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"Seen on news about the increased crimes being committed via use of dating apps... Its no different to a blind date isn,t it? Have people not understood the still inherrant risks ? The obvious one being guys and girls reasons for going on apps are normally poles apart in eventual agendas. " How is that any different to meeting here? | |||
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"I am more horrified at the bacteria levels left on a MRI scan from bearded men. It was on the news this morning; more harmful bacteria identified than when a dog has been scanned " omg that has made me a little queasy | |||
"I am more horrified at the bacteria levels left on a MRI scan from bearded men. It was on the news this morning; more harmful bacteria identified than when a dog has been scanned
omg that has made me a little queasy "Apparently on men with longer beards  | |||
"I am more horrified at the bacteria levels left on a MRI scan from bearded men. It was on the news this morning; more harmful bacteria identified than when a dog has been scanned "Oooh nasty. Although the bearded guys I know spend more time and money grooming their beards than anything else. | |||
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"I imagine the risks for women are bigger than those for men but regardless anyone looking at meeting someone they hardly know online should take some kind of precautions. I always take a stun gun and chloroform for my own protection "  | |||
"I imagine the risks for women are bigger than those for men but regardless anyone looking at meeting someone they hardly know online should take some kind of precautions. I always take a stun gun and chloroform for my own protection " That’s standard surely | |||
"I imagine the risks for women are bigger than those for men but regardless anyone looking at meeting someone they hardly know online should take some kind of precautions. I always take a stun gun and chloroform for my own protection That’s standard surely " | |||
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"I am more horrified at the bacteria levels left on a MRI scan from bearded men. It was on the news this morning; more harmful bacteria identified than when a dog has been scanned
omg that has made me a little queasy
Apparently on men with longer beards "Eeeeeeew! I knew I wasn't keen for a reason | |||
"I am more horrified at the bacteria levels left on a MRI scan from bearded men. It was on the news this morning; more harmful bacteria identified than when a dog has been scanned ". Hhhhuughhh??? | |||
"I imagine the risks for women are bigger than those for men but regardless anyone looking at meeting someone they hardly know online should take some kind of precautions. I always take a stun gun and chloroform for my own protection "  | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate." I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
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"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
"Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date  | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date "Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark. Yep, been there, done all that  | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that "Hahahahahahahahaha brilliant! | |||
"Hardly a new thing, people have been victim of crimes in classified adverts since their invention. But most people suffer sexual assaults from people they already know. Knowing people isn't a sign you're safe, and not all strangers are criminals. We can't victim blame, but people need to minize the risks to themselves whenever they can." | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that "And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it. Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit. Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy. | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy."From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet. | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet. "Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it.... But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion. | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion."It really depends on the specifics. I've made some weird escapes in my time when I judged that there might be a risk of getting hurt. Not getting hurt is my number one priority, well over avoiding hurting feelings or being pathetic. | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet. "I did this once decades ago before the internet when we were all young without the confidence to just tell them ... also we were set up by friends 
If you read this with the mirth it was written then getting disappointed/annoyed wouldn't be necessary! People's reactions to youngsters misbehaviour and lesson learnt is quite funny especially on a site where nothing is ever as it seems! | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion."I agree, if I am not feeling it, I just say thanks for meeting, but not for me. Sometime I might prefer to say it in a message rather than face to face and I have never had a bad response from any of them. | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion.
It really depends on the specifics. I've made some weird escapes in my time when I judged that there might be a risk of getting hurt.
Not getting hurt is my number one priority, well over avoiding hurting feelings or being pathetic. "As people have said above about reducing the risks, meet up in public busy places at reasonable times and i cant see how anyone would be at risk by telling someone that it was nice meeting them but your not for me. | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion."So some guy, who's claimed to be 45, 6'2". His photos depict a blonde haired blued hotty. Our online chats have been entertaining, humorous & witty Turns out to be, the wrong side of 60, 5'6" what little hair he has is frizzy grey and the funniest thing he's done is sneeze, and nearly lose his false teeth Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion.
It really depends on the specifics. I've made some weird escapes in my time when I judged that there might be a risk of getting hurt.
Not getting hurt is my number one priority, well over avoiding hurting feelings or being pathetic.
As people have said above about reducing the risks, meet up in public busy places at reasonable times and i cant see how anyone would be at risk by telling someone that it was nice meeting them but your not for me.
"I do all those things. I'm on the wet blanket side of careful. But I read the scene, read the person, minimise my risk. Whatever that takes. | |||
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"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion.
So some guy, who's claimed to be 45, 6'2".
His photos depict a blonde haired blued hotty.
