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"How come most men are okay with a 20+ year age Gap for younger men but women aren't ?  "
It’s all personal choice at the end of the day, but men have always wanted to jump on a older woman for practice then marry same age |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How come most men are okay with a 20+ year age Gap for younger men but women aren't ?
Some. Not all.
Are you talking about in general or just Fab?
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On Fab, and sorry I mean most women seem fine to meet a man who 20+ years older but wouldn't meet someone 20 years younger (say someone in their 40's) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't understand the question
I think the OP is wondering why grown ladies are not interested in young boys...  "
Yeah I guess you hit the nail on the head haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm no expert but maybe a lot of women aren't comfortable with lads *ahem* I mean men old enough to be their childrens age
Not all, just some.
Men (unfortunately) tend to be less concerned about it.
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"Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical? "
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How is it hypocritical? The 50 year old women isn’t the same 20 year old women 
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"Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical?
Dear lord
How is it hypocritical? The 50 year old women isn’t the same 20 year old women
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And honestly it’s just preference. I’m 22 and will meet 50 year old men. I highly doubt when I get to 50 I’ll want to meet 22 year old men. I don’t even want to meet them now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical? "
Hypocritical? |
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"Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical? "
I think you need to look up the definition of hypocritical.
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"Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical? "
Some men meet other men for sex but you don't. Are you being hypocritical? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm no expert but maybe a lot of women aren't comfortable with lads *ahem* I mean men old enough to be their childrens age
Not all, just some.
Men (unfortunately) tend to be less concerned about it.
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Yeah that's it, there could be a mature couple profile and the husband is okay with a 30 year age Gap but the wife isn't? Haha |
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"I'm no expert but maybe a lot of women aren't comfortable with lads *ahem* I mean men old enough to be their childrens age
Not all, just some.
Men (unfortunately) tend to be less concerned about it.
Yeah that's it, there could be a mature couple profile and the husband is okay with a 30 year age Gap but the wife isn't? Haha"
And? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical? "
Personal choice, preference, experience and being allowed to control and do what you want if your own body.
Not exactly hypocritical and no one ‘owes’ anyone a shag on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Like you'll see 20 year old women meeting 50+ year old men yet it seems most 50+ year old women wouldn't do the same to a 20 year old man lol seems a bit hypocritical?
I think you need to look up the definition of hypocritical.
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I knew that wasn't the right word, I wasn't sure lol  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"How come most men are okay with a 20+ year age Gap for younger men but women aren't ?
Some. Not all.
Are you talking about in general or just Fab?
On Fab, and sorry I mean most women seem fine to meet a man who 20+ years older but wouldn't meet someone 20 years younger (say someone in their 40's)"
Because some of us have kids that age. |
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"I'm no expert but maybe a lot of women aren't comfortable with lads *ahem* I mean men old enough to be their childrens age
Not all, just some.
Men (unfortunately) tend to be less concerned about it.
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Funny that eh? Hahaha. I think it is different for women but people will do as they please. As long as things are legal it’s all good. Morally, it depends on the individual I guess. Personally a man in his 40s/50s meeting women in their 20s would put me off him.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't understand the question
I think the OP is wondering why grown ladies are not interested in young boys...
Yeah I guess you hit the nail on the head haha "
And there is where your answer lies.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions! |
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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago
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"How come most men are okay with a 20+ year age Gap for younger men but women aren't ?
Some. Not all.
Are you talking about in general or just Fab?
On Fab, and sorry I mean most women seem fine to meet a man who 20+ years older but wouldn't meet someone 20 years younger (say someone in their 40's)
Because some of us have kids that age. "
Yep..this is exactly why I wont x |
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OP what you maybe don't understand is that many women in their 40's and 50's have children aged 20 or thereabouts. Despite the fact that they are legally adults to us they are still our children and always will be no matter how old they are. It just doesn't sit right with us to be fucking young men the same age as our kids.
