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would u come off fab or hide profile
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By *ay19720 OP Man
over a year ago
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Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite....  |
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over a year ago
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"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?"
When I met an ex partner on here we agreed to come off this for a bit to get to know and explore each other for awhile before returning as a couple. It never got past the exploring each other sadly but each to their own I think. It's a useful tool however people decide to use it. Case serrah serrah! |
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over a year ago
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Well I wouldn't completely delete this you can put it on hiatus cos you don't know how long a relationship would last if its for life then great you won't need this I suppose this is a great plan B if things go sour |
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I've probably got email addresses that are older than the dinosaurs, so wouldn't feel the need to delete this before them. Fab isn't just about meeting people, once you have been swinging and on fab for 10 years or more. I'd be the same person dating as when single, so it seems fine to stay |
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over a year ago
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Why would you delete or hide it? If you're a swinger and getting into a deep relationship of course you're going to want to share the new love of your life with other people. |
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If you get into a new relationship, how or when do you bring up the fact that you’re a swinger? This could be quite full on for a new partner to take on board... I’d be interested in people’s experience of “coming out” as a swinger to a new partner? |
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I always came off fab or another site when dating as I meet none from their.
I have told them that I have been on such site's while single.
But for respect rather than some one tell them an thinking still on behind their back.
Each person is different but being truthful to another is for the best. If you can't stay away let them find someone 100% for them.
I know what lies in dishonesty can do being their myself. I will say i was robbed of the fairy tale. |
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I'd hide it until I knew which was it was going. If it got serious, I'd hopefully be able to swing with them so I'd like to think it could remain hidden or be deleted and replaced with a couples profile. |
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over a year ago
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
of course if it was wait for it ' a relationship ' I've known as few on here who did enter into relationships but stayed mind ,it didn't end well |
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"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?
When I met an ex partner on here we agreed to come off this for a bit to get to know and explore each other for awhile before returning as a couple. It never got past the exploring each other sadly but each to their own I think. It's a useful tool however people decide to use it. Case serrah serrah! "
I agree it's a useful tool. I'm just interested because it seems to me on the face of it and in general that singles use fab quite differently to couples and it leads to misunderstandings. |
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
I would tell the new person that I was a perv and would they like to make a couples account  |
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over a year ago
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I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong! "
I’m amazed at how narrow minded a lot of ‘swingers’ are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?
When I met an ex partner on here we agreed to come off this for a bit to get to know and explore each other for awhile before returning as a couple. It never got past the exploring each other sadly but each to their own I think. It's a useful tool however people decide to use it. Case serrah serrah!
I agree it's a useful tool. I'm just interested because it seems to me on the face of it and in general that singles use fab quite differently to couples and it leads to misunderstandings. "
I think it's just a subjective thing. There tends to a lot of 'competition' for peoples attention or desired outcome so that dictates a lot of the approaches on here. As long as you are true to yourself, use this for exactly what you wish to gain from it and dont badger anybody mercilessly people will eventually get their desired outcome. Some dont want to wait. Fortunately I have surrounded myself with fun, well adjusted, direct individuals that look past the problems in my profile and see the actual me. I tend to drop my digital mask more here than on other places. But that's how I approach it. i do agree with you though there does seem a marked difference but it's all a subjective thing as I stated x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Interesting how many viewpoints there are on fab. My own experience is that my last serious partner was never very happy about me being on fab while we were together as although I was only here to perve at the pics and chat in the forums she felt that it diminished our relationship because I was using my single profile. It made her feel insecure and I probably made that worse by agreeing not to go on the site and then going back on a few months later and being caught out. I think it said a lot more about our relationship than I expected and now if I was to be in the same place I would talk frankly and fully about it before deleting or hiding my account or perhaps making a couples account?
The one thing that is a pain if you delete though is losing all your contacts and any verifications but then again if you hide your profile the temptation is always there of course!
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I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.
If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on. |
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"I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.
If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on."
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"I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.
If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on.
