and two of the first people i met are still close friends going for well over 5 years now.
Fab is no different to the rest of the world, theres lots of people but only a few you enjoy spending time with. It's worth looking to find them but theres no reason not to have fun along the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of the single men admit they wouldnt share their gf/wife. "
Which just shows that they have no understanding of the swinging/polyamorous lifestyle. These are the kind of men I avoid |
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By *am62Woman
over a year ago
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It's quite sad really, as we all deserve respect, just because we are swingers it dosent mean we are not responsible respectable human beings. I would rather a man mail me and be polite and curtious, I appreciate that more than a mail saying, Wana fuc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem we have is that most guys don’t understand the swinging lifestyle, they see this site as a sex site, and it really isn’t, you are right OP, the majority of guys on here seem to think they have a sense of entitlement and get quickly frustrated when they’re not getting what they think is easily obtainable.
Having a single guys profile on here is like being a minion, you have to go above and beyond all the others to get noticed, and even doing that doesn’t work most of the time, the site has changed a lot over the 10 years plus we’ve been here, now saturated with single guys and media publicity it’s become less of a swinging site and more of a social platform, this is just my opinion of course, but going back to the original post, yes, single guys have pretty much fucked this site up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think due to the amount of guys to girls ratio women have a much better choice than the guys, but then on the flip side some guys are meeting girls they wouldn't normally meet on a day to day basis due to the simple fact they want to get their dick wet! This then gives women a bad experience and then starts the vicious circle of why the women put so many conditions on their profile and the nice guys don't get a look in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we all have to make ourselves seen for the right reasons, as a single female I’m constantly having to prove myself. Firstly that singles can be swingers who have just as much right to be here as couples do (some couples don’t seem to think so) And secondly us ladies aren’t here just to fuck anyone, yes we’re on a swinging site (not an instant sex site) and yes there’s naked pics of us but that doesn’t mean we will spread our legs because you say so!
Obviously this don’t mean every male or couple is like this but some are and it’s frustrating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. "
A connection defeats would make swinging no different than dating. No, this does not mean that I _iew women as ‘pieces of meat’ and just that it rules out a “connection”. Of course if two (three or four) get a long, that’s a plus, though it’s hardly the point in swinging (or casual sexual encounters).
If you’re getting down about this, I recommend that you join a dating site. This website has (should have) a different purpose to that in which you desire. |
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Women are a guilty as the guys they the women of fab look for that guy the one who hit the gym 6/7 time a week and are dedicated to theirselves it will never end well and use fab and others for there sex but have no room for people in there life .
There plenty of guy here who are decent but there can not get it over in there profile so maybe women should go for more narmal men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a generation / age thing regarding being respectable.How can a person male or female show respect if they have no self respect?
It makes my skin crawl when I hear/read obnoxious sexual terminology from both sexes.Unfortunately this site is a magnet for the rude,ignorant,selfish and small minded who find it difficult to communicate.
Social media,reality tv etc is behind such irresponsibility.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Many, many truly lovely down to earth females who are comfortable in their own skin, who use the site for their individual needs and treat the guys/couples they interact/meet with the same respect that they expect.
And then the rest, some who reap what they sow. Sadly. |
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I’ve got no idea what the majority of blokes think, the women here will have a better idea and from what they say about getting 100 messages all saying “wanna fuck”, you might be right.
But there are blokes here who will be in line with what you want, it’s just hard work finding them. Worth it though, because meeting someone who makes you smile with a mental connection and is awesome in bed is a great find |
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Speaking from the point of _iew of someone who likes to chat a little first - I'm well aware this isn't everyone!
A significant number of single guys log on when they're horny and hope to arrange a meet. They're thinking with their dick and therefore find it hard to to distinguish the real people looking for mutual pleasure from a lifelong habit of porn and treat us accordingly.
The cleverer ones of this type mask it behind saying the right things - yes I too like to establish chemistry etc etc. But they notably disappear until the next time they're horny - often giving themselves away by intimating that, as it's now the second or third message, surely it's time to meet now.
This is how it makes the decent guys easy to spot! Not pushy to meet, for pics and happy to genuinely chat a little/take it at your pace not just theirs before setting something up.
Unfortunately the media attention has attracted more of the first type who just think - horny, fab, boobs, fuck... now. I persevere! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's a generation / age thing regarding being respectable.How can a person male or female show respect if they have no self respect?
It makes my skin crawl when I hear/read obnoxious sexual terminology from both sexes.Unfortunately this site is a magnet for the rude,ignorant,selfish and small minded who find it difficult to communicate.
Social media,reality tv etc is behind such irresponsibility.
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What has respect and name calling got to do with the op’s topic? She’s on a swinging/casual encounters website seeking an emotional bond......it’s hardly going to be conducive in her/anyone’s search for emotional connection.
It’s my opinion that a lot of you are emotionally/sexually naive masquerading as worldly by joining this site. The posts are entirely hypocritical. Finding someone sexually attractive and wishing to pursue a sexual dalliance with them is not the same as a “connection” ( a lot of responses seem to think that it is).
The op wishes to also know what men think of women on here? I personally see them as I see anyone else, though assumed that they wished for nsa sexual gratification. If there is a bond sparked with that, then it can lead to a fwb situation. Though, no I’m not seeking a “bond” nor “connection”. Having emotions involved with casual sex is never a good idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite clear about what I'm looking for from Fab, quite vocal in here about requiring a connection (despite posting lots of naked pics of myself).
As for how I feel about the majority of women on here? I find myself drawn to most Forumites, because they tend to wear their hearts on their sleeves.
It's the rest of Fab who aren't so clear with their comms that I struggle with. They tend to look at me like just another random sex toy or slab of meat.
On the whole I've a healthy amount of respect for anyone brave enough to embrace their own urges. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a very healthy respect for everyone on here and think it essential to have a personal connection with anyone I chat to, let alone meet.
As a single guy you are treated with caution, which is perfectly understandable.
I chat to a few and meet less. The social side in the forum is always entertaining and fun.
