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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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I was going to post this as a binary thread but clearly people are more complex. 
So, you fancy someone/they make your cock chunky/your quim quiver.
How do you express that? Are you the sort to play it cool? Go in full guns blazing? Mockingly flirt with them? Test the waters with a light  every now and again?
Are you the sort who prefers the unavailability for safety or do you like people to declare their desire to fuck you to all and sundry? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would differ between the person surely. If you have alot in common then use that in your favour.
I met my ex on an online site and we flirted by using shit puns and film references which to us was hilarious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really know. I never considered myself flirtatious until several people pointed it out.
But to actually express interest in someone, I either don't or I hide behind poetry.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t express it. I just admire from afar and hope they mind read, like me and message me.
It’s not very pro active on my part i’m aware.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll flirt and hope they flirt back and then I'll hint at the possibility of a get together and hope I don't get shot down. If I make it as far as a social then I'll dress to impress, flirt more and try to make them laugh in the hope that touching their funny bone might lead to them touching my "funny bone" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That will depend on where I meet them and how long we are talking for.
I chat in person and look for signs. I can usually tell when someone is interested in me, and if I'm interested in them I let them know.
Now, the problem is, not knowing what they want from me.
I don't want to give someone the come on in a pub or bar, and all they want is a blow job in an alley.
So, that has to be something I need to think about before giving the come on. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I just assume they wouldn't feel the same so look for tangible indications they feel the same. Then I declare and hope for the best.
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Oh Lickety (in a not patronising way). A part of me did think this is how you viewed things. I hope your future declarations are matched. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I don’t express it. I just admire from afar and hope they mind read, like me and message me.
It’s not very pro active on my part i’m aware.
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 Yeah, not really? Does it work for you though? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"It would be a little easier if the ladies sent a wink or a message if they like the look of you as alot of it on the forums can be mistaken as light hearted fun"
I have sent winks and messages and get the Fab male experience of no response, delete or block.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never assume anyone finds me attractive unless they actually say so (repeatedly, so I know it wasn't just bad lighting or one too many gins)
I just try and make them laugh and hope they might come back again for the comedy value if nothing else  |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't really know. I never considered myself flirtatious until several people pointed it out.
But to actually express interest in someone, I either don't or I hide behind poetry.
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Out of lemon flowers
loosed
on the moonlight, love's
lashed and insatiable
essences,
sodden with fragrance,
the lemon tree's yellow
emerges,
the lemons
move down
from the tree's planetarium
Delicate merchandise! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t express it. I just admire from afar and hope they mind read, like me and message me.
It’s not very pro active on my part i’m aware.
Yeah, not really? Does it work for you though? "
Suprisingly yes, more than you’d think it would really |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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In the past I've been fairly open about my interest, that's not to say that I have done my fair share of nervous dancing around the subject. I do think that passivity get you nowhere though.
I always used to let my hotlist know that I was interested and engage with the people that I was attracted to. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It would differ between the person surely. If you have alot in common then use that in your favour.
I met my ex on an online site and we flirted by using shit puns and film references which to us was hilarious."
Finding common ground is a great way of flirting - shared dorkery is lovely. Sometimes I quote lines at people and if they reciprocate in kind I know I've found a good 'un. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really know. I never considered myself flirtatious until several people pointed it out.
But to actually express interest in someone, I either don't or I hide behind poetry.
Out of lemon flowers
loosed
on the moonlight, love's
lashed and insatiable
essences,
sodden with fragrance,
the lemon tree's yellow
emerges,
the lemons
move down
from the tree's planetarium
Delicate merchandise! "
I do love when you Neruda me. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I never assume anyone finds me attractive unless they actually say so (repeatedly, so I know it wasn't just bad lighting or one too many gins)
I just try and make them laugh and hope they might come back again for the comedy value if nothing else "
Sending lots of nudes works as well, yes?
I get this. Sometimes I need the erm... reassurance that they do actually find me attractive me and have not been boobitised after a drink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not subtle. I just message and tell them and sit back and wait for a response. I'm not very good at reading between the lines so if someone is flirting I usually think they're just being friendly in a platonic way. Being upfront bypasses any confusion for me. It may be a bit brash for some and I respect their polite rejection and wave fondly as they run screaming in the opposite direction.
I love to flirt with the ladies on the forums. I fully intend to lose my bi cherry this year and make up for lost time. With the men though, I prefer to be a bit more private about it. I'm not really sure why I feel the need to behave differently with women and men. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"In the past I've been fairly open about my interest, that's not to say that I have done my fair share of nervous dancing around the subject. I do think that passivity get you nowhere though.
I always used to let my hotlist know that I was interested and engage with the people that I was attracted to. "
Passivity is easier though sometimes. It can just be a harmless fap without the pressure of talking.
