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over a year ago
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Seen a couple of threads about figures and weight as of late, I know they crop up often. Rather than get hooked up on hook ups..
I'd rather talk about body confidence. Anyone can have it, anyone can lose it, anyone can get it back again. Any age, any gender, any figure, any person.
I find it helps taking the time to get to know the people you want to have sex with. Be honest, tell them what you're scared of, show those crap tats off, let us see your scars, your stretch marks and c-sections.
Most of all, let us see what's on the inside. That way you can trust in the fact that we fancy YOU, trust our lust is sincere and that there is NOTHING for you to feel self conscious about, would I be here with you if they were??
Not everyone's going to love it, but that's fine, there are enough who will. They'll be more beautiful to you for it. Be confident, be you.
My cat meme for the day.
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I find confidence, including body confidence, comes from within. The difficult painful psychological work, sorting out your crap. I was probably stunningly beautiful 10 years ago, I was definitely thin. Now the wrinkles are beginning to be visible and I'm very definitely not thin, I'm more confident than I've ever been. Because I accept myself. |
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"I find confidence, including body confidence, comes from within. The difficult painful psychological work, sorting out your crap. I was probably stunningly beautiful 10 years ago, I was definitely thin. Now the wrinkles are beginning to be visible and I'm very definitely not thin, I'm more confident than I've ever been. Because I accept myself. "
YES.. and I bet you probably move sexier for having that self acceptance, may be more so than you did as a younger woman? More genuinely at least? |
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"I find confidence, including body confidence, comes from within. The difficult painful psychological work, sorting out your crap. I was probably stunningly beautiful 10 years ago, I was definitely thin. Now the wrinkles are beginning to be visible and I'm very definitely not thin, I'm more confident than I've ever been. Because I accept myself.
YES.. and I bet you probably move sexier for having that self acceptance, may be more so than you did as a younger woman? More genuinely at least?"
I have no idea, and I don't care. It's not about anyone else. |
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"I find confidence, including body confidence, comes from within. The difficult painful psychological work, sorting out your crap. I was probably stunningly beautiful 10 years ago, I was definitely thin. Now the wrinkles are beginning to be visible and I'm very definitely not thin, I'm more confident than I've ever been. Because I accept myself.
YES.. and I bet you probably move sexier for having that self acceptance, may be more so than you did as a younger woman? More genuinely at least?
I have no idea, and I don't care. It's not about anyone else. "
No it's not. |
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The who you're with makes a huge difference to certain things too.
I'm pretty confident with my body for the most part, however I've let B see me at my most minging, and it doesn't worry me that he'll look at me differently, I feel like he thinks "oh gawd, she's off again the nutter"
The rawness shows him a different side to me (admittedly one that doesn't see the light of day (or human eye) very often
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"Damn... thought this was a Beastie Boys thread...
Would have been so good if it was.. you do that and I'll join in..
intergalactic planetary "
My other hip-hop thread is a bit dead so there can't be many fans... saying that Beastie Boys were in a class of their own!  RIP MCA |
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I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X |
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"The who you're with makes a huge difference to certain things too.
I'm pretty confident with my body for the most part, however I've let B see me at my most minging, and it doesn't worry me that he'll look at me differently, I feel like he thinks "oh gawd, she's off again the nutter"
The rawness shows him a different side to me (admittedly one that doesn't see the light of day (or human eye) very often
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You trust him 100% so have no fear. |
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"One of my scars is on show... just wish the little piggie would come home now... 
ahh man! how'd you lose that little squealer! "
I tell people a Shark attack. Even told Steven Mulhern when I got filmed pulling off my other finger for his show. Didn't show it though. I actually cut the lowet tendon on a window handle while pulling it it snapped. Big gash out of my finger. Didn't hurt so I left it a couple of days then went to hospital. Cut the tendon. Had it fixed and it snapped again during physio. It was permanently bent at 90° for 6 years so had it chopped off. |
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"Damn... thought this was a Beastie Boys thread...
Would have been so good if it was.. you do that and I'll join in..
intergalactic planetary
My other hip-hop thread is a bit dead so there can't be many fans... saying that Beastie Boys were in a class of their own! RIP MCA "
off to search for hip hop thread.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The who you're with makes a huge difference to certain things too.
I'm pretty confident with my body for the most part, however I've let B see me at my most minging, and it doesn't worry me that he'll look at me differently, I feel like he thinks "oh gawd, she's off again the nutter"
The rawness shows him a different side to me (admittedly one that doesn't see the light of day (or human eye) very often
P
You trust him 100% so have no fear. "
That's it exactly 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Damn... thought this was a Beastie Boys thread...
