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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"9,371. 
Seriously, I admit that loads of meet verifications make me look twice. Often though people with loads are mostly social."
Good point, and includes webcam, Plus if they meet the same person regularly that can inflate numbers as well. |
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over a year ago
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"9,371.
Seriously, I admit that loads of meet verifications make me look twice. Often though people with loads are mostly social."
 . Me too. I check if they’re socials though. If there’s loads of sex meets then they’re not for me. |
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"9,371.
Seriously, I admit that loads of meet verifications make me look twice. Often though people with loads are mostly social.
. Me too. I check if they’re socials though. If there’s loads of sex meets then they’re not for me. "
I’m the same, no more than 35 sex meets per night, I don’t want to go meeting no slag |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"9,371.
Seriously, I admit that loads of meet verifications make me look twice. Often though people with loads are mostly social.
. Me too. I check if they’re socials though. If there’s loads of sex meets then they’re not for me.
I’m the same, no more than 35 sex meets per night, I don’t want to go meeting no slag "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lied. I might be put off if a man had lots of sexual verifications from one night.
It would make me think he's not in the same mindset as me, but if I liked the look of him I would chat, to see. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"It's not the amount that puts me off but I have been a bit concerned by who wrote some, and the content of them."
Beat me to it - was about to say similar.
The number of veris doesn't bother me, more the connection and chemistry with the person that owns them, along with the content of not only veris displayed but those left too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was never concerned by veris all that much who am i to judge some folks have more free time that others all it tells me is the exist"
I wouldn’t call it judging. People can do what they want, doesn’t mean I want to do the same. Definitely not judging. |
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At first glance, some might say we have too many.
Then you see that about 2 thirds are from socials.
Then if you do the maths, it works out to less than one meet a month in the 10 years we have been on here.
If someone still isn't happy about the number, I ask them, what do they think swingers do on a swingers site?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally for us it doesn’t as long as not too many play meets close together. But we had someone say we’ve got too many veris though most of them are social x |
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I only really keep up recent ones or nice ones from regular playmates
Anyone with lots there’s definitely no judgement from me! Means they’re either social or having a lot of fun - I do take the time to read recent ones though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t concern myself too much with verifications I go on how I feel about the person from chatting to them. Am I really attracted to them, if yes, then I’ll meet them. I doubt that I appeal to many of those with lots of verifications for sexual meets anyway so it’s a moot point. But the volume of veris would not necessarily put me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do people think about veris given by people who repeatedly meet up with each other?
Seems a bit pointless to me, I thought a veri was just to well.... Verify! Just to say that the person is genuine and trustworthy, and maybe add a bit about the fun you've had and how good it was.
When there are loads such as 'this was my 17th meet with cocksucker Sharon and she didn't disappoint, but I'm far too much of a gentleman to disclose that she sucked me off whilst fingering my bum hole whith Coldplay playing on the radio in the background' it's just like, yes you're meeting up and having fun, nobody likes a show off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the amount that puts me off but I have been a bit concerned by who wrote some, and the content of them.
Beat me to it - was about to say similar.
The number of veris doesn't bother me, more the connection and chemistry with the person that owns them, along with the content of not only veris displayed but those left too."
exactly, just like profile photos here they only show one small angle of a person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do have a look, but if it’s a lot of webcams, social meets and the same people verifying...that wouldn’t be an issue. Also, some accounts have been on year for years.
Got to weigh it all up I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We do have a look, but if it’s a lot of webcams, social meets and the same people verifying...that wouldn’t be an issue. Also, some accounts have been on year for years.
Got to weigh it all up I suppose "
Sorry to double post, but as a few others have said...the content is probably the biggest factor. |
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There is nothing wrong with a lot of veris as long as it's safe fun no issues.
I don't like being a hypocrite, like some ladies I have met, they will be like , that beautiful lady sleeps with a lot of guys, my response to them is yes she does but she is safe and is not bringing any issues to anyone. I let them know , you are pointing a negative finger at her for sleeping safely with so many guys but sit here claiming to be a saint with multiple kids from different men , causing pain to the innocent because you can't be disciplined enough to be like the lady with many veris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is nothing wrong with a lot of veris as long as it's safe fun no issues.
