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over a year ago
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home."
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
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By (user no longer on site)
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All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"?????
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The reason I put my original post like that is from the point of view that a lot of people seem to downgrade the sexual aspect of being on this site. I have had socials (a drink/chat) before meets that involved some sexual activity during. Now I'm not saying that should be the case for all but the way some people represent themselves about socials they come across as ice cold maidens! |
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"?????
The reason I put my original post like that is from the point of view that a lot of people seem to downgrade the sexual aspect of being on this site. I have had socials (a drink/chat) before meets that involved some sexual activity during. Now I'm not saying that should be the case for all but the way some people represent themselves about socials they come across as ice cold maidens!"
But the social side is downgraded ALL the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm friendly but do I NEED friendship from Fab...no friendliness will do. I have friends off Fab."
Ah so people on here are just for sex and not friendship then. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request "
And are we still meeting up for a girly drink Mrs? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm friendly but do I NEED friendship from Fab...no friendliness will do. I have friends off Fab.
Ah so people on here are just for sex and not friendship then. Good luck "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request
And are we still meeting up for a girly drink Mrs? X "
Of course |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. "
Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request
And are we still meeting up for a girly drink Mrs? X
Of course "
Mate, I had an episode where I had a little hibernation but I’m back xx |
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
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Ah I didn’t read this. Yes you’re right. I’ve made more friends on here than I’ve had sex with. Loads more! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!)."
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!)."
Plans?
Hmm
Man messages
I reply
Arrange social
1800 turn up
1805 realise there’s nothing there
1830 thank him and leave
OR
1800 turn up
1803 he’s already laughed at my jokes
1820 I’m telling him to Marvin Gaye and get it on
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
Ah I didn’t read this. Yes you’re right. I’ve made more friends on here than I’ve had sex with. Loads more! "
100% yes! I love my Fab friends to pieces even though I hide a lot under my rock x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!)."
Then don't meet the ones asking you to wait months! Meet the ones who are available within days for that social. Stop making every woman sound the same! Stop making it all about you.
A single woman needs to feel safe alone with a potential sexual meet. Sending photos is nothing really. In person socials shows up a persons true look.
I'm the past I've turned up to a guy house without a previous social arranged. Never again! He looked nothing like his pics. Most likely wasn't even him. Point is, if you can't allow a single woman to do whatever she needs to do in order to feel safe, you don't deserve her! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request "
This is not a anti-social thread it's more about mindset. I think it's about the different approaches during a social. Would you call it a social if both parties were firm set beforehand about having fun after or during socializing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think "
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
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All you said is fine but friendships happen and are not made...as you said earlier in your post you have had great times but did not remain friends..but left on friendly terms. |
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Incidentally, my last 3 arrangements have all been in a hotel after talking for a very long time due to distance issues.
All went extremely well because they were willing to go above and beyond to prove I’d be safe and comfortable.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it "
You may have hit the nail on the head!!! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request This is not a anti-social thread it's more about mindset. I think it's about the different approaches during a social. Would you call it a social if both parties were firm set beforehand about having fun after or during socializing?"
Does your bike make a funny noise when you back pedal like that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
All you said is fine but friendships happen and are not made...as you said earlier in your post you have had great times but did not remain friends..but left on friendly terms."
And sexual attraction has to happen too lovely, it can’t be expected after one message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Then don't meet the ones asking you to wait months! Meet the ones who are available within days for that social. Stop making every woman sound the same! Stop making it all about you.
A single woman needs to feel safe alone with a potential sexual meet. Sending photos is nothing really. In person socials shows up a persons true look.
I'm the past I've turned up to a guy house without a previous social arranged. Never again! He looked nothing like his pics. Most likely wasn't even him. Point is, if you can't allow a single woman to do whatever she needs to do in order to feel safe, you don't deserve her! "
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it "
Nora, its on. The meet will take place on the bench by the tree. When I approach I’ll refer to you as red fox and you will recite bibbidy bobbidy boo. We’ll make the exchange at 0901hrs
Regards,
Grey Squirral |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request This is not a anti-social thread it's more about mindset. I think it's about the different approaches during a social. Would you call it a social if both parties were firm set beforehand about having fun after or during socializing?
