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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t be fucked
Sometimes I’m in a good mood and I’ll send a nice reply explaining that I’m not interested. I’ve had abuse back, I’ve had the whole ‘why?’ ‘Oh go on give me a chance x’
Nah. Can’t be bothered with that.
No one is entitled to a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
Tut. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quoted from FAQs:
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
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"Quoted from FAQs:
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always reply, unless it’s something really disgusting, think it helps doughnut was a single bloke once.
However when I was single, i’d have to get a PA in to respond to everyone!! It’s just not feesible to respond to everyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
We get on average 60/90 emails a day
60 x 5 minutes to reply = 3 hours of our day wasted
Stop complaining & get over yourself,
Your not the center of the universe, |
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Because the majority of times I replied with a no thank you, I'd get abuse, pleading, or "oh let's be friends then (I'll revisit the benefits thing later)" as a response. Can't be dealing with it. Site rules exist for a reason. |
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Just because you meet their criteria op ,doesn't mean they will be attracted to you or your profile.
The best thing to do is delete messages from your outbox once sent.
Nobody has to reply to anyone
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
I strongly agree with you I got blocked after sending a face picture not a liitle as a no not our type that would be fine a little common courtesy wouldn't go a miss would it |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
I strongly agree with you I got blocked after sending a face picture not a liitle as a no not our type that would be fine a little common courtesy wouldn't go a miss would it "
Read the quote regarding FAQS above  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies.. I think lol
I completely appreciate everyone lives busy lives and it would take time to sift through hundreds of messages. But on one hand I’ve heard so many complaints about how people hate 1 liners, rude messages, people that clearly haven’t read the profile, don’t fit height, body type, race etc etc.
But on the other hand when someone has read the profile properly and puts together a reply that is suitable it’s ignored point blank. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
We get on average 60/90 emails a day
60 x 5 minutes to reply = 3 hours of our day wasted
Stop complaining & get over yourself,
Your not the center of the universe, "
Trust me I honestly don’t think I’m the centre of the universe. All I ask is for some manners and courtesy.
On the other hand well done with the maths work. I’m sure you were top of your class.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But how do you know they even read it before deleting? They might've looked at your profile and decided you weren't what they were looking for. No matter how good a message someone sends if you don't fancy them you don't fancy them so why waste time? A delete lets them know you're not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op it's called perogative,simply put it's their choice and like the ladies have said either they've a full box(no pun intended),your not what they're after or something better has piqued their interest or in fact your message just didn't stand out from the herd |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"But how do you know they even read it before deleting? They might've looked at your profile and decided you weren't what they were looking for. No matter how good a message someone sends if you don't fancy them you don't fancy them so why waste time? A delete lets them know you're not interested. "
That’s a really fair point. But most guys will relate to the fact you may send 100 messages and get 1/2 replies. I honestly don’t think 98/99% of people here don’t read their messages. Maybe some but not that many. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies.. I think lol
I completely appreciate everyone lives busy lives and it would take time to sift through hundreds of messages. But on one hand I’ve heard so many complaints about how people hate 1 liners, rude messages, people that clearly haven’t read the profile, don’t fit height, body type, race etc etc.
But on the other hand when someone has read the profile properly and puts together a reply that is suitable it’s ignored point blank."
You are simply not what they are looking for. |
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
We reply to almost everyone, except for crass messages (fancy sitting on this), those who clearly haven't read profile usually get a reply in the negative and those who say hi or similar get ignored and blocked if the profile is clearly at odds with what were looking for. Can't vouch for other people but it's nice to be nice if the message is fine but not our cup of Joe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
I strongly agree with you I got blocked after sending a face picture not a liitle as a no not our type that would be fine a little common courtesy wouldn't go a miss would it "
again it's called choice,why engage in meaningless conversation using up valuable messages on someone your not interested just get a grip pick yourself up and move on ,you got to remember lots have said no thanks not for me/us &the messenger then tried to start a dialogue of persuasion or abuse because they have been rejected |
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"Thanks for the replies.. I think lol
I completely appreciate everyone lives busy lives and it would take time to sift through hundreds of messages. But on one hand I’ve heard so many complaints about how people hate 1 liners, rude messages, people that clearly haven’t read the profile, don’t fit height, body type, race etc etc.
But on the other hand when someone has read the profile properly and puts together a reply that is suitable it’s ignored point blank."
