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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope
I don’t really believe in punching above weights, going below standards etc. I don’t think I’m better than anyone else, and don’t think anyone’s better than me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope
I don’t really believe in punching above weights, going below standards etc. I don’t think I’m better than anyone else, and don’t think anyone’s better than me"
Well good on you for having that confidence! I wish I had the same  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have found, the guys I have fucked, would've fucked me anyway... I just thought they were much hotter than me  "
That's nice maybe it's more of my issue then. Some of the guys on here are beautiful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always fuck above my weight.....
That's sounds so wrong ^
It did indeed  "
I just meant I'm surprised that some women would consider me when they appear to be way out of my league.... I think talking a lot of shit in here helps.... ....and hinders....
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For me (as the guy) my main criteria is how dirty the woman is and how she appeals to my kinky naughty side. Perhaps more men appriciate this on fab rather than the traditional looks. Also I much prefer variety as well
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found, the guys I have fucked, would've fucked me anyway... I just thought they were much hotter than me I'm in a long queue then  "
Lmao cheeky! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no way , we have been to parties , clubs and private meets and we have never felt that anyone was better looking than us .. we are not big headed just confident about the way we look .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think about too much.
Iv had a lot of fun with people from fab regardless of status, looks....
I'm no oil painting and lots of lumps, (not in the right places) however I'm confident in my own skin most of the time. Just enjoy yourself and remember we all have value and worth.
I no that's a bit beep but it's my tuppence worth. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think about too much.
Iv had a lot of fun with people from fab regardless of status, looks....
I'm no oil painting and lots of lumps, (not in the right places) however I'm confident in my own skin most of the time. Just enjoy yourself and remember we all have value and worth.
I no that's a bit beep but it's my tuppence worth. "
you are right! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really know what my weight is but there are loads of women on here that I probably wouldn't contact because I consider them out of my league.
Thank heavens for the forum really, without it I probably wouldn't message anyone.
Just to clarify forumites, I still think you're out of my league but at least you're approachable |
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I wonder if you might be making assumptions based on your own self image? I mean, just because YOU don't feel like they'd look at you twice doesn't necessarily make it so. I find a disproportionate amount of ladies don't realise quite how beautiful they are. You may look at me and think "omg he'd never look at me twice normally" (unlikely, I look a dogs dinner, but for the sake of argument!) meanwhile I'm looking at you thinking "omg I can't believe how pretty she is, I'd never have the balls to talk to her in a pub"
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No. I mean sometimes I have a bit of a wobble and think "what the fuck do they see in me" but then I remember that the type of men I like would look at me away from fab and it's my self confidence wobbling.
Fuck the punching above the weight stuff - I go with what I find attractive and don't really subscribe to leagues of attractiveness. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wonder if you might be making assumptions based on your own self image? I mean, just because YOU don't feel like they'd look at you twice doesn't necessarily make it so. I find a disproportionate amount of ladies don't realise quite how beautiful they are. You may look at me and think "omg he'd never look at me twice normally" (unlikely, I look a dogs dinner, but for the sake of argument!) meanwhile I'm looking at you thinking "omg I can't believe how pretty she is, I'd never have the balls to talk to her in a pub"
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Maybe.... I have body issues lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wonder if you might be making assumptions based on your own self image? I mean, just because YOU don't feel like they'd look at you twice doesn't necessarily make it so. I find a disproportionate amount of ladies don't realise quite how beautiful they are. You may look at me and think "omg he'd never look at me twice normally" (unlikely, I look a dogs dinner, but for the sake of argument!) meanwhile I'm looking at you thinking "omg I can't believe how pretty she is, I'd never have the balls to talk to her in a pub"
Maybe.... I have body issues lol"
Most of us do to varying degrees, but don't let it stop you getting what you want. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fuck who "I" find attractive.
