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Can you get past the deal breakers?
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I’ve had two pleasant dates with a really nice bloke (not a fabber).
I’m trying really hard to look past the fact that he’s a Tory Brexiteer and occasional mansplainer and failing miserably (there’s other stuff too).
Who has been able to come to terms with the opposite and important beliefs of your partner? |
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over a year ago
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If someone is an essentially kind person and you have some common ground then it's not impossible to agree to disagree on certain subjects. I'm not sure I could live with a partner with a different set of core values long-term though. |
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"I’ve had two pleasant dates with a really nice bloke (not a fabber).
I’m trying really hard to look past the fact that he’s a Tory Brexiteer and occasional mansplainer and failing miserably (there’s other stuff too).
Who has been able to come to terms with the opposite and important beliefs of your partner?"
I wonder if he's asking his mates the same question......  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If someone is an essentially kind person and you have some common ground then it's not impossible to agree to disagree on certain subjects. I'm not sure I could live with a partner with a different set of core values long-term though. "
I agree, it's a question of whether you can reconcile and respect their views without it altering how you see them as a person.
I didn't see eye to eye with my ex partner on a number of matters but we respected each other enough to have empassioned debate then look past it.
You're never going to agree with or like everything about someone but it's a matter of what you can live with. For some, where the other squeezes the toothpaste is a deal breaker... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. If there's something that irritates me beyond an acceptable superficial level it won't happen. I think this is why before I met my husband my longest relationship was 2 weeks. I have a low tolerance level. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
'Proper relationship' wise, no I don't think I could get over things like that, it would cause too much friction. A pretty fabber would be different though, but again I wouldn't be able to see them long term! |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"Interesting responses, thank you.
He actually doesn’t know much about me, he’s done most of the talking and not asked many questions so I think this one is a non starter. "
It was when you described your two dates with him as just 'plesant'...  |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"I’ve had two pleasant dates with a really nice bloke (not a fabber).
I’m trying really hard to look past the fact that he’s a Tory Brexiteer and occasional mansplainer and failing miserably (there’s other stuff too).
Who has been able to come to terms with the opposite and important beliefs of your partner?"
If it is just sex, yes, I can get past it.
Anything else, not a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have friends who encountered those exact same specific issues when they first met a few years back. They're now very happily married, so it can be done! |
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"I’ve had two pleasant dates with a really nice bloke (not a fabber).
I’m trying really hard to look past the fact that he’s a Tory Brexiteer and occasional mansplainer and failing miserably (there’s other stuff too).
Who has been able to come to terms with the opposite and important beliefs of your partner?"
Hiya Topsy! On the flip side.... arent opposites supposed to attract? If you like him maybe give him a wee chance... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Ultimately only you can decide if it's a complete deal breaker Topsy - it's something I know I'd struggle with if someone's views were diametrically opposed to my own - that said it might depend to what extremes they went, and also if they were able to articulate the reason for their views beyond a populist social media version of why (which seems to be the domain of many of my pro-Brexit FB friends). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting responses, thank you.
He actually doesn’t know much about me, he’s done most of the talking and not asked many questions so I think this one is a non starter. "
If he's not bothered to find out anything about you that would be more of a worry than anything else.
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