I don't like being a hypocrite, like some ladies I have met, they will be like , that beautiful lady sleeps with a lot of guys, my response to them is yes she does but she is safe and is not bringing any issues to anyone. I let them know , you are pointing a negative finger at her for sleeping safely with so many guys but sit here claiming to be a saint with multiple kids from different men , causing pain to the innocent because you can't be disciplined enough to be like the lady with many veris. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of mine are socials which unfortunately due to them, went no further.
A few more were from a fab forum group social in London. Nothing sexual from there either.
If I sleep with someone, we prefer to keep anything sexual between us. Whatever we do in bed, is our personal business.
I don't mind how many verifications a man has, just as long as he doesn't lie about the number of them. Such a pointless thing to lie about. |
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I have 184 veris, from 134 meets
Less than 9% of those are from playmeets, the rest are all from socials, group socials, events & people I've just chatted with at clubs.
But yeah... I've had people make snide comments about how many veris I've got.
Says more about their mentality than my sex life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There would be, but i'm not sure on the number. Not in a 'omg she's a slut' kinda way, more in a 'There's no way i'm meeting expectations, I wont bother to disappoint' kinda way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Myself included the majority of people with over 20 are people that regularly attend clubs and or social. If I go to a social I can get 20 verifications just from one event. Also some people have been here many years so I guess they accumulate even if you only meet once or twice a month that's still between 12 and 24 a year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not about how many but the content I would say for us, anything to graphic it’s a turn off for us, however that said if we saw a profile with muiltple veris (sex meets) in a week then we might think again, doughnut goes off to play by himself he said himself a woman that has too many in a short space would be an instant no no.
Most of ours are from socials.
Danish x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At first glance, some might say we have too many.
Then you see that about 2 thirds are from socials.
Then if you do the maths, it works out to less than one meet a month in the 10 years we have been on here.
If someone still isn't happy about the number, I ask them, what do they think swingers do on a swingers site?
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To answer your question....they seem to boast alot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about people who are verified but don’t show them or how many? They could be verified by one person or by hundreds, you just don’t know...."
I find these threads odd when people say they met many at socials, and some of their 300+ veris aren't sex meets. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"9,371.
Seriously, I admit that loads of meet verifications make me look twice. Often though people with loads are mostly social.
Good point, and includes webcam, Plus if they meet the same person regularly that can inflate numbers as well. "
I'm glad some people can actually see past the numbers and actually read what they are for. Well done both. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a site that is designed for it, why would it matter?
I honestly have no idea how many men I have fucked since I joined, and as this isn't my first profile, I can't even simply count them.
Plus theres many social veris, not just play ones.
Then theres all the times I played and we didnt veri, for whatever reason (usually they aren't on fab, sometimes we didnt exchange names!)
So do tell me, what is the correct number?
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Those who amass and proudly show off their many verifications are ,,,in my eyes,, clearly attention seekers and that trait alone would put me off."
So you wouldn't meet anyone who displays verifications? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those who amass and proudly show off their many verifications are ,,,in my eyes,, clearly attention seekers and that trait alone would put me off."
Well, I do love attention  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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* Those with many verifications I said.
On the grounds that I dislike attention seekers.If I see dozens of verifications that tells me all I need to know about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those who amass and proudly show off their many verifications are ,,,in my eyes,, clearly attention seekers and that trait alone would put me off."
Not showing off i used to use them as a review guide to show how awesome i am at the sex
Now i use them differently |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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" * Those with many verifications I said.
On the grounds that I dislike attention seekers.If I see dozens of verifications that tells me all I need to know about them."
We have quite a few, certainly not attention seekers at all. We have been on here for 4 or 5 years, are selective on who we meet and a lot are from social meets either party or club so judge away but your loss as you ‘could’ be missing out on a lot of people on here if you do, we personally would struggle to meet anyone who doesn’t display veri’s as we like to read them to see if they are our type of people and if they are genuine. |
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"Those who amass and proudly show off their many verifications are ,,,in my eyes,, clearly attention seekers and that trait alone would put me off."
I'm going to be using this emoji  a lot today I think. |
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"Those who amass and proudly show off their many verifications are ,,,in my eyes,, clearly attention seekers and that trait alone would put me off.
Quick everyone hide your verifications!"
Should I hide the summary number as well?  |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"Those who amass and proudly show off their many verifications are ,,,in my eyes,, clearly attention seekers and that trait alone would put me off.
Quick everyone hide your verifications!
Should I hide the summary number as well? "
Most definitely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why on earth are people on this thread using terms like 'slag' to describe people on a recreational sex site? Are you 12 years old?
