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Some older people do and get scammed out of their life savings. I prefer the realistic confidence that I have now. It comes equipped with a fully functioning high spec bull shit detector as standard  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Some older people do and get scammed out of their life savings. I prefer the realistic confidence that I have now. It comes equipped with a fully functioning high spec bull shit detector as standard "
There is that. But, I wonder about the things I don't do because I know I will be crap at them.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What does the naïve part mean?"
It's that state where you are gung ho and full of belief that you can do something well. You lose it when you realise you can't do it as well as you believed and when you realise your own limitations.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I took it to mean the confidence you have when you're young that you're right, you know it all and everything will be fine. Like when I used to go home in a guys car when I'd only just met himm."
We're all right when we're young. None of us would break away from the safety of home and family without some of that certainty.
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"Some older people do and get scammed out of their life savings. I prefer the realistic confidence that I have now. It comes equipped with a fully functioning high spec bull shit detector as standard
There is that. But, I wonder about the things I don't do because I know I will be crap at them.
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Ah,that. Or the giant leaps of faith you don't take because you're not sure there's anything to cushion your landing.
Yes, I do think you can get that back but in a different way. You know the pitfalls but you look forward and see less in front of you than behind you and think "if not now, when?" and jump anyway. |
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"I took it to mean the confidence you have when you're young that you're right, you know it all and everything will be fine. Like when I used to go home in a guys car when I'd only just met himm.
We're all right when we're young. None of us would break away from the safety of home and family without some of that certainty.
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I used to tell my kids "leave home now while you still know everything" |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Some older people do and get scammed out of their life savings. I prefer the realistic confidence that I have now. It comes equipped with a fully functioning high spec bull shit detector as standard
There is that. But, I wonder about the things I don't do because I know I will be crap at them.
Ah,that. Or the giant leaps of faith you don't take because you're not sure there's anything to cushion your landing.
Yes, I do think you can get that back but in a different way. You know the pitfalls but you look forward and see less in front of you than behind you and think "if not now, when?" and jump anyway."
Is that confidence or blind faith?
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I took it to mean the confidence you have when you're young that you're right, you know it all and everything will be fine. Like when I used to go home in a guys car when I'd only just met himm.
We're all right when we're young. None of us would break away from the safety of home and family without some of that certainty.
I used to tell my kids "leave home now while you still know everything" "
I tell my young people that they'll never know as much as they know at 14.  The 18 year old now backs up this statement.
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"What does the naïve part mean?
It's that state where you are gung ho and full of belief that you can do something well. You lose it when you realise you can't do it as well as you believed and when you realise your own limitations.
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I don't think I ever had that.  I just did it anyway.
I'm kind of in the middle. I know I can't do it right and it will probably turn out shit but I crack on anyway because not doing it means definite failure. I still go at it like a puppy on a cushion.
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By *eliWoman
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"What does the naïve part mean?
It's that state where you are gung ho and full of belief that you can do something well. You lose it when you realise you can't do it as well as you believed and when you realise your own limitations.
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Or your perceived limitations and find it easier to not try. I think you (the general you, a person as it might not be about you) should start employing the "fuck it" mantra and going for it anyway. So what if you don't do as well as you thought you might? Life's short, at least you tried. I think you can get it back when you are older but it takes some work. |
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"Some older people do and get scammed out of their life savings. I prefer the realistic confidence that I have now. It comes equipped with a fully functioning high spec bull shit detector as standard
There is that. But, I wonder about the things I don't do because I know I will be crap at them.
Ah,that. Or the giant leaps of faith you don't take because you're not sure there's anything to cushion your landing.
Yes, I do think you can get that back but in a different way. You know the pitfalls but you look forward and see less in front of you than behind you and think "if not now, when?" and jump anyway.
Is that confidence or blind faith?
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In my career I flit between crushing self doubt about my own abilities and supreme confidence that I am the best in my field with no peers. When I'm on a roll, I feel unstoppable, yet at other times the smallest of setbacks has me plummeting.
On Fab, you have to have a degree of naive confidence that you have something to offer that someone will like you for. Not everybody and not all the time.
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"I took it to mean the confidence you have when you're young that you're right, you know it all and everything will be fine. Like when I used to go home in a guys car when I'd only just met himm.
We're all right when we're young. None of us would break away from the safety of home and family without some of that certainty.