There are plenty of people in life who don't treat people with respect, here polarises this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel sad that some men behave the way you describe and sometimes angry especially when the behaviour is abusive and misogynistic, but I’m no saint. I endeavour to remain aware of my behaviour and the effect it can have and do my best to update outmoded sub-conscious beliefs when I become conscious of them and put things right when I behave inappropriately. I still fail miserably in some respects. However I never feel tarnished by anyone’s behaviour but my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's a generation / age thing regarding being respectable.How can a person male or female show respect if they have no self respect?
It makes my skin crawl when I hear/read obnoxious sexual terminology from both sexes.Unfortunately this site is a magnet for the rude,ignorant,selfish and small minded who find it difficult to communicate.
Social media,reality tv etc is behind such irresponsibility.
What has respect and name calling got to do with the op’s topic? She’s on a swinging/casual encounters website seeking an emotional bond......it’s hardly going to be conducive in her/anyone’s search for emotional connection.
It’s my opinion that a lot of you are emotionally/sexually naive masquerading as worldly by joining this site. The posts are entirely hypocritical. Finding someone sexually attractive and wishing to pursue a sexual dalliance with them is not the same as a “connection” ( a lot of responses seem to think that it is).
The op wishes to also know what men think of women on here? I personally see them as I see anyone else, though assumed that they wished for nsa sexual gratification. If there is a bond sparked with that, then it can lead to a fwb situation. Though, no I’m not seeking a “bond” nor “connection”. Having emotions involved with casual sex is never a good idea. "
The OP asks what do the majority of men think of women on fab...No one person can answer that question but only give their own opinion...Many here are seeking sexually liberated people but there has to be a connection.We're not all looking for an easy lay.It's what separates us from dogs on the street. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met some absolute crackerjack women on here funny flirty down to earth fearless people from diferent walks of life i met my best mate on here and the love of my life here too iv been unbelievably lucky now i use it to entertain myself have a laugh i never really chased women like a dog in heat and im completly unique in the sence i never was a smoke blower im a say what i see kind of guy often my brain is slower than my gob/fingers 90% of things i say are for a giggle unless im feeling green then its huuuuuulk smaaaaaaaaash  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morning OP. I think as in life there are good and bad. For me, the ones I have chatted to and met have been lovely. I'm not at all desperate to meet, in fact I'm far too busy so it has to take a while.
I read some status' or what they post/ how they behave on forums and that acts as a kind of filter for me.
My experience of women I have interacted with has been a positive one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Speaking from the point of _iew of someone who likes to chat a little first - I'm well aware this isn't everyone!
A significant number of single guys log on when they're horny and hope to arrange a meet. They're thinking with their dick and therefore find it hard to to distinguish the real people looking for mutual pleasure from a lifelong habit of porn and treat us accordingly.
The cleverer ones of this type mask it behind saying the right things - yes I too like to establish chemistry etc etc. But they notably disappear until the next time they're horny - often giving themselves away by intimating that, as it's now the second or third message, surely it's time to meet now.
This is how it makes the decent guys easy to spot! Not pushy to meet, for pics and happy to genuinely chat a little/take it at your pace not just theirs before setting something up.
Unfortunately the media attention has attracted more of the first type who just think - horny, fab, boobs, fuck... now. I persevere! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The endless threads from men making fuck all effort and bemoaning their complete lack of success sums up what many men think of women on here.
Even worse the men that slag off women on here that 'wouldn't do as well in the real world' be that for their age, their size, their looks.
We've all seen those threads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The endless threads from men making fuck all effort and bemoaning their complete lack of success sums up what many men think of women on here.
Even worse the men that slag off women on here that 'wouldn't do as well in the real world' be that for their age, their size, their looks.
We've all seen those threads. "
Yeah, but who takes those men seriously?
And how far do they get on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The trouble is, th8s site has evolved beyond a swingers site and is now also used by hardened kinksters, attention seeking singles and ex Craigslisters looking for all kinds of illicit encounters. As such there are people with no understanding of actual swinging and just see it as a meat market. Some of those people barely respect themselves, let alone anyone else.
I know I am guilty of cringing at some of the profiles on here as I dont want to get tarnished with the same brush, so I guess that makes me judgemental too. I suppose my point is that you can indulge in this world while also being honest, having respect got yourself and others, being selective, playing safe and just generally being decent. So.many don't though and that mskes it harder for the many good, fun people on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The trouble is, th8s site has evolved beyond a swingers site and is now also used by hardened kinksters, attention seeking singles and ex Craigslisters looking for all kinds of illicit encounters. As such there are people with no understanding of actual swinging and just see it as a meat market. Some of those people barely respect themselves, let alone anyone else.
I know I am guilty of cringing at some of the profiles on here as I dont want to get tarnished with the same brush, so I guess that makes me judgemental too. I suppose my point is that you can indulge in this world while also being honest, having respect got yourself and others, being selective, playing safe and just generally being decent. So.many don't though and that mskes it harder for the many good, fun people on here "
idiots never have or will have any effect on who with when and how i interact and bump uglies with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The endless threads from men making fuck all effort and bemoaning their complete lack of success sums up what many men think of women on here.
Even worse the men that slag off women on here that 'wouldn't do as well in the real world' be that for their age, their size, their looks.
We've all seen those threads.
Yeah, but who takes those men seriously?
And how far do they get on here?"
No one. And not far.
But as a representation of how many men _iew women on here those threads are pretty damming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the same effort should be made on here as if you were trying to chat up someone on a night out. I know it's a swinging site so we're all here for sex but there are so many other factors that have to come into play. For someone to stand out to me they need good banter and intellect not just a quick message saying 'hi' or 'your tits are banging', they need plenty of displayed verifications (I automatically delete anyone who has been on the site longer than 6 months with no verified by meet). There's so many fake profiles on here and it makes my blood boil that you waste your time chatting to a so-called couple who turns out to be a single male. This is why I'm a bitch and have more people in my block list than friends list |
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"The endless threads from men making fuck all effort and bemoaning their complete lack of success sums up what many men think of women on here.
Even worse the men that slag off women on here that 'wouldn't do as well in the real world' be that for their age, their size, their looks.
We've all seen those threads.
Yeah, but who takes those men seriously?
And how far do they get on here?"