Maybe it's a bit different for older men in the fact they are not the ones who have actually given birth! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find being fetishised due to my age distasteful and it feels like an older woman is perceived to be an easy target as they must be grateful of the attention. "
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As someone who does have a lower age limit, it is for two reasons... 1) I don’t want to be with someone who I could be their mother, just doesn’t sit right with me; and 2) the one time I did go outside my age limit by a couple of years I ended up doing a lot of training... sorry but my training days are over |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP what you maybe don't understand is that many women in their 40's and 50's have children aged 20 or thereabouts. Despite the fact that they are legally adults to us they are still our children and always will be no matter how old they are. It just doesn't sit right with us to be fucking young men the same age as our kids.
Maybe it's a bit different for older men in the fact they are not the ones who have actually given birth!"
That's a good point! Men don't have the motherly instinct so I see why some women would be uncomfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How come most men are okay with a 20+ year age Gap for younger men but women aren't ?
Some. Not all.
Are you talking about in general or just Fab?
On Fab, and sorry I mean most women seem fine to meet a man who 20+ years older but wouldn't meet someone 20 years younger (say someone in their 40's)
Because some of us have kids that age. "
If I refused to see people only a few years older than my kids I’d certainly limit who I could see. My eldest turned 31 a few days ago.
Having said that; I’m now happily seeing a 50 yr old man. 
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!"
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences "
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol ! |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol ! "
Yes but you pointed out that one half of a couple may have different preferences to their partners preferences.
My husband isn’t attracted to older women, so wouldn’t meet them pure because I’m attracted to older men and would meet them. |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences "
You prefer older men, I don’t find it odd that way round. Seeing older men (and women tbf) looking to meet people in their late teens and twenties just makes me go a bit ewwwwwwww and would put me off them to be honest. Just my personal opinion which to be fair never goes down well on here but hey ho |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
You prefer older men, I don’t find it odd that way round. Seeing older men (and women tbf) looking to meet people in their late teens and twenties just makes me go a bit ewwwwwwww and would put me off them to be honest. Just my personal opinion which to be fair never goes down well on here but hey ho "
Yet it wouldn’t put me off a man if he met a women who I deemed as ‘older’ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol !
Yes but you pointed out that one half of a couple may have different preferences to their partners preferences.
My husband isn’t attracted to older women, so wouldn’t meet them pure because I’m attracted to older men and would meet them. "
That's exactly why I asked the question, men seemed to have no problem when it comes to people younger but women are okay with any older people. Why doesn't it work both ways lol Don't we want equality!  |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol !
Yes but you pointed out that one half of a couple may have different preferences to their partners preferences.
My husband isn’t attracted to older women, so wouldn’t meet them pure because I’m attracted to older men and would meet them.
That's exactly why I asked the question, men seemed to have no problem when it comes to people younger but women are okay with any older people. Why doesn't it work both ways lol Don't we want equality! "
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol !
Yes but you pointed out that one half of a couple may have different preferences to their partners preferences.
My husband isn’t attracted to older women, so wouldn’t meet them pure because I’m attracted to older men and would meet them.
That's exactly why I asked the question, men seemed to have no problem when it comes to people younger but women are okay with any older people. Why doesn't it work both ways lol Don't we want equality! "
Yep, everyone wants equality. Therefore regardless of gender, race, age etc, we should meet anyone.
You willing to meet men? You know, to be equal |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
You prefer older men, I don’t find it odd that way round. Seeing older men (and women tbf) looking to meet people in their late teens and twenties just makes me go a bit ewwwwwwww and would put me off them to be honest. Just my personal opinion which to be fair never goes down well on here but hey ho
Yet it wouldn’t put me off a man if he met a women who I deemed as ‘older’"
We all think differently though and like I always say people should just do what they want to do. That’s what this site is for |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol !
Yes but you pointed out that one half of a couple may have different preferences to their partners preferences.
My husband isn’t attracted to older women, so wouldn’t meet them pure because I’m attracted to older men and would meet them.
That's exactly why I asked the question, men seemed to have no problem when it comes to people younger but women are okay with any older people. Why doesn't it work both ways lol Don't we want equality! "
Haha. Yes!!!! Equality! Everyone should just shag anyone. Bring it on |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol !
Yes but you pointed out that one half of a couple may have different preferences to their partners preferences.
My husband isn’t attracted to older women, so wouldn’t meet them pure because I’m attracted to older men and would meet them.
That's exactly why I asked the question, men seemed to have no problem when it comes to people younger but women are okay with any older people. Why doesn't it work both ways lol Don't we want equality!
