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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
Please translate into English. Thank you. |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
I have absolutley no idea what this says |
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I don’t know because when I’m around I answer my messages promptly. If I’m not interested I usually let them know or delete the message, depending on the message type. |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
Surprised at your comments, must be aimed at the younger better looking guys! I rarely, receive an unsolicited message from a lady and always reply to any messages promptly. I’m certainly not ambivalent about them.  |
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I had to google ambivalent
"having mixed feelings or contradictory ideas about something or someone"
I read it as some Men moan that only 1-2 people look at their profile, Yet when they do receive a message they don't reply even though they have been on fab or even the forums,
Maybe they are not attracted to the person sending the message and choose not to reply, |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
they're referring to how many viewed their profile they don't amount to messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I understand it ... I get one or two views a week but never anyone talks ... The only person to talk to me is actually darlo herself because I enquired about prices for club. Of which I need to attend . . Eventually. But in forums it's a different story altogether but I don't complain about not getting replies anymore because it simply gets you nowhere. |
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"I had to google ambivalent
"having mixed feelings or contradictory ideas about something or someone"
I read it as some Men moan that only 1-2 people look at their profile, Yet when they do receive a message they don't reply even though they have been on fab or even the forums,
Maybe they are not attracted to the person sending the message and choose not to reply, "
Oh, I see. Thank you. In that case, the OP has a valid point. |
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"There we go ... some guys understand
It must have been written in man speak.
And this is the male half of the couple "
You must be embracing your feminine side |
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"There we go ... some guys understand
It must have been written in man speak.
And this is the male half of the couple
You must be embracing your feminine side "
I will do when she gets home from work  |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
I reply to every single one. Rude not to. Plus, as a guy, I’m nowhere near as inundated as you ladies.
Surprisingly, I can muster a half decent, potentially engaging response because I have the time to do so.   |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
Please translate into English. Thank you."
It is in English . . So I find that a little rude really. I am asking why men moan no messages yet don't reply to ppl ? |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
Surprised at your comments, must be aimed at the younger better looking guys! I rarely, receive an unsolicited message from a lady and always reply to any messages promptly. I’m certainly not ambivalent about them. "
No it happens with all age groups. I just wondered why |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
Please translate into English. Thank you.
It is in English . . So I find that a little rude really. I am asking why men moan no messages yet don't reply to ppl ? "
I got it. My brain adds commas where needed, which helps me. |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
Please translate into English. Thank you.
It is in English . . So I find that a little rude really. I am asking why men moan no messages yet don't reply to ppl ? "
well in my case if I had a message to reply to I would haha |
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The way I see it
If they don't respond to an opening message, then the no reply=not interested rule applies just as much
If they don't reply to messages that are in turn replies to ones they sent ... they may still be suffering from shock at receiving a reply
Or maybe they just don't want to appear easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men ignore messages?
Shut the front door!!
Yep...they must be embracing their feminine side (tongue in cheek) before the hecklers start"
They are probably wanking over the words and scared to reply, in case they get an out of the blue block. |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
99% of my profile views are men. I'm happy for them not to message me.
The other 1% are TV/TS or couples who are 7983.6 miles away.
I have no idea what I'd do if a woman messaged me with a view to potentially meeting up.
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
99% of my profile views are men. I'm happy for them not to message me.
The other 1% are TV/TS or couples who are 7983.6 miles away.
I have no idea what I'd do if a woman messaged me with a view to potentially meeting up.
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Maybe just rant about it on Thursday |
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I can only assume that the same general rules apply for men and women. If you don’t get a reply then it is classed as a polite no thank you.
I do see the hypocrisy of a guy complaining about not getting any interest and then not replying to messages he gets, but I also see that with women and couples.
People are funny things really. |
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"The way I see it
If they don't respond to an opening message, then the no reply=not interested rule applies just as much
If they don't reply to messages that are in turn replies to ones they sent ... they may still be suffering from shock at receiving a reply
Or maybe they just don't want to appear easy "
maybe they've had a panic attack and collapsed seeing a message in their inbox "HOLY SHIT A WOMAN MESSAGED ME!" |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
99% of my profile views are men. I'm happy for them not to message me.
The other 1% are TV/TS or couples who are 7983.6 miles away.
I have no idea what I'd do if a woman messaged me with a view to potentially meeting up.
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You would just dazzle em! |
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Heavens I always reply to messages , if some one has taken the time to say hello , then it's only polite to reply .
I also understand , women and couples can be bombarded and overwhelmed with messages so if I get a reply it's a jolly thing ,if not the world has not ended |
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I'm surprised that's been your experience. I can only speak for myself, but I can't imagine many single guys ignoring a message if from a woman or couple...(unless very obviously out of parameters on their profile, like anyone would).
Not saying their response would be a good one (see all the complaints from people over unoriginal messages, or dick pics, or "wanna fuck?" messages!), but judging by what most guys say I don't think many (bar a select few, perhaps) are drowning in messages.
But if there guys complaining no-one messages them and then ignoring messages, they need to make their minds up, LOL!  |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
99% of my profile views are men. I'm happy for them not to message me.
The other 1% are TV/TS or couples who are 7983.6 miles away.
I have no idea what I'd do if a woman messaged me with a view to potentially meeting up.
Maybe just rant about it on Thursday "
Nah, I'm indifferent. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I can only assume that the same general rules apply for men and women. If you don’t get a reply then it is classed as a polite no thank you.
I do see the hypocrisy of a guy complaining about not getting any interest and then not replying to messages he gets, but I also see that with women and couples.
