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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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For me I can never do spontaneous as I have commitments and circumstances that mean I have to plan ahead - it doesn't detract from the time spent with someone though and in some ways helps to build the anticipation and excitement of the meet.
I would think a lot of people on here are going to be in a similar situation where they have to arrange childcare etc and can't just drop everything for a meet at the drop of a hat. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"It's one thing to not be able to meet spontaneously but I've seen many profiles that say they will block people who only ask.
Power trips are so en vogue in this post truth world "
How's that a power trip? It saves the person asking wasting their time by sending a message again in future, and the recipient being bothered by messages from people that don't match their criteria - seems pretty sensible to use the site provided tools as a filter to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve found that non spontaneous meets = fantasists.
I hope that this does not offend, it’s just my experience, and others I’ve known. There are too many time wasters to bother with those that wish for months of conversation before a meet.
Of course this cancels itself out if there is at least a social on the cards, of which in itself is becoming rare. I truly feel that too many people are coming on here for validation/teasing purposes. There is worse- dating, which a great many seem to be here for.
Keep the head held high, and fab on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to meet someone for a spontaneous social rather than plan days or weeks ahead.
Much prefer to meet as soon as possible to see if there's a mutual attraction, you can't get that from photos or chatting online/phone.
I've also found that sometimes if you've made arrangements a while in advance they go quiet. |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing "
Depends on the work schedule, can fit in spontaneous meets if I'm not too busy at work and the weekend as well but need to plan most of the time.
Not ideal as the "horn" can strike anytime but I find the anticipation is also a great "stimulant" |
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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago
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Spontaneous works for us, when we get the urge to be exhibitionist we like to scratch that itch straight away, we don't think, right the first thing we have to do is plan this, post a meet then send out messages etc etc, we check the 'who's near' link and contact suitable people with a ... wanna come and watch us.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined sites like these I used to do spontaneous meets and had a lot of fun 
In hindsight I should have been more careful.
Now I prefer a spontaneous social
Planned meets take the excitement away and I almost always don't feel like going. |
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I'd suggest it's a lot down to the fact that in earlier days fab was a site for like minded people to meet up and enjoy sex NSA. Now it's full of people cheating behind partners back (myself included as need more sex) or people with kids or fake profiles! Swinging and being out there shouldn't just be the preserve of people with nothing else to do except fuck when they feel horny! Weeks notice does take the spontaneous fun out it tho. Seems to me people with no work or anything else to do use this place to chat & pass the time rather than actually fuck like they should. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I travel out of the country several times a month so I have to plan some meets and if I were to do a spontaneous meet, it would only be with someone I already know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd suggest it's a lot down to the fact that in earlier days fab was a site for like minded people to meet up and enjoy sex NSA. Now it's full of people cheating behind partners back (myself included as need more sex) or people with kids or fake profiles! Swinging and being out there shouldn't just be the preserve of people with nothing else to do except fuck when they feel horny! Weeks notice does take the spontaneous fun out it tho. Seems to me people with no work or anything else to do use this place to chat & pass the time rather than actually fuck like they should."
Fuck like they SHOULD?  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve found that non spontaneous meets = fantasists.
I hope that this does not offend, it’s just my experience, and others I’ve known. There are too many time wasters to bother with those that wish for months of conversation before a meet.
Of course this cancels itself out if there is at least a social on the cards, of which in itself is becoming rare. I truly feel that too many people are coming on here for validation/teasing purposes. There is worse- dating, which a great many seem to be here for.
Keep the head held high, and fab on. "
I actually think there's room for both, and I disagree based on experience that non-spontaneous necessarily means fantasist.
As I said upthread I can't do spontaneous (and even if I could I'm not sure I'd want to as I prefer to find that connection first) - in my three years here the quickest I have met someone has been 2-3 weeks from initial conversation starting, and I haven't had a single meet not turn up or not be worth my time, which is something you often here does happen to those who meet spontaneously.
Neither is more right or wrong than the other ultimately if you use a little common sense and due diligence first  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it's about the right person and if they're not local and your respective schedules can't sync For a while then I'm m8re than happy to wait. I prefer to get to know someone and build up rapport rather than select from a small pool of people who happen to have erections on my one child-free weekend a month. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve found that non spontaneous meets = fantasists.