Would have been so good if it was.. you do that and I'll join in..
intergalactic planetary
My other hip-hop thread is a bit dead so there can't be many fans... saying that Beastie Boys were in a class of their own! RIP MCA
off to search for hip hop thread.. "
You wont find it I'll bump it as the title isn't fitting for this thread.  |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X"
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru. |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru. "
My ex was very body conscious and no matter what I said to her she wouldn't 100% belive me. I told her she looked beautiful any chance I could... her previous boyfriends put her down a lot which scarred her deeply. Very sad she is an amazing person and extremely beautiful! |
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I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru. "
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it! |
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends "
Yaaaaay |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!"
I remember being about five and wondering why I wasn't pretty like the other girls at school. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
Yaaaaay "
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"One of my scars is on show... just wish the little piggie would come home now...
ahh man! how'd you lose that little squealer!
I tell people a Shark attack. Even told Steven Mulhern when I got filmed pulling off my other finger for his show. Didn't show it though. I actually cut the lowet tendon on a window handle while pulling it it snapped. Big gash out of my finger. Didn't hurt so I left it a couple of days then went to hospital. Cut the tendon. Had it fixed and it snapped again during physio. It was permanently bent at 90° for 6 years so had it chopped off. "
Oh my goooooood! Do you get phantom finger? I make up shit about my scars then drop the lame reason I've a line running down my side and another round my ankle. Not body conscious about them, just wish they were shark attacks or bear swipes |
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I think too many on here have a 'any hole's a goal' attitude so I'm always wary. I don't think many who send messages based on pics of me would give me a second glance in a bar. That's not a lack of confidence, it's just the nature of this site.
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I'm way more confident as I've stopped caring what others think so much. My hair is grey and I've put on 2 stone over the last 3 years and that's just the way it is. I'd still do me... |
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends "
I need to work on my psychological work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
I remember being about five and wondering why I wasn't pretty like the other girls at school. "
The problem is I knew that I was an ok looking girl and never had a lack of friends or boys interested but to be told I’d be pretty IF I lost weight just fucked me up weight wise x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!"
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
I remember being about five and wondering why I wasn't pretty like the other girls at school. "
I felt like that all through school.. and the last 10yrs. Not my body though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One of my scars is on show... just wish the little piggie would come home now...
ahh man! how'd you lose that little squealer!
I tell people a Shark attack. Even told Steven Mulhern when I got filmed pulling off my other finger for his show. Didn't show it though. I actually cut the lowet tendon on a window handle while pulling it it snapped. Big gash out of my finger. Didn't hurt so I left it a couple of days then went to hospital. Cut the tendon. Had it fixed and it snapped again during physio. It was permanently bent at 90° for 6 years so had it chopped off.
Oh my goooooood! Do you get phantom finger? I make up shit about my scars then drop the lame reason I've a line running down my side and another round my ankle. Not body conscious about them, just wish they were shark attacks or bear swipes "
I did the first few months. The top of my finger used to itch like mad! Scars tell a story about your life. Some are more visible than others... I love scars you can have a lethal weapon moment civvy style. |
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"I think too many on here have a 'any hole's a goal' attitude so I'm always wary. I don't think many who send messages based on pics of me would give me a second glance in a bar. That's not a lack of confidence, it's just the nature of this site.
V x"
YES, but my point is.. you make your own nature on a site like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x"
That’s a lovely way of putting it actually, thank you xxx |
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work "
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned. |
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You get to about 40 and look back and realise you weren't as awful looking as you had thought. But now you have wrinkles and eye bags and greying hair to contend with so you still feel as awful as you imagined but just with a little bit of an Oh Bugger it attitude I'll soon be dead, lets just carry on  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
I remember being about five and wondering why I wasn't pretty like the other girls at school.
The problem is I knew that I was an ok looking girl and never had a lack of friends or boys interested but to be told I’d be pretty IF I lost weight just fucked me up weight wise x"
Same.. but I just lacked confidence.. in general. Not because of my body. Bullied. Left school.. confidence returned.. joined army.. got arrogant.. |
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"One of my scars is on show... just wish the little piggie would come home now...
ahh man! how'd you lose that little squealer!
I tell people a Shark attack. Even told Steven Mulhern when I got filmed pulling off my other finger for his show. Didn't show it though. I actually cut the lowet tendon on a window handle while pulling it it snapped. Big gash out of my finger. Didn't hurt so I left it a couple of days then went to hospital. Cut the tendon. Had it fixed and it snapped again during physio. It was permanently bent at 90° for 6 years so had it chopped off.
Oh my goooooood! Do you get phantom finger? I make up shit about my scars then drop the lame reason I've a line running down my side and another round my ankle. Not body conscious about them, just wish they were shark attacks or bear swipes
I did the first few months. The top of my finger used to itch like mad! Scars tell a story about your life. Some are more visible than others... I love scars you can have a lethal weapon moment civvy style. "
Jaws.. three men in a boat scene  |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x
That’s a lovely way of putting it actually, thank you xxx"
Only meet people like them.. and me  your body confidence nay soar.. Mr will be happy his favourite thing just got favouriter |
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned."
