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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys, welcome to paradoxical phenomena that is FAB
One liners get deleted, put effort into your message or I will not reply, copy and paste etc etc.
My question is this, as someone who simply can't bare the thought of producing a manuscript, only to have it thrown in the trash swiftly....do you think the only way around this would be to put our wonderful faces on show and leave all comms at the wink mark?
I literally don't have the energy to write. This is going to sound horrific but I am pretty confident that if I crossed paths with "some" of the fabbers that delete me, I think that they wpuld be more drawn to me - than I to them!
Keyboard warriors need not apply
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The reality is some people don't want a plethora of messages just 5 or 6 from interesting people. "
Another words, I have to accept the fact that I have sub-par banter.
Or
I'm seriously f**king boring |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
There are a hundred reasons why someone might not answer your message. Your avatar would put me right off and I probably wouldn’t even open it.
At the end of the day, as a female on here, I have less than two minutes per message to make a snap decision (that’s if I don’t eat, work, sleep, have hobbies, clean etc - it’s probably closer to around 5 seconds). 99 times out of a hundred, that decision is going to be to delete.
So don’t get downhearted, and target your messages to the ones you really want, taikoring them to your audience. If they delete without coming back to you, block them so they don’t just keep coming up in your searches. |
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Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them. |
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"Hey guys, welcome to paradoxical phenomena that is FAB
One liners get deleted, put effort into your message or I will not reply, copy and paste etc etc.
My question is this, as someone who simply can't bare the thought of producing a manuscript, only to have it thrown in the trash swiftly....do you think the only way around this would be to put our wonderful faces on show and leave all comms at the wink mark?
I literally don't have the energy to write. This is going to sound horrific but I am pretty confident that if I crossed paths with "some" of the fabbers that delete me, I think that they wpuld be more drawn to me - than I to them!
Keyboard warriors need not apply
O"
I genuinely feel sorry for single guys on here, they're asked to jump through so many hoops. Just do stuff your way your success rate will be the same.
One thing I would say is why in earth are you messaging people you wouldn't be drawn to in the same way they'd be drawn to you? |
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We vet messages like this for single men.
1.Face picture first. Attractive?
2.Then body pic. In shape?
3.Then cock photo. Good size?
4.As long as the message is respectful and shows they have read our profile we will check them out
5. Then we check distance. Need to be localish
6. Then read Thier profile, we are looking for a personality that matches ours and some experience in the scene.
7. Then we check verifications.
8. Are they in the right age range?
If all of that checks out then we will reply, I'd say on average 1 in 50 guys meets all the requirements. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey guys, welcome to paradoxical phenomena that is FAB
One liners get deleted, put effort into your message or I will not reply, copy and paste etc etc.
My question is this, as someone who simply can't bare the thought of producing a manuscript, only to have it thrown in the trash swiftly....do you think the only way around this would be to put our wonderful faces on show and leave all comms at the wink mark?
I literally don't have the energy to write. This is going to sound horrific but I am pretty confident that if I crossed paths with "some" of the fabbers that delete me, I think that they wpuld be more drawn to me - than I to them!
Keyboard warriors need not apply
O
I genuinely feel sorry for single guys on here, they're asked to jump through so many hoops. Just do stuff your way your success rate will be the same.
One thing I would say is why in earth are you messaging people you wouldn't be drawn to in the same way they'd be drawn to you?"
Oh, I'm drawn to everyone  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them. "
I think, your screen is broken, it wasn't showing the "keyboard warriors need not apply" segment happy Monday, loving your posit8ve energy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rely on the written word to tempt the ladies in, then seal the deal with my dashing good looks and impeccable dress sense.
I'd rather ladies fell for my wit and charm rather than my (undeniably) handsome features |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
To take this outside of a Fab context OP - do you expect to get on with everyone you meet as you go about life, and for them to warm to you? No? Thought not.
You find the people you do get on with and who get on with you and focus your attentions on them - same principle applies here.
The key is finding those that are well matched, and in doing so you have to expect some knock backs, just as you do in life.  |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
I think, your screen is broken, it wasn't showing the "keyboard warriors need not apply" segment happy Monday, loving your posit8ve energy "
One person's keyboard warrior is another person's truth bomb. |
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By *ack4NinaCouple
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
"There are a hundred reasons why someone might not answer your message. Your avatar would put me right off and I probably wouldn’t even open it.
