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Struggling to get meets.

By *rhappy01 OP Man over a year ago

yorkshire

I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

It’s near enough impossible to get meets & been picky is a curse!!! there is no one in my area or 75 mile radius that I have found that I genuinely am interested ( I adore gingers & brunettes pale skin & willing to travel for them that a worth it . If I do message a women and 9/10 the message is ignored. Then if she’s more than a few miles away she sees where you live an instantly deletes the message. Women get 100’s messages a day while the men struggle to even get 1. I message very little women only them I am attracted to if you are a man I suggest you do the same as what you are doing is messaging all the women in your area regardless if you actually find them attractive or not !! What that is doing to fab and all the men on here is actually making your chances less in favour !!! I have chatted to many men who have met loads of women on here who they never liked purely for sex they have all lied an said they like them, there attractive wen they never!! There should be a system where you go through all likes for instance wen setting up a page go through your hair colour, skin type, likes and if you are matched you can speak !! For instance pale skin gingers or brunettes are my type I would only be able to message them not blondes as clearly I’m not interested in blondes ( same principles as not looking for single guys ) this way if a man has open profile to he likes anything it’s a indication to women he’s pretty much no care where he goes an probably a good idea to stay away !! But if you are a ginger women ( as we all know most men like the tanned blonde ) to a ginger women reading my profile can clearly see I’m genuinely attracted to her. All this would cut out the pointless messages, the a-hole men who spoil it for the rest of us and would make this site honest an great again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By *adeiteWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire

Never say never though. There could one day be a blonde that takes your breath away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's the down fall of having a specific type. You've narrowed down your search dramatically, and those you do find have to be attracted to you.

All you can do is keep searching.

And be patient

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Sorry to say OP, I'd delete any message you sent me, and it wouldn't be because of any body else's previous messages

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

maybe it’s just the way your profile reads.....

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By *rhappy01 OP Man over a year ago

yorkshire

I have been on fab a long time with the same profile and I have met lots of people not just for sex .... it’s completely changing.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

For most women's the a-hole men actually highlight the decent ones making it easier to sort the sheep from the goats. As on fab so in life, *some* men will say anything to get sex and won't care if they're actually attracted to the women they meet but most women can spot those guys a mile off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

You *are* one of the men who spoil it for other men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm actually struggling to determine your point as you seem to have covered a lot of ground, determined that your lack of success is entirely down to geography and the behavior of men on the site.

You also allude to the fact that us men will flatter everyone for a fuck, but as you are the only genuine guy around here, you seem genuinely surprised that you aren't spaffing into a pale skinned beauty every other night.

Also, I really like your suggestion that Fab should help you target what you seek by effectively filtering you into ladies inboxes based on your requirements.

You make your own luck.

A bad workman blames his tools.

And paragraphs would have made the post more digestible (in my opinion).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

Few bits on the profile need changed you often seem hostile and the comment about women being niece on here wont go down well with a lot of females mate

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By *rhappy01 OP Man over a year ago

yorkshire

Well that’s your preference ain’t it that’s also what you have to go up against just like me with gingers an brunettes I may like them but they may not like me soooo I’m confused to why you commented that message.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Well that’s your preference ain’t it that’s also what you have to go up against just like me with gingers an brunettes I may like them but they may not like me soooo I’m confused to why you commented that message. "

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By *ab jamesMan over a year ago

ribble valley

Hey..

That's happened to me a lot....

All i wanted was an amazon woman of 7 feet plus!!!!

Nah seriously its hard work but it gets our skills better...anyway, half the fun is in the chase...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be focussing on the things that make me smile rather than the things that piss me off so I don't come across as ranty and negative... after all our profiles are read by those of the sex we would like to attract, not by the ones you're saying are ruining fab..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

Few bits on the profile need changed you often seem hostile and the comment about women being naive on here wont go down well with a lot of females mate"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Your negative vibes on your profile put me off tbh. Fair skin and red hair here by the way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm confused OP. Are you saying that you struggle to get meets on here because you rarely find anyone attractive enough to meet?