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. |
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"You get to about 40 and look back and realise you weren't as awful looking as you had thought. But now you have wrinkles and eye bags and greying hair to contend with so you still feel as awful as you imagined but just with a little bit of an Oh Bugger it attitude I'll soon be dead, lets just carry on "
Is that how you pull it off? Everything's just so 'Casually sexy' sexy with you isn't it? |
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"I'm way more confident as I've stopped caring what others think so much. My hair is grey and I've put on 2 stone over the last 3 years and that's just the way it is. I'd still do me...
Same as I'd still do you too.. and me, I'm a great shag I’m a shit shag "
Would you shag yourself though? |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x
That’s a lovely way of putting it actually, thank you xxx
Only meet people like them.. and me your body confidence nay soar.. Mr will be happy his favourite thing just got favouriter "
You have made me smile x |
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken."
yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x
That’s a lovely way of putting it actually, thank you xxx
Only meet people like them.. and me your body confidence nay soar.. Mr will be happy his favourite thing just got favouriter
You have made me smile x"
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I spent my younger thinner years thinking I was fat, flitting from one diet to another, had zero body confidence.
Had kids later on in life, spent the next decade bringing them up and eating whatever I liked. Didn’t care what anyone else thought about me and confidence grew & grew, right up until last year when it started to dip.
Age related hormones, gravity conspiring against me resulting in a body that feels rather alien. However I do know I can get my confidence mojo back, I’ve started already, it’s just going to be a longer journey this time around.
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"I'm way more confident as I've stopped caring what others think so much. My hair is grey and I've put on 2 stone over the last 3 years and that's just the way it is. I'd still do me...
Same as I'd still do you too.. and me, I'm a great shag I’m a shit shag
Would you shag yourself though?"
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel "
I do that too.. I want to help. Heals me in the process, but it's not why I do it. I dunno why I do it though.. I'm not sure I'm arsed enough to find out. If it's good, don't tinker |
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel "
Yes yes yes, Doc, that's really you. You're awesome
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x
That’s a lovely way of putting it actually, thank you xxx
Only meet people like them.. and me your body confidence nay soar.. Mr will be happy his favourite thing just got favouriter
You have made me smile x
Good, done something right today then "
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel
I do that too.. I want to help. Heals me in the process, but it's not why I do it. I dunno why I do it though.. I'm not sure I'm arsed enough to find out. If it's good, don't tinker "
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x
That’s a lovely way of putting it actually, thank you xxx
Only meet people like them.. and me your body confidence nay soar.. Mr will be happy his favourite thing just got favouriter
You have made me smile x"
If you're feeling blue, re-read this, coz every word is true.
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over a year ago
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"I spent my younger thinner years thinking I was fat, flitting from one diet to another, had zero body confidence.
Had kids later on in life, spent the next decade bringing them up and eating whatever I liked. Didn’t care what anyone else thought about me and confidence grew & grew, right up until last year when it started to dip.
Age related hormones, gravity conspiring against me resulting in a body that feels rather alien. However I do know I can get my confidence mojo back, I’ve started already, it’s just going to be a longer journey this time around.
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You strike me as a very confident person. It's surprising to hear that's how you currently feel about your body. Thanks for sharing. I suspect it's only temporary, because you're full of the natural drive to do what you need to, for you to feel how you want. You have the mental toolkit, I think x I like what I see though , inside and out 
Lamposting out the window.. give a damn what others think now |
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over a year ago
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel
Yes yes yes, Doc, that's really you. You're awesome
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel
I do that too.. I want to help. Heals me in the process, but it's not why I do it. I dunno why I do it though.. I'm not sure I'm arsed enough to find out. If it's good, don't tinker
I traced why do what I do back to my teenage years. When I did my life made sense...I could then act with purpose."
I'm not sure I want to.. but that makes sense. |
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"I don’t think I will ever have body confidence I hate my own body, however I accept now that not everyone else hates it ! I know I’m a good person and I love looking after people, I am fairly confident in me as a person if that makes sense?! X
ofcourse it does.. I've massively oversimplified things. If you only ever met men who loved your body as it is.. would that not make you start to see it like they do?
In fairness.. I've only had mild, temporary body confidence issues, still do. So I'm no guru.
The dislike for my body started way before I ever dating, I was a slim girl in my very early teens like a size 12 max and was told by family I would be pretty if I lost a few lbs Dave loves my body and gets cross when I say bad things about it!
You're bad mouthing his favourite thing by the sounds of it. You've lots of very nice veris from other people who think it's also rather nice. That you're both nice people as well x
That’s a lovely way of putting it actually, thank you xxx
Only meet people like them.. and me your body confidence nay soar.. Mr will be happy his favourite thing just got favouriter
You have made me smile x
If you're feeling blue, re-read this, coz every word is true.