Seriously, get a grip and think about the type of language you use to engage people as respectful adults living a lifestyle of their choosing.
If people have a lot of verifications over a period of time, who are you to judge them? The entire point of this site is for people to meet each other and engage in sexual activity, and you put them down for it? Do you see the irony in your own affiliation with the site/scene?
Grow up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Interesting, that someone who says they wouldn't meet anyone with many veris or anyone who displays veris to seek attention, is hiding both their veris and summary... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on earth are people on this thread using terms like 'slag' to describe people on a recreational sex site? Are you 12 years old?
Seriously, get a grip and think about the type of language you use to engage people as respectful adults living a lifestyle of their choosing.
If people have a lot of verifications over a period of time, who are you to judge them? The entire point of this site is for people to meet each other and engage in sexual activity, and you put them down for it? Do you see the irony in your own affiliation with the site/scene?
Grow up."
The real irony is that veris mean naff all.
No one has any real idea of how many sexual partners a person has had.
And yet people on here seem to give the verification system great stock. The levels of naivety on Fab never fail to amaze |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on earth are people on this thread using terms like 'slag' to describe people on a recreational sex site? Are you 12 years old?
Seriously, get a grip and think about the type of language you use to engage people as respectful adults living a lifestyle of their choosing.
If people have a lot of verifications over a period of time, who are you to judge them? The entire point of this site is for people to meet each other and engage in sexual activity, and you put them down for it? Do you see the irony in your own affiliation with the site/scene?
Grow up.
The real irony is that veris mean naff all.
No one has any real idea of how many sexual partners a person has had.
And yet people on here seem to give the verification system great stock. The levels of naivety on Fab never fail to amaze"
This is also entirely true. People on here take everything as fact, and believe this to be the centre of the sexual universe yet most of my regular play partners aren't even on here!
I think I have about 10 verifications, but I can assure you (shock/horror) I've had sex with more than 10 people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Previous profile had veris on.. but found i got abuse off those i didnt meet...so now two veris will do.. no one knows what i get up to who i meet..
I dont need a load of other peoples opinions to validate my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Previous profile had veris on.. but found i got abuse off those i didnt meet...so now two veris will do.. no one knows what i get up to who i meet..
I dont need a load of other peoples opinions to validate my life"
I'm not sure it's always about validating your life - I leave some up on mine as a point of reference for the type of people I like to meet. |
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" * Those with many verifications I said.
On the grounds that I dislike attention seekers.If I see dozens of verifications that tells me all I need to know about them."
Does it... That's interesting.. For me I see loads of verifications as a sign that the person has a good grasp of this lifestyle.. probably a social butterfly and most likely a naughty fun person like myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting, that someone who says they wouldn't meet anyone with many veris or anyone who displays veris to seek attention, is hiding both their veris and summary... "
Or they just want to meet people who are discreet and don't like to discuss their sex life/ who they've met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" * Those with many verifications I said.
On the grounds that I dislike attention seekers.If I see dozens of verifications that tells me all I need to know about them.
Does it... That's interesting.. For me I see loads of verifications as a sign that the person has a good grasp of this lifestyle.. probably a social butterfly and most likely a naughty fun person like myself."
You're lovely. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"9,371.
Seriously, I admit that loads of meet verifications make me look twice. Often though people with loads are mostly social.
. Me too. I check if they’re socials though. If there’s loads of sex meets then they’re not for me. "
Same and if their socials I won't either as I'm probably wasting my time. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t see there as geing any such thing in my book. Veris tell a story, and which veris someone chooses to display tells you a lot about them as a person.
Plus, I totally love veri tracking...seeing who someone has met up with, what their meet thought was important to tell the rest of us about them and what the person I’m looking at said about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't like to see too many verifications, I like the summary version.
When there are too many on a profile it can be off putting, especially when they go into great detail of what they got up to. Why would anyone want to know ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard to say cause if you go to a social even though there could be no play you could still walk away with half a dozen verifications.
I know pepole that been called sluts for there numbers even though over 80% of them are verifications from running there own social.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people ask others not to leave them verifications so you wouldnt know how many people they have seen anyway "
You can only go by what's in front of you. The same as those who won't meet marrieds but will happily meet them if they don't know.
We all make choices based on this very thing so it's good to be honest.
