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Are couples the new single men?
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over a year ago
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"Because some are really stuck up?"
Totally agree.
I'm also a couple on here and some couples think they are god! They also don't handle rejection too well either! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Seems to be a lot enmity to couples on the forum. Why?"
I don't think that's the case, just emnity towards those who try to tell others what they should or shouldn't be doing.
It's not towards couples specifically, Ive seen single guys get shot down in exactly the same way.
Personally *anyone* who acts as an entitled prick or tries to deride others for using the site how they want will get my ire, I'm non descriminatory like that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems to be a lot enmity to couples on the forum. Why?
I don't think that's the case, just emnity towards those who try to tell others what they should or shouldn't be doing.
It's not towards couples specifically, Ive seen single guys get shot down in exactly the same way.
Personally *anyone* who acts as an entitled prick or tries to deride others for using the site how they want will get my ire, I'm non descriminatory like that "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only the smug ones, usually it’s the bloke chirping up and riding on the coat tails of his missus. Just cause he’s got himself a partner, they seem to think singles can’t be entitled to meet socially on here, so maybe they can find a future partner to swing with. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching."
I applaud your use of the word besmirching, it's not used nearly enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching."
Besmirching... I like that word. You don't hear it enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching."
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching."
The male half of a couple is a peculiar position to be, Any threads started by a couples profile and most people assume its the Female half talking,
In chat rooms Men are continually asking about their partners, "Where are they" When are they coming on chat" and sucking up to them etc
Most Men probably think its the Female sending them messages or replying to them, Even though its a swingers site most couples probably do their meets via swingers clubs then on here,
I haven't noticed any sort of hostility between singles or couples
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching."
Didn’t see your comment. You said it a lot better than I did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got to say that I got far more abuse by PM when I was posting on the forum as half of a couple than I ever have with a single maLe profile. Which is interesting as my posting style has never really changed yet people found me more objectionable than they seem to now. Go figure...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed. "
No, it’s a common theme when you’ve been on the forums long enough. |
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching.
The male half of a couple is a peculiar position to be, Any threads started by a couples profile and most people assume its the Female half talking,
In chat rooms Men are continually asking about their partners, "Where are they" When are they coming on chat" and sucking up to them etc
Most Men probably think its the Female sending them messages or replying to them, Even though its a swingers site most couples probably do their meets via swingers clubs then on here,
I haven't noticed any sort of hostility between singles or couples
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Definitely this
There often seems to be an assumption that because if the avatar it's the female gained I'd the couple (Red) messaging... most often it's the Monkey |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed.
No, it’s a common theme when you’ve been on the forums long enough. "
I've been around long enough!
And actually that last thread was not couples vs singles. But I don't understand the need to start a thread about it because again it's just another divisive thread pitting people against each other. |
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"Seems to be a lot enmity to couples on the forum. Why?
They don’t like each other?"
Can't say that I've noticed this.
Some couples don't think that singles should be on here and are quite vocal, some singles respond accordingly.
Other than that ...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed.
No, it’s a common theme when you’ve been on the forums long enough.
I've been around long enough!
And actually that last thread was not couples vs singles. But I don't understand the need to start a thread about it because again it's just another divisive thread pitting people against each other. "
What last thread? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed.
No, it’s a common theme when you’ve been on the forums long enough.
I've been around long enough!
And actually that last thread was not couples vs singles. But I don't understand the need to start a thread about it because again it's just another divisive thread pitting people against each other.
What last thread?"
Sorry there's a couple of similar threads at the moment and I got confused.
It was about meeting for a social and it's that one that's continued and I've just commented on there as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What gets me is the smugness of many male halves
The way they speak about other guys at times is abhorrent
Now before anyone takes offence, can I just say, it's not all male halves by any means but, if you see a guy being dragged down by a couple, you can bet your bottom dollar 9 times out of 10 it's the guy in the couple that's doing it
It is, however, a case of 'there for the grace of God go I' because ,take away the fanny part of your profile and chances are, they'd be in much the same position as those they are deriding or besmirching.
The male half of a couple is a peculiar position to be, Any threads started by a couples profile and most people assume its the Female half talking,
In chat rooms Men are continually asking about their partners, "Where are they" When are they coming on chat" and sucking up to them etc
Most Men probably think its the Female sending them messages or replying to them, Even though its a swingers site most couples probably do their meets via swingers clubs then on here,
I haven't noticed any sort of hostility between singles or couples
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I did notice that most couples using the chat rooms were mostly the male half wanking.
I used to wonder where the woman was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed.
