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how to get my gf into swinging?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I really want to get my girl into this and would love to watch her being shagged, but how do I go about this?? If any guys have managed to do it id really love some tips, and just tips from anyone! Thanks |
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"Suggested it 1 time on holiday but she didn't like the thought of me with another woman"
swinging is not something you get someone into...what are her fantasies...have u built trust with her so she will admit those things that turn her on...the very fact u re on here without her knowledge suggests u do not see sexual exploration as something you do together.
The couples you see here who it works for are ones for whom the others sexual pleasure is as, if not more important than their own...think about what that means, |
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We would suggest going to a good club (Ie one of the top 5 in the country) and not suggesting it as an idea to swing, but because you want to go somewhere where you can make out in a Jacuzzi, or some other similar fantasy.
You don't even have to push the actual swapping angle initially. This is the mistake too many people make.
Just go there, dance, have a good time, get horny and go home. If she likes it you go there again and take it from there.
Its much better to go gradually and see how you go than dive in at the deep end and put her off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really want to get my girl into this and would love to watch her being shagged, but how do I go about this?? If any guys have managed to do it id really love some tips, and just tips from anyone! Thanks"
Reading your profile, I'd say do NOT let your girlfriend see it in it's current guise as it's quite clear you are prepared to play away with or without her knowledge.
It is this key aspect of swinging that you need to grasp if you wish to involve your girlfriend in it, but before you do ask yourself this question: If your g/f agreed to give it a go and then found she liked it that much that she sought out some one on one fun with other men without you knowing about, could you accept it if you later found out?
if your answer is no, then you need to introduce her to swinging with a clear set of ground rules that you BOTH adhere to.
If your answer is yes, then you're a kinky fucker and send her round please. Ta.  |
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It would be more then your cock on a rope if I found you on here without me knowing!!
As others have said, you can't force her, chat about fantasy's you both have, not just yours. If the idea doesn't turn her on, then you are unlikely to ever get to see her being shagged by another. Unless you happen to walk in on her cheating on you. But I guess that's not quite what you were thinking of!! |
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Ask her! At least, put the idea in her mind. If she says 'no' then don't push her, she might be thinking about it; bring it up later and see if she's had a rethink.
Good luck, anyway... I suggested swinging to my ex wife and she was shocked and horrified, so didn't bring it up again. I suggested it to Rose just after we'd met and she was interested, so a while later I put on a swinger-club porn video and asked if she'd like to try it, and she said 'yes'. We've been swingers ever since! |
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Ask her if she has any sexual fantasies, followed by would you ever like to live out one of those fantasies?
Might not involve swinging to begin with, but could possibly be a step in the right direction.
"While we still can" was a was line used by my d*unken twin brother once.
- Al |
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By *om1noMan
over a year ago
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"Suggested it 1 time on holiday but she didn't like the thought of me with another woman"
Go for option of meeting a single guy, and see if you have any luck, as they say from little acorns big oaks grow |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I read this as you would like your GF to be involved in swinging for YOUR pleasure, you mention you would like to see her get shagged.
Apologies if I have misinterpreted and it is about her pleasure as well.
good luck |
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"We would suggest going to a good club (Ie one of the top 5 in the country) and not suggesting it as an idea to swing, but because you want to go somewhere where you can make out in a Jacuzzi, or some other similar fantasy.
You don't even have to push the actual swapping angle initially. This is the mistake too many people make.
Just go there, dance, have a good time, get horny and go home. If she likes it you go there again and take it from there.
Its much better to go gradually and see how you go than dive in at the deep end and put her off."
Isn't this known as grooming?
The sly deceit gives me the shivers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask her! At least, put the idea in her mind. If she says 'no' then don't push her, she might be thinking about it; bring it up later and see if she's had a rethink.
Good luck, anyway... I suggested swinging to my ex wife and she was shocked and horrified, so didn't bring it up again. I suggested it to Rose just after we'd met and she was interested, so a while later I put on a swinger-club porn video and asked if she'd like to try it, and she said 'yes'. We've been swingers ever since!"
new girfriend it is then! lol thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ask her if she has any sexual fantasies, followed by would you ever like to live out one of those fantasies?
Might not involve swinging to begin with, but could possibly be a step in the right direction.
"While we still can" was a was line used by my d*unken twin brother once.
- Al"
good idea will have to try it, thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Isn't this known as grooming?
The sly deceit gives me the shivers.