Does your bike make a funny noise when you back pedal like that? "
Hey young bro..no backpedalling here, no circus training! |
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request This is not a anti-social thread it's more about mindset. I think it's about the different approaches during a social. Would you call it a social if both parties were firm set beforehand about having fun after or during socializing?
Does your bike make a funny noise when you back pedal like that? "
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it You may have hit the nail on the head!!! "
How come? |
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it
Nora, its on. The meet will take place on the bench by the tree. When I approach I’ll refer to you as red fox and you will recite bibbidy bobbidy boo. We’ll make the exchange at 0901hrs
Regards,
Grey Squirral "
 I’ll be wearing a red rose. Leave the cash in the bin next to the bench |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it
Nora, its on. The meet will take place on the bench by the tree. When I approach I’ll refer to you as red fox and you will recite bibbidy bobbidy boo. We’ll make the exchange at 0901hrs
Regards,
Grey Squirral "
Now at least that sounds exciting and you didn't call it a social! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"?????
The reason I put my original post like that is from the point of view that a lot of people seem to downgrade the sexual aspect of being on this site. I have had socials (a drink/chat) before meets that involved some sexual activity during. Now I'm not saying that should be the case for all but the way some people represent themselves about socials they come across as ice cold maidens!
But the social side is downgraded ALL the time "
Ok, I didn't know that. |
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it
Nora, its on. The meet will take place on the bench by the tree. When I approach I’ll refer to you as red fox and you will recite bibbidy bobbidy boo. We’ll make the exchange at 0901hrs
Regards,
Grey Squirral Now at least that sounds exciting and you didn't call it a social! "
Ah yes the Social...
Please take a ticket and await your number to be called
69?
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Would you like to cum over? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it
Nora, its on. The meet will take place on the bench by the tree. When I approach I’ll refer to you as red fox and you will recite bibbidy bobbidy boo. We’ll make the exchange at 0901hrs
Regards,
Grey Squirral Now at least that sounds exciting and you didn't call it a social!
Ah yes the Social...
Please take a ticket and await your number to be called
69?
Here!
Would you like to cum over? "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This makes me laffffff
Without the safety of a club I would think to meet 1st for a social is not an unreasonable request This is not a anti-social thread it's more about mindset. I think it's about the different approaches during a social. Would you call it a social if both parties were firm set beforehand about having fun after or during socializing?
Does your bike make a funny noise when you back pedal like that? "
Hey young bro..no backpedalling here, no circus training! |
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"?????
The reason I put my original post like that is from the point of view that a lot of people seem to downgrade the sexual aspect of being on this site. I have had socials (a drink/chat) before meets that involved some sexual activity during. Now I'm not saying that should be the case for all but the way some people represent themselves about socials they come across as ice cold maidens!
But the social side is downgraded ALL the time Ok, I didn't know that."
I’ve had a social that turned into a mo’cial and he turned weirdcial in my early days...
Til recently he kept pushing to come to my house after we’d lost touch, got back in touch, fell out, got back in touch etc etc
I simply said for us to try again we need to air the differences and move on and I’m not comfortable doing that in my house, he said it’s my house or nothing as he’s not wasting his time doing coffee...
That told me all I needed to know and I blocked deleted and bye bye Felicia or Fillipe
I will always try to be reasonable on here even if I have been wronged but that was too much and so disrespectful to me so let’s all take a minutes silence for the poor chap |
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
Ah I didn’t read this. Yes you’re right. I’ve made more friends on here than I’ve had sex with. Loads more! "
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
Ah I didn’t read this. Yes you’re right. I’ve made more friends on here than I’ve had sex with. Loads more! Do you have many friends off Fab?"
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"?????
The reason I put my original post like that is from the point of view that a lot of people seem to downgrade the sexual aspect of being on this site. I have had socials (a drink/chat) before meets that involved some sexual activity during. Now I'm not saying that should be the case for all but the way some people represent themselves about socials they come across as ice cold maidens!
But the social side is downgraded ALL the time Ok, I didn't know that.
I’ve had a social that turned into a mo’cial and he turned weirdcial in my early days...