The fact they don’t get far doesn’t really matter, there’s so many that it can be a bit overwhelming for those who get pestered by them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure people are on topic here ...a very difficult question to answer OP because people on here general don't meet with a _iew to continue in any form into their every day lives so judge poles apart from everyone else in their lives! I seem to speak to (some reluctantly) 3 types of guys on here: the easy sex we're basically free prostitutes, the attached guys who are looking for their own fulfilment outside their normal, and a few real lifestyle swingers (party club goers). The most likely, only in my experience, to make a connection are the married guys who seem to prefer the regular being fab fwb, the rest are get ya willies wet brigade ... though one is more likely to treat me with respect (the swingers) but would they or I know each other in our life's? Nope probably not tbh... would we meet socially off here, probably not. Would we even notice each other in "real" life probably not ... so apart from an amazing walking friend (male) that I've made, I think both males and some females on here just use each other for their own physical gratification and thats about it! Isn't that what it's all about really, however it's dressed up in the forums? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you're right.
The keyboard often removes the barrier for common decency.
I met a real gent at a social earlier in the year. But I find in messages there are few. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see women of all shapes and forms, comfortable with who they are looking for what they want... Total respect for all sexes on here... Nobody is a slab of meat and nobody should be treat as such  |
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"Not sure people are on topic here ...a very difficult question to answer OP because people on here general don't meet with a _iew to continue in any form into their every day lives so judge poles apart from everyone else in their lives! I seem to speak to (some reluctantly) 3 types of guys on here: the easy sex we're basically free prostitutes, the attached guys who are looking for their own fulfilment outside their normal, and a few real lifestyle swingers (party club goers). The most likely, only in my experience, to make a connection are the married guys who seem to prefer the regular being fab fwb, the rest are get ya willies wet brigade ... though one is more likely to treat me with respect (the swingers) but would they or I know each other in our life's? Nope probably not tbh... would we meet socially off here, probably not. Would we even notice each other in "real" life probably not ... so apart from an amazing walking friend (male) that I've made, I think both males and some females on here just use each other for their own physical gratification and thats about it! Isn't that what it's all about really, however it's dressed up in the forums? "
In a nutshell, it says what it is on the tin. |
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over a year ago
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I love that people make a distinction between people on fab and everyone else.
Fab is a website where people with a casual attitude towards sex get together.
If some of these people don’t have respect for women that was something they brought with them
Fab didn’t change them in some way. |
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"I love that people make a distinction between people on fab and everyone else.
Fab is a website where people with a casual attitude towards sex get together.
If some of these people don’t have respect for women that was something they brought with them
Fab didn’t change them in some way. "
I disagree in real life you will not see photos of people getting several cocks or a list of how many people have fucked them, it’s pure sex on offer it’s a sex site and real life is not like that at all so the behaviour of a person that they _iew is gagging for it so it will be different to the nice girl/boy next door, it’s the age old judgement of a slut or slag that will cross many men’s minds most men don’t really respect women they see as such, great for the ones that do but it’s not going to be the majority |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sure it happens on both sides..
I've never used the site as a pick up place and never will. I make no apologies for what I want out of here and use my filters accordingly. Anyone who hasn't bothered to read my profile or sends me a sexual message I just block.
Frustrating but works for me x
I've met some incredible guys and made some great friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love that people make a distinction between people on fab and everyone else.
Fab is a website where people with a casual attitude towards sex get together.
If some of these people don’t have respect for women that was something they brought with them
Fab didn’t change them in some way.
I disagree in real life you will not see photos of people getting several cocks or a list of how many people have fucked them, it’s pure sex on offer it’s a sex site and real life is not like that at all so the behaviour of a person that they _iew is gagging for it so it will be different to the nice girl/boy next door, it’s the age old judgement of a slut or slag that will cross many men’s minds most men don’t really respect women they see as such, great for the ones that do but it’s not going to be the majority "
So your saying that men don’t respect women they consider slags.
And that these men think that women on fab are slags.
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In my experience of chatting to ladies on here, it has been somewhat of a mixed bag of polite and decent to arrogant and brash.
Although for the later it may be understandable given the flux of crass dirt bag messages some of you lovelies have to contend with . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People bring their own baggage to fab, and they interact with others accordingly.
There are good and bad people that use the service, as there are in life outside of fab. |
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over a year ago
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In some instances I think it's you get what you ask for.
When I get my tits out I get nice tits messages.
When I have my feet as my profile pic I get messages asking if I have a good fetish.
When I had my black pvc over the knee boots as my profile pic I got messages from people into black pvc boots.
I have a reference to kissing on my profile and I'm getting offers of a kissing partner.
Set your bait out according to what fish you want to catch.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was just reading your Positivity thread from yesterday which mentioned that you
"get sick of reading forum threads that turn into arguments, or are started by people having a pop at others"
And yet today you are having a pop at men and estimate that 98% of them see the women as a cheap piece of meat. I disagree.
There are some absolutely gorgeous guys on here who want the same thing as the women and don't treat them as meat. And on the flip side, quite a few women use the men on here and their meat, me included.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP you have just intimated that 98% of men here think any hole is a goal. And only 2% of men seek something beyond that.
What do you think the response would have been if any guy on here had posted anything so judgemental about 98% of women on here?
Where is the  ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was just reading your Positivity thread from yesterday which mentioned that you
"get sick of reading forum threads that turn into arguments, or are started by people having a pop at others"
And yet today you are having a pop at men and estimate that 98% of them see the women as a cheap piece of meat. I disagree.
There are some absolutely gorgeous guys on here who want the same thing as the women and don't treat them as meat. And on the flip side, quite a few women use the men on here and their meat, me included.
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no keep it at 98 then i feel specialer |
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I’d definitely disagree with the 98% op!
Tbh I think some people attract negativity because they’re negative themselves!
They have negativety in their profile - in their statuses - and even on the comments on the pictures they post!
Yes - that tactic will get the white knighters running for their chargers and will get sympathy fabs too - but on the whole a negative attitude breeds negativity!
I deliberately made my profile an antidote to the whinging, demanding ones I saw in abundance - making it as funny and cheerful as possible - and I very rarely get nasty messages, or men treating me like a piece of meat!
Yeah I’ve come across the odd knob head and been let down on meets - but generally speaking I’ve had the best sex of my life and made some amazing friends!