At the end of the day, as a female on here, I have less than two minutes per message to make a snap decision (that’s if I don’t eat, work, sleep, have hobbies, clean etc - it’s probably closer to around 5 seconds). 99 times out of a hundred, that decision is going to be to delete.
So don’t get downhearted, and target your messages to the ones you really want, taikoring them to your audience. If they delete without coming back to you, block them so they don’t just keep coming up in your searches."
Excellent advice x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys, welcome to paradoxical phenomena that is FAB
One liners get deleted, put effort into your message or I will not reply, copy and paste etc etc.
My question is this, as someone who simply can't bare the thought of producing a manuscript, only to have it thrown in the trash swiftly....do you think the only way around this would be to put our wonderful faces on show and leave all comms at the wink mark?
I literally don't have the energy to write. This is going to sound horrific but I am pretty confident that if I crossed paths with "some" of the fabbers that delete me, I think that they wpuld be more drawn to me - than I to them!
Keyboard warriors need not apply
O"
Simple answer. After 99% of well crafted appropriate messages ignored and deleted I no longer send the first message. Haven't done in maybe 18 to 20 months. I find those that contact have a natural interest, as for those who chose not too, they have naturally been filtered out as those not interested. It genuinely works for me. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
In all honesty, in my time on fab (5/6 years) I've only successfully struck up a conversation from sending a message 'cold', two or three times. There are so many factors at play that are beyond your control that I just stopped.
I found that interacting organically through the forums to be a far better way of making connections, that and meeting at clubs.
If you honestly believe that people will be 'drawn to you' far more in person, then get yourself to clubs. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"In all honesty, in my time on fab (5/6 years) I've only successfully struck up a conversation from sending a message 'cold', two or three times. There are so many factors at play that are beyond your control that I just stopped.
I found that interacting organically through the forums to be a far better way of making connections, that and meeting at clubs.
If you honestly believe that people will be 'drawn to you' far more in person, then get yourself to clubs. "
Exactly this
I personally find the whole "cold messaging" thing somewhat clinical and a little awkward - I've sent maybe 5 or 6 completely "cold" messages in my time here, got replies to all but one, although none of them progressed beyond a brief exchange - honestly can't remember the last time I sent one though. Like you have found the forums to be my preferred way of making connections with people.
I think finding their "preferred" way is where a lot of people go wrong though, for some the cold messaging thing will work, for others the forums, others the chat rooms, and others still face to face things like clubs and socials is where they shine, but all too often those that find the site isn't working for them don't take a step back and find their "best" way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We vet messages like this for single men.
1.Face picture first. Attractive?
2.Then body pic. In shape?
3.Then cock photo. Good size?
4.As long as the message is respectful and shows they have read our profile we will check them out
5. Then we check distance. Need to be localish
6. Then read Thier profile, we are looking for a personality that matches ours and some experience in the scene.
7. Then we check verifications.
8. Are they in the right age range?
If all of that checks out then we will reply, I'd say on average 1 in 50 guys meets all the requirements."
So.... ....I need my beautiful cock on public display then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck me! What is it with lazy, arrogant people today and bizarre posts?
Have you been sniffing that Worcestershire sauce again?  "
I bathe in it.. I'm the Worcescestershire version of Cleopatra |
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"Hey guys, welcome to paradoxical phenomena that is FAB
One liners get deleted, put effort into your message or I will not reply, copy and paste etc etc.
My question is this, as someone who simply can't bare the thought of producing a manuscript, only to have it thrown in the trash swiftly....do you think the only way around this would be to put our wonderful faces on show and leave all comms at the wink mark?
I literally don't have the energy to write. This is going to sound horrific but I am pretty confident that if I crossed paths with "some" of the fabbers that delete me, I think that they wpuld be more drawn to me - than I to them!
Keyboard warriors need not apply
O"
Hello Leon.
There is nothing paradoxical or phenomenal going on.
You simply ARE far more attractive than the women you contact. There's no escaping fact.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As ever it's all about the odds. Every time a bloke sends a message he's backing a 20-1 shot on the 330 at Newmarket.
It's not going to come home that often. "
People, preferences, and skill....
I cold message loads of ppl successfully, the ones that aren't interested aren't interested so why bother with them? If they've missed out on your stunning charm then save it for a new person and stay fussy.... |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them. "
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't. "
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no? |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no? "
That would depend on how we count our successes. If I shagged someone I don't want to - that's an epic fail. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
That would depend on how we count our successes. If I shagged someone I don't want to - that's an epic fail."