Our online chats have been entertaining, humorous & witty
Turns out to be, the wrong side of 60, 5'6" what little hair he has is frizzy grey and the funniest thing he's done is sneeze, and nearly lose his false teeth
Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? "Well ive been there...i was cat fished once and the 24 year old athletic woman turned out to be a 45 year old extreamly overweight woman. First thing she said was "lee im so sorry but if i had my real pics up you wouldnt have met me" and she was right i wouldnt have, whilst i was dissapointed in the deceit i accepted her apology and still had a couple drinks. She was just lonely and wanted the company and had very little confidence in herself. Whilst having that drink together and i told her that she cant be doing hat shes doing and she went to her profile and deleted the pictures and added her own. It was all pleasent and amicable. I didnt go jumping out of windows and was just honest with her. | |||
" Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? " Did my comment offend you? No need to swear at me, we are having a discussion. | |||
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"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion.
It really depends on the specifics. I've made some weird escapes in my time when I judged that there might be a risk of getting hurt.
Not getting hurt is my number one priority, well over avoiding hurting feelings or being pathetic.
As people have said above about reducing the risks, meet up in public busy places at reasonable times and i cant see how anyone would be at risk by telling someone that it was nice meeting them but your not for me.
I do all those things. I'm on the wet blanket side of careful. But I read the scene, read the person, minimise my risk. Whatever that takes. "God id love a guy to sneak out and leave you sat around on your own waiting for him to come out the loo. See what that does to a womans confidence. I think its very sad. | |||
" God id love a guy to sneak out and leave you sat around on your own waiting for him to come out the loo. See what that does to a womans confidence. I think its very sad." I'm not sure why you think this is personal. If a person gives me the impression they might not handle rejection well, I do whatever it takes to ensure my safety. It's happened maybe twice in my life. I've also put up with unwanted attention to spare feelings before disengaging safely after the person has gone away. My confidence has nothing to do with this game, which is superficial and fleeting. My confidence comes from within. | |||
" Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? Did my comment offend you? No need to swear at me, we are having a discussion." Yes, frankly it did. I need to grow a pair, be honest? Well firstly, my pair is fine. When it comes to standing up for myself, even defending myself. I have no problem with either, and I can assure you I am more than capable of doing both. But what I'd rather avoid is confrontation in the first place. Telling a man to their face, in a pub, that I'm not intrested, that they don't do it for me, oh - because they've not been honest with me. As I've found doesn't always end well. I've had a table tipped over, been screamed at, called names I won't repeat. I've been followed out of the pub, had my car kicked, damaged. I've been followed leaving in my car, had to do some fancy driving and a detour to lose him, but he now knows my VRN & car, not hard to find where I live now. So I'll take my pair, and leave by any method necessary if I felt that by being honest, with again someone who hadn't been honest with me, meant avoiding those situations I've experienced from happening again | |||
" Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? Did my comment offend you? No need to swear at me, we are having a discussion. Yes, frankly it did. I need to grow a pair, be honest? Well firstly, my pair is fine. When it comes to standing up for myself, even defending myself. I have no problem with either, and I can assure you I am more than capable of doing both. But what I'd rather avoid is confrontation in the first place. Telling a man to their face, in a pub, that I'm not intrested, that they don't do it for me, oh - because they've not been honest with me. As I've found doesn't always end well. I've had a table tipped over, been screamed at, called names I won't repeat. I've been followed out of the pub, had my car kicked, damaged. I've been followed leaving in my car, had to do some fancy driving and a detour to lose him, but he now knows my VRN & car, not hard to find where I live now. So I'll take my pair, and leave by any method necessary if I felt that by being honest, with again someone who hadn't been honest with me, meant avoiding those situations I've experienced from happening again " Preach. Most women I know who are "deceptive" or cowardly in their rejections are so precisely because of situations like these, or worse than these. | |||
" God id love a guy to sneak out and leave you sat around on your own waiting for him to come out the loo. See what that does to a womans confidence. I think its very sad. I'm not sure why you think this is personal. If a person gives me the impression they might not handle rejection well, I do whatever it takes to ensure my safety. It's happened maybe twice in my life. I've also put up with unwanted attention to spare feelings before disengaging safely after the person has gone away. My confidence has nothing to do with this game, which is superficial and fleeting. My confidence comes from within. " All i seen in this thread was somone type in "Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark. Yep, been there, done all that" Followed by replys of laughing faces and people finding it funny (women). Not one bit of thought to the guys that are left there sat at a table waiting for the person they are on a date with to come back. Or what it might be doing to his confidence. I just think its cowardly and far better ways to get out of a date. | |||
" God id love a guy to sneak out and leave you sat around on your own waiting for him to come out the loo. See what that does to a womans confidence. I think its very sad. I'm not sure why you think this is personal. If a person gives me the impression they might not handle rejection well, I do whatever it takes to ensure my safety. It's happened maybe twice in my life. I've also put up with unwanted attention to spare feelings before disengaging safely after the person has gone away. My confidence has nothing to do with this game, which is superficial and fleeting. My confidence comes from within. All i seen in this thread was somone type in "Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark. Yep, been there, done all that" Followed by replys of laughing faces and people finding it funny (women). Not one bit of thought to the guys that are left there sat at a table waiting for the person they are on a date with to come back. Or what it might be doing to his confidence. I just think its cowardly and far better ways to get out of a date." Whereas what I see is "sometimes there are close calls, we do what we can to escape violence, and if we don't laugh we might cry." | |||
"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate. I have both
Dating apps.