As I only want someone into regular meets, having loads of veris does tend to make me skip over without a second glance though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I don't like to see too many verifications, I like the summary version.
When there are too many on a profile it can be off putting, especially when they go into great detail of what they got up to. Why would anyone want to know ? "
I prefer people with no veris showing. |
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"I don’t see there as geing any such thing in my book. Veris tell a story, and which veris someone chooses to display tells you a lot about them as a person.
Plus, I totally love veri tracking...seeing who someone has met up with, what their meet thought was important to tell the rest of us about them and what the person I’m looking at said about them. "
Basically, it helps you with your stalking?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t see there as geing any such thing in my book. Veris tell a story, and which veris someone chooses to display tells you a lot about them as a person.
Plus, I totally love veri tracking...seeing who someone has met up with, what their meet thought was important to tell the rest of us about them and what the person I’m looking at said about them. "
I get what you say about display types. Then again one needs to balance that with it being ones display window for others to view. We can show different ones at different times too. The thing about veris are they are written by someone who has met you and yes it rare to read a bad Veri but if feel they can give a truer perspective than if written by the individual themselves.
We can't win them all though, but we can win a few and it's the few we win that we enjoy.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I don't like to see too many verifications, I like the summary version.
When there are too many on a profile it can be off putting, especially when they go into great detail of what they got up to. Why would anyone want to know ?
I prefer people with no veris showing. "
And some just hide everything |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I don't like to see too many verifications, I like the summary version.
When there are too many on a profile it can be off putting, especially when they go into great detail of what they got up to. Why would anyone want to know ?
I prefer people with no veris showing.
And some just hide everything "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not all are from sex meets.if you go to parties or events and will meet a fair few people and may just chat. I always think hidding no displayed rings alarm bells "
We all read into things quite differently, and as such cannot , will not be everyone's cuppa soup either. We just stick with what were comfortable with and ride the waves with a big smile. |
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"Not all are from sex meets.if you go to parties or events and will meet a fair few people and may just chat. I always think hidding no displayed rings alarm bells
We all read into things quite differently, and as such cannot , will not be everyone's cuppa soup either. We just stick with what
were comfortable with and ride the waves with a big smile. "
Having veris and displaying them is being straight up and honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why on earth are people on this thread using terms like 'slag' to describe people on a recreational sex site? Are you 12 years old?
Seriously, get a grip and think about the type of language you use to engage people as respectful adults living a lifestyle of their choosing.
If people have a lot of verifications over a period of time, who are you to judge them? The entire point of this site is for people to meet each other and engage in sexual activity, and you put them down for it? Do you see the irony in your own affiliation with the site/scene?
Grow up.
The real irony is that veris mean naff all.
No one has any real idea of how many sexual partners a person has had.
And yet people on here seem to give the verification system great stock. The levels of naivety on Fab never fail to amaze"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Previous profile had veris on.. but found i got abuse off those i didnt meet...so now two veris will do.. no one knows what i get up to who i meet..
I dont need a load of other peoples opinions to validate my life"
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I'm not really bothered about the amount of verifications someone has, as long as they have some. I know it's not 100% foolproof, but I use them as a safety check...there's less chance of meeting an axe murderer if other people have lived to leave a veri |
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"I'm not really bothered about the amount of verifications someone has, as long as they have some. I know it's not 100% foolproof, but I use them as a safety check...there's less chance of meeting an axe murderer if other people have lived to leave a veri "
Top tip I once read on here- if you have a safety buddy who you text to let them know you're ok. Have a pre-agreed text that is like "having a really shit time, wish I'd stayed home, he's awful."
If you are in danger and he makes you send a "having fun, I'm ok" text, then they know there's something wrong. |
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"I'm not really bothered about the amount of verifications someone has, as long as they have some. I know it's not 100% foolproof, but I use them as a safety check...there's less chance of meeting an axe murderer if other people have lived to leave a veri
Top tip I once read on here- if you have a safety buddy who you text to let them know you're ok. Have a pre-agreed text that is like "having a really shit time, wish I'd stayed home, he's awful."
If you are in danger and he makes you send a "having fun, I'm ok" text, then they know there's something wrong."
Wonder if anyone on fab has been chopped to death. Oh they couldn't tell us anyway.