I used to tell my kids "leave home now while you still know everything" "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you get it back, for anything, as an older person? Or, do we have to wait for dementia?
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Does an older person need to get it back though? Their knowledge and experience may propel them in a different direction that they would have taken as a youngster. But the outcome might be better. |
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"What does the naïve part mean?
It's that state where you are gung ho and full of belief that you can do something well. You lose it when you realise you can't do it as well as you believed and when you realise your own limitations.
Or your perceived limitations and find it easier to not try. I think you (the general you, a person as it might not be about you) should start employing the "fuck it" mantra and going for it anyway. So what if you don't do as well as you thought you might? Life's short, at least you tried. I think you can get it back when you are older but it takes some work."
I like that the fuck it mantra.
They say that when our time comes it's the things we didn't try that we regret not those that we did.
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It's my many failures that have given me the wisdom to be confident in what I am and am not good at Lickety.
If I still enjoy it, then I'll still do it, even if I'm crap at it. I'll just lower any expectations I have on myself. If I do well, it's a welcome suprise.
Confidence isn't just about knowing how to take full advantage of your strengths. It's about embracing those weakness's we all have.. and cracking on regardless. Adapt and overcome, or learn another limit. |
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"It's my many failures that have given me the wisdom to be confident in what I am and am not good at Lickety.
If I still enjoy it, then I'll still do it, even if I'm crap at it. I'll just lower any expectations I have on myself. If I do well, it's a welcome suprise.
Confidence isn't just about knowing how to take full advantage of your strengths. It's about embracing those weakness's we all have.. and cracking on regardless. Adapt and overcome, or learn another limit."
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Life is a great big wiggly caterpillar..... The older I get the more I see that very little in life is linear, not many things fit on a straight line graph and the majority of life is temporary and beautifully fragile but rebuildable like lego.
Thought and feeling are key. Enjoy it while you can, and you ALWAYS can!!!
That really is a load of random shite, but it's the contents of my head rn and that's fucking awesome... Yvw  |
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"Life is a great big wiggly caterpillar..... The older I get the more I see that very little in life is linear, not many things fit on a straight line graph and the majority of life is temporary and beautifully fragile but rebuildable like lego.
Thought and feeling are key. Enjoy it while you can, and you ALWAYS can!!!
That really is a load of random shite, but it's the contents of my head rn and that's fucking awesome... Yvw "
Sober too! ^ |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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Naivety is bravado - that fits with the "fuck it", "feel the fear" and "life's too short" approach.
Confidence is built from accomplishments but without the bravado nothing would happen.
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"Naivety is bravado - that fits with the "fuck it", "feel the fear" and "life's too short" approach.
Confidence is built from accomplishments but without the bravado nothing would happen.
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That assumption assumes that you've learnt well and that you're not just learning what you've been taught..... |
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"Naivety is bravado - that fits with the "fuck it", "feel the fear" and "life's too short" approach.
Confidence is built from accomplishments but without the bravado nothing would happen.
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Naive bravado to me would mean more how was as a teenager. Not having felt true fear. Only adrenaline in a controlled/safe environment.
Once you've felt body/mind crippling fear and overcome it. Do you start to believe in that other kind of "fuck it!".
I beat spiders! I beat a war zone! I beat the British Army! I beat loneliness! Beat heartbreak... I beat.. whatever the fuck you've had to endure? Grief? Loss? PTSD? Marriage breakdown? Depression? Addiction? Disability? Learning difficulties?) What the fuck do I have to lose against you/it/them? Bring it the fuck on! I don't care if I lose, because I'm confident enough in my own being.. That I can wear it, fail in it and still come out smelling like a friggin' rose tinted Supermodel whose farts smell of strawberries and cream.
People like an underdog. People dig unique. God loves a trier.
Never give up, never surrender.
How many more motivational movie quotes can I string together?
If all else fails.. Read the poem Invictus. William Ernst Hemsley describes it better than I can. |
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"Naivety is bravado - that fits with the "fuck it", "feel the fear" and "life's too short" approach.
Confidence is built from accomplishments but without the bravado nothing would happen.
Naive bravado to me would mean more how was as a teenager. Not having felt true fear. Only adrenaline in a controlled/safe environment.
Once you've felt body/mind crippling fear and overcome it. Do you start to believe in that other kind of "fuck it!".
