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over a year ago
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After 30 years iv still not got over my grandads death
And i still hold a grudge against the surgeon who didnt fix him and a natural distrust of doctors and surgeons
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"How long does it take people to get over someone whose passed away… Any way have fun all especial the new single men who seek females."
29 years next month since my son died. Have I got over it? No!
I manage my pain and count my blessings but I'll never get over the sadness of going to bed with three children but waking up to two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After losing a step brother to a heart attack in his sleep 2 years ago .. we still think about him but I get over death quickly... 2 months before he passed my grandma died too... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In time the heartache does ease and you find you can talk about things, without feeling sad as much, but you will always miss that person and always love them. There is no set time for this to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no doubt that old grief is kinder but it's not the passage of time itself which helps to heal, it's what you manage to understand and achieve in that time. If you don't work at it time will just pass and your grief will stay stuck at a certain point. You never truly get over the death of a loved one. You just find a way to assimilate it into your new life. There is no timetable. Bereavement Counselling is a great help to many. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long does it take people to get over someone whose passed away… Any way have fun all especial the new single men who seek females."
Have you lost someone? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You come to terms with it rather than get over it, and it can take any amount of time, from maybe six months to never. Took me a good few years because you only face it when you're ready to accept it and let go..... Also a lot of ppl hold the dead person up as some kind of angel and blame themselves for everything, but the simple truth is that life is a beautiful bitch   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long you grieve for someone is a measure of how much you cared for them."
Situation has a lot yo do with it too..... Taken early, sudden vs died happy old and content etc... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both of my parents aren't here anymore and with out going into details I would say everybody deals with it differently. As the years pass by you don't get over it you just accept and make the most of your time on this planet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually I guess it depends a fuck load, when my mum died the experience was what you'd call a "good death", I was holding her hand and she was surrounded by loved ones and she'd had a great life and sgedyalonidt accepted it herself, it was peaceful....
.....the other death was the biggest shock of my life, one minute you're arguing on the doorstep the next they're gone and you're left alone with a child and all the other shit that you never even realised they took care of....
Yeah life's a beautiful bitch....
I hope you're OK buddy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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19 years last week I was mourning a child who I held for the briefest of moments. An ex partner followed two years later. Theres been numerous friends and family end their journey whilst I have been on mine. Theres no statute of limitations on grief my friend, no real permitted mourning period.
You grieve until your ready to move forward. You may never. But you do learn to cope with that grief and lessen the hurt. Find your peace in the memories you carry. It sounds all cliche but it's true. My memories stay with me for good or for ill.
Lately I have been seeing my young one slipping away in my sleep. It kills everytime I live through it my mind. Do i want it to stop? Never. Would rather deal with the hurt than the memory fade. I see every sight, hear every sound, I feel what I felt. It's like a realistic action replay of the moment. It hurts but I can bear it everytime for another experience of being a father.
It's ok not to be ok. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember all loved ones at different times. Miss them all at different times. Hard to believe I will never see any of them again, but also know that every single one of them would just want me to be the best person I could be. And that is all I strive for. That way, I can continue to honour my memory of them and more importantly honour them.
Every single one of them would just want me to get on with my life. So I do. To not do that would be to dishonour them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Remember all loved ones at different times. Miss them all at different times. Hard to believe I will never see any of them again, but also know that every single one of them would just want me to be the best person I could be. And that is all I strive for. That way, I can continue to honour my memory of them and more importantly honour them.
Every single one of them would just want me to get on with my life. So I do. To not do that would be to dishonour them."
But I also totally respect anyone that has a different view and try and support friends and family that need supporting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Grief is personal and different for everybody.
In all honesty I don't think it is something you ever get over it's just something you learn to deal with and cope with.
I do believe it depends on the relationship you had with the person and also their death if I'm honest.
My mum died very suddenly and it was huge shock and very traumatik and took me a very long time to come to terms with.
When my dad died he had been ill for a long time and it was an unexpected so took less time. I still miss them both very much but I've learnt to live without them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Grief is personal and different for everybody.
In all honesty I don't think it is something you ever get over it's just something you learn to deal with and cope with.
I do believe it depends on the relationship you had with the person and also their death if I'm honest.
My mum died very suddenly and it was huge shock and very traumatik and took me a very long time to come to terms with.
When my dad died he had been ill for a long time and it was an unexpected so took less time. I still miss them both very much but I've learnt to live without them. "
I'm fine with my own personal grief, I'm a teflon tough bastard and could live in a cave on bread and water for the rest of my days just with my own mind for company, but what catches me out and still makes me angry occasionally and never really goes away is that of my girl and that she's missing a mum, but she doesn't know what she's missing because she was so young when her mum died....
I think it's all situation dependent. Oh, and to anyone struggling, talk to ppl and see a professional if it's interfering with life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Grief is a very personal, individual thing and I feel it's other people who impose time limits not the bereaved themselves. In my own experience I have found space inside to live with it. People talk about feeling grief in waves. Your body goes into a kind of survival mode. It's such a massive hurt that it can't be felt all at once, so you may feel it in waves.
Take good care of yourself and be kind to yourself x |
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