Seriously though yes it's good to have a txt buddy if you're concerned. Mind you you if you were concerned meeting anyone I'd hope you'd just he honest and say no thanks, just thinking what the meet would be like if you were that concerned. Wouldn't be able to give your best. |
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"I'm not really bothered about the amount of verifications someone has, as long as they have some. I know it's not 100% foolproof, but I use them as a safety check...there's less chance of meeting an axe murderer if other people have lived to leave a veri
Top tip I once read on here- if you have a safety buddy who you text to let them know you're ok. Have a pre-agreed text that is like "having a really shit time, wish I'd stayed home, he's awful."
If you are in danger and he makes you send a "having fun, I'm ok" text, then they know there's something wrong.
Wonder if anyone on fab has been chopped to death. Oh they couldn't tell us anyway.
Seriously though yes it's good to have a txt buddy if you're concerned. Mind you you if you were concerned meeting anyone I'd hope you'd just he honest and say no thanks, just thinking what the meet would be like if you were that concerned. Wouldn't be able to give your best."
Thanks for the tips. I do have a friend that I text when I get to meets, and at agreed intervals throughout.
I suppose i'm a bit overly cautious after having experiences with a few strange people |
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"I'm not really bothered about the amount of verifications someone has, as long as they have some. I know it's not 100% foolproof, but I use them as a safety check...there's less chance of meeting an axe murderer if other people have lived to leave a veri
Top tip I once read on here- if you have a safety buddy who you text to let them know you're ok. Have a pre-agreed text that is like "having a really shit time, wish I'd stayed home, he's awful."
If you are in danger and he makes you send a "having fun, I'm ok" text, then they know there's something wrong."
I once got a text from a friend saying. Your either having an amazing time and forgot to let me know your okay.. or your dead xx
I always let someone else know where I am. Although I still mostly do club meets |
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It's a swinging site, I couldn't care how many people have, though I do look at if they meet people more than once. If a guy says he's looking for repeat meets but has 17 meets by 17 people then I'm not necessarily going to believe what he's saying. |
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"It's a swinging site, I couldn't care how many people have, though I do look at if they meet people more than once. If a guy says he's looking for repeat meets but has 17 meets by 17 people then I'm not necessarily going to believe what he's saying. "
i tend to not verify someone I'm meeting regular x
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"It's a swinging site, I couldn't care how many people have, though I do look at if they meet people more than once. If a guy says he's looking for repeat meets but has 17 meets by 17 people then I'm not necessarily going to believe what he's saying. "
This. I may be wrong but tough shit. It's not as if they're the only ones here. |
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"It's a swinging site, I couldn't care how many people have, though I do look at if they meet people more than once. If a guy says he's looking for repeat meets but has 17 meets by 17 people then I'm not necessarily going to believe what he's saying. i tend to not verify someone I'm meeting regular x "
I can understand that as it can be seen negatively by some for some reason to have multiple veris from one person. Seeing/giving multiple veris doesn't put me off personally as most of us are willing to share. |
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Usually they are social veris... I must confess lots and lots of fuck veris would make me think twice but I reckon that says far more about me than them |
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"Mr Sofa is almost into triple figures on his now hidden singles profile
He used to be such a shagger.
Luckily for me, he’s much more into swinging now instead of just shagging "
Same thing. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Until very recently i'd display my veris both the strictly social and the sexual without issue. Unfortunately people will always be quick to judge and pass sentence based on who you may have met and how many you've met and base their opinion of you solely on that detail. I've been called everything from having my veris displayed; attention seeker, show off, hunter, player, collector, narcissist, manwhore, non selective etc. Amazing as we are all allegedly adults and are on a sex site. This behaviour has taken the luster out of an amazing experience. I will no longer display my veris and any new ones I might receive will only stay up for a couple of days. |
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"Until very recently i'd display my veris both the strictly social and the sexual without issue. Unfortunately people will always be quick to judge and pass sentence based on who you may have met and how many you've met and base their opinion of you solely on that detail. I've been called everything from having my veris displayed; attention seeker, show off, hunter, player, collector, narcissist, manwhore, non selective etc. Amazing as we are all allegedly adults and are on a sex site. This behaviour has taken the luster out of an amazing experience. I will no longer display my veris and any new ones I might receive will only stay up for a couple of days."
Sorry to read this, it sounds like it's come from jealousy. |
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"Those who amass and proudly show off their many verifications are ,,,in my eyes,, clearly attention seekers and that trait alone would put me off.
Quick everyone hide your verifications!
Should I hide the summary number as well?