Fair point, but at least he didn't advise putting a mickey in her drink."
thats plan b! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Suggested it 1 time on holiday but she didn't like the thought of me with another woman
swinging is not something you get someone into...what are her fantasies...have u built trust with her so she will admit those things that turn her on...the very fact u re on here without her knowledge suggests u do not see sexual exploration as something you do together.
The couples you see here who it works for are ones for whom the others sexual pleasure is as, if not more important than their own...think about what that means,"
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By (user no longer on site)
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If she doesn't want to do it because she wouldn't like the thought of you with another woman then if you love and respect her you won't go behind her back trying to arrange a "shag". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she doesn't want to do it because she wouldn't like the thought of you with another woman then if you love and respect her you won't go behind her back trying to arrange a "shag". "
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"We would suggest going to a good club (Ie one of the top 5 in the country) and not suggesting it as an idea to swing, but because you want to go somewhere where you can make out in a Jacuzzi, or some other similar fantasy.
You don't even have to push the actual swapping angle initially. This is the mistake too many people make.
Just go there, dance, have a good time, get horny and go home. If she likes it you go there again and take it from there.
Its much better to go gradually and see how you go than dive in at the deep end and put her off.
Isn't this known as grooming?
The sly deceit gives me the shivers."
Erm, no we don't think so. We were not suggesting any kind of deceit at all.
Not everyone goes to a club for a full swap, in fact there is a huge percentage of people who go to swinging clubs who don't swap at all, they like watching, or being watched, or using the facilities, the social atmosphere, and some people just use it as a place they can shag away from their kids at home. We are simply suggesting that this might be a better way of giving her a more broader _iew of what the scene has to offer than suggesting a full on meet and take it from there.
The first time I was introduced to the scene was in this manner, I think if someone had proposed a full on, full swap with me, I would have been horrified. But the party scene gave me a completely different perspective on it, showed me the social side, the different types and wide ranging people who were there, and the different reasons they were there, none of which I would have got from a meet home which I suspect would have been a disaster.
Guess I was groomed then. Some older women are just evil obviously...  |
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"We would suggest going to a good club (Ie one of the top 5 in the country) and not suggesting it as an idea to swing, but because you want to go somewhere where you can make out in a Jacuzzi, or some other similar fantasy.
You don't even have to push the actual swapping angle initially. This is the mistake too many people make.
Just go there, dance, have a good time, get horny and go home. If she likes it you go there again and take it from there.
Its much better to go gradually and see how you go than dive in at the deep end and put her off.
Isn't this known as grooming?
The sly deceit gives me the shivers.
Erm, no we don't think so. We were not suggesting any kind of deceit at all.
Not everyone goes to a club for a full swap, in fact there is a huge percentage of people who go to swinging clubs who don't swap at all, they like watching, or being watched, or using the facilities, the social atmosphere, and some people just use it as a place they can shag away from their kids at home. We are simply suggesting that this might be a better way of giving her a more broader _iew of what the scene has to offer than suggesting a full on meet and take it from there.
The first time I was introduced to the scene was in this manner, I think if someone had proposed a full on, full swap with me, I would have been horrified. But the party scene gave me a completely different perspective on it, showed me the social side, the different types and wide ranging people who were there, and the different reasons they were there, none of which I would have got from a meet home which I suspect would have been a disaster.
Guess I was groomed then. Some older women are just evil obviously... "
i found the grooming comment a bit wierd, it was clear to me what you were suggesting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It needs to come from her and if it's not for her please don't force the issue. Maybe show her a porn film with a swinging theme and see if she likes it but this is not for everyone so respect her wishes or you could see yourself being dumped  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If she wont have any of it just tie her to the bed, blindfold her, invite some mates round and let them shag her. Make sure they've all got the same size cock as you and she wont know the difference.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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im almost sure if you dont know how to broach the subject with your OH it probably isnt the relationship to try it with.
imo only if you are able to talk to each other about anything and everything should you be able to enjoy this kind of hobby |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she wont have any of it just tie her to the bed, blindfold her, invite some mates round and let them shag her. Make sure they've all got the same size cock as you and she wont know the difference.
That how Siren got You started...?  "
Noooo, I went to a house party and a guy thanked me for fucking his wife. Felt kinda kinky and I took it from there.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"wonder what happened to the OP?
Either his Mrs ripped him a new one or they now have a couples profile. "
I'm chuckling away here. Got visions of his with his laptop wrapped round his head while the g/f storms off with steam coming out her ears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wonder what happened to the OP?
Either his Mrs ripped him a new one or they now have a couples profile.
I'm chuckling away here. Got visions of his with his laptop wrapped round his head while the g/f storms off with steam coming out her ears. "
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