Til recently he kept pushing to come to my house after we’d lost touch, got back in touch, fell out, got back in touch etc etc
I simply said for us to try again we need to air the differences and move on and I’m not comfortable doing that in my house, he said it’s my house or nothing as he’s not wasting his time doing coffee...
That told me all I needed to know and I blocked deleted and bye bye Felicia or Fillipe
I will always try to be reasonable on here even if I have been wronged but that was too much and so disrespectful to me so let’s all take a minutes silence for the poor chap "
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"?????
The reason I put my original post like that is from the point of view that a lot of people seem to downgrade the sexual aspect of being on this site. I have had socials (a drink/chat) before meets that involved some sexual activity during. Now I'm not saying that should be the case for all but the way some people represent themselves about socials they come across as ice cold maidens!
But the social side is downgraded ALL the time Ok, I didn't know that.
I’ve had a social that turned into a mo’cial and he turned weirdcial in my early days...
Til recently he kept pushing to come to my house after we’d lost touch, got back in touch, fell out, got back in touch etc etc
I simply said for us to try again we need to air the differences and move on and I’m not comfortable doing that in my house, he said it’s my house or nothing as he’s not wasting his time doing coffee...
That told me all I needed to know and I blocked deleted and bye bye Felicia or Fillipe
I will always try to be reasonable on here even if I have been wronged but that was too much and so disrespectful to me so let’s all take a minutes silence for the poor chap A horror story."
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
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wet.
Whet....  "
It's been so long since I used the word, I implore your forgiveness for my errant ways. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
I just saw the other thread which was closed as it got too big so I couldn’t comment but as you’ve sort of “gone there” I’ll comment:
Personally I joined Fab about 6 months ago after deciding that was not looking for anything heavy yet I’m divorced, not dead.
For me, I live 300 miles away from my friends and family so when I have a banter on the forums or actually message people back and forth, it’s more so I don’t go stir crazy in my house.
I love male company, I love chatting about all sorts of stuff, it’s nice to dress up and go out whether it’s a coffee, drink, walk... whatever.
Coffee socials are convenient to get a feel for how someone is in person, I’ve met so many people where they’ve been lovely, fun, articulate, and really decent and we’ve never exchanged even a kiss then I’ve had socials where it’s ended up more and still been amazing regardless of whether we’ve stayed mates or it’s fizzled out.
Personally I live alone with a child so I’m not liking giving out my address to anyone I’ve never met ESPECIALLY if they only use Kik and won’t give a number or phone/video call.
Once or thrice I’ve been a little risky but only because the other party and I did what we had to do to prove we are legit and again, I’ve been incredibly lucky.
Is it so wrong to want to stay safe?
Is it so wrong to seek out a companion as well as sex?
Is it so wrong to make friends?
This is the trouble I think...
People want the friends with benefits but focus on the benefit part and ignore the friend part.
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it You may have hit the nail on the head!!!
How come?"
A Social ( the term) sounds as boring as hell. |
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it You may have hit the nail on the head!!!
How come?A Social ( the term) sounds as boring as hell."
Meet sounds sleazy. Meeting up is fine. It’s just “a meet” dunno why I just don’t like it!  |
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over a year ago
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it "
The word meet makes me feel like meat. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!"
People who are the total opposite to you it seems. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!"
If both parties are cool with it, and sounds like they are, I dont understand what the issue is here |
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home. wet."
No you were right first time. Whet. Like a whetstone used for sharpening. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!
If both parties are cool with it, and sounds like they are, I dont understand what the issue is here "
I don’t understand him full stop to be honest! What sort of people am I meeting??? People who don’t want to just fuck and go, that’s the sort of people I’m meeting. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it You may have hit the nail on the head!!!
How come?A Social ( the term) sounds as boring as hell.
Meet sounds sleazy. Meeting up is fine. It’s just “a meet” dunno why I just don’t like it! "
I don't mind arranging a meet, but if I am referred to as such, I don't like it.