Most definitely "
130+ is too many then?
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"I won’t show my sexual veris so I tell them not to bother usually. That I like to keep private.
You have sex?
*shocked"
You know I do!! Haha. Say nothing Mr. I’ve not even verified the last 4 people I’ve met, 2 were drinks and 2 a little more. |
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"I won’t show my sexual veris so I tell them not to bother usually. That I like to keep private.
You have sex?
*shocked
You know I do!! Haha. Say nothing Mr. I’ve not even verified the last 4 people I’ve met, 2 were drinks and 2 a little more. "
Drinks with a slice of lemon? |
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"I won’t show my sexual veris so I tell them not to bother usually. That I like to keep private.
You have sex?
*shocked
You know I do!! Haha. Say nothing Mr. I’ve not even verified the last 4 people I’ve met, 2 were drinks and 2 a little more.
Drinks with a slice of lemon? "
And gin!! |
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"Until very recently i'd display my veris both the strictly social and the sexual without issue. Unfortunately people will always be quick to judge and pass sentence based on who you may have met and how many you've met and base their opinion of you solely on that detail. I've been called everything from having my veris displayed; attention seeker, show off, hunter, player, collector, narcissist, manwhore, non selective etc. Amazing as we are all allegedly adults and are on a sex site. This behaviour has taken the luster out of an amazing experience. I will no longer display my veris and any new ones I might receive will only stay up for a couple of days.
Sorry to read this, it sounds like it's come from jealousy. "
I agree it does indeed have a whiff of jealously. One of the nicest dudes on here and a joy to chat too |
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"I won’t show my sexual veris so I tell them not to bother usually. That I like to keep private.
You have sex?
*shocked
You know I do!! Haha. Say nothing Mr. I’ve not even verified the last 4 people I’ve met, 2 were drinks and 2 a little more.
Drinks with a slice of lemon?
And gin!! "
Mostly gin.
On the subject of non sex veris, I owe you one.
I'd write it now but you know, leaving virginia...... |
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"I won’t show my sexual veris so I tell them not to bother usually. That I like to keep private.
You have sex?
*shocked
You know I do!! Haha. Say nothing Mr. I’ve not even verified the last 4 people I’ve met, 2 were drinks and 2 a little more.
Drinks with a slice of lemon?
And gin!!
Mostly gin.
On the subject of non sex veris, I owe you one.
I'd write it now but you know, leaving virginia......"
I will let you off. Go and enjoy. Won’t beat Bushgate but hey... |
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"I won’t show my sexual veris so I tell them not to bother usually. That I like to keep private.
You have sex?
*shocked
You know I do!! Haha. Say nothing Mr. I’ve not even verified the last 4 people I’ve met, 2 were drinks and 2 a little more.
Drinks with a slice of lemon?
And gin!!
Mostly gin.
On the subject of non sex veris, I owe you one.
I'd write it now but you know, leaving virginia......
I will let you off. Go and enjoy. Won’t beat Bushgate but hey... "
Lolling Bushgate.
Already left once. This'll be seconds.
Hard to beat V's four though.
Laters glitter tits...... |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Until very recently i'd display my veris both the strictly social and the sexual without issue. Unfortunately people will always be quick to judge and pass sentence based on who you may have met and how many you've met and base their opinion of you solely on that detail. I've been called everything from having my veris displayed; attention seeker, show off, hunter, player, collector, narcissist, manwhore, non selective etc. Amazing as we are all allegedly adults and are on a sex site. This behaviour has taken the luster out of an amazing experience. I will no longer display my veris and any new ones I might receive will only stay up for a couple of days.
Sorry to read this, it sounds like it's come from jealousy.
I agree it does indeed have a whiff of jealously. One of the nicest dudes on here and a joy to chat too "
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"Until very recently i'd display my veris both the strictly social and the sexual without issue. Unfortunately people will always be quick to judge and pass sentence based on who you may have met and how many you've met and base their opinion of you solely on that detail. I've been called everything from having my veris displayed; attention seeker, show off, hunter, player, collector, narcissist, manwhore, non selective etc. Amazing as we are all allegedly adults and are on a sex site. This behaviour has taken the luster out of an amazing experience. I will no longer display my veris and any new ones I might receive will only stay up for a couple of days."