However - if I wasn’t open to casual, fun encounters (as well as something deeper if it ‘happens to happen’) then I’d probably choose a different platform to fab to look for it!
I think many get frustrated because they’re trying to find something that’s rare on here - true love with a fellow kinky fecker - but they’re not open to having fun along the way!
That’s my observation anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's my take on it. The majority of people either won't fit what you're looking for or are looking for something different to you.
I prefer not to waste my time interacting with or even giving a second thought considering those people. Fab is a much happier place when you concentrate on those that offer what you want and fit in with your idea of fab. No need to moan that most people are incompatible. It's to be expected. |
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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago
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I’ve taken a break from meeting solo because of this. I needed to reset as the constant barrage can ruin the fun that fab is.
What I’ve found recently is that guys come across as incredibly respectful and polite but when you scratch the surface a little more they’re just the same horny teenage boys the rest are.
Decent men here are RARE, but I suppose the same could be said of women. I hear a lot of guys complain of women being rude or dismissive too.
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over a year ago
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I don't think it helps the plight of women who DO want to be seen as more than just a hole when you have those who have statuses like "like my pic? Fab it, and you could be next"
Lots of people will deduce from that that to get in your arsehole all they need to do is fab pictures and that's it. That's the criteria.
It's blatantly obvious many people group genders into one box, one size fits all. How many "do women" or "do men" threads do we all see? Shit loads. How about "do you"? That invites individuals to respond rather than one person responding on behalf of all of said gender.
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"I don't think it helps the plight of women who DO want to be seen as more than just a hole when you have those who have statuses like "like my pic? Fab it, and you could be next"
Lots of people will deduce from that that to get in your arsehole all they need to do is fab pictures and that's it. That's the criteria.
It's blatantly obvious many people group genders into one box, one size fits all. How many "do women" or "do men" threads do we all see? Shit loads. How about "do you"? That invites individuals to respond rather than one person responding on behalf of all of said gender.
P"
Thanks Peach, it is you isn't it.
Nice to see some people actually get the fact that men or women are not some amorphous blob who all coalesce around single stereotypes... |
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"I don't think it helps the plight of women who DO want to be seen as more than just a hole when you have those who have statuses like "like my pic? Fab it, and you could be next"
Lots of people will deduce from that that to get in your arsehole all they need to do is fab pictures and that's it. That's the criteria.
It's blatantly obvious many people group genders into one box, one size fits all. How many "do women" or "do men" threads do we all see? Shit loads. How about "do you"? That invites individuals to respond rather than one person responding on behalf of all of said gender.
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Thanks Peach, it is you isn't it.
Nice to see some people actually get the fact that men or women are not some amorphous blob who all coalesce around single stereotypes..."
thats true im loosing weight |
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"I’d definitely disagree with the 98% op!
Tbh I think some people attract negativity because they’re negative themselves!
They have negativety in their profile - in their statuses - and even on the comments on the pictures they post!
Yes - that tactic will get the white knighters running for their chargers and will get sympathy fabs too - but on the whole a negative attitude breeds negativity!
I deliberately made my profile an antidote to the whinging, demanding ones I saw in abundance - making it as funny and cheerful as possible - and I very rarely get nasty messages, or men treating me like a piece of meat!
Yeah I’ve come across the odd knob head and been let down on meets - but generally speaking I’ve had the best sex of my life and made some amazing friends!
However - if I wasn’t open to casual, fun encounters (as well as something deeper if it ‘happens to happen’) then I’d probably choose a different platform to fab to look for it!
I think many get frustrated because they’re trying to find something that’s rare on here - true love with a fellow kinky fecker - but they’re not open to having fun along the way!
That’s my observation anyway! "
Peachy, you’ve said it perfectly. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't think it helps the plight of women who DO want to be seen as more than just a hole when you have those who have statuses like "like my pic? Fab it, and you could be next"
Lots of people will deduce from that that to get in your arsehole all they need to do is fab pictures and that's it. That's the criteria.
It's blatantly obvious many people group genders into one box, one size fits all. How many "do women" or "do men" threads do we all see? Shit loads. How about "do you"? That invites individuals to respond rather than one person responding on behalf of all of said gender.
P
Thanks Peach, it is you isn't it.
Nice to see some people actually get the fact that men or women are not some amorphous blob who all coalesce around single stereotypes..."
Yeah it's me *blows kiss*
The grouping thing really gets my goat, but the fact remains that a huge amount of people do group others together and think the only differences between them are the way they look.
Urgh.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find single guys on here very respectful and the ones we have met have been great guys .. we are not looking for any kind of connection with them but we don’t see them like pieces of meat either .. |
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over a year ago
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I have no idea what the majority of men think of the women on here.
Those who get to know me, know what I think.
I'm not going to speculate about how others think, feel or _iew the rest of fab because we are all individuals.
However, you make your own luck, reap what you sow and play as much a part on how people treat you by your own actions, which can be said about anyone on fab.
The chancers will chance their arm no matter what you do or don't do.
But then, am I one of the "Clever ones" who says what I think people want to hear just to get my dick wet? |
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I respect everyone, never judged folk for their likes and dislikes etc.
Nope, I do not follow that moto "every hole is a goal", as I need mental attraction before playing with a lady. You could be drop dead gorgeous but if you dont click with me mentally then I'm not getting naked for you....not that I have a stunning body but that is a different conversation.
Too be brutally honest, I've given up hope of finding a playmate on here.....number of factors such as the men to women ratio, my looks, my race and body hair have contributed to my decision in giving up.
A handful of women whom was I was "friends"with now have regular playmates....hence why I'm off the reservation..... |
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over a year ago
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"I would be surprised to see many honest answers on here as guys will inevitably not want to be honest and say 'Hole to use' as it may inflict on their chance of getting to use said hole.  "
What if the women themselves say they are just holes? |
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"I don't think it helps the plight of women who DO want to be seen as more than just a hole when you have those who have statuses like "like my pic? Fab it, and you could be next"
Lots of people will deduce from that that to get in your arsehole all they need to do is fab pictures and that's it. That's the criteria.
It's blatantly obvious many people group genders into one box, one size fits all. How many "do women" or "do men" threads do we all see? Shit loads. How about "do you"? That invites individuals to respond rather than one person responding on behalf of all of said gender.