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel
I do that too.. I want to help. Heals me in the process, but it's not why I do it. I dunno why I do it though.. I'm not sure I'm arsed enough to find out. If it's good, don't tinker
I traced why do what I do back to my teenage years. When I did my life made sense...I could then act with purpose.
I'm not sure I want to.. but that makes sense. "
It was very therapeutic I used an autobiographical approach based on developmental psychology. It was enlightening, creative, emotional but immensely enjoyable. I was fortunate to do the exploration with a loving group of what became truly good friends that both challenged and supported me during the journey. Transformational!!! |
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"You get to about 40 and look back and realise you weren't as awful looking as you had thought. But now you have wrinkles and eye bags and greying hair to contend with so you still feel as awful as you imagined but just with a little bit of an Oh Bugger it attitude I'll soon be dead, lets just carry on
Is that how you pull it off? Everything's just so 'Casually sexy' sexy with you isn't it? "
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel
I do that too.. I want to help. Heals me in the process, but it's not why I do it. I dunno why I do it though.. I'm not sure I'm arsed enough to find out. If it's good, don't tinker
I traced why do what I do back to my teenage years. When I did my life made sense...I could then act with purpose.
I'm not sure I want to.. but that makes sense.
It was very therapeutic I used an autobiographical approach based on developmental psychology. It was enlightening, creative, emotional but immensely enjoyable. I was fortunate to do the exploration with a loving group of what became truly good friends that both challenged and supported me during the journey. Transformational!!!"
That sounds like swinging to me baby |
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"I think I’m actually better looking than I was 20 years ago. I weigh less, I’m fitter, weigh 2 stone less, have a healthier diet, no longer smoke, and like myself more. I know myself better and feel very comfortable in my own skin. The psychological work I did in my 30s is now really paying dividends
I need to work on my psychological work
It’s well worth it. I was very fortunate that mine was as part of my post grad studies and then with a colleague from my course. So it was a natural progression for the work I do. However I learned so much in such a relatively short time it’s taken 20 odd years to integrate a lot of the learning and I’m still doing that and probably will be for life. However it gave me such a choose grounding that any psychological challenge I enjoy facing now. My most difficult was my most recent but we came through that unscathed thanks to applying a lot of what I had learned.
You sound grounded.. and intelligent.
I don't think I'm doing so bad.. just taken a different path and a bit further behind for it. Battered, Bruised but Unbroken. yep I found that my path is that of a wounded healer, because of the stuff I work through I am more capable of helping others to grow too. Your willingness to share your vulnerabilities is a great strength. Your path will be a very worthwhile one to travel
I do that too.. I want to help. Heals me in the process, but it's not why I do it. I dunno why I do it though.. I'm not sure I'm arsed enough to find out. If it's good, don't tinker
I traced why do what I do back to my teenage years. When I did my life made sense...I could then act with purpose.
I'm not sure I want to.. but that makes sense.
It was very therapeutic I used an autobiographical approach based on developmental psychology. It was enlightening, creative, emotional but immensely enjoyable. I was fortunate to do the exploration with a loving group of what became truly good friends that both challenged and supported me during the journey. Transformational!!!
That sounds like swinging to me baby "
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"Seen a couple of threads about figures and weight as of late, I know they crop up often. Rather than get hooked up on hook ups..
I'd rather talk about body confidence. Anyone can have it, anyone can lose it, anyone can get it back again. Any age, any gender, any figure, any person.
I find it helps taking the time to get to know the people you want to have sex with. Be honest, tell them what you're scared of, show those crap tats off, let us see your scars, your stretch marks and c-sections.
Most of all, let us see what's on the inside. That way you can trust in the fact that we fancy YOU, trust our lust is sincere and that there is NOTHING for you to feel self conscious about, would I be here with you if they were??
Not everyone's going to love it, but that's fine, there are enough who will. They'll be more beautiful to you for it. Be confident, be you.
My cat meme for the day.
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"You get to about 40 and look back and realise you weren't as awful looking as you had thought. But now you have wrinkles and eye bags and greying hair to contend with so you still feel as awful as you imagined but just with a little bit of an Oh Bugger it attitude I'll soon be dead, lets just carry on
Is that how you pull it off? Everything's just so 'Casually sexy' sexy with you isn't it?
Age brings resilience and I have to try and believe the positive body image mantra I preach to my daughters. "
Judging by all your photos, I don't see any reason why you'd struggle believing that. I think you're probably an excellent role model just how you are. If the glimpse of your personality in here is anything to go by. |
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"Seen a couple of threads about figures and weight as of late, I know they crop up often. Rather than get hooked up on hook ups..
I'd rather talk about body confidence. Anyone can have it, anyone can lose it, anyone can get it back again. Any age, any gender, any figure, any person.
I find it helps taking the time to get to know the people you want to have sex with. Be honest, tell them what you're scared of, show those crap tats off, let us see your scars, your stretch marks and c-sections.
Most of all, let us see what's on the inside. That way you can trust in the fact that we fancy YOU, trust our lust is sincere and that there is NOTHING for you to feel self conscious about, would I be here with you if they were??
