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D*unk meets or sobar meets
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I've had a good few meets on this site. Always d*unk or tipsy because of nerves. I would love a meet completely sobar but I get really nervous. Any one got any tips that I can do/use to make me less nervous. I know I'll enjoy sex more being sobar but the nerves get the better of me. Any advice would be appreciated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to have a few drinks before. Then I (kitten) finally admitted I had a problem ( now six months sober)
You’ve just gotta bite the bullet. Maybe try a social only meet sober to build confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I've had a good few meets on this site. Always d*unk or tipsy because of nerves. I would love a meet completely sobar but I get really nervous. Any one got any tips that I can do/use to make me less nervous. I know I'll enjoy sex more being sobar but the nerves get the better of me. Any advice would be appreciated.
I solved it... have d*unk sex then wake up spend the day together.. eat breakfast, lunch, a day together and finally have sober sex with think a person that excites you both physically and mentally... "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't have a problem with alcohol. I only drink maybe once a fortnight. I do socials first but I still get really nervous. I'm a big girl so that's why I'm nervous I think. I hate myself naked so that's something I need to tackle myself. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't have a problem with alcohol. I only drink maybe once a fortnight. I do socials first but I still get really nervous. I'm a big girl so that's why I'm nervous I think. I hate myself naked so that's something I need to tackle myself. Xx"
Ah.. I'm sorry to hear that.. the sexist girl is a girl wow doesn't give a shit.. same as a guy! Ps I'm almost ripped and I am also insecure |
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Try not to hate yourself when you are naked and embrace what you have. But as you say, that's something for you to overcome. Going by your pics and veris I don't think the guys you have met have been disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cannot imagine meeting someone d*unk. I always meet socially and we go for drinks first. If I fancy the guy then we'll have fun later but I wouldn't get d*unk first. I had meets with no alcoholic drinks. Guess I just don't get nervous. |
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I want to be cold stone sober when meeting, so i can remember everything and be on top of my game.
Pre Fab I met women who had, had a few drinks before meeting and it was a real turn off for me. Tasting alcohol on someone when sober, I find awful.
I’m not sure what to suggest, is there something else you can do to calm you nerves? Rescue remedy (herbal thing you can take) or just have more contact with your meet before D Day?! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never do d*unk meets until I really know someone, and that’s both me and her/couple. Never want to be in a risky situation so socials or sober meets first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am way too controlled to be d*unk in the lone company of a stranger
Meeting alone and d*unk with guys isn't safe
999 guys will treat you with respect, but you only need 1 to turn nasty and it's a whole different ball game
Learn to love your body or try to do something about it yourself
There's few answers in the bottom of a glass
Above that though, stay safe x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well you don't need to feel nervous. You have a beautiful figure. I just think I need to work on my self esteem. I used to be a very confident woman but I was in a 6 year very abusive relationship. So it was drummed into me that I was fat and ugly. It's hard to over come when your getting told that over and over. I'd love to have a gym buddy or swim buddy but I've also got problems with my spine so exercising is a struggle. My husband thinks I'm stunning so that helps. I think I need to bite the bullet and get a sobar meet done. I mite surprise myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol.. I love to dance so a few Gins help. And I go all night without beers.. but with beers I will have a fab night dancing and go for hours but won't cum.. and I'll still choose beers every time. I love the fun |
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"My husband thinks I'm stunning so that helps. I think I need to bite the bullet and get a sobar meet done. I mite surprise myself. "
Get that bullet bitten and surprise yourself. .. and then let us know how you got on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have to get d*unk to meet (or do anything else for that matter) ask yourself why and look at the root cause, as it could put you and your long-term health in danger |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have to get d*unk to meet (or do anything else for that matter) ask yourself why and look at the root cause, as it could put you and your long-term health in danger"
Ahh ma Cherie. We don't all need to get d*unk or usethings. Though some of us like to feel more relaxed while still maintaining our composure.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always sober. Personally think it’s much safer too.
Like other people have suggested, do a social first just with coffee and cake. Maybe then, if you see them again for sex, you’ll be less nervous. You won’t need alcohol as a prop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have to get d*unk to meet (or do anything else for that matter) ask yourself why and look at the root cause, as it could put you and your long-term health in danger
Ahh ma Cherie. We don't all need to get d*unk or usethings. Though some of us like to feel more relaxed while still maintaining our composure.."
Yes but my advice was to the OP. I agree, one or two glasses of very good wine do not go astray in the foreplay/seduction process, but not to excess, and for a single woman not advisable with someone you don't know, for security reasons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to a club recently and this woman was off her face... she was mauling all the guys and trying to kiss the women, no one wanted to entertain her.
That's the last time I am taking the wife!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went to a club recently and this woman was off her face... she was mauling all the guys and trying to kiss the women, no one wanted to entertain her.
That's the last time I am taking the wife! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly you are gorgeous, you don’t show much of your body off because of the reasons above but what I can see is a beautiful woman.
We went to a group social the other night and I got very self conscious as all the other ladies oozed confidence but I didn’t at all, thankfully I had doughnut there.
Do you get d*unk when meeting alone or with your husband? Do you drink while at the meet? Do you take time to get to know the guy you are meeting so feel confident to take your clothes off? You say on your status you want to be filled up with bareback so I am assuming you’ve taken the time to get to know all your meets and not just turn up? In which case the guys you are meeting should make you feel utterly gorgeous and content, if that’s not happening then you need to ask yourself the kind of men you are meeting, if I met guys and they didn’t make me feel body confident then I wouldn’t go further with the meet, I wouldn’t get myself d*unk just to complete the end goal if you like.
I think you need to rethink who and why you are meeting, so you don’t have to get d*unk and probably enjoy the meet better sober than d*unk.
Good luck danish x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We'd never play with anyone who is d*unk or tipsey. How do we know they are consenting? We've walked out on meets, where we've turned up and they are d*unk. "
I'd assume their partner had coerced them into it.
If I was so 'nervous' I needed a drink to be able to fuck someone, I wouldn't do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I've had a good few meets on this site. Always d*unk or tipsy because of nerves. I would love a meet completely sobar but I get really nervous. Any one got any tips that I can do/use to make me less nervous. I know I'll enjoy sex more being sobar but the nerves get the better of me. Any advice would be appreciated. "
I would never meet anyone who had d*unk too much ,if you're that nervous you have to get passed maybe it's not for you
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I've had a good few meets on this site. Always d*unk or tipsy because of nerves. I would love a meet completely sobar but I get really nervous. Any one got any tips that I can do/use to make me less nervous. I know I'll enjoy sex more being sobar but the nerves get the better of me. Any advice would be appreciated. I would never meet anyone who had d*unk too much ,if you're that nervous you have to get passed maybe it's not for you "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A drink is ok but I’ve seen women very d*unk in clubs on many occasions. Not a great idea when you need to make choices. "
No, d*unks of either sex are sad, unattractive and SO undignified |
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"Well you don't need to feel nervous. You have a beautiful figure. I just think I need to work on my self esteem. I used to be a very confident woman but I was in a 6 year very abusive relationship. So it was drummed into me that I was fat and ugly. It's hard to over come when your getting told that over and over. I'd love to have a gym buddy or swim buddy but I've also got problems with my spine so exercising is a struggle. My husband thinks I'm stunning so that helps. I think I need to bite the bullet and get a sobar meet done. I mite surprise myself. "
Good luck trying sober .. you might enjoy yourself more..and think of the glow afterwards x  |
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