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"In some instances I think it's you get what you ask for.
When I get my tits out I get nice tits messages.
When I have my feet as my profile pic I get messages asking if I have a good fetish.
When I had my black pvc over the knee boots as my profile pic I got messages from people into black pvc boots.
I have a reference to kissing on my profile and I'm getting offers of a kissing partner.
Set your bait out according to what fish you want to catch.
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t think women are particularly different to be fair. I’m not sure about ‘majority’ or ‘a lot of men’ either. There are some for sure but then there are women that treat blokes as pieces of meat as well.
You can’t go far wrong with a bit of common decency |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I post pictures of my bits knowing full well what sort of messages i COULD get, but you know what, 99% of the time i get complimentary messages on the pics, and the messages aren’t rude or crude (sadly).
I’ve had two unpleasant messages on here since i joined in 2016 and one message from a man with a well dodgy kink.
Two. And how many men are on site?
Of course the men might think i’m a slapper, but at least they have the courtesy to keep their opinion to themself.
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t think women are particularly different to be fair. I’m not sure about ‘majority’ or ‘a lot of men’ either. There are some for sure but then there are women that treat blokes as pieces of meat as well.
You can’t go far wrong with a bit of common decency "
I quite enjoy being treated like a piece of meat. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I don’t think women are particularly different to be fair. I’m not sure about ‘majority’ or ‘a lot of men’ either. There are some for sure but then there are women that treat blokes as pieces of meat as well.
You can’t go far wrong with a bit of common decency
I quite enjoy being treated like a piece of meat."
You deserve only the best. Now get your kit off ...  |
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over a year ago
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"I don’t think women are particularly different to be fair. I’m not sure about ‘majority’ or ‘a lot of men’ either. There are some for sure but then there are women that treat blokes as pieces of meat as well.
You can’t go far wrong with a bit of common decency
I quite enjoy being treated like a piece of meat."
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The thing is the nature of the site leads to misconceptions on all parts - the men that think they just have to sign up to get laid, the ladies who overtly court and encourage poor behaviour with teasing and tempting statuses (P of Exquisite Deviance got it bang on with that one), and all kinds of others besides.
I actually commented on another thread earlier about how people lose site of some of the conventions of dating on here - and really it IS a form of dating, it's still about finding people you are attracted to, and/or have a connection with on some level for most here (the only ones that say they don't need that are either the "any holes a goal/any cocks a pole" crowd or people that are being economical with the truth) - yes it's (mostly) NSA but the principles and conventions are still pretty much the same as dating, just the ultimate aim is different - but a lot, of all genders, have lost sight of that.
I've often said that I believe there are two types of person here, those that "get" the site, swinging/NSA meets etc and how it works, and those that don't - and that is across all genders - those that "get" it tend to go quietly about their Fab business without much ado, although sadly those that don't get it can cause frustration at times.
I'm aware that this has gone slightly off piste from the OP, but think the above points are valid in trying to respond to it - but to try and bring it back on track, there *are* men and women who because of the nature of the site see the opposite gender as no more than pieces of meat, there *are* those who lose sight of all the normal conventions of not only dating, but common courtesy and respect too but there are also plenty who *do* get it and see and treat the opposite gender no differently as to how they would off the site or anywhere else. |
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over a year ago
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Reading through the comments reiterates a big misunderstanding what this site is.
It used to be a swinging site, hence the name. The name hasn't evolved with the way the site has changed.
It's used by people with very different needs. Common statements most days in forums is that "it's used by each as they wish and that is their right", " you're not a swinger if you don't go to clubs or if you're single". One shouldn't be surprised that it's seen and used as little more than a sex site, used by swingers and non swingers alike.
I think swinging has changed too over the years maybe some haven't changed with it.
These issues can lead to understandable frustrations.
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over a year ago
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In truth i take folk as i find em regardless of sex if they have good banter il interact if they bore me i dont lets why all but 2 people av met off here have been thru the forum its easier to realise who you could get on well with |
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. "
To me, posting naked pics gives off huge signals. It certainly doesn't say NO SEX WANTED I'M JUST BROWSING..... Agreed some men ( and women ) do expect people on here to be offering n.s.a sex ( should we be shocked ? ) but that doesn't make them indecent people.
Keep looking for your connection and I guess that 'those types of men' will keep looking for a swift shufty.
No big deal. |
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"I post pictures of my bits knowing full well what sort of messages i COULD get, but you know what, 99% of the time i get complimentary messages on the pics, and the messages aren’t rude or crude (sadly).
I’ve had two unpleasant messages on here since i joined in 2016 and one message from a man with a well dodgy kink.
Two. And how many men are on site?
Of course the men might think i’m a slapper, but at least they have the courtesy to keep their opinion to themself.
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Think as you've demonstrated, it can also be down to not the pics or profile but also what you say on forums and how you come across can be partly due to what some say in their messages.
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I've given up messaging anyone first. It filters out a lot of wasted time and energy by letting those interested to get in touch. If they like then they'll message, if they don't or dare I say feel not able to for whatever reason then that's filtered out a lot. |
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Personally I respect all the ladies on here, everyone has a choice and reasons to be here, I always treat people with respect but even then sometimes I find myself blocked, I guess it is the few nutjobs spoiling it for the decent ones.
Love to all x |
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I send polite messages. I get some polite responses. If something develops from that then all well and good. One should respect boundaries and not assume |
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"I think both men and women can give each other a bad name.
I wonder if the roles were reversed and there were few men on here, how that would translate.
Ultimately, it's about respect for yourself for others and a live and let live attitude. With do unto others as you have done to yourself that I think is important. Being an asshole isn't just in the realm of the male sex.
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agree with you, but because of the percentage game, more males on here APPEAR to be, lets face it for every asshole female there are 500 asshole males and that not including the percentage of asshole couples!!!! lol |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Personally I respect all the ladies on here, everyone has a choice and reasons to be here, I always treat people with respect but even then sometimes I find myself blocked, I guess it is the few nutjobs spoiling it for the decent ones.
Love to all x"
That last part about people "spoiling it for others" is often rolled out on here, usually by men as something to blame for a lack of meets (not saying that's necessarily the case here) but the truth of the matter is that the only ones they are spoiling it for is themselves - if you're a decent person who "gets" the site that will always shine through and be noticed regardless of how others are acting.