And there's not really a set type in that, I'm guessing they must find me attractive too or they wouldn't get hard. If they have lowered their standard to meet me then that's their problem, I'm happy! |
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You get this in real life too. Ppl looking at a couple and thinking what does he/she see in them but its about chemistry and spark too. I find having that connection with someone and anticipation of what could be to come so hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of guys compared to women so they have to take what they can
I wouldnt give anyone the time ofvday if they wouldnt look atvme twice anywhere else"
Yeah but u will never know will ya . I mean the guy isn’t gonna fuck ya then afterwards say he only did it cos ur on fab and in real life he wouldn’t go anywhere near ya |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of guys compared to women so they have to take what they can
I wouldnt give anyone the time ofvday if they wouldnt look atvme twice anywhere else
Yeah but u will never know will ya . I mean the guy isn’t gonna fuck ya then afterwards say he only did it cos ur on fab and in real life he wouldn’t go anywhere near ya "
I’ve had men I’ve rejected tell me this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wont have owt to do with guys who obviously wouldn't give me a second glance anywhere else. "
Yeah but u will never know will ya . I mean the guy isn’t gonna fuck ya then afterwards say he only did it cos ur on fab and in real life he wouldn’t go anywhere near ya
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This place is amazing for meeting people you wouldn't usually meet and I think is eye opening to you personally in what you find attractive"
Absolutely! This has been my experience and I'm having a great time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And that's what it's about. I think its not about standards or punching per say but i understand how some may feel they meet people that they may consider out of their league but clearly they're not |
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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago
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"This place is amazing for meeting people you wouldn't usually meet and I think is eye opening to you personally in what you find attractive"
Definatly this, the variety of people we have chatted to on here and at clubs is unreal and in normal day to day life probably wouldn't have had the opportunity to chat to them and possibly more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here I approach men I think are hot. I hope they like me too but if they don't then that's ok.
In real life I never do the approaching so if someone hot chats me up then I'm flattered.
Either way I wouldn't say they were out of my league or any of that, I think you can tell when someone fancies you or not so if they are into me I don't question it, they must see something they like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope
I don’t really believe in punching above weights, going below standards etc. I don’t think I’m better than anyone else, and don’t think anyone’s better than me"
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"On here I approach men I think are hot. I hope they like me too but if they don't then that's ok.
In real life I never do the approaching so if someone hot chats me up then I'm flattered.
Either way I wouldn't say they were out of my league or any of that, I think you can tell when someone fancies you or not so if they are into me I don't question it, they must see something they like. "
I agree with this.
I don't believe in leagues or anything like that. Different people find different things attractive, I know that I'm not going to be attractive to lots of people but I'm not going to question if they are attracted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen women on here that I'd consider out of my leauge (I haven't met any of them. shock) but I've not seen any guys that I feel the same about. The guys ive spoke to or met are all alright- good looking, I don't see any on here that I would say were really hot. That may just be in my area tho. |
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"I took some time to warm up to the idea that my ideal of sexually attractive would be into me. Now I just roll with it.
That's my ear worm for the day! "
God it could be worse. I saw a workout shirt recently that read "Stronger than Yesterday".
Goddamn it Britney, out. |
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I always thought I had a type , and that’s what I looked for. (typically the men that look like my hubby)! Go figure! Lol
What I’ve found on here is that I actually DON’T have a type.
(Apart from a massive beard that really does put me off) we have met for MMF’s and couples who look absolutely nothing like the hubby, older, younger, long hair, no hair! Lol
It’s opened my eyes a lot (that initial attraction has to be there of course), but personally and confidence account for so much more on here... |
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"I always thought I had a type , and that’s what I looked for. (typically the men that look like my hubby)! Go figure! Lol
What I’ve found on here is that I actually DON’T have a type.
(Apart from a massive beard that really does put me off) we have met for MMF’s and couples who look absolutely nothing like the hubby, older, younger, long hair, no hair! Lol
It’s opened my eyes a lot (that initial attraction has to be there of course), but personally and confidence account for so much more on here... "
I've always known I didn't have one set type, but I do have a type of person where I have to be all... No, stop staring, behave yourself. Etc.
I've met a few like that who seem to reciprocate, which blows my mind if I let myself dwell. I don't. I try to believe them then have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On here I approach men I think are hot. I hope they like me too but if they don't then that's ok.
In real life I never do the approaching so if someone hot chats me up then I'm flattered.
Either way I wouldn't say they were out of my league or any of that, I think you can tell when someone fancies you or not so if they are into me I don't question it, they must see something they like. "
Did anyone ever refuse you? You're my dream friend  |
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I would never meet someone who obviously felt they were better than me and I wouldn't insult anyone by claiming to be better than them.