I beat spiders! I beat a war zone! I beat the British Army! I beat loneliness! Beat heartbreak... I beat.. whatever the fuck you've had to endure? Grief? Loss? PTSD? Marriage breakdown? Depression? Addiction? Disability? Learning difficulties?) What the fuck do I have to lose against you/it/them? Bring it the fuck on! I don't care if I lose, because I'm confident enough in my own being.. That I can wear it, fail in it and still come out smelling like a friggin' rose tinted Supermodel whose farts smell of strawberries and cream.
People like an underdog. People dig unique. God loves a trier.
Never give up, never surrender.
How many more motivational movie quotes can I string together?
If all else fails.. Read the poem Invictus. William Ernst Hemsley describes it better than I can."
‘He who dares wins Rodney’. ‘This time next year we’ll be millionaires!’
I need to say ‘fuck it’ even more often than I do now. |
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"Naivety is bravado - that fits with the "fuck it", "feel the fear" and "life's too short" approach.
Confidence is built from accomplishments but without the bravado nothing would happen.
Naive bravado to me would mean more how was as a teenager. Not having felt true fear. Only adrenaline in a controlled/safe environment.
Once you've felt body/mind crippling fear and overcome it. Do you start to believe in that other kind of "fuck it!".
I beat spiders! I beat a war zone! I beat the British Army! I beat loneliness! Beat heartbreak... I beat.. whatever the fuck you've had to endure? Grief? Loss? PTSD? Marriage breakdown? Depression? Addiction? Disability? Learning difficulties?) What the fuck do I have to lose against you/it/them? Bring it the fuck on! I don't care if I lose, because I'm confident enough in my own being.. That I can wear it, fail in it and still come out smelling like a friggin' rose tinted Supermodel whose farts smell of strawberries and cream.
People like an underdog. People dig unique. God loves a trier.
Never give up, never surrender.
How many more motivational movie quotes can I string together?
If all else fails.. Read the poem Invictus. William Ernst Hemsley describes it better than I can.
‘He who dares wins Rodney’. ‘This time next year we’ll be millionaires!’
I need to say ‘fuck it’ even more often than I do now."
I say fuck it in the way I've always done; calculated risk. Buzz/Bad payoff. My life is far from perfect and you'd be a fool to take advice from a Pool Boy.. But I'm not scared and I am happy.
Give the right amount of fucks and say "fuck it" just enough times to put a smile back on your face. You may be suprised how strong you really are. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Naivety is bravado - that fits with the "fuck it", "feel the fear" and "life's too short" approach.
Confidence is built from accomplishments but without the bravado nothing would happen.
Naive bravado to me would mean more how was as a teenager. Not having felt true fear. Only adrenaline in a controlled/safe environment.
Once you've felt body/mind crippling fear and overcome it. Do you start to believe in that other kind of "fuck it!".
I beat spiders! I beat a war zone! I beat the British Army! I beat loneliness! Beat heartbreak... I beat.. whatever the fuck you've had to endure? Grief? Loss? PTSD? Marriage breakdown? Depression? Addiction? Disability? Learning difficulties?) What the fuck do I have to lose against you/it/them? Bring it the fuck on! I don't care if I lose, because I'm confident enough in my own being.. That I can wear it, fail in it and still come out smelling like a friggin' rose tinted Supermodel whose farts smell of strawberries and cream.
People like an underdog. People dig unique. God loves a trier.
Never give up, never surrender.
How many more motivational movie quotes can I string together?
If all else fails.. Read the poem Invictus. William Ernst Hemsley describes it better than I can.
‘He who dares wins Rodney’. ‘This time next year we’ll be millionaires!’
I need to say ‘fuck it’ even more often than I do now.
I say fuck it in the way I've always done; calculated risk. Buzz/Bad payoff. My life is far from perfect and you'd be a fool to take advice from a Pool Boy.. But I'm not scared and I am happy.
Give the right amount of fucks and say "fuck it" just enough times to put a smile back on your face. You may be suprised how strong you really are. "
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Absolutely it can be regained.
Our minds are organic, malleable entities, constantly acquiring new experiences, struggling to have fluidity as well as some constancy. Our perception of our own self and experience is a perception. We can tread new ground again, even if we've taken those steps before.
Our experience and direction is also guided by our motivation.
At an inner level, our experiences may not receive much attention, other experiences may help push them towards extinction too. We consolidate much of what occurs, rather than potentially keeping full 3D copies of what happens in life.
We can purposely, accidentally or coincidentally regain our unworn tread. |
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