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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
Fabsteroos
I’m musing again.
Can I ask when you receive a new message with a face pic attached or the face pic is the profile pic, before you look at the profile does the pic decide if you are interested or not? Do you make a snap judgement from the pic?
I’m curious what your thoughts are.
Bhubaysi xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I look at the pic first. If I like it I then read the message, then look at the profile pics and lastly read the profile text. Sometimes stages 2,3 and 4 don't get to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People don't send me face pics
I'm expected to make a decision based on one line (or one word) and maybe a flash of cock
It's pretty much always guys that message, rarely women or couples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
I’m musing again.
Can I ask when you receive a new message with a face pic attached or the face pic is the profile pic, before you look at the profile does the pic decide if you are interested or not? Do you make a snap judgement from the pic?
I’m curious what your thoughts are.
Bhubaysi xx "
Yep |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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On here, yes. Although, not for those that I have been exchanging messages with for ages without a face picture. I have been surprised by the look of some, but I already like them so it doesn't matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction in the first place, so if I'm not physically attracted to someone i wouldn't be agter more than a social.
Personality is very important too though. Someone could be my ideal in terms of looks, but if i don't think they seem like a decent human being i will be turned off
Either way i always try to read profiles if someone has messaged me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t usually receive a face pic with the first message, so make a judgement firstly on the message itself and the avatar. If that puts me off they receive a response commensurate to the message received. If the message and avatar have at least made me want to look, I then look at the profile and pics. Then I respond as I see fit. Almost all of the time I have no interest in meeting them, but do respond for my own amusement at times based on what I have received.
I am pretty focused on what I actually want now, although I haven’t explored all the potential friends who could share similar mutual interests and desires. In fact I have only just started dipping my toe back into the water after my 5 year sabbatical from meeting. |
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"Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction in the first place, so if I'm not physically attracted to someone i wouldn't be agter more than a social.
Personality is very important too though. Someone could be my ideal in terms of looks, but if i don't think they seem like a decent human being i will be turned off
Either way i always try to read profiles if someone has messaged me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I don't like the face pic I don't bother reading the profile. If the face is nice, I read the profile and sometimes that puts me off anyway.
This "
A lot of the time men seem to think stretching a face picture is unimportant and that I'll meet someone without knowing what they look like.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I don't like the face pic I don't bother reading the profile. If the face is nice, I read the profile and sometimes that puts me off anyway.
This
A lot of the time men seem to think stretching a face picture is unimportant and that I'll meet someone without knowing what they look like. "
Sending not stretching  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Face is more important than body to me.
I like a nice face with a quirky sense of humour.
I have a face that makes people laugh "
Well i could do with cheering up. My inbox is always open  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I don't like the face pic I don't bother reading the profile. If the face is nice, I read the profile and sometimes that puts me off anyway.
This
A lot of the time men seem to think stretching a face picture is unimportant and that I'll meet someone without knowing what they look like.
Sending not stretching "
I must try stretching my face pic it might make it more appealing  |
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This is interesting .
We went for years only meeting those who sent a face pic first . Then we realized that the amount of people who sent one that we rejected amounted to less than 5% , maybe even less . So clearly we weren’t that fussed .
Although I totally get that most people will want to establish physical attraction , and that they have many preferences leading to that attraction , we didn’t really bother very much with that . I don’t think we had a type as such . So although we had age preferences , as long as people were clean and easy going we were happy to meet them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. Obviously there are some faces i dont like the look of but im happy with someone with an average face if they can lure me in with profile and message"
I like you, you sound nice  I feel I'm a little similar in that, yes there certainly has to be attraction before anything can happen, but there are multiple stages of facial attractiveness in my view. Like an average looking girl with a great profile or who sent a well thought out message will get a reply from me. If I'm not attracted at all then no message. If she's an absolute smoke show but I don't like the way she comes across in her profile or message then I won't message. I'm an average looking guy and with the amount of men on here in relation to women I know the numbers are against me, but I'll generally take my time to compose a personal message in the hope that that person gets back to me |
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I seem to be a bit different... I rarely even look at face pics I'm sent with an initial message.
I read the message, check the profile and decide from that. If I decide I'm interested in meeting, I may look at the face pic.
But attitude and character and compatibility way override looks for me.
