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Did I fuck up or did he?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So gal meets guy.
Arrange to meet again.
I say I can't stay over, he think I mean can't come over and he arranges to do something else.
Re-arrange for few days time, only on the day he gets sent away to work. Doesn't get back for over a week. In the meantime chatting and decide to meet up tonight.
Only he didn't read my message this morning I sent last night. I ask if it's still on, he's on fab for an hour but still doesn't read.
I get a bit mad and leave a sarky verification and tell him to block me.
Get a kik saying he's had a blow out 3 hrs ago (with picture) but it doesn't matter, he's seen what I wrote.
I think he should have messaged straight away not 3hrs later if he knew he was gonna be late.
So did I over-react or did he not give me enough consideration?
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He had the chance to message in plenty of time.
He then tried to reclaim the moral high ground.
The sarcy veri wasn’t a great move though.
Move on to another.
Expect your inbox to blow up with comments about how mad he was from the white knights.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All I can say is some people can't answer instantly Because of other things... Patience is key."
I would agree with you had he not spent the previous hour on fab. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"About the time we were supposed to mee"
Well then yes I'd agree, if he spent an hour on fab when he was due to meet you, knowing he would be late, he should have taken the time to message and tell you.
You shouldn't have left the verification though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About the time we were supposed to mee
Well then yes I'd agree, if he spent an hour on fab when he was due to meet you, knowing he would be late, he should have taken the time to message and tell you.
You shouldn't have left the verification though. "
Just seems petty to me. I would have just blocked him if he had arranged a meet and blanked me. But I would have given him the benefit of the doubt to begin with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All I can say is some people can't answer instantly Because of other things... Patience is key.
I would agree with you had he not spent the previous hour on fab. "
People log in and get distracted at times and miss things. I do wonder though if you had noticed him on for an hour why disn't you contact him again that would have been the sensible thnig to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love sarcastic verifications. My longest ever Veri was a sarcastic one after spending time with someone that treated me pants. It gave me great satisfaction. Must admit I would have done exactly the same |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All I can say is some people can't answer instantly Because of other things... Patience is key.
I would agree with you had he not spent the previous hour on fab.
People log in and get distracted at times and miss things. I do wonder though if you had noticed him on for an hour why disn't you contact him again that would have been the sensible thnig to do. "
I did |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I love sarcastic verifications. My longest ever Veri was a sarcastic one after spending time with someone that treated me pants. It gave me great satisfaction. Must admit I would have done exactly the same "
It wasn't even that bad. Just how I thought he was this but turned out to be that and why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How I’ve read that he’s very disorganised and don’t know what’s coming next in his life so can’t plan, or he’s not that into you. "
if he was really interested he would of dropped everything to be with you.
I would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So gal meets guy.
Arrange to meet again.
I say I can't stay over, he think I mean can't come over and he arranges to do something else.
Re-arrange for few days time, only on the day he gets sent away to work. Doesn't get back for over a week. In the meantime chatting and decide to meet up tonight.
Only he didn't read my message this morning I sent last night. I ask if it's still on, he's on fab for an hour but still doesn't read.
I get a bit mad and leave a sarky verification and tell him to block me.
Get a kik saying he's had a blow out 3 hrs ago (with picture) but it doesn't matter, he's seen what I wrote.
I think he should have messaged straight away not 3hrs later if he knew he was gonna be late.
So did I over-react or did he not give me enough consideration?
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Both.
Chalk it down and move forward x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How I’ve read that he’s very disorganised and don’t know what’s coming next in his life so can’t plan, or he’s not that into you. if he was really interested he would of dropped everything to be with you.
I would."
There’s more important things in life than a meet from fab I’m afraid. I wouldn’t dropped everything to meet someone from here.
Yes he should have contacted but some people genuinely forget or are too busy. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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To be fair, if I'd been dealing with a blow-out and I'd come back on Fabs to find a sarcy veri, if assume you were a fucking twat and act accordingly.
That said, it wouldn't happen because I'd have your bloody number and I'd have communicated with you, like adults. |
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He probably should have contacted you as he was on fan for an hour and you probably shouldn’t have left him a sadly veri (which he’s unlikely to show anyway).