Not everyone's going to love it, but that's fine, there are enough who will. They'll be more beautiful to you for it. Be confident, be you.
My cat meme for the day.
What a commendable post, and lovely to read. Thank you. "
Easier to write for me than answering yours |
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Perhaps less confidence than resigned acceptance really.
I managed to lose over 6 stone in 6 months, and my waist from 44 to 34, which helped, consider I'm distinctly average but no longer that fat guy who used to hide in the background. I'm never going to be anything other than I am, but then if what's on the outside doesn't attract others, I can live with that. Maybe what's on the inside may be a little more interesting.....
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"Seen a couple of threads about figures and weight as of late, I know they crop up often. Rather than get hooked up on hook ups..
I'd rather talk about body confidence. Anyone can have it, anyone can lose it, anyone can get it back again. Any age, any gender, any figure, any person.
I find it helps taking the time to get to know the people you want to have sex with. Be honest, tell them what you're scared of, show those crap tats off, let us see your scars, your stretch marks and c-sections.
Most of all, let us see what's on the inside. That way you can trust in the fact that we fancy YOU, trust our lust is sincere and that there is NOTHING for you to feel self conscious about, would I be here with you if they were??
Not everyone's going to love it, but that's fine, there are enough who will. They'll be more beautiful to you for it. Be confident, be you.
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What a commendable post, and lovely to read. Thank you.
Easier to write for me than answering yours "
I tried that fucker 3 times and got stuck on clean and dirty 
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"Perhaps less confidence than resigned acceptance really.
I managed to lose over 6 stone in 6 months, and my waist from 44 to 34, which helped, consider I'm distinctly average but no longer that fat guy who used to hide in the background. I'm never going to be anything other than I am, but then if what's on the outside doesn't attract others, I can live with that. Maybe what's on the inside may be a little more interesting.....
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"Perhaps less confidence than resigned acceptance really.
I managed to lose over 6 stone in 6 months, and my waist from 44 to 34, which helped, consider I'm distinctly average but no longer that fat guy who used to hide in the background. I'm never going to be anything other than I am, but then if what's on the outside doesn't attract others, I can live with that. Maybe what's on the inside may be a little more interesting.....
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There are enough of us out there in all shapes and sizes.. that it doesn't overly matter which size you are when it comes to sex. We're all so different that there is someone for everyone. So wear whatever you are, however it's hung.. someone's going to like it.. the hard bit is believing that.. but you won't, till you do it.
Some people learn that young. Some far too late.
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"Seen a couple of threads about figures and weight as of late, I know they crop up often. Rather than get hooked up on hook ups..
I'd rather talk about body confidence. Anyone can have it, anyone can lose it, anyone can get it back again. Any age, any gender, any figure, any person.
I find it helps taking the time to get to know the people you want to have sex with. Be honest, tell them what you're scared of, show those crap tats off, let us see your scars, your stretch marks and c-sections.
Most of all, let us see what's on the inside. That way you can trust in the fact that we fancy YOU, trust our lust is sincere and that there is NOTHING for you to feel self conscious about, would I be here with you if they were??
Not everyone's going to love it, but that's fine, there are enough who will. They'll be more beautiful to you for it. Be confident, be you.
My cat meme for the day.
What a commendable post, and lovely to read. Thank you.
Easier to write for me than answering yours
I tried that fucker 3 times and got stuck on clean and dirty
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"Perhaps less confidence than resigned acceptance really.
I managed to lose over 6 stone in 6 months, and my waist from 44 to 34, which helped, consider I'm distinctly average but no longer that fat guy who used to hide in the background. I'm never going to be anything other than I am, but then if what's on the outside doesn't attract others, I can live with that. Maybe what's on the inside may be a little more interesting.....
There are enough of us out there in all shapes and sizes.. that it doesn't overly matter which size you are when it comes to sex. We're all so different that there is someone for everyone. So wear whatever you are, however it's hung.. someone's going to like it.. the hard bit is believing that.. but you won't, till you do it.
Some people learn that young. Some far too late.
One life, no Fear."
Tis true. And the weight loss was for me not because of fab. I'm fitter healthier and generally more content and for the last two years had a better diet fitness levels and life.
I can only be me and if that's not good enough for others then its not my problem, I cant control how they think, nor would I want to. Fear isn't something that exercises my mind that much, life's for living because we only have one chance at it.
The things we do or dont do, mostly don't change the world, but they might make us and others happier in their lives if we stop stressing about every single detail, like so many threads on fab we see about body shape, who is doing what with who, or what we think others may have that we dont.
In the scheme of things if we find happiness within ourselves or sharing it with others then life is just so much simpler and stress free.
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"Perhaps less confidence than resigned acceptance really.