I read all messages. If I've deleted, it means no thank you. End of story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies.. I think lol
I completely appreciate everyone lives busy lives and it would take time to sift through hundreds of messages. But on one hand I’ve heard so many complaints about how people hate 1 liners, rude messages, people that clearly haven’t read the profile, don’t fit height, body type, race etc etc.
But on the other hand when someone has read the profile properly and puts together a reply that is suitable it’s ignored point blank.
I read all messages. If I've deleted, it means no thank you. End of story. "
and there u go op your answer in a nutshell |
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
We get on average 60/90 emails a day
60 x 5 minutes to reply = 3 hours of our day wasted
Stop complaining & get over yourself,
Your not the center of the universe, "
5 minutes per message!, Slow typing or what. |
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Would a 'Thanks, but no thanks' message make a difference? The end result is still the same, and some people just wont accept that (no inference OP) so its just easier to delete.
When I first came on here I made a point of replying to every single message, I actually hit a limit on messages and had to wait 72 hours to be able to send any more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
I strongly agree with you I got blocked after sending a face picture not a liitle as a no not our type that would be fine a little common courtesy wouldn't go a miss would it again it's called choice,why engage in meaningless conversation using up valuable messages on someone your not interested just get a grip pick yourself up and move on ,you got to remember lots have said no thanks not for me/us &the messenger then tried to start a dialogue of persuasion or abuse because they have been rejected"
I totally understand that and I get that most men give out a lot of abuse it doesnt affect me in anyway I just think it's polite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always reply, unless I miss one in the rush. When I get too many messages coming in to comfortably reply to I block men, and take them off my "looking for", so I can deal with what's built up in my inbox.
I think I deserve a medal or something. |
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"Would a 'Thanks, but no thanks' message make a difference? The end result is still the same, and some people just wont accept that (no inference OP) so its just easier to delete.
When I first came on here I made a point of replying to every single message, I actually hit a limit on messages and had to wait 72 hours to be able to send any more"
And this too! I want to save my messages for people I want to talk to! |
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
We get on average 60/90 emails a day
60 x 5 minutes to reply = 3 hours of our day wasted
Stop complaining & get over yourself,
Your not the center of the universe,
5 minutes per message!, Slow typing or what."
Well you could cut and paste ... but then you'll be vilified for that too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
I strongly agree with you I got blocked after sending a face picture not a liitle as a no not our type that would be fine a little common courtesy wouldn't go a miss would it again it's called choice,why engage in meaningless conversation using up valuable messages on someone your not interested just get a grip pick yourself up and move on ,you got to remember lots have said no thanks not for me/us &the messenger then tried to start a dialogue of persuasion or abuse because they have been rejected
I totally understand that and I get that most men give out a lot of abuse it doesnt affect me in anyway I just think it's polite "
Most men don't give out a lot of abuse. Out of at least 1000 first messages I've declined I've had 4 bad responses, and one of them was from a couple's profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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YOU may think that you meet the criteria. That doesn't mean your intended recipient agrees with you.
Forget your outbox. It only decreases your fab experience. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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It's not rude; I don't respond to every bit of junk mail that i get through my letter box - even it is well written on the best paper. I could nailmy letter box shut but then I wouldn't get the mail from those that I want it from. Fab is the same, you may be able to send a message but you should accept that, regardless of how much effort you've put into writing it, some recipient's will still regaurd it as junk mail and not reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
We get on average 60/90 emails a day
60 x 5 minutes to reply = 3 hours of our day wasted
Stop complaining & get over yourself,
Your not the center of the universe, "
Nothing in his opening post suggests he thinks he is the centre of the universe.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
I strongly agree with you I got blocked after sending a face picture not a liitle as a no not our type that would be fine a little common courtesy wouldn't go a miss would it again it's called choice,why engage in meaningless conversation using up valuable messages on someone your not interested just get a grip pick yourself up and move on ,you got to remember lots have said no thanks not for me/us &the messenger then tried to start a dialogue of persuasion or abuse because they have been rejected
I totally understand that and I get that most men give out a lot of abuse it doesnt affect me in anyway I just think it's polite
Most men don't give out a lot of abuse. Out of at least 1000 first messages I've declined I've had 4 bad responses, and one of them was from a couple's profile.
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Fair enough I take it back my bad |
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OP of you received 98 "no thanks" replies for every 100 messages you sent would it really make you feel better?
The end result is still the same - you're not getting a fuck!