Communication which is good is key on here. |
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"You sound as bad as each other
He's a player, you like the drama
'A match made in Heaven'
Block and move on"
I was gonna stick a "thumbs up" to this comment, but thought I'd give the OP another read.
On balance, it sounds more like 60/40 in favour of the OP being a bit of a drama queen to me. |
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"So gal meets guy.
Arrange to meet again.
I say I can't stay over, he think I mean can't come over and he arranges to do something else.
Re-arrange for few days time, only on the day he gets sent away to work. Doesn't get back for over a week. In the meantime chatting and decide to meet up tonight.
Only he didn't read my message this morning I sent last night. I ask if it's still on, he's on fab for an hour but still doesn't read.
I get a bit mad and leave a sarky verification and tell him to block me.
Get a kik saying he's had a blow out 3 hrs ago (with picture) but it doesn't matter, he's seen what I wrote.
I think he should have messaged straight away not 3hrs later if he knew he was gonna be late.
So did I over-react or did he not give me enough consideration?
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If he was on for an hour and didn’t read your message then he chose not to or read it and marked it as unread, trust me, we don’t get that many messages for it to get lost  |
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"So gal meets guy.
Arrange to meet again.
I say I can't stay over, he think I mean can't come over and he arranges to do something else.
Re-arrange for few days time, only on the day he gets sent away to work. Doesn't get back for over a week. In the meantime chatting and decide to meet up tonight.
Only he didn't read my message this morning I sent last night. I ask if it's still on, he's on fab for an hour but still doesn't read.
I get a bit mad and leave a sarky verification and tell him to block me.
Get a kik saying he's had a blow out 3 hrs ago (with picture) but it doesn't matter, he's seen what I wrote.
I think he should have messaged straight away not 3hrs later if he knew he was gonna be late.
So did I over-react or did he not give me enough consideration?
If he was on for an hour and didn’t read your message then he chose not to or read it and marked it as unread, trust me, we don’t get that many messages for it to get lost "
Someone can be logged on but not actually using the site.
All sounds a bit dramarama. |
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"So gal meets guy.
Arrange to meet again.
I say I can't stay over, he think I mean can't come over and he arranges to do something else.
Re-arrange for few days time, only on the day he gets sent away to work. Doesn't get back for over a week. In the meantime chatting and decide to meet up tonight.
Only he didn't read my message this morning I sent last night. I ask if it's still on, he's on fab for an hour but still doesn't read.
I get a bit mad and leave a sarky verification and tell him to block me.
Get a kik saying he's had a blow out 3 hrs ago (with picture) but it doesn't matter, he's seen what I wrote.
I think he should have messaged straight away not 3hrs later if he knew he was gonna be late.
So did I over-react or did he not give me enough consideration?
If he was on for an hour and didn’t read your message then he chose not to or read it and marked it as unread, trust me, we don’t get that many messages for it to get lost
Someone can be logged on but not actually using the site.
All sounds a bit dramarama."
On mobile? Really? I had no idea... |
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I think this is commonly referred to as a 1st world problem.
We check our phones on Average 221 times per day for notifications.
It's easy peasy to stay in touch. Therefore lack of comms should be considered intentional.
Situations change and we should all learn to be adaptable.
I tend to confirm the day before or on the day. Say I'm setting off and sent an eta en-route after traffic blockages.
For you i dont think its a problem situation but a problem person. Avoid at all costs. You'll get more of the same type of drama. |
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I would say equally to blame for your own reasons but why air it on here ? if someone said it was your fault you wouldn't accept it anyway possibly, just wanting affirmation it was the guys fault instead of accepting 1/2 the blame and moving on ? I know, unpopular reply but honestly ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So dude has blow out possibly has his phone on/on the internet if hes got fab in another tab it can show him as being online when hes not.
All seems a bit drama tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seeing the other responses guy definitly had a lucky escape.
Hope he hasnt got a pet rabbit"
I hope he does... and I hope the next lass he messes about is crazy enough to boil it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How I’ve read that he’s very disorganised and don’t know what’s coming next in his life so can’t plan, or he’s not that into you. if he was really interested he would of dropped everything to be with you.
I would."
Mmmm the sexy stank of desperation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seeing the other responses guy definitly had a lucky escape.
Hope he hasnt got a pet rabbit
I hope he does... and I hope the next lass he messes about is crazy enough to boil it! "
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