I managed to lose over 6 stone in 6 months, and my waist from 44 to 34, which helped, consider I'm distinctly average but no longer that fat guy who used to hide in the background. I'm never going to be anything other than I am, but then if what's on the outside doesn't attract others, I can live with that. Maybe what's on the inside may be a little more interesting.....
There are enough of us out there in all shapes and sizes.. that it doesn't overly matter which size you are when it comes to sex. We're all so different that there is someone for everyone. So wear whatever you are, however it's hung.. someone's going to like it.. the hard bit is believing that.. but you won't, till you do it.
Some people learn that young. Some far too late.
One life, no Fear.
Tis true. And the weight loss was for me not because of fab. I'm fitter healthier and generally more content and for the last two years had a better diet fitness levels and life.
I can only be me and if that's not good enough for others then its not my problem, I cant control how they think, nor would I want to. Fear isn't something that exercises my mind that much, life's for living because we only have one chance at it.
The things we do or dont do, mostly don't change the world, but they might make us and others happier in their lives if we stop stressing about every single detail, like so many threads on fab we see about body shape, who is doing what with who, or what we think others may have that we dont.
In the scheme of things if we find happiness within ourselves or sharing it with others then life is just so much simpler and stress free.
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over a year ago
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All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread? |
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over a year ago
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?"
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither. |
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither."
*Ghengis wags his tail* |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither.
*Ghengis wags his tail* "
I love a waggly *tail* |
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither.
*Ghengis wags his tail*
I love a waggly *tail*"
It'll cost you extra |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither.
*Ghengis wags his tail*
I love a waggly *tail*
It'll cost you extra"
Collars you. |
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither.
*Ghengis wags his tail*
I love a waggly *tail*
It'll cost you extra
Collars you."
*Tail wagging for free now*
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither.
*Ghengis wags his tail*
I love a waggly *tail*
It'll cost you extra
Collars you.
*Tail wagging for free now*
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Roll over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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People assume that my being realistic about my fat, flabby body, I'm not body confident. They tell me to stop putting myself down, which I'm not; I'm being realistic.
I'll happily strip off in front of a fit man; or any other man.
I tend to find, on these forums, it's the not so fit men who do most of the running down of fat women like me. |
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over a year ago
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither.
*Ghengis wags his tail*
I love a waggly *tail*
It'll cost you extra
Collars you.
*Tail wagging for free now*
Roll over. "
Gets strap on ready. |
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"People assume that my being realistic about my fat, flabby body, I'm not body confident. They tell me to stop putting myself down, which I'm not; I'm being realistic.
I'll happily strip off in front of a fit man; or any other man.
I tend to find, on these forums, it's the not so fit men who do most of the running down of fat women like me. "
You can own being fat and still be confident. The word "Fat" Stirs up strong feelings in others though. Which I'm sure you're fully aware of. Maybe that's why people find other words.
I imagine the rude, not so fit ones are maybe lacking in a bit of self confidence themselves? Projecting it onto you?
It's the happily being stripped off bit I like.. excited to be naked. Not hiding under the duvet, or lights so low all the time. The movement and poise of a happy body. |
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"All I need now is someone to to point me in the direction of something I'm very good at. So I can make enough money to do all the things I want to do with my life.
When's someone going to post that thread?
*waves a tenner at you*
Come hither.
*Ghengis wags his tail*
I love a waggly *tail*
It'll cost you extra
Collars you.
*Tail wagging for free now*
Roll over.
Gets strap on ready."
*Ghengis freezes, deathly still.. for the slight twitch of a tail.. left, then ever so slowly, a tentative wag* |
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"People assume that my being realistic about my fat, flabby body, I'm not body confident. They tell me to stop putting myself down, which I'm not; I'm being realistic.
I'll happily strip off in front of a fit man; or any other man.
I tend to find, on these forums, it's the not so fit men who do most of the running down of fat women like me.
You can own being fat and still be confident. The word "Fat" Stirs up strong feelings in others though. Which I'm sure you're fully aware of. Maybe that's why people find other words.
I imagine the rude, not so fit ones are maybe lacking in a bit of self confidence themselves? Projecting it onto you?
It's the happily being stripped off bit I like.. excited to be naked. Not hiding under the duvet, or lights so low all the time. The movement and poise of a happy body. "
I've spent many hours naked with men with beautiful bodies. They don't care that mine isn't beautiful, and neither do I. We have great sex. |
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I don't love myself anymore and I don't see what others see. My confidence in my body and looks is currently quite low, yet I do like to post my pics and try to feel sexy. I need a Fairy Godmother to bippety-boppity-boo me back to age 30 and that awesome body I thought was fat. |
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"People assume that my being realistic about my fat, flabby body, I'm not body confident. They tell me to stop putting myself down, which I'm not; I'm being realistic.
I'll happily strip off in front of a fit man; or any other man.
I tend to find, on these forums, it's the not so fit men who do most of the running down of fat women like me.