Ignore the haters. Those who know you and care about you know you’re none of those things. Even though I may have called you one of them |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"Until very recently i'd display my veris both the strictly social and the sexual without issue. Unfortunately people will always be quick to judge and pass sentence based on who you may have met and how many you've met and base their opinion of you solely on that detail. I've been called everything from having my veris displayed; attention seeker, show off, hunter, player, collector, narcissist, manwhore, non selective etc. Amazing as we are all allegedly adults and are on a sex site. This behaviour has taken the luster out of an amazing experience. I will no longer display my veris and any new ones I might receive will only stay up for a couple of days.
Sorry to read this, it sounds like it's come from jealousy. "
We’re sorry to hear it too, f**k them we say (not literally of course) lol and don’t let others rule your life or an enjoyable experience, your life you live it xx |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Until very recently i'd display my veris both the strictly social and the sexual without issue. Unfortunately people will always be quick to judge and pass sentence based on who you may have met and how many you've met and base their opinion of you solely on that detail. I've been called everything from having my veris displayed; attention seeker, show off, hunter, player, collector, narcissist, manwhore, non selective etc. Amazing as we are all allegedly adults and are on a sex site. This behaviour has taken the luster out of an amazing experience. I will no longer display my veris and any new ones I might receive will only stay up for a couple of days.
Ignore the haters. Those who know you and care about you know you’re none of those things. Even though I may have called you one of them "
One, and coming from you I took no offense |
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I don't read other people's veris before we meet past making sure they are real, the way i see it I'm in no position to judge anyone else until i have met them..all that matters to me is if i fancy/have a good conversation or connection with them and that's all the wife worries about aswell.
I genuinely could not care a mouses whisker less about what others think about our meets nor do i spend much time thinking about what others are getting upto, honestly the amount of angst generated about what others may perceive you as by the fun you have had |
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"I don't read other people's veris before we meet past making sure they are real, the way i see it I'm in no position to judge anyone else until i have met them..all that matters to me is if i fancy/have a good conversation or connection with them and that's all the wife worries about aswell.
I genuinely could not care a mouses whisker less about what others think about our meets nor do i spend much time thinking about what others are getting upto, honestly the amount of angst generated about what others may perceive you as by the fun you have had "
That’s good and I couldn’t care less what anyone thinks of me on here either, apart from a very select few friends but there’s definitely no need for people to be nasty and judge other people on what they do. We are all here for different things and if something affects me or I’m thinking of meeting someone then yeah I’ll turn into queen judge. It’s people poking their nose into other people’s business that winds me up on here. It’s full of it! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"I don't read other people's veris before we meet past making sure they are real, the way i see it I'm in no position to judge anyone else until i have met them..all that matters to me is if i fancy/have a good conversation or connection with them and that's all the wife worries about aswell.
I genuinely could not care a mouses whisker less about what others think about our meets nor do i spend much time thinking about what others are getting upto, honestly the amount of angst generated about what others may perceive you as by the fun you have had "
I 100% agree with the first paragraph and couldn't have put it better.
I would also agree in theory with the second paragraph and am seriously considering just sticking to meeting people at club events or organised socials. Club goers i've found are far less judgemental in general than forumites. |
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"Some people live for a veri tho, its a bit cringe :/
Don’t they just! Mine are hidden forever now "
So are mine and always will be. Less grief that way. |
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"Some people live for a veri tho, its a bit cringe :/
Don’t they just! Mine are hidden forever now
So are mine and always will be. Less grief that way. "
Yep. Learnt that the hard way. Sad people eh |
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"My latest veri has already given me grief, and he knew it would
I will have my revenge
I’m yet to write his...
*hides profile......."
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"My latest veri has already given me grief, and he knew it would
I will have my revenge
I’m yet to write his...
*hides profile.......
I will get you Stingly. You can’t hide forever.
*goes UNLOS"
The forum rejoices....... |
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"My latest veri has already given me grief, and he knew it would
I will have my revenge
I’m yet to write his...
*hides profile.......
I will get you Stingly. You can’t hide forever.
*goes UNLOS"
He'll be back |
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"My latest veri has already given me grief, and he knew it would
I will have my revenge
I’m yet to write his...
*hides profile.......
I will get you Stingly. You can’t hide forever.
*goes UNLOS
He'll be back "
They always do. |
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"Some people live for a veri tho, its a bit cringe :/
Don’t they just! Mine are hidden forever now
So are mine and always will be. Less grief that way.
