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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.
What's your thoughts?
Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in? |
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"I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.
What's your thoughts?
Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in?"
Always a social first.
I've had a couple that have ended as more than just that, but on both occasions, were people I had chatted to a very long time before we met
Sorry OP, but I'd pass you by.
Too much sausage on display
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I like a social first, people want to buy me tea, I can't deny them that.
I like to stroke your hair while you drink tea 
That is a popular request"
Am I the only person not to want to stroke your hair?
I have bought you tea, though.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like a social first, people want to buy me tea, I can't deny them that.
I like to stroke your hair while you drink tea
That is a popular request
Am I the only person not to want to stroke your hair?
I have bought you tea, though.
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I'm sure there are others but I pay no mind to them.
You also bought me a book of poems on tea. Which ticks all sorts of boxes. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
When I started out I used to jump straight in. I had one very scary experience and now insist on a social first. If people are willing to meet me in a club they are more likely (not guaranteed) to get both in one meet.
Plus, I do socials with people where one or both of us is only interested in the friendship and to give single men a verification.
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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Well I don’t just walk through the door and jump on someone but I have already decided before I agree to a meet if I am going to have sex.....I suppose I do my socialising in getting to know them through messages and the few minutes of polite conversation when I arrive. So no I don’t do socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends for me, I'd prefer to have a social 1st, but if you have spoke quite abit before hand and it feels right then nothing wrong with not having a social only meet before anything else happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have very limited playtime, due to having a family. We prefer to meet in a club, that way, if the original meet is a no show or we are not to each others liking we can go our separate ways and still have fun.
Works well for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social every time, what if they look nothing like their pics etc, what if there’s no chemistry? I would never do anything for the sake of it, I’d rather do without. Quality not quantity always.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always a social first unless in a club with friends, only had one spontaneous meet n it didn’t go well at all sadly, was left with bruises I didnt want so put me off.. its partly a safety thing, partly confidence because I’m a big girl I wanna know they’re still happy with my size before it goes further... x |
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After following verifications on here very few of these socials seem to go anywhere and they often take weeks to organise so not for me
I’ll stick with what I have on my profile that I only meet in clubs.That said everyone’s different and if people want to increase the share value of Costa that’s up to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After following verifications on here very few of these socials seem to go anywhere and they often take weeks to organise so not for me
I’ll stick with what I have on my profile that I only meet in clubs.That said everyone’s different and if people want to increase the share value of Costa that’s up to them"
I don’t drink tea or coffee. Sharing a bottle of gin is more like it with me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nearly always a social meet to start with usually for a coffee or a drink and no promises of more. "
Exactly that, a brew and a chat and go from there. No expectations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.
What's your thoughts?
Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in?"
Jump straight in but we insist on the right to refuse to play if we are not attracted. |
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"I prefer to have a social first as it's not just about physical attraction for me.
What's your thoughts?
Also would you pass me by, meet for a social or Jump straight in?
Jump straight in but we insist on the right to refuse to play if we are not attracted. "
Absolutely agree and refusal is always an option if you meet in clubs |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Normally I prefer a social first but where there's the possibility to fuck if we both want to. That's not to say there's expectation or pressure from either party but more because of when I meet, it's there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always a social first. Agreed to meet a guy for coffee before Xmas as wasn't sure if I fancied him but agreed to coffee. He walked in looked me up and down, says your not for me and left. Can you imagine if had a hotel room booked and that happened. So always a social first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social first but end of social it can lead to fun back at my place it's happened on more than one occasion when both parties have clicked and can't wait to fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Socials are very important. I could never jump straight in
not even if you both like each other ?"
I always find it ramps up the tension and excitement for when we meet again |
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"Social first but end of social it can lead to fun back at my place it's happened on more than one occasion when both parties have clicked and can't wait to fuck "
Wow nail head and hitting come to mind that sounds like a proper social  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always a social first. Agreed to meet a guy for coffee before Xmas as wasn't sure if I fancied him but agreed to coffee. He walked in looked me up and down, says your not for me and left. Can you imagine if had a hotel room booked and that happened. So always a social first "
What a guy! 
Lucky escape. X |
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"Socials are very important. I could never jump straight in
not even if you both like each other ?
I always find it ramps up the tension and excitement for when we meet again "
We'dd be gutted watching you walk away thinking how long before we'd meet again  |
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I’ve had success either way to be honest. It depends on the chemistry. I’d never promise a full on meet on the first encounter though on the off chance that we meet and one/both of us changes their mind. It’s good to have options if it works out well though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So you guys who proudly state “social first”, its late ; I’ve been chatting to a drop dead gorgeous ( no strike that - just a lovely woman u are attracted to; the chat gets steamy, almost out of control; she lives a few miles from u; she invites u round there and then and u say “ sorry , but I must insist on a social/ coffee meet first”. Really ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve had success either way to be honest. It depends on the chemistry. I’d never promise a full on meet on the first encounter though on the off chance that we meet and one/both of us changes their mind. It’s good to have options if it works out well though. "
What Mac said, just saved me writing it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you guys who proudly state “social first”, its late ; I’ve been chatting to a drop dead gorgeous ( no strike that - just a lovely woman u are attracted to; the chat gets steamy, almost out of control; she lives a few miles from u; she invites u round there and then and u say “ sorry , but I must insist on a social/ coffee meet first”. Really ?