Socials aren't boring either OP, I like them so long as there are no expectations from the guy. |
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"MY TERMINOLOGY:
I don’t like Social as I feel like an old man meeting another old man going to sit in a WMC with pints of bitter and moaning about the youth of today or it sounds like I’m going down the dole office
I don’t like Meet as it sounds like a drug deal
I always say shall we go for a drink and see how it goes or fancy doing something and then it’s done without labelling
Labelling creates an expectation I think
I don’t like “meet” either. Hate it "
Me too, horrible terminology, I won’t use it.
Makes me think of either a slab of meat  or a couple of thugs doing a deal. |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you. "
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them. |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them."
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily "
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily
Word "
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!
People who are the total opposite to you it seems. "
I wouldn't relate to a woman who has to warn me how to behave, I can manage my own behaviour. I don't need Mommy anymore. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!
People who are the total opposite to you it seems. I wouldn't relate to a woman who has to warn me how to behave, I can manage my own behaviour. I don't need Mommy anymore."
Tell you how to behave??? So saying I want a social first but no sex is telling you how to behave? Haha. Good luck on here! |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you. "
You talking about me you perverse thing.
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!
People who are the total opposite to you it seems. I wouldn't relate to a woman who has to warn me how to behave, I can manage my own behaviour. I don't need Mommy anymore.
Tell you how to behave??? So saying I want a social first but no sex is telling you how to behave? Haha. Good luck on here! "
Nah, now it's all about you, and I don't care what you do or don't do. I am saying I don't need to be told like a child
behave yourself I would like to think I can manage that for myself. |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you. You talking about me you perverse thing. "
Just a flirty conversation? |
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home."
Socials are where I decide if I WANT to whet someone's appetite or not!! I'm only looking for fwb - if the social compatability is a non-starter, the sex will be too - I only want both.
I've had socials with men who went to leave after half an hour asking when we could meet for sex....epic fail!! |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!
People who are the total opposite to you it seems. I wouldn't relate to a woman who has to warn me how to behave, I can manage my own behaviour. I don't need Mommy anymore.
Tell you how to behave??? So saying I want a social first but no sex is telling you how to behave? Haha. Good luck on here! Nah, now it's all about you, and I don't care what you do or don't do. I am saying I don't need to be told like a child
behave yourself I would like to think I can manage that for myself."
I have no idea what the hell you're on about? I said I only ever meet for a social first. You seem to have taken issue with that and seen it as me warning people how to behave. Luckily I don’t speak or socialise with men I feel need to be warned how to behave. Anyone I’ve spoken to and met have been happy to have a social meet up first with no expectations. |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you. You talking about me you perverse thing.
Just a flirty conversation? "
My reaction was so strong because of what you posted, now for a man to touch a woman who has not given her consent is called sexual assault just in case you didn't know. That is not flirty conversation! |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!
People who are the total opposite to you it seems. I wouldn't relate to a woman who has to warn me how to behave, I can manage my own behaviour. I don't need Mommy anymore.
Tell you how to behave??? So saying I want a social first but no sex is telling you how to behave? Haha. Good luck on here! Nah, now it's all about you, and I don't care what you do or don't do. I am saying I don't need to be told like a child
behave yourself I would like to think I can manage that for myself.
I have no idea what the hell you're on about? I said I only ever meet for a social first. You seem to have taken issue with that and seen it as me warning people how to behave. Luckily I don’t speak or socialise with men I feel need to be warned how to behave. Anyone I’ve spoken to and met have been happy to have a social meet up first with no expectations. "
Now you get me, I don't consider myself as a person who needs to be told how to behave so in hearing that is the type of man you are meeting good. Having said that don't make that comment you now might be itching to make! |
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I have learnt through these interactions.
1. I don't like the term social as another poster said it has staid connotations.
A suggestion call it something else.
A meet and greet. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Plans?
Hmm
Man messages
I reply
Arrange social
1800 turn up
1805 realise there’s nothing there
1830 thank him and leave
OR
1800 turn up
1803 he’s already laughed at my jokes
1820 I’m telling him to Marvin Gaye and get it on
Its not plans it’s life! "
Now that is some splicing you had to do to make a story out of my use of the word plan. Are you a chef? |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily
Word
Word? Where’ve you been? Kik me I’ve lost you x"
Funny how some women form opinions not on words spoken, but on what? Female intuition? I have not seen the word guarantee mentioned. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Plans?