Tru dat!
Have you though?
Choosey opens doors but you don't have to pass through..... |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no? "
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so. "
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be! "
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT! |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
That would depend on how we count our successes. If I shagged someone I don't want to - that's an epic fail.
Tru dat!
Have you though?
Choosey opens doors but you don't have to pass through..... "
Let me think ....... twice. God, the memory. One heard voices and the other was about ten years older and as many stones fatter than her pic but I wanted a woman so that was that. ( it wasn't good but it was quick so .....phew ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
That would depend on how we count our successes. If I shagged someone I don't want to - that's an epic fail.
Tru dat!
Have you though?
Choosey opens doors but you don't have to pass through.....
Let me think ....... twice. God, the memory. One heard voices and the other was about ten years older and as many stones fatter than her pic but I wanted a woman so that was that. ( it wasn't good but it was quick so .....phew ) "
Hahaha, but you probs don't totally regret it, you learned something? |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT! "
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am blocked by OP and have no idea why as we have never conversed- not that I am aware of...
So yeah, how was that, double standards and all? "
Accept it though and next? Why stress? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that. "
I guess I'm the exception to prove your rule. I don't struggle at all for offers buy I don't like sex with ppl that aren't matched well with me, mentally and physically. Maybe that's the balance of desperation vs achievement? And yes, I could wait months for my next shag quite happily, why not.....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't need to see a face to respond to a message.
I only need to see it after I've read the message, looked at the profile, seen what I like and responded either yay, or nay.
Now, if a face pic was attached to the initial message it would skip all that, if it's a nay. |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
That would depend on how we count our successes. If I shagged someone I don't want to - that's an epic fail.
Tru dat!
Have you though?
Choosey opens doors but you don't have to pass through.....
Let me think ....... twice. God, the memory. One heard voices and the other was about ten years older and as many stones fatter than her pic but I wanted a woman so that was that. ( it wasn't good but it was quick so .....phew )
Hahaha, but you probs don't totally regret it, you learned something? "
Yeah ...... 1. Don't think all good looking French guys are sane.
2. Not all pussies are as pretty as mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that.
I guess I'm the exception to prove your rule. I don't struggle at all for offers buy I don't like sex with ppl that aren't matched well with me, mentally and physically. Maybe that's the balance of desperation vs achievement? And yes, I could wait months for my next shag quite happily, why not.....? "
Buy?
But*
(fuck my fingers today) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
That would depend on how we count our successes. If I shagged someone I don't want to - that's an epic fail.
Tru dat!
Have you though?
Choosey opens doors but you don't have to pass through.....
Let me think ....... twice. God, the memory. One heard voices and the other was about ten years older and as many stones fatter than her pic but I wanted a woman so that was that. ( it wasn't good but it was quick so .....phew )
Hahaha, but you probs don't totally regret it, you learned something?
Yeah ...... 1. Don't think all good looking French guys are sane.
2. Not all pussies are as pretty as mine."
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that. "
You mean I'm not special to all those men who got me into bed??  |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that.
I guess I'm the exception to prove your rule. I don't struggle at all for offers buy I don't like sex with ppl that aren't matched well with me, mentally and physically. Maybe that's the balance of desperation vs achievement? And yes, I could wait months for my next shag quite happily, why not.....? "
Indeed. You may well be that exception  |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that.
You mean I'm not special to all those men who got me into bed?? "
Probably not.
Katie's a fan of fit youngish men and we have no problem attracting them despite our rather advanced ages. We have no illusions that the guys we get would prefer someone younger if they could get it... |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that.
You mean I'm not special to all those men who got me into bed??
Probably not.
Katie's a fan of fit youngish men and we have no problem attracting them despite our rather advanced ages. We have no illusions that the guys we get would prefer someone younger if they could get it... "
Doesn't that make the sex a bit shite though? Thinking you're basically a wank bag?
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that.
You mean I'm not special to all those men who got me into bed??
Probably not.
Katie's a fan of fit youngish men and we have no problem attracting them despite our rather advanced ages. We have no illusions that the guys we get would prefer someone younger if they could get it...
Doesn't that make the sex a bit shite though? Thinking you're basically a wank bag?
Sorry I don't mean to sound rude? "
They fancy Katie enough to want to have sex with her and she fancies them. Why should we care that they might fancy other women more? |
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"Hey guys, welcome to paradoxical phenomena that is FAB
One liners get deleted, put effort into your message or I will not reply, copy and paste etc etc.