Yep. Learnt that the hard way. Sad people eh "
Yes, unfortunately. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Verifications.
Is there a cut off point for you?
If so how many? "
See I do read them, yes to me they make a difference.
You can normally tell if someone is on the same page as yourself though verfications. Actions speak louder than words.
I'm more likely to meet someone with none or formanites that are like myself on the elusive side.
As Nora said some of us learnt the hard way. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"Been told by a few ladies that as a single man of Fab it doesn’t hurt to have a few verifications"
We wouldn’t meet a guy who didn’t or only one or two that are hidden, those that have been hidden we asked them to show us so we could see they were genuine |
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I've had a number of successful meets with like-minded females (after swapping messages obviously) who,like me,don't do the photos or verifications.A blind date sure but there's no pressure,it's simply a couple enjoying a drink / meal in a safe location for the female and we just take it from there (or not ) and because it's a swingers site it cuts out the middle man for we're both aware that sex is on the agenda if the chemistry is there...simple.
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"Verifications.
Is there a cut off point for you?
If so how many?
See I do read them, yes to me they make a difference.
You can normally tell if someone is on the same page as yourself though verfications. Actions speak louder than words.
I'm more likely to meet someone with none or formanites that are like myself on the elusive side.
As Nora said some of us learnt the hard way. "
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You also can't take verifications as 100% truth as often they can be exaggerated to encourage an amazing veri back or the person just trying to be nice.
Sadly you get pepole that live for there verification and take them as God's truth. Even have knowen people to go nuts when someone they meet hasn't sent them one going to extent contacting them going on about why haven't you verified account.
We had to get ride of our old account after photo stolen used by a single male to lure pepole to mug, when we did this some one we knew contacted us comolaing about this cause it ment our veri had disappeared from here display.
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"I've had a number of successful meets with like-minded females (after swapping messages obviously) who,like me,don't do the photos or verifications.A blind date sure but there's no pressure,it's simply a couple enjoying a drink / meal in a safe location for the female and we just take it from there (or not ) and because it's a swingers site it cuts out the middle man for we're both aware that sex is on the agenda if the chemistry is there...simple.
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We like to read veris. If people choose to hide them we tend to move on. We use them in the decision making process. When we get messages from peeps with no public pics we do the same. We don't do blind dates as we are looking for some connection with a view to a sexy meet.
We all have our own views & approach to determine who we meet as it should be.
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I like to have a read of veris. Sometimes it makes me think there's no point in meeting and I put pressure on myself as I'll "not be good enough" (when my confidence is a little low)
Other times it will put me straight off meeting someone, as if they have multiple veris from someone I find abhorrent on a personal level and they seem to think the sun shines out of this persons arse, I question whether they are good judges of character or whether they give no fucks apart from getting fucked. No ta.
I also look to see if there's a theme. Do most people say they had a right laugh? Yes? Awesome, my kind of person.
Do most people say it was straight into fucking like a jackhammer? Yes? We need to discuss this, as if that's what they're expecting they are truly mistaken.
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"Some people live for a veri tho, its a bit cringe :/
Don’t they just! Mine are hidden forever now
So are mine and always will be. Less grief that way.
Yep. Learnt that the hard way. Sad people eh "
Do I need to open a can of whoopy arse?
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"Some people live for a veri tho, its a bit cringe :/
Don’t they just! Mine are hidden forever now
So are mine and always will be. Less grief that way.
Yep. Learnt that the hard way. Sad people eh
Do I need to open a can of whoopy arse?
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Nooooo kiddo. Not worth it.
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Other times it will put me straight off meeting someone, as if they have multiple veris from someone I find abhorrent on a personal level and they seem to think the sun shines out of this persons arse, I question whether they are good judges of character or whether they give no fucks apart from getting fucked. No ta.
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Other times it will put me straight off meeting someone, as if they have multiple veris from someone I find abhorrent on a personal level and they seem to think the sun shines out of this persons arse, I question whether they are good judges of character or whether they give no fucks apart from getting fucked. No ta.
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"Some people live for a veri tho, its a bit cringe :/
Don’t they just! Mine are hidden forever now
So are mine and always will be. Less grief that way.
Yep. Learnt that the hard way. Sad people eh
Do I need to open a can of whoopy arse?
*gets into best boxing stance*
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Nooooo kiddo. Not worth it.
I have what I want now . I’m just here to cause unnecessary mischief "
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