You can own being fat and still be confident. The word "Fat" Stirs up strong feelings in others though. Which I'm sure you're fully aware of. Maybe that's why people find other words.
I imagine the rude, not so fit ones are maybe lacking in a bit of self confidence themselves? Projecting it onto you?
It's the happily being stripped off bit I like.. excited to be naked. Not hiding under the duvet, or lights so low all the time. The movement and poise of a happy body.
I've spent many hours naked with men with beautiful bodies. They don't care that mine isn't beautiful, and neither do I. We have great sex."
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I decided a few years ago that life is too short to worry about what size you are.
If you’re unhappy then change it as best you can, if not then stop worrying and get living.
I enjoy cock too much to worry about my saggy tits and triple chin. And no man has run away vomiting yet! |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't love myself anymore and I don't see what others see. My confidence in my body and looks is currently quite low, yet I do like to post my pics and try to feel sexy. I need a Fairy Godmother to bippety-boppity-boo me back to age 30 and that awesome body I thought was fat. "
I’ll bippety-boppity-boo you into seeing the beautiful wonderful woman that I see you as. |
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"I don't love myself anymore and I don't see what others see. My confidence in my body and looks is currently quite low, yet I do like to post my pics and try to feel sexy. I need a Fairy Godmother to bippety-boppity-boo me back to age 30 and that awesome body I thought was fat. "
You're joking right, sadly I believe you.. I was going to say you're most men's wet dream.. but you wouldn't believe me I don't think.
If you don't start loving it now, just think how you'll feel when you're 80.. and your hips snap at the thought of sex. |
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"Infront of all these people as well?
*Tail twitch*
*tickles your belly, and thrusts gently, showing you who owns who*"
*So many sensations at once, too many fantasies in one thread happening at one time.. Ghengis ejaculates all over himself* |
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"I decided a few years ago that life is too short to worry about what size you are.
If you’re unhappy then change it as best you can, if not then stop worrying and get living.
I enjoy cock too much to worry about my saggy tits and triple chin. And no man has run away vomiting yet!"
I like that. Experienced earnt confidence.. "you know what? I'm fucking sexy after all" |
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over a year ago
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"Infront of all these people as well?
*Tail twitch*
*tickles your belly, and thrusts gently, showing you who owns who*
*So many sensations at once, too many fantasies in one thread happening at one time.. Ghengis ejaculates all over himself* "
*instructs you to clean yourself up then come for a snuggle, and ear stroke* |
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"Infront of all these people as well?
*Tail twitch*
*tickles your belly, and thrusts gently, showing you who owns who*
*So many sensations at once, too many fantasies in one thread happening at one time.. Ghengis ejaculates all over himself* "
Tail thrashing like a buzz saw |
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"Seen a couple of threads about figures and weight as of late, I know they crop up often. Rather than get hooked up on hook ups..
I'd rather talk about body confidence. Anyone can have it, anyone can lose it, anyone can get it back again. Any age, any gender, any figure, any person.
I find it helps taking the time to get to know the people you want to have sex with. Be honest, tell them what you're scared of, show those crap tats off, let us see your scars, your stretch marks and c-sections.
Most of all, let us see what's on the inside. That way you can trust in the fact that we fancy YOU, trust our lust is sincere and that there is NOTHING for you to feel self conscious about, would I be here with you if they were??
Not everyone's going to love it, but that's fine, there are enough who will. They'll be more beautiful to you for it. Be confident, be you.
My cat meme for the day.
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"Infront of all these people as well?
*Tail twitch*
*tickles your belly, and thrusts gently, showing you who owns who*
*So many sensations at once, too many fantasies in one thread happening at one time.. Ghengis ejaculates all over himself*
*instructs you to clean yourself up then come for a snuggle, and ear stroke*"
*Smiley guilty dog gif* On my way.
And on that pleasant note.. I'm off to bed people x
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Overall a lovely read. Confidence is something that’s easy to lose and hard to gain.
I’m incredibly lucky that I have a dad that always made me believe that I was pretty, that I was worth it and that I mattered. That chubby deaf girl could really have had a much different life without him. My confidence was instilled early and so far, resolutely. Good work daddy! |
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"Overall a lovely read. Confidence is something that’s easy to lose and hard to gain.
I’m incredibly lucky that I have a dad that always made me believe that I was pretty, that I was worth it and that I mattered. That chubby deaf girl could really have had a much different life without him. My confidence was instilled early and so far, resolutely. Good work daddy! "
That's lovely to hear, your dad sounds amazing. I hope I'm teaching my two boys the same sort of thing |
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"Overall a lovely read. Confidence is something that’s easy to lose and hard to gain.
I’m incredibly lucky that I have a dad that always made me believe that I was pretty, that I was worth it and that I mattered. That chubby deaf girl could really have had a much different life without him. My confidence was instilled early and so far, resolutely. Good work daddy! That's lovely to hear, your dad sounds amazing. I hope I'm teaching my two boys the same sort of thing "
That they're pretty? Just teach them to respect women and your golden... |
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"Overall a lovely read. Confidence is something that’s easy to lose and hard to gain.