I know a lot of people feel they're not good enough based on how other people look. I don't know what can be done about that but I do know that nobody should ever feel grateful because someone agrees to have sex with them. |
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"I would never meet someone who obviously felt they were better than me and I wouldn't insult anyone by claiming to be better than them.
I know a lot of people feel they're not good enough based on how other people look. I don't know what can be done about that but I do know that nobody should ever feel grateful because someone agrees to have sex with them. "
I don't meet anyone who seems to think they're better than me. But I do have some where I think, I've got no chance. If they contact me and I'm proven wrong, I put that to one side. But that took some work on my part. |
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"...Above my weight massively on here! The men I've met and played with wouldn't normally look at me twice.
Any other ladies notice the same? "
just a question but how do you know they would look at you twice anywhere else ? |
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"...Above my weight massively on here! The men I've met and played with wouldn't normally look at me twice.
Any other ladies notice the same? just a question but how do you know they would look at you twice anywhere else ? "
wouldn’t sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hubby has been saying he has for years ...pisses me off no end...as for meets on here, I’d like to think it’s a level playing field ...it’s not, but I’d like to think it |
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"...Above my weight massively on here! The men I've met and played with wouldn't normally look at me twice.
Any other ladies notice the same? "
Yep!
Out in the real world I wouldn't stand a chance with some of the guys that message me!
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"I would never meet someone who obviously felt they were better than me and I wouldn't insult anyone by claiming to be better than them.
I know a lot of people feel they're not good enough based on how other people look. I don't know what can be done about that but I do know that nobody should ever feel grateful because someone agrees to have sex with them.
I don't meet anyone who seems to think they're better than me. But I do have some where I think, I've got no chance. If they contact me and I'm proven wrong, I put that to one side. But that took some work on my part. "
Fair enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Above my weight massively on here! The men I've met and played with wouldn't normally look at me twice.
Any other ladies notice the same? "
Yes. It's easier to not bother. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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"...Above my weight massively on here! The men I've met and played with wouldn't normally look at me twice.
Any other ladies notice the same? "
My FB wouldn’t have looked at me twice had I walked past him...
He insists he would have, but don’t think so.
Still, very happy our paths crossed on Fab. |
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"...Above my weight massively on here! The men I've met and played with wouldn't normally look at me twice.
Any other ladies notice the same? "
What a refereshingly honest post !
We thought the same throughout our swinging time , until we started going to non swinging environments and found my wife would pull just as easily there as she did on here .
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
Masked and Distant |
Works the other way too.
I have had the chance to chat to some gorgeous ladies who wouldn't chat to me in the "real world".
But in the real world I'm quite happy to chat to everyone, maybe a little shy to start with but once I'm confident |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the OP is correct, due to the high volume of men, the standard of men in terms of looks that that women meet on here is higher than the non fab world.
That's not to say that any of the men haven't found the women attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a firm believer that most men could walk past me in the street and not give me a second glance.
It is fabs that makes me 'stunning, gorgeous or hot'. "
I'd definitely notice your boobs. |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
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"I am a firm believer that most men could walk past me in the street and not give me a second glance.
It is fabs that makes me 'stunning, gorgeous or hot'. "
Think I'd get whiplash in my neck if you walked past me 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gosh yes. I'm a middle aged woman with a fat belly and ass. When I look at my gallery of meets I sometimes need to pinch myself. Fuck me, I've met some absolutely stunning people and I feel very lucky indeed. |
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Tbh, this place affords the ability to get to know someone without a lot of the bs in those out in the world chat ups, I've met people who would be considered aesthetically pleasing and those who would not. Truly for me the package doesn't really matter BC what I do and like involves a meeting of minds.
I was always told to have "a good Scots conceit" of myself, to be aware of faults and flaws but not burdened by them and to know my good points and highlights but not to be excessively proud.
I hope I have a balance.
I'm warm, empathetic, generally happy, capable, careful (with myself and others) I have low tolerance for assholery and an infectious laugh, I'm fat, I've a wobbly belly that jiggles when I laugh I have beautiful eyes and cracking legs. I'm generally optimistic and, in play, I'm intense but fun.