People are funny things really. "
I.get the no interest thing... Maybe it more amused me the amount of guys who complain yet receive messages and don't read or reply.
I mean unless they were doing an online quiz via PM and hasnhadn't 't figured out the answer |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
99% of my profile views are men. I'm happy for them not to message me.
The other 1% are TV/TS or couples who are 7983.6 miles away.
I have no idea what I'd do if a woman messaged me with a view to potentially meeting up.
You would just dazzle em!"
I've tried that. They just say nice shirt and wander off.
Sometimes I lure them into hanging around with a fruity cider in the vain hope my winsome appeal will win them over.
*it's not worked yet....
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For some blokes it’s probably a thrill of the chase kind of thing, if you send a message then they lose interest.
Some blokes can be intimidated by a woman who’s confident and attractive, you’re both of those things.
Some probably don’t fancy you, the fucking weirdos |
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For me if it's a message off a woman I'm inclined to reply no matter what whether it's friendly or abusive I'm a open book, a free thinker and not afraid to speak my mind Its just rude not to. |
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No reply means they're not interested. Just because a woman mails them doesn't mean they have to reply or fuck her.
Woman are always whining that the messages they get are shit. Yet when they get a decent message they still don't reply.
If they don't reply it's just a lucky escape. No-one wants to meet a rude person. |
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Sometimes I don't want to or am unable to engage in a conversation, so I'll wait until I have more time. I try to put a bit of effort and thought into some messages. Or I'll think a little while on what I want to say then reply a bit later.
Whereas I can come on to the forums and throw a few comments out without thinking about it too much. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
99% of my profile views are men. I'm happy for them not to message me.
The other 1% are TV/TS or couples who are 7983.6 miles away.
I have no idea what I'd do if a woman messaged me with a view to potentially meeting up.
You would just dazzle em!
I've tried that. They just say nice shirt and wander off.
Sometimes I lure them into hanging around with a fruity cider in the vain hope my winsome appeal will win them over.
*it's not worked yet....
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Hahaha low blow! 
I did like the shirt.. It matched my hair! I shall return the favour of a drink . . My feet were killing me |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
Yeah but, no but, yeah but, no but, anyway he tried to finger my mate Caitlin, but he lost his phone on the bus and I know his FB password so its all ambivalent. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
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"Here's another thing how long is it acceptable before it's considered no interest? The bloke could be busy for a few days and not reply because of that?"
Hmm good question.. my mate is having this issue and she asked me the same question. I'd say realistically if loads of chat then silence if after 72 hours move on |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
Yeah but, no but, yeah but, no but, anyway he tried to finger my mate Caitlin, but he lost his phone on the bus and I know his FB password so its all ambivalent. "
Aye but naw but aye.... was Caitlin any good ?? Asking for a friend |
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"Here's another thing how long is it acceptable before it's considered no interest? The bloke could be busy for a few days and not reply because of that?
Hmm good question.. my mate is having this issue and she asked me the same question. I'd say realistically if loads of chat then silence if after 72 hours move on "
yeah that seems reasonable, should probably make that a rule somewhere maybe ... I'll take a mental note on that  ... What about blocking too would you consider that after 72 hours or would you have a tolerance of a couple days to see if they can redeem something back? |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
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"Here's another thing how long is it acceptable before it's considered no interest? The bloke could be busy for a few days and not reply because of that?
Hmm good question.. my mate is having this issue and she asked me the same question. I'd say realistically if loads of chat then silence if after 72 hours move on yeah that seems reasonable, should probably make that a rule somewhere maybe ... I'll take a mental note on that ... What about blocking too would you consider that after 72 hours or would you have a tolerance of a couple days to see if they can redeem something back?"
Don't see point in blocking someone. I mean if they've really upset you or won't leave you alone fair enough but blocking is extreme for no reply |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x
Please translate into English. Thank you.
It is in English . . So I find that a little rude really. I am asking why men moan no messages yet don't reply to ppl ? "
I suppose because they arent the people they want messaging them.
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x they're referring to how many viewed their profile they don't amount to messages "
I agree great point |
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I very rarely get a message first of a women, but then again I’m newish on here with no verifications, so it is no surprise but when I do get replies obviously I strike up conversation because I wouldn’t of messaged them in the first place if I wasn’t interested. |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
Play it cool Trig, play it cool.
Trying to make out they get loads of messages by keeping you waiting, maybe. |
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"Because just like women they can choose who to reply to and when. 
It’s almost like men have preferences too.
That's heresy!!!
Pure and simple."
I'll be there for you. |
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I understood it, but dunno what to say. I don't complain about low views, or low messages, or even women deleting my messages.
When I get a message, Ill check it when I have time, if I am on forum it might take a while. |
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"How many times do we read the "how many profile views" thread and men say 1 or 3 or wow 20 today and then complain no one ever messages them?
Rhetorical as it appears a lot... so my question is when men are messaged first or in reply and they are on and off fab or even commenting in forums yet ignore said messages from women is that them bein ambivalent and because they've had the reply don't need to bother to catch attention?
Men answers please x "
To be honest I send more than I read so the few lucky times I have received a message or reply properly.
And as I have said many times it’s a law of averages so most of us men never get any replies. I think we would be lucky to even get a delete |
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I think I’ve been quite fortunate on replies, but it’s not getting me anywhere fast, just baby steps at the moment. But I love good, fun and naughty conversation, so I’m fairly content. It would be nice to see more women make the first move tho and I’m sure many are it’s just not been my experience so far. |
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