I’m incredibly lucky that I have a dad that always made me believe that I was pretty, that I was worth it and that I mattered. That chubby deaf girl could really have had a much different life without him. My confidence was instilled early and so far, resolutely. Good work daddy! That's lovely to hear, your dad sounds amazing. I hope I'm teaching my two boys the same sort of thing
That they're pretty? Just teach them to respect women and your golden... "
My eldest thinks he's fat.. because his younger bro has a six pack and he doesn't. I teach them to respect themselves, other and... that yes.. they are beautiful. Boys need loving too, if they dont get it, how can they know how to give it? |
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"Overall a lovely read. Confidence is something that’s easy to lose and hard to gain.
I’m incredibly lucky that I have a dad that always made me believe that I was pretty, that I was worth it and that I mattered. That chubby deaf girl could really have had a much different life without him. My confidence was instilled early and so far, resolutely. Good work daddy! That's lovely to hear, your dad sounds amazing. I hope I'm teaching my two boys the same sort of thing
That they're pretty? Just teach them to respect women and your golden...
My eldest thinks he's fat.. because his younger bro has a six pack and he doesn't. I teach them to respect themselves, other and... that yes.. they are beautiful. Boys need loving too, if they dont get it, how can they know how to give it?"
Very true. How old is your eldest? Does he go to the gym like his younger brother? I used to not like my body, I still don't in places but I feel better after taking up the gym. I think what you teach your kids only matters if you lead bt example. You seem like a really decent guy and I'm sure you're a good role model.
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"Overall a lovely read. Confidence is something that’s easy to lose and hard to gain.
I’m incredibly lucky that I have a dad that always made me believe that I was pretty, that I was worth it and that I mattered. That chubby deaf girl could really have had a much different life without him. My confidence was instilled early and so far, resolutely. Good work daddy! That's lovely to hear, your dad sounds amazing. I hope I'm teaching my two boys the same sort of thing
That they're pretty? Just teach them to respect women and your golden...
My eldest thinks he's fat.. because his younger bro has a six pack and he doesn't. I teach them to respect themselves, other and... that yes.. they are beautiful. Boys need loving too, if they dont get it, how can they know how to give it?
Very true. How old is your eldest? Does he go to the gym like his younger brother? I used to not like my body, I still don't in places but I feel better after taking up the gym. I think what you teach your kids only matters if you lead bt example. You seem like a really decent guy and I'm sure you're a good role model.
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Not old enough to go to gym. Two different body types. Eldest is stocky in frame like me.. a natural rugby player type build. Youngest is more footballer, narrower shoulders and not as physically strong.
It's a good way to show them the difference a body type can make. My eldest is happy with that because he likes his dad and likes the comparison. My youngest is just chuffed he's got something his older brother hasn't |
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"I spent my younger thinner years thinking I was fat, flitting from one diet to another, had zero body confidence.
Had kids later on in life, spent the next decade bringing them up and eating whatever I liked. Didn’t care what anyone else thought about me and confidence grew & grew, right up until last year when it started to dip.
Age related hormones, gravity conspiring against me resulting in a body that feels rather alien. However I do know I can get my confidence mojo back, I’ve started already, it’s just going to be a longer journey this time around.
You strike me as a very confident person. It's surprising to hear that's how you currently feel about your body. Thanks for sharing. I suspect it's only temporary, because you're full of the natural drive to do what you need to, for you to feel how you want. You have the mental toolkit, I think x I like what I see though , inside and out
Lamposting out the window.. give a damn what others think now "
Thank you!
I am a pretty confident person and when I’m not I wing it big-time, I push myself to do things which are out of my comfort zone.
So even though I’m not particularly body-confident at the moment, my confidence in other areas such as work and hobbies/ interests is doing really well... |
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"I spent my younger thinner years thinking I was fat, flitting from one diet to another, had zero body confidence.
Had kids later on in life, spent the next decade bringing them up and eating whatever I liked. Didn’t care what anyone else thought about me and confidence grew & grew, right up until last year when it started to dip.
Age related hormones, gravity conspiring against me resulting in a body that feels rather alien. However I do know I can get my confidence mojo back, I’ve started already, it’s just going to be a longer journey this time around.
You strike me as a very confident person. It's surprising to hear that's how you currently feel about your body. Thanks for sharing. I suspect it's only temporary, because you're full of the natural drive to do what you need to, for you to feel how you want. You have the mental toolkit, I think x I like what I see though , inside and out
Lamposting out the window.. give a damn what others think now
Thank you!
I am a pretty confident person and when I’m not I wing it big-time, I push myself to do things which are out of my comfort zone.
So even though I’m not particularly body-confident at the moment, my confidence in other areas such as work and hobbies/ interests is doing really well... "
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