Hmm
Man messages
I reply
Arrange social
1800 turn up
1805 realise there’s nothing there
1830 thank him and leave
OR
1800 turn up
1803 he’s already laughed at my jokes
1820 I’m telling him to Marvin Gaye and get it on
Its not plans it’s life! Now that is some splicing you had to do to make a story out of my use of the word plan. Are you a chef? "
No offence to you but their is not much seduction involved in your modus operandi. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Plans?
Hmm
Man messages
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Arrange social
1800 turn up
1805 realise there’s nothing there
1830 thank him and leave
OR
1800 turn up
1803 he’s already laughed at my jokes
1820 I’m telling him to Marvin Gaye and get it on
Its not plans it’s life! Now that is some splicing you had to do to make a story out of my use of the word plan. Are you a chef? No offence to you but their is not much seduction involved in your modus operandi. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home.
Socials are where I decide if I WANT to whet someone's appetite or not!! I'm only looking for fwb - if the social compatability is a non-starter, the sex will be too - I only want both.
I've had socials with men who went to leave after half an hour asking when we could meet for sex....epic fail!!"
Yes where you decide...in the environment of a social. Hopefully in the company of a man who wants his appetite whet! Haha. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Plans?
Hmm
Man messages
I reply
Arrange social
1800 turn up
1805 realise there’s nothing there
1830 thank him and leave
OR
1800 turn up
1803 he’s already laughed at my jokes
1820 I’m telling him to Marvin Gaye and get it on
Its not plans it’s life! Now that is some splicing you had to do to make a story out of my use of the word plan. Are you a chef? No offence to you but their is not much seduction involved in your modus operandi. "
That’s because I’ve already done all that on the build up to the date/time...  |
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My meets are extreme. I meet at home and at some point restraints, blindfolds, gags etc maybe used. Whilst in a compromised position I could inflict all kinds of damage whilst rifling their pockets. Feeling safe and confident is not just a female trait.
My potential playmates would travel to me, meeting during my lunchtime for a coffee.
In the ten years of internet hook ups I can count on one hand the number of times I've dodged a bullet. The list of people I've not wanted to play with is longer. I wouldn't have known without a social and they need to feel safe with me.
That's what "like minded" means. People who have the same mindset, criterion as yourself. It's not my concern how others pick their playmates: I do what works for me. |
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"My meets are extreme. I meet at home and at some point restraints, blindfolds, gags etc maybe used. Whilst in a compromised position I could inflict all kinds of damage whilst rifling their pockets. Feeling safe and confident is not just a female trait.
My potential playmates would travel to me, meeting during my lunchtime for a coffee.
In the ten years of internet hook ups I can count on one hand the number of times I've dodged a bullet. The list of people I've not wanted to play with is longer. I wouldn't have known without a social and they need to feel safe with me.
That's what "like minded" means. People who have the same mindset, criterion as yourself. It's not my concern how others pick their playmates: I do what works for me."
Your tips worked for me too. Never been stood up. Social always. |
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"If you know how to whet my appetite while doing one! As I can drink coffee at home. wet."
Right first time with whet, sharpen your appetite.
What sort of titillation? Foot in your lap under the table? |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I have learnt through these interactions.
1. I don't like the term social as another poster said it has staid connotations.
A suggestion call it something else.
A meet and greet."
Like you’re parking your car?
Social everyone for me because it works for me |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily "
I always have a social coffee first. Not in a pub. No sex chat.
If they start hinting at wanting anything sexual to happen I don't meet them again. |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily
I always have a social coffee first. Not in a pub. No sex chat.
If they start hinting at wanting anything sexual to happen I don't meet them again. "
See that just seems really weird. Like esentialy a job interview. Theres little to be learned about the actual aspects of the relationship you are going to have.
It's much like in another thread i got told my view that peoples criteria for a relationship and for a one night stand/hook up are differnt is the reason women have terrible experiences on fab.
I mean are we meant to be falling in love and planning a future?
Determining if our mutual hobbies and interests are compatible for full time cohabitation?