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I wouldn’t meet someone that quickly but I’m sure many would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all the single men that have contacted us, haven’t wanted to have a social first, we prefer them so we can see if there’s an attraction, the men that contacted us seemed happy to just fuck regardless if there was attraction or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've jumped in a few times & always told myself that I'd never do it again...until the next time  Its only ever worked out well once or twice.
I insist on socials now & I know going into it if I want to bring them back to mine, its just depending on there being that spark in person. |
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So what’s the actual reality then ?
It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .
I reckon we’ve had well over 1500 meets on fab in eight years . Roughly 900 men , 400 couples , 150 single women and 50 tv/ts . And how many have insisted or even asked for a social first ? Not one !
Yet anyone reading this thread , and any thread on this subject would think the vast majority of swingers would insist or prefer to have a social first . Maybe that’s why less than 1% of the site use the forums . The other 99% are out there shagging  |
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"So what’s the actual reality then ?
It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .
I reckon we’ve had well over 1500 meets on fab in eight years . Roughly 900 men , 400 couples , 150 single women and 50 tv/ts . And how many have insisted or even asked for a social first ? Not one !
Yet anyone reading this thread , and any thread on this subject would think the vast majority of swingers would insist or prefer to have a social first . Maybe that’s why less than 1% of the site use the forums . The other 99% are out there shagging "
2 females we've met never asked for a social and they were both in the day and they came to us |
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"So what’s the actual reality then ?
It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .
I reckon we’ve had well over 1500 meets on fab in eight years . Roughly 900 men , 400 couples , 150 single women and 50 tv/ts . And how many have insisted or even asked for a social first ? Not one !
Yet anyone reading this thread , and any thread on this subject would think the vast majority of swingers would insist or prefer to have a social first . Maybe that’s why less than 1% of the site use the forums . The other 99% are out there shagging "
I think the difference here is that you are both non judgmental genuine swingers not confusing sex with fantasy romance and Mr Grey.Happy shagging isn’t that what it’s all about? |
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"So what’s the actual reality then ?
It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .
I reckon we’ve had well over 1500 meets on fab in eight years . Roughly 900 men , 400 couples , 150 single women and 50 tv/ts . And how many have insisted or even asked for a social first ? Not one !
Yet anyone reading this thread , and any thread on this subject would think the vast majority of swingers would insist or prefer to have a social first . Maybe that’s why less than 1% of the site use the forums . The other 99% are out there shagging
I think the difference here is that you are both non judgmental genuine swingers not confusing sex with fantasy romance and Mr Grey.Happy shagging isn’t that what it’s all about?"
Well yeah , when we first signed up that’s exactly what we thought it would be . Happy shagging , and that’s exactly what we did , with so many other like minded swingers . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what’s the actual reality then ?
It’s always the same vocal majority on the forum on ths one , but in the real fab world the polar opposite .
I reckon we’ve had well over 1500 meets on fab in eight years . Roughly 900 men , 400 couples , 150 single women and 50 tv/ts . And how many have insisted or even asked for a social first ? Not one !
Yet anyone reading this thread , and any thread on this subject would think the vast majority of swingers would insist or prefer to have a social first . Maybe that’s why less than 1% of the site use the forums . The other 99% are out there shagging
I think the difference here is that you are both non judgmental genuine swingers not confusing sex with fantasy romance and Mr Grey.Happy shagging isn’t that what it’s all about?"
Some of us like romance and filth. I had a nice drinks date last week that ended up in a swinging club. That was not planned at all. It was only drinks after work. |
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"So you guys who proudly state “social first”, its late ; I’ve been chatting to a drop dead gorgeous ( no strike that - just a lovely woman u are attracted to; the chat gets steamy, almost out of control; she lives a few miles from u; she invites u round there and then and u say “ sorry , but I must insist on a social/ coffee meet first”. Really ?
I’d rush straight there only to find it was a single guy living in his mother’s spare room
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I always prefer social first as I infinitely prefer face to face getting to know someone, but I tend to leave it up to who I'm meeting to decide if they want to move things on sooner rather than later, as ultimately the success of the whole experience for me depends on them having a good time and getting what they want too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to start with an orgasm, move on to sex followed a couple of days later by a social. Then finish with a FAF message. But some prefer the alternate order  |
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Hmm well I like to chat quite a bit via message and video chat - so I feel like I have a good sense of the person... but maybe just a coffee or a drink with a hotel room close by to end up 20 mins later if all goes well and the attraction and fire exists in person.... love that.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends ...we’ve had “stand alone” socials and socials that have naturally progressed ...even a few where there was clothes being flung the minute they walked through the door . On the whole, a social first is always best ... |
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