In fact there's a stronger argument that the idiots who don't get the site actuay help the decent ones stand out |
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It's hard for the honest guys on here to find someone with most people just want a quick fuck,I'd like a hot fuck every night but won't just sleep with whoever just to get my dick wet if the no attraction and connection on some level what's the point, il be honest I've had one meet in the past 3 months and she was the only person so far I enjoyed talking too and have some fun just wish it was Easyer to meet someone who feels the same |
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"I think both men and women can give each other a bad name.
I wonder if the roles were reversed and there were few men on here, how that would translate.
Ultimately, it's about respect for yourself for others and a live and let live attitude. With do unto others as you have done to yourself that I think is important. Being an asshole isn't just in the realm of the male sex.
agree with you, but because of the percentage game, more males on here APPEAR to be, lets face it for every asshole female there are 500 asshole males and that not including the percentage of asshole couples!!!! lol "
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me.
To me, posting naked pics gives off huge signals. It certainly doesn't say NO SEX WANTED I'M JUST BROWSING..... Agreed some men ( and women ) do expect people on here to be offering n.s.a sex ( should we be shocked ? ) but that doesn't make them indecent people.
Keep looking for your connection and I guess that 'those types of men' will keep looking for a swift shufty.
No big deal. "
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I think everyone finds a level they are comfortable with. Ignore what doesnt appeal and engage with what does. Men and women can think what they like by seeing the sort of pictures people put up, if their approach is unfavourable then it is unlikely to lead to success. You'd assume they may consider they should change their _iews slightly then or continue to enjoy their lonely existence. |
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"I think the same effort should be made on here as if you were trying to chat up someone on a night out. I know it's a swinging site so we're all here for sex but there are so many other factors that have to come into play. For someone to stand out to me they need good banter and intellect not just a quick message saying 'hi' or 'your tits are banging', they need plenty of displayed verifications (I automatically delete anyone who has been on the site longer than 6 months with no verified by meet). There's so many fake profiles on here and it makes my blood boil that you waste your time chatting to a so-called couple who turns out to be a single male. This is why I'm a bitch and have more people in my block list than friends list"
My profile was idle for six months after I created it. I've only met one person from here who can't verify me as they are no longer on the site. Not everyone is fake. |
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"I admire the mindset of the ladies on here who are confident and say what they want and show off their naked bodies which is yummy "
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"I admire the mindset of the ladies on here who are confident and say what they want and show off their naked bodies which is yummy
What about the ones who are confident and say what they want but don’t show off their naked bodies "
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I think that the majority of the women on her are pretty gorgeous but very difficult to get to meet as they seem to have there meet friends and not looking for new ones , and couples , most seem to be looking for other couples of females, , it’s not the easiest site for solo males I’m afraid xx |
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"I think that the majority of the women on her are pretty gorgeous but very difficult to get to meet as they seem to have there meet friends and not looking for new ones , and couples , most seem to be looking for other couples of females, , it’s not the easiest site for solo males I’m afraid xx "
It is quite easy, though, really. |
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"Well i just had a 3 year anniversary with one of my fab friends.
Year and a half with another and two of the first people i met are still close friends going for well over 5 years now.
Fab is no different to the rest of the world,
theres lots of people but only a few you enjoy spending time with. It's worth looking to find them but theres no reason not to have fun along the way"
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"I think that the majority of the women on her are pretty gorgeous but very difficult to get to meet as they seem to have there meet friends and not looking for new ones , and couples , most seem to be looking for other couples of females, , it’s not the easiest site for solo males I’m afraid xx
It is quite easy, though, really. "
How ? With the ladies demands of dislikes ? |
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"I think that the majority of the women on her are pretty gorgeous but very difficult to get to meet as they seem to have there meet friends and not looking for new ones , and couples , most seem to be looking for other couples of females, , it’s not the easiest site for solo males I’m afraid xx
It is quite easy, though, really.
How ? With the ladies demands of dislikes ? "
I wouldn’t call them demands. I’d call them preferences. I’ve never demanded anything and wouldn’t! |
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It can be a struggle as someone who would hopefully be considered a decent bloke (My verifications say I am!). I thought doing all the right things would make a positive difference, but the numbers game means a huge amount of luck is required. I certainly don't blame the women on here for it, just wish I could get noticed by a few more of you. A site like this effectively creates a kind of accidental reverse sexism, in that the women have all the power. It's created a place where you shouldn't be as a single male if you're over sensitive or take things personally. Again that's not the ladies fault per se. |
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"I think that the majority of the women on her are pretty gorgeous but very difficult to get to meet as they seem to have there meet friends and not looking for new ones , and couples , most seem to be looking for other couples of females, , it’s not the easiest site for solo males I’m afraid xx
It is quite easy, though, really.
How ? With the ladies demands of dislikes ? "
I don't demand anything. I ask for men who can accommodate and that they kiss. Only men who can accommodate and kiss should message me. |
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"I met some absolute crackerjack women on here funny flirty down to earth fearless people from diferent walks of life i met my best mate on here and the love of my life here too iv been unbelievably lucky now i use it to entertain myself have a laugh i never really chased women like a dog in heat and im completly unique in the sence i never was a smoke blower im a say what i see kind of guy often my brain is slower than my gob/fingers 90% of things i say are for a giggle unless im feeling green then its huuuuuulk smaaaaaaaaash "
Reading your message made me very happy! Well done and congratulations. Shows anything can happen here, even the brilliant! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Speaking from the point of _iew of someone who likes to chat a little first - I'm well aware this isn't everyone!
A significant number of single guys log on when they're horny and hope to arrange a meet. They're thinking with their dick and therefore find it hard to to distinguish the real people looking for mutual pleasure from a lifelong habit of porn and treat us accordingly.
The cleverer ones of this type mask it behind saying the right things - yes I too like to establish chemistry etc etc. But they notably disappear until the next time they're horny - often giving themselves away by intimating that, as it's now the second or third message, surely it's time to meet now.
This is how it makes the decent guys easy to spot! Not pushy to meet, for pics and happy to genuinely chat a little/take it at your pace not just theirs before setting something up.