My thoughts are that if this was the case you would be back on here whining about all the rejections |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they can't be arsed to reply to a message imagine what they will be like in bed "
Just laying there like a sack of spuds while they bask in there own smugness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
We get on average 60/90 emails a day
60 x 5 minutes to reply = 3 hours of our day wasted
Stop complaining & get over yourself,
Your not the center of the universe, "
*You’re
As we all know it’s couples that are the centre of the universe. We bow down before thee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they can't be arsed to reply to a message imagine what they will be like in bed
Just laying there like a sack of spuds while they bask in there own smugness. "
Thinking the other person has to do all the work. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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Two things in my opinion that make for the best chances of a reply. That’s timing and a clever title, after all the contents of the message mean nothing if it’s not got an eyecatching title or if it’s buried in the midst of a hundred others. Time it well and it will be glaring them in the face standing out with the heading.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies.. I think lol
I completely appreciate everyone lives busy lives and it would take time to sift through hundreds of messages. But on one hand I’ve heard so many complaints about how people hate 1 liners, rude messages, people that clearly haven’t read the profile, don’t fit height, body type, race etc etc.
But on the other hand when someone has read the profile properly and puts together a reply that is suitable it’s ignored point blank."
I agree, a decent message should get a reply. But if they don't, you know they're not the kind of people you want to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always reply, unless I miss one in the rush. When I get too many messages coming in to comfortably reply to I block men, and take them off my "looking for", so I can deal with what's built up in my inbox.
I think I deserve a medal or something."
I'd give you one.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always reply, unless I miss one in the rush. When I get too many messages coming in to comfortably reply to I block men, and take them off my "looking for", so I can deal with what's built up in my inbox.
I think I deserve a medal or something.
I'd give you one. "
Ooh matron  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Two things in my opinion that make for the best chances of a reply. That’s timing and a clever title, after all the contents of the message mean nothing if it’s not got an eyecatching title or if it’s buried in the midst of a hundred others. Time it well and it will be glaring them in the face standing out with the heading.
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A hot bod or sexy face could message me with a hi, and I'll reply. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"But how do you know they even read it before deleting? They might've looked at your profile and decided you weren't what they were looking for. No matter how good a message someone sends if you don't fancy them you don't fancy them so why waste time? A delete lets them know you're not interested.
That’s a really fair point. But most guys will relate to the fact you may send 100 messages and get 1/2 replies. I honestly don’t think 98/99% of people here don’t read their messages. Maybe some but not that many. "
Why are you sending 100 messages?!
As lots of others have said and others will no doubt reiterate; you're not owed a reply. Well done for writing tailored messages and being respectful in them, however expecting a reply and a gold star for behaving like a decent human being isn't really behaving respectfully and decently is it?
No one is entitled to anything, no response isn't rude, it's just a "no thanks".
No matter how well written your message is, if the recipient doesn't find you attractive, it really doesn't matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two things in my opinion that make for the best chances of a reply. That’s timing and a clever title, after all the contents of the message mean nothing if it’s not got an eyecatching title or if it’s buried in the midst of a hundred others. Time it well and it will be glaring them in the face standing out with the heading.
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Nice try, but it’s none of these things. It’s being hot, if you’re hot they will reply whatever you write within reason. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
I don’t get swamped with messages and I still don’t bother to reply to most messages. Feel free to block me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But how do you know they even read it before deleting? They might've looked at your profile and decided you weren't what they were looking for. No matter how good a message someone sends if you don't fancy them you don't fancy them so why waste time? A delete lets them know you're not interested.
That’s a really fair point. But most guys will relate to the fact you may send 100 messages and get 1/2 replies. I honestly don’t think 98/99% of people here don’t read their messages. Maybe some but not that many.
Why are you sending 100 messages?!
As lots of others have said and others will no doubt reiterate; you're not owed a reply. Well done for writing tailored messages and being respectful in them, however expecting a reply and a gold star for behaving like a decent human being isn't really behaving respectfully and decently is it?
No one is entitled to anything, no response isn't rude, it's just a "no thanks".
No matter how well written your message is, if the recipient doesn't find you attractive, it really doesn't matter. "
I would send 100 messages if I could be arsed to send any. I don't have a type, and I have to see a face to determine attraction, so, I would need to say hello and see a face pic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538
Read and follow, treat it as your Fab Bible. And stop throwing your toys out of the pram just because you don't get replies. |
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
Most girls/ couples get hundreds of messages
Here's my last example of why we can't always reply
Me "thank you for your message, we are fine though and not currently looking for single guy, take care"
Single guy "so when your looking what are you after?"