However, I've never found someone who has all those things to also have a mush I really can't get over....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
I’m musing again.
Can I ask when you receive a new message with a face pic attached or the face pic is the profile pic, before you look at the profile does the pic decide if you are interested or not? Do you make a snap judgement from the pic?
I’m curious what your thoughts are.
Bhubaysi xx "
Yes if i dont find somones face attractive i wont be interested in meeting them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It all comes down to the face pic, no matter how beautiful the cock or hilarious the chat, if the tadaaa isn’t there,then there’s no point pursuing any further. "
Yep. Explains why nobody wants me, lol |
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I didn’t join Fab to get jiggy with people that weren’t aesthetically pleasing to me. There must be attraction and their looks generally help that along in the first instance.
That being said, my idea of attractive may not be shared by everyone. For example I think I’m ridiculously pretty and I can definitely say not everyone agrees! |
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"I didn’t join Fab to get jiggy with people that weren’t aesthetically pleasing to me. There must be attraction and their looks generally help that along in the first instance.
That being said, my idea of attractive may not be shared by everyone. For example I think I’m ridiculously pretty and I can definitely say not everyone agrees!"
Rediculously pretty Indeed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
I’m musing again.
Can I ask when you receive a new message with a face pic attached or the face pic is the profile pic, before you look at the profile does the pic decide if you are interested or not? Do you make a snap judgement from the pic?
I’m curious what your thoughts are.
Bhubaysi xx "
Yes it does, face for me is more important than body and dick. I need to be looking at a handsome face |
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"I didn’t join Fab to get jiggy with people that weren’t aesthetically pleasing to me. There must be attraction and their looks generally help that along in the first instance.
That being said, my idea of attractive may not be shared by everyone. For example I think I’m ridiculously pretty and I can definitely say not everyone agrees!
Rediculously pretty Indeed"
I agree rediculously pretty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We go with the profile, looks are a bonus but we like connecting with personality and friendship, no point meeting a fit bitch stuck up person who makes you feel like crap and ruins the mood , rather an average person with an amazing personality for fun and lots of laughs etc x |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We go with the profile, looks are a bonus but we like connecting with personality and friendship, no point meeting a fit bitch stuck up person who makes you feel like crap and ruins the mood , rather an average person with an amazing personality for fun and lots of laughs etc x"
Don’t hold back lol |
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you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see |
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"Yes, looks are important. That doesn't mean a person has to have movie star looks, just have kind eyes and a nice smile."
F someone is pig ugly you're not going to sleep with them coz they make you laugh are ya |
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see"
Sorry you feel that way.
The hard truth is that many people go on looks. That doesn't mean you need to look like a movie star as I said. It just means you need to be attractive to them.
I can understand why it seems there's a closed group of friends but in reality it's only a very few people. The rest if given a chance, will include you. |
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see"
Where that come from hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm being totally honest, yes. It tends to be more short term fix here rather than long term relationship where looks are less important and its more about the person, their morals, beliefs, etc.
That being said, if someone isn't a nice person its an instant turn off for me no matter how hot. |
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see"
How does this relate to the topic in question? |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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Physical attraction is as important as any other attraction for me. And that is such a personal thing. Its important to remind myself that though when rejections come back or non replies. We can’t all be everyone’s cup of tea.
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see
Where that come from hahaha "
some posts on here are not very friendly to new people ....just an observation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I don't like the face pic I don't bother reading the profile. If the face is nice, I read the profile and sometimes that puts me off anyway.
This
A lot of the time men seem to think stretching a face picture is unimportant and that I'll meet someone without knowing what they look like.
Sending not stretching "
I just sat stretching my face too!   |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos
I’m musing again.
Can I ask when you receive a new message with a face pic attached or the face pic is the profile pic, before you look at the profile does the pic decide if you are interested or not? Do you make a snap judgement from the pic?
I’m curious what your thoughts are.
Bhubaysi xx "
Depends, witty or mischievous messages play a role in decision making. So if we can connect intellectually, I would prefer meeting up with that person than a "stunner" with an empty head.
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see
Where that come from hahaha
some posts on here are not very friendly to new people ....just an observation"
Best to start your own thread though rather than use someone else's to make your point |
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see
How does this relate to the topic in question?"
ok i might have hi-jacked the op post, sorry
but some people on here a not nice to new people on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see"
How are folk missing out, if they didn’t want them in the first place?