If so, join the club. We have t-shirts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i searched for years to meet a woman with three breasts then when i did bloody arnold schwarzenegger beat me to it..might need to do a total recall of my preferences..

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By *rhappy01 OP Man over a year ago

yorkshire

Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

3 ) I’m not labelling all men I’m stating what’s happening over the years to fab and why it’s failing women are getting hammered with desperate men out for anything a system would help all!! You know wen a women states she not looking for men yet nope there you go she still gets messages from men some even know she’s not looking for men but they still message an say I know you are not looking for men but.... ( there interested don’t message them )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Can you reply and quote please so we know who you are answering?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I would leave this thread now as you're becoming annoyed.

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

Whinging about it ain’t going to help op as you can see by some of the comments

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message. "

You're 32 so you were in school till at least 16. not sure what school leaves english till A level.

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By *adeiteWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire

He sounds very angry at the world or fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol"
hes been waiting 6 years

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message. "

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

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By *rhappy01 OP Man over a year ago

yorkshire

Use reply and quote so we can identify who you're replying to."

Thank you

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have been on fab a long time with the same profile and I have met lots of people not just for sex .... it’s completely changing. "

If the site is changing shouldn't your profile evolve with it?

You're driving a Model T while everyone else is in a Tesla.

I don't agree the site is changing by the way. Just people's perceptions.

More people are joining, there's more competition.

You have to stand out for the right reasons.......

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Use reply and quote so we can identify who you're replying to.

Thank you "

Very welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very fair and a ginger here but as said it did come across quite negative and the naive comment wasn't great tbh

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You seem determined both here and in your profile that other men spoil it for everyone - sorry but that is completely wide of the mark, people only spoil the experience of the site for themselves no-one else, and they do so by having a bad attitude, approach and expectations.

Your suggestions for more search criteria I can see of being value to anyone that has very specific wants, but to use them to force who you can and can't message are wrong in my opinion. Besides what if, like me, you're looking for something more of a cerebral connection primarily and physical attraction, whilst important, is secondary to that? How do you put criteria around searching for that? I've found physical attraction to people with all kinds of different physical features, but that doesn't mean I would meet just anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

I’d agree , it is very difficult to find ladies who can meet guys , and if you have specific style of ladies too does narrow it down , maybe broaden you choice and hope something pops up ,

Your profile seems to prove that women arnt totally elusive to you x

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By *rhappy01 OP Man over a year ago

yorkshire

"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man. "

Other thing women judge just like you have done. Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me.

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By *rhappy01 OP Man over a year ago

yorkshire

"I have been on fab for the last 6 years and seen the site dramatically change last few years.

I’d agree , it is very difficult to find ladies who can meet guys , and if you have specific style of ladies too does narrow it down , maybe broaden you choice and hope something pops up ,

Your profile seems to prove that women arnt totally elusive to you x "

Thanks Paul it’s just shame like I said it’s just not the same women judge, men act silly.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me. "

"Women take a look at profiles, messages without actually getting to know that person and pass them by wen if they actually got to know them 9/10 there everything they wanted." first impressions count.

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"Sorry but are very ignorant person !!! That was a horrible message!!

My message would benefit the men & women there selfs I have met a very hefty amount of women on here who have all been lovely an respectful women.

1) most men don’t read profiles just see pictures, then send a message wasting there time an the women.

2) most men like to message an send a cock pick an nothing else ( he might as well put caption underneath saying this is me I’m a cock )

And I’m sorry I can’t spell I left school and work in a manual job not behind a desk writing always getting experience rather rude mate your message.

Don't worry about the spelling thing, if it bothers people they won't mail you and you won't have to meet them.

You come across as very angry. I wouldn't ever put myself in a situation where I was alone with an angry man.

Met plenty of women out on nights out on fab who I have messaged an they blanked me then in the pub months or years later chatted to me an then made the move on me. "
I’d stick to going out to the pub if that’s proved to be more successful than being on here