Me "not at this time, thank you"
Single guy "bu t i just see your profile and I like being filmed, what roleplay is it you like "
Me "I only tell people I am or thinking of meeting"
Single guy "I can massage you and your husband can watch"
Me " no thank you"
Single guy "so when do you normally see guys?"
Me "please leave me alone"
Single guy "I am so horny"
Me "goodbye"
Single guy "i see you are going to club on Friday - meet for pre drinks?"
Me "No thank you"
Single guy "If you don't like me I will leave after drink"
Me "blocked"
Single guy on KIK
"Hello, have you left fab"
That OP is why we don't have time. It's not everyone but this is more common then you can imagine
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
Most girls/ couples get hundreds of messages
Here's my last example of why we can't always reply
Me "thank you for your message, we are fine though and not currently looking for single guy, take care"
Single guy "so when your looking what are you after?"
Me "not at this time, thank you"
Single guy "bu t i just see your profile and I like being filmed, what roleplay is it you like "
Me "I only tell people I am or thinking of meeting"
Single guy "I can massage you and your husband can watch"
Me " no thank you"
Single guy "so when do you normally see guys?"
Me "please leave me alone"
Single guy "I am so horny"
Me "goodbye"
Single guy "i see you are going to club on Friday - meet for pre drinks?"
Me "No thank you"
Single guy "If you don't like me I will leave after drink"
Me "blocked"
Single guy on KIK
"Hello, have you left fab"
That OP is why we don't have time. It's not everyone but this is more common then you can imagine
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Why do you keep replying after you said no thank you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they can't be arsed to reply to a message imagine what they will be like in bed
Just laying there like a sack of spuds while they bask in there own smugness. "
Oh are we meant to move?
I though you just lift your nighty and spread em and let them do 2 pumps and a squirt! I must be doing it all wrong!  |
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"If they can't be arsed to reply to a message imagine what they will be like in bed
Just laying there like a sack of spuds while they bask in there own smugness.
Oh are we meant to move?
I though you just lift your nighty and spread em and let them do 2 pumps and a squirt! I must be doing it all wrong! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
Most girls/ couples get hundreds of messages
Here's my last example of why we can't always reply
Me "thank you for your message, we are fine though and not currently looking for single guy, take care"
Single guy "so when your looking what are you after?"
Me "not at this time, thank you"
Single guy "bu t i just see your profile and I like being filmed, what roleplay is it you like "
Me "I only tell people I am or thinking of meeting"
Single guy "I can massage you and your husband can watch"
Me " no thank you"
Single guy "so when do you normally see guys?"
Me "please leave me alone"
Single guy "I am so horny"
Me "goodbye"
Single guy "i see you are going to club on Friday - meet for pre drinks?"
Me "No thank you"
Single guy "If you don't like me I will leave after drink"
Me "blocked"
Single guy on KIK
"Hello, have you left fab"
That OP is why we don't have time. It's not everyone but this is more common then you can imagine
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You have to block after saying no. I tell them they are not what I'm looking for. That way they don't get the idea they might be, at a later date. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they can't be arsed to reply to a message imagine what they will be like in bed
Just laying there like a sack of spuds while they bask in there own smugness.
Oh are we meant to move?
I though you just lift your nighty and spread em and let them do 2 pumps and a squirt! I must be doing it all wrong! "
They are supposed to lift your nighty for you. |
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"https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538
Read and follow, treat it as your Fab Bible. And stop throwing your toys out of the pram just because you don't get replies. "
Just read that thread and it is brilliant.