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That said I honestly don't think I'd want to start over. Once you've had the kind of relationship that takes 40 years to build it's a hard act to follow |
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
I do love the way that considering this is a site for "swingers", soo many posts are single centric!! |
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I think the decision would have to be made together, when you have the open and honest conversation about you being here. After all, you wouldn’t want to hide the fact that you’re a Swinger from a potential life partner would you?  |
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Hide it, some people on here I'd like to keep in touch with. As a Tgirl I find it easier on here than other sites to meet like-minded people. Not in all cases for sex, but to socialise with. I'd hate to keep them out of my life.
Soon in a new relationship with a woman I'd have to tell her about my dressing and this site would help, show her that normal people can enjoy an alternative lifestyle. |
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"I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong! "
That shocked me too when I joined here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've said this many times before so gloss over it if you're sick of reading it.
If I was ever god forbid entering a new relationship I would have a full on discussion with the guy early on and if we weren't on similar pages of a similar book I wouldn't waste my or his time by trying to make things work out further down the road. If we weren't able to accept each other at the start of a relationship there'd be no hope later on."
That’s exactly what I like to do. Need to be compatible and on the same page from the off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite....
I do love the way that considering this is a site for "swingers", soo many posts are single centric!! "
But a couple consists of two single people, does it not? Unless it is dysfunctionally co-dependent |
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite....
I would tell the new person that I was a perv and would they like to make a couples account "
Yep this is what we did lol, we now enjoy being pervs together  |
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
We both deleted our single accounts. Two years in we re joined as a couple. I’m glad we both deleted the accounts as we would have been tempted to keep checking what’s happening I think and I personally don’t think that would have helped us build the relationship we now have! But everyone is different. Now if we get bored with fab we’ve both said we will just hide rather than delete. |
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
Neither!
If I meet someone special they’ll either be on here already and we’d carry on swinging anyway - or they’d be in the real world and by about date 3 I’d have told them about fab/swinging bacause most of my best friends are fabbers - and I’m buggered if I’m giving them up - or the social side of swinging!
I’d be monogamous if necessary though - but I’d rather I wasn’t!  |
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"Is it fair to say that most singles only use fab when they're between relationships and wouldn't swing as a couple or is that an incorrect assumption?
Is for me yes. "
And me. |
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"Hey all..
So little question...
If u met someone.. and if going into a relationship would u delete your fab account. ..or just hide it...I know it would depend on how serious you felt relationship may get...
And no not me or anyone ..just asking as i see some get reativated..im happy with my fb and my "alone time"...I just call it peace and quite.... "
Well a new relationship need time to grow so off in a hart beat..
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"I'm amazed at how conventional most people on here actually are. I thought this would be the place to meet others interested in consensual non-monogamy, but clearly I was wrong! "
Agreed
I think the next thread I start won’t be the usual ‘find an fwb’ one - it will be one for singles who actually ARE swingers - and don’t plan on disappearing into the sunset as soon as they find someone special!
I’d be gutted if I met someone lovely and he expected me to delete my account and walk away from fab/swinging!  |
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I think swinging is as much a mentality as anything else. I’m not surprised singles look for exclusive relationships and only do hookups to fill the gaps. It is why so few of them consider themselves swingers I guess.
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"I think swinging is as much a mentality as anything else. I’m not surprised singles look for exclusive relationships and only do hookups to fill the gaps. It is why so few of them consider themselves swingers I guess.
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True |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Probably hide the profile, but I would be completely upfront about having it... as already mentioned before relationships take time and effort to grow properly and they complicated enough without outside influences, then when you are settled as a couple maybe return to the fold.. if the feeling is mutual. But I would miss the social side of simply chilling out at the clubs, although I think this social aspect is misunderstood a lot by single men who simply want the quick wham bam.. I spend more time talking than anything else. It fills different aspects of people’s lives for different reasons |
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"I think swinging is as much a mentality as anything else. I’m not surprised singles look for exclusive relationships and only do hookups to fill the gaps. It is why so few of them consider themselves swingers I guess.
True "
I don't consider myself a swinger but that doesn't mean that I want a conventional monogamous relationship |
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