Unfortunately the media attention has attracted more of the first type who just think - horny, fab, boobs, fuck... now. I persevere! "
What you wrote is so true, and I will admit that it's true because I do it (masking behind saying the right things) - most of the time. The problem is, it works! (but only as far as getting laid).
Truth is it doesn't get me far because I must be attracting the wrong women, reality for me is it's not fulfilling. I really want a relationship, I don't mean a GF or wife, but a woman with whom we can both fulfill our physical and emotional needs, build something.
Thank you for stating this, well put. Might be obvious for some, but for me, coming from a female fab user, it has really hit home.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. "
I know you get a really bad time just based upon your updates. Please believe that not all men are the same. Indeed, from what I have seen in the forums the past few weeks I have really participated, is that the majority of the people who use these forums are genuinely very nice people.
Personally, I would not treat anyone with anything other than total respect. I take the time to read every profile and try and post something relevant to every person I send a message to. It is time consuming, and virtually totally pointless as 99% of messages never get read. BUT, that will never stop me from being respectful and hopeful that the next message I send will get a positive response.
Outside of the forums, then there are definitely too many people that have zero respect for anyone else. But I am rapidly seeing that this is now the world we increasingly live in. But the more people that hold on to respectful thoughts towards others, the longer we can stay civilised!
I really do hope you meet some very nice people! xxxx |
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"I think that the majority of the women on her are pretty gorgeous but very difficult to get to meet as they seem to have there meet friends and not looking for new ones , and couples , most seem to be looking for other couples of females, , it’s not the easiest site for solo males I’m afraid xx
It is quite easy, though, really.
How ? With the ladies demands of dislikes ? "
Talk to them. |
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I have liked every woman I've met on here and most I've talked to. In fact the women on here are so good I found a keeper. My and My Girl been together well over a year now and I am a very happy man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single women can be just as bad. We get so many women send shitty messages just because we message. Lots of them just looking at Adrian's and not willing to even give a chance |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
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As a man I don't see every hole as a goal I have a very select few that I talk to and would meet you wouldn't treat a woman like a peace of meat in the real world so why would you on here yes it's a site for meeting people for sex if the connection is there but doesn't mean if you meet your guaranteed sex if I didn't feel anything I wouldn't have sex with them to put a notch on my bed post so to speak but that's just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am indifferent to most on here: women, men and couples alike
There are only a few that make me think 'she seems kinda cool'
Whether or not a woman has her snatch on show is kind of incidental to that
I wouldn't think no more nor no less of her for it
If she came across well: friendly, witty, open-minded, not filled with pre-conception, then I'd consider meeting |
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By *olexMan
over a year ago
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In life there are good & bad people. The same is certainly true on Fab. The good, you may never meet but you may become great friends. The bad, will mess you about, lie & let you down. It's down to everyone to choose the right type of person to interact with. Lack of verifications doesn't mean that you're a fake profile and that's a massively simplistic _iew to take. To my friends i say thank you. To everyone else, just be decent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me. "
Sorry that you feel that way Molly.
It probably seems like 98% to you as the sad fact of Fab is that the bell ends (as they have little success) message a huge amount more ladies, so you'll be contacted by the chebs about 10 times more than the more decent guys.
It's also a fact that the successful guys hardly send out any messages as they don't need to. I managed on my singles profile before I met the wonderful P perfectly well, meeting with some charming ladies who I am still friends with now, yet I believe she was the only woman I sent first contact to in well over a year, preferring instead just to choose ladies I met from the messages I received (a win win as then their in_oxes don't get even more cluttered AND I can then have more time to chat much more in depth with the ladies who message me as I've always liked to do so!)
Assuming that most decent guys follow a similar pattern or at the very least message far less, you'll get far less of them messaging you and more of the the dickheads unfortunately. Also whilst you appear to look absolutely lovely you also seem to have a lot of need for reassurance, needless though it may be.
A lot of arseholes may see this as a sign that you have weaknesses to exploit in their uncaring desperation and be more inclined to message you because of this? They're wankers for doing so, but you can probably lower their amount slightly by removing traces of feeling down on yourself from your profile though understandably inside yourself is harder for anyone to try and resolve.
Fab isn't all bad, far from it!
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over a year ago
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me.
Sorry that you feel that way Molly.
It probably seems like 98% to you as the sad fact of Fab is that the bell ends (as they have little success) message a huge amount more ladies, so you'll be contacted by the chebs about 10 times more than the more decent guys.
It's also a fact that the successful guys hardly send out any messages as they don't need to. I managed on my singles profile before I met the wonderful P perfectly well, meeting with some charming ladies who I am still friends with now, yet I believe she was the only woman I sent first contact to in well over a year, preferring instead just to choose ladies I met from the messages I received (a win win as then their in_oxes don't get even more cluttered AND I can then have more time to chat much more in depth with the ladies who message me as I've always liked to do so!)
Assuming that most decent guys follow a similar pattern or at the very least message far less, you'll get far less of them messaging you and more of the the dickheads unfortunately. Also whilst you appear to look absolutely lovely you also seem to have a lot of need for reassurance, needless though it may be.
A lot of arseholes may see this as a sign that you have weaknesses to exploit in their uncaring desperation and be more inclined to message you because of this? They're wankers for doing so, but you can probably lower their amount slightly by removing traces of feeling down on yourself from your profile though understandably inside yourself is harder for anyone to try and resolve.
Fab isn't all bad, far from it!
B"
Yes B! very well put |
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over a year ago
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me.
Sorry that you feel that way Molly.
It probably seems like 98% to you as the sad fact of Fab is that the bell ends (as they have little success) message a huge amount more ladies, so you'll be contacted by the chebs about 10 times more than the more decent guys.
It's also a fact that the successful guys hardly send out any messages as they don't need to. I managed on my singles profile before I met the wonderful P perfectly well, meeting with some charming ladies who I am still friends with now, yet I believe she was the only woman I sent first contact to in well over a year, preferring instead just to choose ladies I met from the messages I received (a win win as then their in_oxes don't get even more cluttered AND I can then have more time to chat much more in depth with the ladies who message me as I've always liked to do so!)