Do we have the same out look on children ans travel?
Or is it more do we find each lther attractive, do we enjoy thier company and do we want the same things in bed |
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"I have learnt through these interactions.
1. I don't like the term social as another poster said it has staid connotations.
A suggestion call it something else.
A meet and greet.
Like you’re parking your car?
Social everyone for me because it works for me "
hope about a social that involves car parking? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily
I always have a social coffee first. Not in a pub. No sex chat.
If they start hinting at wanting anything sexual to happen I don't meet them again. "
Even worse when they get a bit gropey during or after the social. Had one guy who couldn't keep his hands to himself during and another two who felt entitled to full on kissing and trying to grope at the end. I haven't met any of them since. A social meet up should be just that. Oh and these were in public places. |
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"All about you then OP. Never mind that a single woman needs to feel safe alone with you before she turns up to fuck you. Never mind that a woman needs to establish mutual attraction before deciding she wants to sleep with you. No it's all about you and clicking your fingers for immediate sex!? Best of luck on here. Too simplistic, why meet a bloke if you have no plans for him...even if you change your mind about it...now if you let him know that a decent man would wait until you were ready..and that could be days or even weeks (not months!).
Because all the people I’ve met on here have purely been for a social and that is agreed and made clear from the start. Twice it’s gone further but that was never pre-arranged. Did you actually have to draw lines in the sand? What sort of people are you meeting!
People who are the total opposite to you it seems. I wouldn't relate to a woman who has to warn me how to behave, I can manage my own behaviour. I don't need Mommy anymore.
Tell you how to behave??? So saying I want a social first but no sex is telling you how to behave? Haha. Good luck on here! Nah, now it's all about you, and I don't care what you do or don't do. I am saying I don't need to be told like a child
behave yourself I would like to think I can manage that for myself.
I have no idea what the hell you're on about? I said I only ever meet for a social first. You seem to have taken issue with that and seen it as me warning people how to behave. Luckily I don’t speak or socialise with men I feel need to be warned how to behave. Anyone I’ve spoken to and met have been happy to have a social meet up first with no expectations. Now you get me, I don't consider myself as a person who needs to be told how to behave so in hearing that is the type of man you are meeting good. Having said that don't make that comment you now might be itching to make!"
explain how that would be telling someone how to behave? I honestly don’t get what you’re saying. When you say the “type” of man I meet, what do you mean by that? I think the majority of women on here (well the ones I know) do exactly the same as me and always have a social first. |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily
I always have a social coffee first. Not in a pub. No sex chat.
If they start hinting at wanting anything sexual to happen I don't meet them again.
Even worse when they get a bit gropey during or after the social. Had one guy who couldn't keep his hands to himself during and another two who felt entitled to full on kissing and trying to grope at the end. I haven't met any of them since. A social meet up should be just that. Oh and these were in public places. "
That's exactly why I do it that way. To assess their behaviour. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily
I always have a social coffee first. Not in a pub. No sex chat.
If they start hinting at wanting anything sexual to happen I don't meet them again.
Even worse when they get a bit gropey during or after the social. Had one guy who couldn't keep his hands to himself during and another two who felt entitled to full on kissing and trying to grope at the end. I haven't met any of them since. A social meet up should be just that. Oh and these were in public places.
That's exactly why I do it that way. To assess their behaviour. "
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily
I always have a social coffee first. Not in a pub. No sex chat.
If they start hinting at wanting anything sexual to happen I don't meet them again.
Even worse when they get a bit gropey during or after the social. Had one guy who couldn't keep his hands to himself during and another two who felt entitled to full on kissing and trying to grope at the end. I haven't met any of them since. A social meet up should be just that. Oh and these were in public places.
That's exactly why I do it that way. To assess their behaviour. "
Yes all my meets on Fab have been with couples bar one. I find them less rabid/crazy. |
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"You mean you want a grope and a feel up of the woman who's trying to decide whether she wants to have sex with you.
Some men want guarantees. Maybe it is not their fault that they cannot see the person behind the "woman off Fab". Good luck to them.
Quite easy to spot those types though luckily "
Oh yes. They do not even try to pretend. |
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