Do you think people could/did misread your engagement as a sign of attraction? |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have been proactive many times, introducing myself or commenting on pics or post etc, nowadays I have no confidence so I am happy to just let the lovely people flirt and play amongst themselves  "
I hope you find your confidence again soon, x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on the person but I wear my heart on my sleeve. I try to keep it one to one if it goes beyond a wee bit of public flirtation. I’m an incorrigible flirt at times so most flirting in public is precisely that. Recently I’ve been direct but then again I’ve not been casting a wide net more a kid’s pond net |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"In the past I've been fairly open about my interest, that's not to say that I have done my fair share of nervous dancing around the subject. I do think that passivity get you nowhere though.
I always used to let my hotlist know that I was interested and engage with the people that I was attracted to.
Passivity is easier though sometimes. It can just be a harmless fap without the pressure of talking.
Do you think people could/did misread your engagement as a sign of attraction? "
Maybe, I like to chat with people and will engage with pretty much anyone. I guess it's about intent and assumption at the end of the day though, it's a confusing dance at times! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I fancy someone i just threaten to abseil off their chimney into the bedroom and climb into their bed or i will tie them to the bed and throw fries at them while eating a bargain bucket!!!......or |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I fancy someone i just threaten to abseil off their chimney into the bedroom and climb into their bed or i will tie them to the bed and throw fries at them while eating a bargain bucket!!!......or "
well at least u can use all that grease as free lube |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here I just say it.
In person I turn into a giggly girly mess and either get very timid and blush a lot or get extra sarky and take the piss.
I've only once made the first move in person. He told me if I lost weight he would love to take me out. It kinda put me off  |
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"On here I just say it.
In person I turn into a giggly girly mess and either get very timid and blush a lot or get extra sarky and take the piss.
I've only once made the first move in person. He told me if I lost weight he would love to take me out. It kinda put me off "
No don't do that. You're perfectly voluptuous as you are!
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As a bloke I find making the first move difficult unless I get very clear signals that it would be appropriate. I'm naturally quite flirty but that's usually as far as it goes unless I get a very strong 'go ahead'. So if you do like me, please don't be subtle about it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not good at letting people know, I have done and got a less than fruitful response that knocked my confidence. So now unless they let me know for definite they’re interested I don’t take flirting to mean anything. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on the person but I wear my heart on my sleeve. I try to keep it one to one if it goes beyond a wee bit of public flirtation. I’m an incorrigible flirt at times so most flirting in public is precisely that. Recently I’ve been direct but then again I’ve not been casting a wide net more a kid’s pond net "
I sometimes wonder if even though I think I’m being clear that it isn’t received that way or that it is off-putting. I think I’m more good friends and confidante material than sexual partner. However I think I’m too old to pussyfoot around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not scared of a bit of public affection.
Nor me but I think almost all of that affection is not sexual interest.
I fookin' luv you"
The feeling is mutual |
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Start with the chat and see how that flows in here, if seem to be on the same page, be a little bit naughtier and take it from there when you meet... but it’s all down to the communication don’t just assume something will happen, as in person you still need that spark |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not scared of a bit of public affection.
Nor me but I think almost all of that affection is not sexual interest.
I need some dodgy snake oil "
Haha. I’ll put some through your letter box neighbour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities. "
Couldn’t be doing with that either |
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities.
Couldn’t be doing with that either "
Oh, I'd suck your cock though x |
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch."
I think you just think you're constantly being attacked. You probably think i hate you. But i enjoy you. I think you need a cuddle and a reach around.  |
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities.
Couldn’t be doing with that either "
Exactly, I met a lady off here from the south coast, she was only supposed to stop for a couple of nights at mine, but ended up stopping for 4 and I think she was planning on moving in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch.
I think you just think you're constantly being attacked. You probably think i hate you. But i enjoy you. I think you need a cuddle and a reach around. "
I don’t remember those lyrics, is that in the extended version ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not that forward I don’t think. Although, I’m subtle in my approach I think. I like to gauge what they think of me first and then go from there.
Cheeky banter and slight flirting is my way I guess. If they reciprocate, it’s a bonus.
Need to get myself back out there actually.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities.
Couldn’t be doing with that either
Oh, I'd suck your cock though x "
I’d let you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. |
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities.
Couldn’t be doing with that either
Oh, I'd suck your cock though x
I’d let you "
A gentleman and a scholar. |
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"Im a bit more wary on the forum these days. 2 women turned out to be control freaks who I'd openly shown interest in. Can't be doing with those insecurities.
Couldn’t be doing with that either
Oh, I'd suck your cock though x
I’d let you "
Get a room you two  |
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"I just assume they wouldn't feel the same so look for tangible indications they feel the same. Then I declare and hope for the best.