I hope that this does not offend, it’s just my experience, and others I’ve known. There are too many time wasters to bother with those that wish for months of conversation before a meet.
Of course this cancels itself out if there is at least a social on the cards, of which in itself is becoming rare. I truly feel that too many people are coming on here for validation/teasing purposes. There is worse- dating, which a great many seem to be here for.
Keep the head held high, and fab on.
I actually think there's room for both, and I disagree based on experience that non-spontaneous necessarily means fantasist.
As I said upthread I can't do spontaneous (and even if I could I'm not sure I'd want to as I prefer to find that connection first) - in my three years here the quickest I have met someone has been 2-3 weeks from initial conversation starting, and I haven't had a single meet not turn up or not be worth my time, which is something you often here does happen to those who meet spontaneously.
Neither is more right or wrong than the other ultimately if you use a little common sense and due diligence first "
Well said and I like to take my time too as that connection is too important to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve found that non spontaneous meets = fantasists.
I hope that this does not offend, it’s just my experience, and others I’ve known. There are too many time wasters to bother with those that wish for months of conversation before a meet.
Of course this cancels itself out if there is at least a social on the cards, of which in itself is becoming rare. I truly feel that too many people are coming on here for validation/teasing purposes. There is worse- dating, which a great many seem to be here for.
Keep the head held high, and fab on.
I actually think there's room for both, and I disagree based on experience that non-spontaneous necessarily means fantasist.
As I said upthread I can't do spontaneous (and even if I could I'm not sure I'd want to as I prefer to find that connection first) - in my three years here the quickest I have met someone has been 2-3 weeks from initial conversation starting, and I haven't had a single meet not turn up or not be worth my time, which is something you often here does happen to those who meet spontaneously.
Neither is more right or wrong than the other ultimately if you use a little common sense and due diligence first "
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We prefer to plan and that works for us
Meeting couples means you have 4 peoples schedules to consider ,so isn't always easy.plus I work shifts and Jack doesn't
On my single profile ,I wouldn't meet immediately either. I need to be comfortable with someone and that takes some time.
Each to their own,whatever works for people,as long as they respect not everyone does things that way.
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I can't do spontaneous, do you know how long it takes to shave these bloody legs? 
Between 4 jobs, 2 kids, 1 crazy dog and an elderly mother, my free time is very limited & structured.
I like to make the most of that time, it's precious.
I'm not going to leave something to the last minute in the hope that I might get a shag with some random bloke who flops his cock into my inbox.
My free time is planned weeks in advance, I make that clear at the start. If someone is looking for a 'right here, right now' then that's not me.
If I did suddenly have unexpected free time, then anything that spontaneous would be with someone I already knew who was free too.
I'm not wasting bonus time on an average shag.
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I plan. Commitments, but it also gives me time to out the entitled and the frankly scary. Drawing out chat has led several people to drop their pleasant mask and reveal themselves to have no respect for my consent.
It's fine if it doesn't work for you, but my safety comes first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. |
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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. "
many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A weeks notice would be spontaneous for most. We mostly all have either work and kids that need organising round I guess. Being horny and frustrated and unable to meet makes when it all does come together more fun? |
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
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Or caution and prudence borne from experience. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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I usually only meet on Friday nights so I prefer to speak to someone in the week then arrange to meet on Friday, however, there are far too many timewasters recently. Arrange a meet, time to meet etc, and then they are a no show, that's my reason for meeting in clubs, at least I can still have a good night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
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No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here |
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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago
Lancs Mancs |
"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here "
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha "
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone. "
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I'd rather meet no-one than just anyone. |
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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago
Lancs Mancs |
"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone. "
 another completed issue and that ladies do get confused with treating fabswingers as a dating site and manipulate it because they can and don't realy understand (swinging )
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone.
another completed issue and that ladies do get confused with treating fabswingers as a dating site and manipulate it because they can and don't realy understand (swinging )
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It all comes down to your definition of swinging though - there is no single definition other than that held by an individual - some will define it as not needing a connection and chemistry to have sex with someone (doesn't mean they want to date them though), others will need that connection and chemistry - neither way is necessarily wrong, the key is finding people that match what we, as individuals, are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone. another completed issue and that ladies do get confused with treating fabswingers as a dating site and manipulate it because they can and don't realy understand (swinging )
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I want to swing with a partner not as a single. I make no secret I would love to meet a fellow swinger to explore this together with. Sorry if that’s annoying to you but I’m doing this for me. I love clubs and private parties but not as much fun solo. I get off on seeing my partner with someone. I can use this site as I so wish and you use it as you want to also. You will never see me moaning about others and how they use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone.