You swipe along, spot an image that appeals, you do the clicky thing, you get chatting.
You know nothing of this person, apart from what they tell you.
Let's face it, it's probably all lies, they've got a script they've spent months perfecting it, you fall for it.
You arrange to meet up, somewhere public, within 30mins you're sitting sipping your gin, thinking "who the fuck is this tosser?"
You go to the loo, and either escape via a previously unseen door, or text your besty to do the 'babysitter issues' call in 10minutes.
Or was that just me?
I've not used a 'dating app' for over 2yrs.
Fabs might have it's characters, but there's a level of security, veri system, it's a small community, 6° and all that.
Omg this made me laugh! Though many many years ago I did climb out through the lavatory window on a blind date
Toilet windows, fire exits (setting the alarms off in the process) sprinting barefoot, heels in hand, doing SAS style crawl round the car park, wheel spinning my car out of said carpark.
Yep, been there, done all that
And probably doing 10x the damage to the guys confidence you are on a date with in the process instead of just being honest and after the drink just say sorry it was nice meeting him but your just not feeling it.
Leaving him sat there and feeling like a total tit.
Honestly some women need to grow a pair and just be straight up honest with a guy.
From a woman's perspective, I have no idea if the guy I'm turning down will be disappointed but deal or will be violent. It's a known risk and escape strategies are part of every new meet.
Escape strategys where you get a friend to call or text and make an excuse thats fair enough as most guys will know its the lady being polite and not wanting to hurt his feelings and wasnt feeling it....
But to be climbing out of winders and running down the street is a tab bit pathetic in my opinion.
It really depends on the specifics. I've made some weird escapes in my time when I judged that there might be a risk of getting hurt.
Not getting hurt is my number one priority, well over avoiding hurting feelings or being pathetic.
As people have said above about reducing the risks, meet up in public busy places at reasonable times and i cant see how anyone would be at risk by telling someone that it was nice meeting them but your not for me.
I do all those things. I'm on the wet blanket side of careful. But I read the scene, read the person, minimise my risk. Whatever that takes.
God id love a guy to sneak out and leave you sat around on your own waiting for him to come out the loo.
See what that does to a womans confidence.
I think its very sad."I think what you're missing in what these ladies are actually saying is that sometimes we can find ourselves in situations that are for whatever reasons out of our control and it is better (they feel at the time) to leave quickly and by whatever means necessary so please don't take it personally and start saying how awful for men ... think! No one regardless of anything should feel vulnerable ... | |||
" Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? Did my comment offend you? No need to swear at me, we are having a discussion. Yes, frankly it did. I need to grow a pair, be honest? Well firstly, my pair is fine. When it comes to standing up for myself, even defending myself. I have no problem with either, and I can assure you I am more than capable of doing both. But what I'd rather avoid is confrontation in the first place. Telling a man to their face, in a pub, that I'm not intrested, that they don't do it for me, oh - because they've not been honest with me. As I've found doesn't always end well. I've had a table tipped over, been screamed at, called names I won't repeat. I've been followed out of the pub, had my car kicked, damaged. I've been followed leaving in my car, had to do some fancy driving and a detour to lose him, but he now knows my VRN & car, not hard to find where I live now. So I'll take my pair, and leave by any method necessary if I felt that by being honest, with again someone who hadn't been honest with me, meant avoiding those situations I've experienced from happening again " Oh shush you dont try make uup some serious tales about Whats happened when you was tthe one making light of it earlier in the tbread having a good giggle. If you had been through any of that then no way would you have made so lite of the situation and tried to get a few laughs. Some women on this site are a ridiculous. I will leave you all too it. | |||
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" Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? Did my comment offend you? No need to swear at me, we are having a discussion. Yes, frankly it did. I need to grow a pair, be honest? Well firstly, my pair is fine. When it comes to standing up for myself, even defending myself. I have no problem with either, and I can assure you I am more than capable of doing both. But what I'd rather avoid is confrontation in the first place. Telling a man to their face, in a pub, that I'm not intrested, that they don't do it for me, oh - because they've not been honest with me. As I've found doesn't always end well. I've had a table tipped over, been screamed at, called names I won't repeat. I've been followed out of the pub, had my car kicked, damaged. I've been followed leaving in my car, had to do some fancy driving and a detour to lose him, but he now knows my VRN & car, not hard to find where I live now. So I'll take my pair, and leave by any method necessary if I felt that by being honest, with again someone who hadn't been honest with me, meant avoiding those situations I've experienced from happening again Oh shush you dont try make uup some serious tales about Whats happened when you was tthe one making light of it earlier in the tbread having a good giggle. If you had been through any of that then no way would you have made so lite of the situation and tried to get a few laughs. Some women on this site are a ridiculous. I will leave you all too it. " Good lord, have you not heard of gallows humour? | |||
" Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? Did my comment offend you? No need to swear at me, we are having a discussion. Yes, frankly it did. I need to grow a pair, be honest? Well firstly, my pair is fine. When it comes to standing up for myself, even defending myself. I have no problem with either, and I can assure you I am more than capable of doing both. But what I'd rather avoid is confrontation in the first place. Telling a man to their face, in a pub, that I'm not intrested, that they don't do it for me, oh - because they've not been honest with me. As I've found doesn't always end well. I've had a table tipped over, been screamed at, called names I won't repeat. I've been followed out of the pub, had my car kicked, damaged. I've been followed leaving in my car, had to do some fancy driving and a detour to lose him, but he now knows my VRN & car, not hard to find where I live now. So I'll take my pair, and leave by any method necessary if I felt that by being honest, with again someone who hadn't been honest with me, meant avoiding those situations I've experienced from happening again Oh shush you dont try make uup some serious tales about Whats happened when you was tthe one making light of it earlier in the tbread having a good giggle. If you had been through any of that then no way would you have made so lite of the situation and tried to get a few laughs. Some women on this site are a ridiculous. I will leave you all too it. " I’d happily climb out a window rather than face danger. | |||
"I imagine the risks for women are bigger than those for men but regardless anyone looking at meeting someone they hardly know online should take some kind of precautions. I always take a stun gun and chloroform for my own protection " Is that to compliment the shovel, and bin bags in the boot of your car? | |||
" Really? What explanation do you think I fucking owe him for sneaking out of the side door? Did my comment offend you? No need to swear at me, we are having a discussion. Yes, frankly it did. I need to grow a pair, be honest? Well firstly, my pair is fine. When it comes to standing up for myself, even defending myself. I have no problem with either, and I can assure you I am more than capable of doing both. But what I'd rather avoid is confrontation in the first place. Telling a man to their face, in a pub, that I'm not intrested, that they don't do it for me, oh - because they've not been honest with me. As I've found doesn't always end well. I've had a table tipped over, been screamed at, called names I won't repeat. I've been followed out of the pub, had my car kicked, damaged. I've been followed leaving in my car, had to do some fancy driving and a detour to lose him, but he now knows my VRN & car, not hard to find where I live now. So I'll take my pair, and leave by any method necessary if I felt that by being honest, with again someone who hadn't been honest with me, meant avoiding those situations I've experienced from happening again Oh shush you dont try make uup some serious tales about Whats happened when you was tthe one making light of it earlier in the tbread having a good giggle. If you had been through any of that then no way would you have made so lite of the situation and tried to get a few laughs. Some women on this site are a ridiculous. I will leave you all too it. " Don't let the door hit you on the way out | |||
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"Common sense helps. That and a black belt in Karate." I like your style , do you genuinely have a black belt ? Xx | |||
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"I imagine the risks for women are bigger than those for men but regardless anyone looking at meeting someone they hardly know online should take some kind of precautions. I always take a stun gun and chloroform for my own protection Is that to compliment the shovel, and bin bags in the boot of your car?" No I leave all that at home in the shed, I don’t drive you see and I find you get a lot of funny looks travelling on public transport with such equipment, especially the chainsaw | |||
"I imagine the risks for women are bigger than those for men but regardless anyone looking at meeting someone they hardly know online should take some kind of precautions. I always take a stun gun and chloroform for my own protection Is that to compliment the shovel, and bin bags in the boot of your car? No I leave all that at home in the shed, I don’t drive you see and I find you get a lot of funny looks travelling on public transport with such equipment, especially the chainsaw " Haha. The smell of 2 stroke giving you away even hidden under your cloak. | |||
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