No, it’s a common theme when you’ve been on the forums long enough.
I've been around long enough!
And actually that last thread was not couples vs singles. But I don't understand the need to start a thread about it because again it's just another divisive thread pitting people against each other.
What last thread?
Sorry there's a couple of similar threads at the moment and I got confused.
It was about meeting for a social and it's that one that's continued and I've just commented on there as well. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed.
No, it’s a common theme when you’ve been on the forums long enough.
I've been around long enough!
And actually that last thread was not couples vs singles. But I don't understand the need to start a thread about it because again it's just another divisive thread pitting people against each other. "
Cool your jets, this thread is very much different and a lot more recent. Hope this clears everything up for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously is this off the back of that one thread!
And let's be honest some of the couples on their did not show themselves in a good light.
Other than that I can't say I've noticed.
No, it’s a common theme when you’ve been on the forums long enough.
I've been around long enough!
And actually that last thread was not couples vs singles. But I don't understand the need to start a thread about it because again it's just another divisive thread pitting people against each other.
Cool your jets, this thread is very much different and a lot more recent. Hope this clears everything up for you. "
Do you mean a lot more recent the other one was about 2 hours ago! |
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"Got to say that I got far more abuse by PM when I was posting on the forum as half of a couple than I ever have with a single maLe profile. Which is interesting as my posting style has never really changed yet people found me more objectionable than they seem to now. Go figure...
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I don’t , however I’ve never sent any abuse by pm so it’s kinda pointless saying so really . Sorry about that .  |
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"Seems there is quite a bit of animosity towards couples. Probably explains why there is so few on the forum, and certainly less than in the past.
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There’s no doubt about the fact that there’s less couples on the forums than there used to be |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Seems there is quite a bit of animosity towards couples. Probably explains why there is so few on the forum, and certainly less than in the past.
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I disagree, no more so than is aimed at any other individuals.
It may be as well that some couples assume that they are better than other people and take issue with their comments not being taken as venerated text.
People are people, generally I react to their words or opinions, never the gender of who's posting nor their relationship status. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems there is quite a bit of animosity towards couples. Probably explains why there is so few on the forum, and certainly less than in the past.
There’s no doubt about the fact that there’s less couples on the forums than there used to be "
I haven’t noticed a dip in couples posting, I do think there’s a decline in couple-like photos, profile often looks like a single woman’s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems there is quite a bit of animosity towards couples. Probably explains why there is so few on the forum, and certainly less than in the past.
There’s no doubt about the fact that there’s less couples on the forums than there used to be "
Why do you think that is? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Seems there is quite a bit of animosity towards couples. Probably explains why there is so few on the forum, and certainly less than in the past.
There’s no doubt about the fact that there’s less couples on the forums than there used to be
Why do you think that is? "
Personallly I think the forums have become ever more single focused with the same posters chasing each other. There are less threads that aren’t tail chasing, and therefore less that couples get involved in.
We’ve been on the forums for about three years and more than ever, there’s just no engagement with us. |
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"Seems there is quite a bit of animosity towards couples. Probably explains why there is so few on the forum, and certainly less than in the past.
There’s no doubt about the fact that there’s less couples on the forums than there used to be
Why do you think that is? "
When we started our journey in 2011 there were way less people on fab , but as a % there were more couples than now . Perhaps that’s because swinging has become more mainstream ? Often it’s seen in the news and media and single men will see it as a great opportunity for nsa sex .
As for the forum , well I guess that most couples see them the same way as my wife does . Pretty pointless and as dull as dishwater she says . And she makes a fair point
Couples don’t really need the forum as such as they can often get what they are after without using the forum as a tool to facilitate that . Singles are told it’s a good way to interact and learn about the scene .
But that doesn’t explain why there are less now than there used to be does it ? I’m afraid I don’t know the answer . |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Seems there is quite a bit of animosity towards couples. Probably explains why there is so few on the forum, and certainly less than in the past.
There’s no doubt about the fact that there’s less couples on the forums than there used to be
Why do you think that is?
Personallly I think the forums have become ever more single focused with the same posters chasing each other. There are less threads that aren’t tail chasing, and therefore less that couples get involved in.
We’ve been on the forums for about three years and more than ever, there’s just no engagement with us. "
That's an interesting theory but couples can post threads too, so it doesn't really bear scrutiny.
I disagree that there are fewer couples I just think that there are fewer couples that post regularly and are big characters, conversely there are more singles that do and are.
I think that there's a great deal of confirmation bias in your comments, which is fine, Im just finding that a lot of what you're saying is subjective and anecdotal. |
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