My question is this, as someone who simply can't bare the thought of producing a manuscript, only to have it thrown in the trash swiftly....do you think the only way around this would be to put our wonderful faces on show and leave all comms at the wink mark?
I literally don't have the energy to write. This is going to sound horrific but I am pretty confident that if I crossed paths with "some" of the fabbers that delete me, I think that they wpuld be more drawn to me - than I to them!
Keyboard warriors need not apply
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Hello Leon.
There is nothing paradoxical or phenomenal going on.
You simply ARE far more attractive than the women you contact. There's no escaping fact.
Good luck "
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't.
Men can be what they choose.... Being choosey, by your own explanation, makes a guy successful, no?
For men the choice is generally between taking what's on offer or not having sex.
Pretending to be choosy helps. Actually being choosy less so.
Not in my experience, never pretend, just be!
When ppl ask for "genuine" guys on their list of demands on their profile and you wonder what they mean..... ....THAT!
Obviously if you can appear like you only have eyes for a few select women on here that will help you. If you are actually looking for a few select women, given the odds, you're more likely to get nothing.
Clearly some men may prefer no sex to sex with someone who's OK but not at the top of their attractiveness list. I don't get the impression most men think like that.
You mean I'm not special to all those men who got me into bed??
Probably not.
Katie's a fan of fit youngish men and we have no problem attracting them despite our rather advanced ages. We have no illusions that the guys we get would prefer someone younger if they could get it...
Doesn't that make the sex a bit shite though? Thinking you're basically a wank bag?
Sorry I don't mean to sound rude? "
To expand. Let's say I find ten women on fabs I fancy and I list them in order of attraction. I message them all and the one who's number ten on my list is the only one to respond and we have sex.
I can't see why the fact that I preferred nine other women to her would make the sex shit given I fancied her. |
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"Life's not fair, I'm afraid.
I'm so up myself that I want to know why me and not some other random vagina haver, and I want to be interested in return. Sorry, not sorry.
As to real life, I'm not bothered. I'm not trying to pull outside the scene, and frankly when people try it on I do what I can to get rid of them.
That's what I call the Tragedy of Fabs. Most men on here will cheerfully shag most women but their chances of getting a shag depend on convincing a woman she's special in some way and not some random shag.
It's a function of the ratios. Women can be choosy, men can't. "
I don't need my ego massaging. I know what this is. I just want to be treated like a person. The "any hole is a goal" attitude makes my clitoris want to wither and die. |
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If there was a very handsome , fit , sexy young stud muffin - who fucked me cos I was all he could get...... the art is NOT in making me feel special it's in not being a twat about it.
LOOK ...... I never met a chicken that wanted to be eaten. I STILL enjoyed eating it tho .... I didn't waste any time on analysing whether it wanted me truly madly or deeply or not. |
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"If there was a very handsome , fit , sexy young stud muffin - who fucked me cos I was all he could get...... the art is NOT in making me feel special it's in not being a twat about it.
LOOK ...... I never met a chicken that wanted to be eaten. I STILL enjoyed eating it tho .... I didn't waste any time on analysing whether it wanted me truly madly or deeply or not."
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"If there was a very handsome , fit , sexy young stud muffin - who fucked me cos I was all he could get...... the art is NOT in making me feel special it's in not being a twat about it.
LOOK ...... I never met a chicken that wanted to be eaten. I STILL enjoyed eating it tho .... I didn't waste any time on analysing whether it wanted me truly madly or deeply or not."
You probs paid for the chicken....
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"If there was a very handsome , fit , sexy young stud muffin - who fucked me cos I was all he could get...... the art is NOT in making me feel special it's in not being a twat about it.
LOOK ...... I never met a chicken that wanted to be eaten. I STILL enjoyed eating it tho .... I didn't waste any time on analysing whether it wanted me truly madly or deeply or not.
You probs paid for the chicken....
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"If there was a very handsome , fit , sexy young stud muffin - who fucked me cos I was all he could get...... the art is NOT in making me feel special it's in not being a twat about it.
LOOK ...... I never met a chicken that wanted to be eaten. I STILL enjoyed eating it tho .... I didn't waste any time on analysing whether it wanted me truly madly or deeply or not.
You probs paid for the chicken....
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There's your answer Leon ..... right there. |
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