I don't have a weight to punch above.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tbh, this place affords the ability to get to know someone without a lot of the bs in those out in the world chat ups, I've met people who would be considered aesthetically pleasing and those who would not. Truly for me the package doesn't really matter BC what I do and like involves a meeting of minds.
I was always told to have "a good Scots conceit" of myself, to be aware of faults and flaws but not burdened by them and to know my good points and highlights but not to be excessively proud.
I hope I have a balance.
I'm warm, empathetic, generally happy, capable, careful (with myself and others) I have low tolerance for assholery and an infectious laugh, I'm fat, I've a wobbly belly that jiggles when I laugh I have beautiful eyes and cracking legs. I'm generally optimistic and, in play, I'm intense but fun.
I don't have a weight to punch above.
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That was beautiful |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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"I wont have owt to do with guys who obviously wouldn't give me a second glance anywhere else.
Yeah but u will never know will ya . I mean the guy isn’t gonna fuck ya then afterwards say he only did it cos ur on fab and in real life he wouldn’t go anywhere near ya
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It doesn't always need to be spoken to be obvious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on how people use the site really.. there's no doubt some prioritise sex over attraction but for others that doesn't work. I need to feel mutual attraction based on lots of conversation and social meets first. If I felt the attraction wasn't equal the chemistry wouldn't be right so it would go no further. |
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I'm a little sad that so many of you beautiful women feel that a man you met wouldn't "normally" be interested in you. I obviously can't speak for all men, but I know that if I'm attracted to you on the internet I'm attracted to you in, say, a post office queue as well. I guess it's just easier to tell a pretty lady on Fab in lacy knickers and stockings that you'd like to get her nekkid than it is to tell that same woman in trackie bottoms and slippers buying stamps. Less likely to get arrested, like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This place is amazing for meeting people you wouldn't usually meet and I think is eye opening to you personally in what you find attractive"
That’s true I’ve chatted to a lot of people of different ages I wouldn’t normally |
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Punching?
I'm a fighter not a lover.
I saw a post the other, someone suggested it would be great to get an update that you were on someone's Hotlist.
It's bad enough seeing none of your pics have been Fabbed.
I can't think of anything more soul destroying than seeing a big fat zero on your "you've been added to these hotlists" update.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly no. I have a certain type of man and that's men older than me. If they wouldn't be interested being seen with me away from fab then I have no interest of their willy in my vagina
I do get a lot of messages from buff muscular types who spend way too much time in the gym... But they don't float my boat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a little sad that so many of you beautiful women feel that a man you met wouldn't "normally" be interested in you. I obviously can't speak for all men, but I know that if I'm attracted to you on the internet I'm attracted to you in, say, a post office queue as well. I guess it's just easier to tell a pretty lady on Fab in lacy knickers and stockings that you'd like to get her nekkid than it is to tell that same woman in trackie bottoms and slippers buying stamps. Less likely to get arrested, like."
It is sad isn't it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think in terms of whether anyone would look twice at me outside of fab. Realistically most people are here for sex, not to form a relationship. The rules of engagement are different "
Yes I agree. It's completely a non issue when you're not looking for relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Above my weight massively on here! The men I've met and played with wouldn't normally look at me twice.
Any other ladies notice the same? "
Can’t say I’ve noticed this.
Based on my thoughts, what I look for in a relationship and what I seek for sex don’t necessarily correlate. |
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By *cedGemsWoman
over a year ago
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"On here I approach men I think are hot. I hope they like me too but if they don't then that's ok.
In real life I never do the approaching so if someone hot chats me up then I'm flattered.
Either way I wouldn't say they were out of my league or any of that, I think you can tell when someone fancies you or not so if they are into me I don't question it, they must see something they like.
I agree with this.
I don't believe in leagues or anything like that. Different people find different things attractive, I know that I'm not going to be attractive to lots of people but I'm not going to question if they are attracted. "
Yes, each to their own likes x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get insecure sometimes, and made to feel I am. Not by Mr, but by other women. We’ve had a few ignore us, then message his singles account. Even had one tell me that I wasn’t attractive but she was going to message Mr. Just no need! xx
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Sexy isn't purely look related.. it's attitude.. approach .. excitement.. attenuated...exotic ..daring .. flirtatious..I don't punch above my weight..I find a good match and play tease test be tested and most of all enjoy.. really enjoy |
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