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I'd rather meet no-one than just anyone."
Exactly. I’m not desperate for sex. I have toys that can keep me satisfied. It’s the companionship I crave more. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone.
This
I'd rather meet no-one than just anyone.
Exactly. I’m not desperate for sex. I have toys that can keep me satisfied. It’s the companionship I crave more. "
To quote that George O'Dowd fella - I'd rather have a cup of tea than sex with just anyone |
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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago
Lancs Mancs |
"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone.
This
I'd rather meet no-one than just anyone.
Exactly. I’m not desperate for sex. I have toys that can keep me satisfied. It’s the companionship I crave more. "
I don't think 99% of men on here are looking for companionship here they have there wifey at home for company haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone.
This
I'd rather meet no-one than just anyone.
Exactly. I’m not desperate for sex. I have toys that can keep me satisfied. It’s the companionship I crave more. I don't think 99% of men on here are looking for companionship here they have there wifey at home for company haha "
That’s good for them but I’m meeting just the right type of guy thank you. You would be surprised at how many actually want something different with the right person. You focus on your own pleasure and leave mine to me. Regards to your wife. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
My choices are narrowed down to very little as I like a good connection and to take my time getting to know someone. I wish I did have lots of choice but I don’t want to meet just anyone.
This
I'd rather meet no-one than just anyone.
Exactly. I’m not desperate for sex. I have toys that can keep me satisfied. It’s the companionship I crave more. I don't think 99% of men on here are looking for companionship here they have there wifey at home for company haha "
Whilst I think that figure is somewhat exaggerated, a large number of them are going to be somewhat disappointed.
Whilst I'm not looking for a relationship (as I already have one) I *am* looking for something more than just sex and to a degree that includes a level of companionship for the time I am with someone during a meet, and to have that needs a connection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship. |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing "
We like a date for the diary, but we, have had lots of spontaneous meets too with as little as 1.5 hrs notice (although that’s usually for a social where less planning is needed!) x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship. "
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out |
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"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out "
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink. |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing "
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol"
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Well we both have erratic work schedules, so if we're planning an event then we'll both book time off, other than that we need to be spontaneous I guess due to not knowing when we'll be off work at the same time.
I'm not a huge fan of them though, unless it's a trip to a club or those we've been speaking to for a bit so I feel respect is already built... so I'm a bit of an awkward sod.
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over a year ago
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"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink. "
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol
This site is whatever the individual person wants it to be. "
Yep this!! as long as both are honest about this but often that's not the case. So then you end up not believing anything anyones tell you anymore. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink. "
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That gets you an extra star for your name badge
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Most of the time will be spent out of the UK and when I'm in the country, I have to book accommodation for meets.
My meets had to be planned weeks ahead and that's why I prefer reliable regulars rather than new/fresh meets.
I just go to clubs for my 'spontaneous' meets. |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol
This site is whatever the individual person wants it to be. "
Very true remember me nora |
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"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink.
. Dirty girl!!"
We met at 5.30pm as he had just had an interview. It was only for a few drinks. 3am, we are rolling out of the club. 2 hour journey home for me on london buses. I think that was quite spontaneous. I certainly wasn’t prepared to go to a club. Haha. It was a laugh I have to say. |
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"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink.
. Dirty girl!!
We met at 5.30pm as he had just had an interview. It was only for a few drinks. 3am, we are rolling out of the club. 2 hour journey home for me on london buses. I think that was quite spontaneous. I certainly wasn’t prepared to go to a club. Haha. It was a laugh I have to say. "
Love that though . When it just works out x |
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"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink.