Assuming that most decent guys follow a similar pattern or at the very least message far less, you'll get far less of them messaging you and more of the the dickheads unfortunately. Also whilst you appear to look absolutely lovely you also seem to have a lot of need for reassurance, needless though it may be.
A lot of arseholes may see this as a sign that you have weaknesses to exploit in their uncaring desperation and be more inclined to message you because of this? They're wankers for doing so, but you can probably lower their amount slightly by removing traces of feeling down on yourself from your profile though understandably inside yourself is harder for anyone to try and resolve.
Fab isn't all bad, far from it!
B
Yes B! very well put"
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me.
Sorry that you feel that way Molly.
It probably seems like 98% to you as the sad fact of Fab is that the bell ends (as they have little success) message a huge amount more ladies, so you'll be contacted by the chebs about 10 times more than the more decent guys.
It's also a fact that the successful guys hardly send out any messages as they don't need to. I managed on my singles profile before I met the wonderful P perfectly well, meeting with some charming ladies who I am still friends with now, yet I believe she was the only woman I sent first contact to in well over a year, preferring instead just to choose ladies I met from the messages I received (a win win as then their in_oxes don't get even more cluttered AND I can then have more time to chat much more in depth with the ladies who message me as I've always liked to do so!)
Assuming that most decent guys follow a similar pattern or at the very least message far less, you'll get far less of them messaging you and more of the the dickheads unfortunately. Also whilst you appear to look absolutely lovely you also seem to have a lot of need for reassurance, needless though it may be.
A lot of arseholes may see this as a sign that you have weaknesses to exploit in their uncaring desperation and be more inclined to message you because of this? They're wankers for doing so, but you can probably lower their amount slightly by removing traces of feeling down on yourself from your profile though understandably inside yourself is harder for anyone to try and resolve.
Fab isn't all bad, far from it!
B
Yes B! very well put
D. "
I do that all the time too!
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me.
Sorry that you feel that way Molly.
It probably seems like 98% to you as the sad fact of Fab is that the bell ends (as they have little success) message a huge amount more ladies, so you'll be contacted by the chebs about 10 times more than the more decent guys.
It's also a fact that the successful guys hardly send out any messages as they don't need to. I managed on my singles profile before I met the wonderful P perfectly well, meeting with some charming ladies who I am still friends with now, yet I believe she was the only woman I sent first contact to in well over a year, preferring instead just to choose ladies I met from the messages I received (a win win as then their in_oxes don't get even more cluttered AND I can then have more time to chat much more in depth with the ladies who message me as I've always liked to do so!)
Assuming that most decent guys follow a similar pattern or at the very least message far less, you'll get far less of them messaging you and more of the the dickheads unfortunately. Also whilst you appear to look absolutely lovely you also seem to have a lot of need for reassurance, needless though it may be.
A lot of arseholes may see this as a sign that you have weaknesses to exploit in their uncaring desperation and be more inclined to message you because of this? They're wankers for doing so, but you can probably lower their amount slightly by removing traces of feeling down on yourself from your profile though understandably inside yourself is harder for anyone to try and resolve.
Fab isn't all bad, far from it!
B"
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Every hole is a goal until you hit a mature state of mind of knowing what you like and not like and for men that mature state is usually comes later compared to women.
Everyone gets used it is just how do you want to be used. Sounds cruel but let's face reality.
The perception of women here from an outside point of _iew is ugly, desperate and cheap. However, there is the other side of the average outsider represses their sexual desire and are pretty uptight.
Fit women on fab or swinger site that embraces their slutty side are IMO are actually more sexy, open-minded, loose, liberated and glowing.
Fab can be seen as a fantasy land where you pursue sexual pleasure. Men want a slutty wife or GF in the bedroom but without the thought, she might have done this to numerous guys. [of course does not apply to mature couples, hotwives and cuck]
Both spectra are not wrong one is reserve and defensive repress and worries about getting caught people opinions and the other is offensive in their sexual wants pursuing pleasure and exploring. |
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Good and bad of all sexes frequenting Fab.
It can only hurt you as long as it allows you too. Text on a screen? Nah.
However (and not trying to be awkward, or horrible) but there are lots of people who put it all out there for everyone to see so it really is no wonder that they attract the sleaze.
There are good guys out there, I've had more good than bad experiences tbf. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm NOT tarnishing everyone wuth the same brush, but let's be honest a lot of men on here just see cheap pieces of meat. Every hole is a goal and all that.
Based on what I've been told and read it seems like that is the case 98 percent of the time.
I feel sorry for the decent men who receive a hard time because of it.
I mainly just use fab to browse, so I'm not at all desperate or easy, but posting naked photos seems to make so many think all are the same here and will meet anyone.
It's fine if you like random meets, and aren't after a connection but it would be nice if more guys didn't assume all are up for that
Again, i know NOT ALL men.are like that, so please don't bash me.
A connection defeats would make swinging no different than dating. No, this does not mean that I _iew women as ‘pieces of meat’ and just that it rules out a “connection”. Of course if two (three or four) get a long, that’s a plus, though it’s hardly the point in swinging (or casual sexual encounters).
If you’re getting down about this, I recommend that you join a dating site. This website has (should have) a different purpose to that in which you desire. "
Making a connection doesn't defeat the point of swinging for alot of people, that's just how you see swinging, a quick shag. |
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The vast majority of people I've conversed with, met socially or had the honour to be more intimate with have been nothing short of being some of the nicest people you could meet. It can be difficult and frustrating on Fab sometimes, but I can't recollect having a serious dislike for anyone. The more I read the forums the more obvious it is that there, are some top blokes who I'd happily share a beer with and some truly lovely ladies who are worthy of respect inside and outside of Fab. |
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"Good and bad of all sexes frequenting Fab.
It can only hurt you as long as it allows you too. Text on a screen? Nah.
However (and not trying to be awkward, or horrible) but there are lots of people who put it all out there for everyone to see so it really is no wonder that they attract the sleaze.
There are good guys out there, I've had more good than bad experiences tbf."
Respect yourself and in turn others will respect you , we haven’t encountered any bad guys on fab , but our profile isn’t full of demands and we don’t act like we are something special we are just chilled easy going couple . |
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I thought it was just us two and a load of fake profiles and chatbots 