More people should read it. It should be recommended on joining fab.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok say u get 50 random messages a day also have established friends who u know u like of even fuck who u have regular too and fro conversations with most of the day
It takes say 10 secs to look at each of there messages as well as maybe 30 secs to respond to each one of there friends thats before reading the drivel some of the crazys send as well as the genuine essays some send at the same time your still having a conversation with friends and doing work housework or whatever never mind the forum threads there possibly involved in
Now you see how much time would have to be dedecated to answering random well thought out messages
My advise buck up kid stop twittering and move on there not being rude they just have lives
Ps my finger now hurts from typing  |
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"Ok say u get 50 random messages a day also have established friends who u know u like of even fuck who u have regular too and fro conversations with most of the day
It takes say 10 secs to look at each of there messages as well as maybe 30 secs to respond to each one of there friends thats before reading the drivel some of the crazys send as well as the genuine essays some send at the same time your still having a conversation with friends and doing work housework or whatever never mind the forum threads there possibly involved in
Now you see how much time would have to be dedecated to answering random well thought out messages
My advise buck up kid stop twittering and move on there not being rude they just have lives
Ps my finger now hurts from typing "
Really do you ladies do you get the brunt of it well hey that is the law of averages on here. And if after all that I get a reply I think that’s a little lucky  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
it's the never ending whinge ,so many complain about it but the nature of the beast is that they can't reply to everyone, not enough hours in the day ,you'll just have to get used to it |
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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
Same with people who don't use the forum search facility for threads and questions before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But how do you know they even read it before deleting? They might've looked at your profile and decided you weren't what they were looking for. No matter how good a message someone sends if you don't fancy them you don't fancy them so why waste time? A delete lets them know you're not interested. "
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
Same with people who don't use the forum search facility for threads and questions before. "
Or the site FAQs that explain how this works. |
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It's a bit like coming into someone's house and complaining about the house rules. If the rules in the house say take your shoes off, take your shoes off.
The house rules here include delete without reply means no thank you. End of. |
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
You've mailed me twice
You don't meet my 'criteria'
I don't reply to people who can't read my profile.
I'm not the rude one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because the majority of times I replied with a no thank you, I'd get abuse, pleading, or "oh let's be friends then (I'll revisit the benefits thing later)" as a response. Can't be dealing with it. Site rules exist for a reason. "
This is exactly why! Couldn’t have said it better! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started life here replying to every message as I like to think I'm polite. Amazing how I have changed, sometimes I reply depending on my mood, but often I don't |
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"I started life here replying to every message as I like to think I'm polite. Amazing how I have changed, sometimes I reply depending on my mood, but often I don't "
Me too. The bad sizeable minority and appalling few ruin it for everyone else. |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
You've mailed me twice
You don't meet my 'criteria'
I don't reply to people who can't read my profile.
I'm not the rude one "
case closed. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
You've mailed me twice
You don't meet my 'criteria'
I don't reply to people who can't read my profile.
I'm not the rude one
case closed. "
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"I started life here replying to every message as I like to think I'm polite. Amazing how I have changed, sometimes I reply depending on my mood, but often I don't
Me too. The bad sizeable minority and appalling few ruin it for everyone else. "
I thought so bloody bad people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
Experiment, for you why dont you respond to every thread in the i introductions forum? |
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"Jesus it was only a question lol
You haven't replied to many of the posters on here, it's the same thing really it's nowhere near same thing "
It is. We all approached him with the idea of interaction and it's ignorant not to respond. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Jesus it was only a question lol
You haven't replied to many of the posters on here, it's the same thing really it's nowhere near same thing
It is. We all approached him with the idea of interaction and it's ignorant not to respond."
Yes don't start a thread if you are not prepared to respond to people who have taken the time to reply to you |
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1 thing that single men here in particular need to accept is that you will need to send many messages over a long period of time, mainly getting no response or meets - and to keep your sanity and determination up. Those who can't or won't are not suited to being here and are better finding some other way to meet people. |
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
I always reply. But then no one really messaged us! Lol
Smile, if they don’t bother replying you’ve had a lucky escape xx NEXT |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
Fuck you 
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Joking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude!
We get on average 60/90 emails a day
60 x 5 minutes to reply = 3 hours of our day wasted
Stop complaining & get over yourself,
Your not the center of the universe, "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That people can’t use some basic manners and send you a reply on here. I appreciate women and couples get swamped with messages, but those guys that actually take the time to read a profile and meet the ‘criteria’ for someone doesn’t even get a polite message back.
Damn rude! "
Use your imagination OP, I don't send messages, but if I did, I would imagine a carlsberg style reply along the lines of:-
"If only I had the body confidence to meet someone as perfect as you. Your message has encouraged me on a journey to improve my self to a point where I could meet you and shag your brains out.
Hope you are still there when I achieve this nirvana xx"
So much better than the "no chance fatty" that they would actually reply 
No reply = No interest, simple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jesus it was only a question lol"
An ignorant one, so accept the responses you're getting.
Would you reply to 500 messages in a day? No. It's unfair to say " thanks, but no thanks" to some and not others. Most people say a delete is their way of saying no thankyou. Unread is exactly that. Unread. It's not rocket science. |
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