Dear lord"
Yes I heard, opinions and preferences. Women and men are different, fine lol  |
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"Well they do say women mature faster/better than men, but say your husband is okay smashing a girl your daughters age but the wife isn't keen on someone her sons age ? Mm okay, dw guys I'm listening to your opinions!
But what does it matter?
My husband is 26 and is attracted to women my age (22). If he wanted to meet, I’m more than happy for him to meet young women.
I however won’t meet men under the age of 30. What does it matter?
Different people have different preferences
It doesn't lol, and 26 to 20 say is practically the same. I just wanted to know women's opinion on why most aren't open to young guys. And I'm getting them lol !
Yes but you pointed out that one half of a couple may have different preferences to their partners preferences.
My husband isn’t attracted to older women, so wouldn’t meet them pure because I’m attracted to older men and would meet them.
That's exactly why I asked the question, men seemed to have no problem when it comes to people younger but women are okay with any older people. Why doesn't it work both ways lol Don't we want equality!
Dear lord"
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"I wish we could have an irl debate, it'd be much more fun to shout our opinions  "
Would you answer my question about you meeting men in the name of equality in person?  |
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"I wish we could have an irl debate, it'd be much more fun to shout our opinions
Would you answer my question about you meeting men in the name of equality in person? "
Yes lol let's meet for a coffee, and we can belt our opinions at each other. See everyones different and this might not work with you but it's exactly your partner is fun with meeting younger women, but when your 50 he'll still probably be fine with meeting young women but you won't be okay with that same wouldn't with same age Gap? Now you could be lol! But it seems most womens opinion seems to change but most men's doesn't?
Can we have that discussion guys, men why do you think your opinion on age Gap doesn't change but womenit does? |
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"I wish we could have an irl debate, it'd be much more fun to shout our opinions
Would you answer my question about you meeting men in the name of equality in person?
Yes lol let's meet for a coffee, and we can belt our opinions at each other. See everyones different and this might not work with you but it's exactly your partner is fun with meeting younger women, but when your 50 he'll still probably be fine with meeting young women but you won't be okay with that same wouldn't with same age Gap? Now you could be lol! But it seems most womens opinion seems to change but most men's doesn't?
Can we have that discussion guys, men why do you think your opinion on age Gap doesn't change but womenit does? "
Buuuuuut you asked ‘don’t we want equality’ when discussing age gaps. So it would be slightly similar to say you, as a straight man, should be open to meeting men, because you know...equality 
And plenty of mens opinions change. I was way out-with a forum members age preference yet we met, and still continue to chat even though he has left the site.
My preference may change, but I highly doubt it. |
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"I wish we could have an irl debate, it'd be much more fun to shout our opinions
Would you answer my question about you meeting men in the name of equality in person?
Yes lol let's meet for a coffee, and we can belt our opinions at each other. See everyones different and this might not work with you but it's exactly your partner is fun with meeting younger women, but when your 50 he'll still probably be fine with meeting young women but you won't be okay with that same wouldn't with same age Gap? Now you could be lol! But it seems most womens opinion seems to change but most men's doesn't?
Can we have that discussion guys, men why do you think your opinion on age Gap doesn't change but womenit does? "
OP...it feels like this has been answered - personal preference, women not wanting to have sex with a boy the same age as their kids, being fine with the man having sex with a younger girl (swinging in couples requires a lot of trust, communication, knowing each other’s boundaries etc). This stuff doesn’t just happen. It’s all agreed beforehand.
Not all men would sleep with a woman in her teens/early 20s and not all women have an issue with sleeping with men that age too.
Personal preference, boundaries and respect isn’t black and white and should be respected that we all look for different things. Those that don’t fit your argument are no less right or wrong than anyone’s else’s.
We all like what we like, put the filters up that suit us and as long as it’s all legal, it really shouldn’t be biterijg anyone. |
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Every one diffrent, we won't meet guys younger than wife 25 and won't go over 40 but it's a guide line as there can be exceptions, some younger guys get the scene well and are very mature where others think it's a quick shag and are still quite immature. So we use it as a guide.
Though I get more concerned when guys have there age set from 18 to 90+ . |
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