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?+ 1
Face to face I would be hoping that the other person made the running until I was sure one way or another and then relax and allow myself to be a bit more candid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch."
I'm usually only waiting for you to stop talking
So that I can
Concerning two-way streets I have to say
That I am not a fan
You need to find a new song now Tame. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up.
And I thought you saw me as unobtainable  "
Is this a public something? Well I never. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up. "
What? The direct approach isn't effective either? You neurotypicals keep changing all the rules! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up.
And I thought you saw me as unobtainable
Is this a public something? Well I never. "
Nah don't panic. I'm not a changed person |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You could probably say I'm difficult,I probably talk too much,I over-analyze and over-think things.Yes it's a nasty crutch.
I'm usually only waiting for you to stop talking
So that I can
Concerning two-way streets I have to say
That I am not a fan
You need to find a new song now Tame. "
Rumbled. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"On here I just say it.
In person I turn into a giggly girly mess and either get very timid and blush a lot or get extra sarky and take the piss.
I've only once made the first move in person. He told me if I lost weight he would love to take me out. It kinda put me off "
What a twatface, sorry you had that crappy experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Going back to the Ops original question, i usually walk right up to the lady I fancy and say ‘Excuse me, has anyone ever told you, you’re stood right in front of the Dairylea Lunchables ?!’
Then I go home alone and cry salty tears into my cheesey dips. |
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up.
And I thought you saw me as unobtainable I do
Luckily clem isn't 
Quite one out of two ain’t bad
Can I have sticky seconds?"
You may. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up.
What? The direct approach isn't effective either? You neurotypicals keep changing all the rules! "
There I was thinking that was the exclusive domain of the ladies... Every day is a school day! |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"Going back to the Ops original question, i usually walk right up to the lady I fancy and say ‘Excuse me, has anyone ever told you, you’re stood right in front of the Dairylea Lunchables ?!’
Then I go home alone and cry salty tears into my cheesey dips. "
You need new material, can't keep switching the item. Tut. |
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up.
And I thought you saw me as unobtainable I do
Luckily clem isn't
Quite one out of two ain’t bad
Can I have sticky seconds?
You may. "
Awesome dude, should I bring a serviette as well? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm useless at it, always have been. I find on here the direct approach is taken with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, so try to be a little more subtle about it which I'm also crap at lol. If I for some reason view someone as unobtainable (probably a shit word to you, but hey ho) I'll likely never even bring it up.
What? The direct approach isn't effective either? You neurotypicals keep changing all the rules! "
For me it doesn't. I've tried both ways, but like said it's probably just me being crap more than anything else lol |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"I sometimes wonder if even though I think I’m being clear that it isn’t received that way or that it is off-putting. I think I’m more good friends and confidante material than sexual partner. However I think I’m too old to pussyfoot around."
Everyone has those doubts at times, it doesn't mean they are true (also doesn't mean they are false but that's not the point I'm trying to make). Fuck pussyfooting around. Well kind of. It's sometimes safer and easier to do than putting your metaphorical cards out on the table.
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"I sometimes wonder if even though I think I’m being clear that it isn’t received that way or that it is off-putting. I think I’m more good friends and confidante material than sexual partner. However I think I’m too old to pussyfoot around.
Everyone has those doubts at times, it doesn't mean they are true (also doesn't mean they are false but that's not the point I'm trying to make). Fuck pussyfooting around. Well kind of. It's sometimes safer and easier to do than putting your metaphorical cards out on the table.
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Yep that’s why I lay my cards on the table in my own inimitable way. Whether those cards are a winning hand is not as obvious as in a game of cards |
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"Going back to the Ops original question, i usually walk right up to the lady I fancy and say ‘Excuse me, has anyone ever told you, you’re stood right in front of the Dairylea Lunchables ?!’
Then I go home alone and cry salty tears into my cheesey dips.
You need new material, can't keep switching the item. Tut."
I will Persevere with that till I get a reply and quote with one of these . I will not rest till that day comes.
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"I was going to post this as a binary thread but clearly people are more complex.
So, you fancy someone/they make your cock chunky/your quim quiver.
How do you express that? Are you the sort to play it cool? Go in full guns blazing? Mockingly flirt with them? Test the waters with a light every now and again?
Are you the sort who prefers the unavailability for safety or do you like people to declare their desire to fuck you to all and sundry?"
On the rare occasion I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm attracted to them they usually laugh and tell me not to be so daft.
I tend to stay shtummm and save myself the |
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"When I fancy someone i just threaten to abseil off their chimney into the bedroom and climb into their bed or i will tie them to the bed and throw fries at them while eating a bargain bucket!!!......or well at least u can use all that grease as free lube
It would make the oral taste of KFC great idea PMF
LJ"
My impulse control about biting down and eating my favourite food, may have you turning into a Laydeeee though 
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