I’m not in a ‘closed group’ as far as I’m aware, forum wise I’m happy to chat to most folk. But when it comes to meeting men I want to fuck, I need to be attracted to them |
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see
How does this relate to the topic in question?
ok i might have hi-jacked the op post, sorry
but some people on here a not nice to new people on here"
Plenty of people on here aren't nice, full stop. It's nothing to do with you being new. Plenty of nice people on here too. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see
How does this relate to the topic in question?
ok i might have hi-jacked the op post, sorry
but some people on here a not nice to new people on here
Plenty of people on here aren't nice, full stop. It's nothing to do with you being new. Plenty of nice people on here too."
Hear hear |
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Never mind receiving a message...
Someone's profile photo might catch my eye anywhere and make me think 'Oh hello!'.
Then I'll have a little old read of their profile to see if they sound as good as they look. Oh they do?? Fantastic!
Then I'll do the preference cross-check comparison thingy. Hooray! I might be in with a chance.
Then I'll have a look at their other photos if any are available just to be sure I didn't imagine the first one. Oh myyyy, how have I not noticed you before now??
Then I'll send an idiotic message and make a complete twat of myself |
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I am not too bothered about face. A good line in chat and sense of humour helps. Nice curvy figure also! I've met a lot of great looking (face) women who have been dull as ditchwater or full of themselves. |
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I feel the need to say that wanting the tadaa of attraction doesn’t mean that someone has to be ridiculously good looking ( blue steel look to camera )
But just that I find them attractive and can imagine kissing them, that is so variable it’s unquantifiable even to me until I see it and feel the tadaaaa. |
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see
Where that come from hahaha
some posts on here are not very friendly to new people ....just an observation"
Sorry but I don't see anyone being mean to anyone on this thread new it old I haven't met anyone in this thread and certainly not in a group of friends.... Dear me |
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"Ok Fabsteroos so how would you feel if you overlooked/blocked someone in the past but at an organised social you get chatting to them and think taadaaa?
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was in chams one night got talking to a lovely looking guy. We played then went for a cigerette then he told me id turned him down on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure it's specifically 'looks' but the attraction has to be there both facially and mentally... a face doesn't have to be traditionally good looking for it to be attractive. I do have odd tastes and often meet people in the flesh that surprise me. But something needs to spark the interest to consider anything more than friendship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The wife always has final say on our meets and won’t even think about meet without a face pic. If the face doesn’t attract her that’s the end of it. Then next step is if the profile and attitude of the person is ok. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"you guys are hard going, i think you have all forgot what its like to be the new kid on the block with no friends.
you are all comfortable with your closed group of friend and wont let any one join in.
you are missing out on some genuine nice people
open your eyes people... theres a lot to see"
What's being a 'new kid on the block' got to do with who people find attractive?
I personally would never fuck someone I wasn't attracted to, so why would I waste time replying to them?
95% of my messages go un-responded to, mainly due to either not being attracted to them or they speak to me like a free prostitute such as 'in hotel now wanna me'
So in answer to the OP, no I don't reply, if I don't have an initial attraction to someone. As it is a waste of my time and theirs. |
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"Sometimes photos don't do justice, you need to meet in real life and see if there's an attraction.
Works the other way too! "
Totally agree with that and very interesting views from ladies on here. Anyhow I’ve put up a new pic of my face let’s see if this helps my calls |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks to OP, after reading others view, I need to find good photographer and put some face pics. I am not bad looking, not photogenic face, and I know why I don't get reply |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Thanks to OP, after reading others view, I need to find good photographer and put some face pics. I am not bad looking, not photogenic face, and I know why I don't get reply "
It’s all about the poses, the angles and the lighting! Just don’t stick a phone in front of a mirror and do a selfie! We don’t want to see the iPhone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before I look at any attached photo, I look at the avatar and username first.
If those two don’t do it for me then I don’t bother opening up the message to see the face pic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Faces can grow on me, If I like the messages and the person behind them.
Sometimes it can be a straight out no though if nothing works, ie face, profile, messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well guess this is why I hardly get any messages,well unless it a no thanks..
Ohh and yes you can have a dream body but if I'm not attracted to your eyes and smile I really wont play with you
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