Hold the front page!!
That gets you an extra star for your name badge
Floozy!! "
Told you I could do romance and filth. |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol
This site is whatever the individual person wants it to be.
Very true remember me nora"
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink.
Hold the front page!!
That gets you an extra star for your name badge
Floozy!!
Told you I could do romance and filth. "
A heady combination when it works |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink.
Hold the front page!!
That gets you an extra star for your name badge
Floozy!!
Told you I could do romance and filth.
A heady combination when it works "
He bought me a drink and I repaid him in the glory hole. Winner winner |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"P.s I’ve just had lunch and dinner and watched a movie with someone I know from here and now on my way home. Just to bust your theory that some can’t do companionship.
Best hand your swingers wings in at the door on the way out
Does it matter that I went for drinks with someone last week and that ended up with us going to a swinging club together. 4 hours after our first drink.
Hold the front page!!
That gets you an extra star for your name badge
Floozy!!
Told you I could do romance and filth.
A heady combination when it works
He bought me a drink and I repaid him in the glory hole. Winner winner "
When I said "heady combination".... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha "
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol
This site is whatever the individual person wants it to be.
Very true remember me nora
. Should I? Is it another name change? Sorry "
Wait! The one who posted that music thread a few months back? |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol
This site is whatever the individual person wants it to be.
Very true remember me nora
. Should I? Is it another name change? Sorry "
Didn't you have post up a song guessing game I was either Mr.lonely at the time or Ares god of war lol |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol
This site is whatever the individual person wants it to be.
Very true remember me nora
. Should I? Is it another name change? Sorry
Didn't you have post up a song guessing game I was either Mr.lonely at the time or Ares god of war lol"
Yes I do remember. Aw nice to see you back lovely x |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
I'm very much open to the idea I mean if you chat a little and seem to get on and ye are free and close by each other I don't see why it would have to take a week or so to be planned lol like I get people have commitments and is understandable buy in the end this is a sex site not a dating one lol
This site is whatever the individual person wants it to be.
Very true remember me nora
. Should I? Is it another name change? Sorry
Wait! The one who posted that music thread a few months back? "
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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago
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"I would never risk a spontaneous meet for safety and availability reasons but also because I like to build up a connection with people and more importantly the sex will be so much better when there’s mutual attraction and when you know what each other likes. You can build up the flirt and tease so the sex can be hot and wanting. Spontaneity causes risk of too many failed, less enjoyable meets. many bad experiences then so a bit negative and tarnishing all with same brush and with a cherry on top then .
No not at all! That’s your interpretation lol! I’ve had amazing meets because of the way I choose to move forward with people on here
They also have to many choices there always distracted to swap and change who they meet lol so I wouldn't get to wrapped up in spontaneity they are women they are wired complicated haha
Oh just like men then lol "
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Everyone has a life away from here, so spontaneous meets can be difficult to arrange.
Yet if another is worth meeting, then they are worth waiting for too, aren't they? |
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Four kids and usually only one weekend free without any of them tends to mean we need to plan
One of the many reasons we go to clubs. We plan to go to the club, what happens there can often be very spontaneous.
Best of both worlds. |
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I don't like to rush in to meeting until I'm ready, which may be slower than some want. Some days are also better than others but I I'd prefer not to hope that on my free time the right people will be online and available too. It's about optimising opportunity and getting the right meets
It doesn't mean last minute can't be done but my experience is that some planning ahead makes things more reliable . |
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing "
Understand that most people won't be able to be spontaneous, but we do agree.
We do the love expanding the occasional horny moment to include others when we are feeling naughty. Doesn't always work out but spontaneous meetings certainly can be fun when they do!! |
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By *r NeilMan
over a year ago
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"It’s changed of late on here a couple of years ago there were loads but now it’s seems that very one or most need a week notice. I m sorry but for us we think how can you plan that far forward as we don’t do planning as it takes something away from the whole thing
Understand that most people won't be able to be spontaneous, but we do agree.
We do the love expanding the occasional horny moment to include others when we are feeling naughty. Doesn't always work out but spontaneous meetings certainly can be fun when they do!!"
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