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"My ex girlfriend has contacted me through Facebook she was the love of my life 20 years ago she wants to meet up again I’m unsure what to do? "
Personally I let sleeping dogs lie...
I am a firm believer that if it didn’t work the first time it won’t work the next time
20 years is a long time, people change yet the brain tends to romanticise memories |
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"My ex girlfriend has contacted me through Facebook she was the love of my life 20 years ago she wants to meet up again I’m unsure what to do? "
You could meet just up catch up. You wouldn't be asking here if you wasn't considering it.
Be brave go for it what's the worst that could happen.  |
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"She broke up with me at the time but she says it was her worst decision ever and regrets it "
Agree to meet, but do it dressed and blame the change on her!! I'm teasing |
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I met up with the love of my life (when I was at school anyway) about seven years back, we had coffee one afternoon and I soon realised he was a twat and he hadn’t really grown up, I’m glad I did that though because it closed a door for me.
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"My ex girlfriend has contacted me through Facebook she was the love of my life 20 years ago she wants to meet up again I’m unsure what to do? "
You'll never know unless you re-engage with them. If you think it's worth a chance, then what have you got to lose?
Rather that than be sitting 12, 24, 36 months down the line wishing you had taken the chance. That would be infinitely more frustrating. |
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I'd always be suspicious why she wants to talk now after so long.....
.....has she just split up and is she looking for easy attention etc...?
Say hi but use your smarts  |
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"My ex girlfriend has contacted me through Facebook she was the love of my life 20 years ago she wants to meet up again I’m unsure what to do? "
My ex's are an ex for a reason. When one contacted me after 25+ years, I debated for 3 months as to whether to respond. Yea, I did, as curiosity killed the cat.
It was humorous (so to speak) if nothing else. He remembered me as the love of his life (???????????? WTF, I only remembered all out yelling matches).
He was in the process of divorcing his 3rd wife, and wrote lovingly of how wonderful we were together.
Yea. OK, so I'd respond again, out of sheer curiosity, if nothing else. So, can't say don't do it.
Go for it. Just remember--there's a reason you didn't stay together. |
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"My ex girlfriend has contacted me through Facebook she was the love of my life 20 years ago she wants to meet up again I’m unsure what to do?
My ex's are an ex for a reason. When one contacted me after 25+ years, I debated for 3 months as to whether to respond. Yea, I did, as curiosity killed the cat.
It was humorous (so to speak) if nothing else. He remembered me as the love of his life (???????????? WTF, I only remembered all out yelling matches).
He was in the process of divorcing his 3rd wife, and wrote lovingly of how wonderful we were together.
Yea. OK, so I'd respond again, out of sheer curiosity, if nothing else. So, can't say don't do it.
Go for it. Just remember--there's a reason you didn't stay together."
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Just meet up and talk. Unless you have some deep resentment for her you may regret not doing it.
Only a few people will know what I mean, but this is something that should not be passed by so long as there is some form of friendship still there, you never know what may happen. |
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To be honest I'd be questioning the mental health of someone who hasn't seen you for 20 years and still thinks they love you (not meaning to be offensive about mental health). Everybody changes, she doesn't even know you so can't possibly love who you are now. She is infatuated with a version of you from 20 years ago and has probably over over romanticised those memories. |
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I would be cautious. Very cautious. Why after 20 years? If it's just to chat over a coffee then fine. If it's undying love then how can it be?? In 20 years people change. I'm not the same me that I was when I was 36. And I doubt either of you are either. Just go steady and don't get pushed into meeting if it feels wrong. Go with your gut feeling. Good luck xx |
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"Nothing wrong with being friends with exes tbh it's very healthy! "
Is it? I really am asking very seriously, as I've never had an ex I was even vaguely interested in keeping in touch with.
What is healthy about it?
I have friends who are very good friends, but if we fell out, we wouldn't keep in touch. How is an ex partner any different? |
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I’m still in love with an ex girlfriend, I’d drop everything and give it another go with her. She’s married, appears to be happy and content in her life (still friends on Facebook). I love her enough to be happy for her, if you love that deep you always hope for a second chance.
But that’s me, endless romantic in 20 or 30 Years together it’ll be the best thing you ever did .... or the worst 
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"She broke up with me at the time but she says it was her worst decision ever and regrets it "
I met up with an ex recently, worst mistake ever he thought he could control me like he did before, be wary love of your life or not they are an ex for a reason are you ready to get hurt over again? |
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"Nothing wrong with being friends with exes tbh it's very healthy!
Is it? I really am asking very seriously, as I've never had an ex I was even vaguely interested in keeping in touch with.
What is healthy about it?
I have friends who are very good friends, but if we fell out, we wouldn't keep in touch. How is an ex partner any different?"
My ex husband is one of my best friends, he was my friend before we got married (known hi for 30 years next year), we have kids together but even if we didn’t I think we would still be friends, he is my go to friend if I need advice about anything that I can’t ask doughnut for (very rare). We all go out to the pub with his gf and him, it’s a nice thing that we all get along.
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"Nothing wrong with being friends with exes tbh it's very healthy!
Is it? I really am asking very seriously, as I've never had an ex I was even vaguely interested in keeping in touch with.
What is healthy about it?
I have friends who are very good friends, but if we fell out, we wouldn't keep in touch. How is an ex partner any different?"
Because not having bad feelings about anything or anyone is very healthy! Luckily people are different and deal with situations differently and if you're lucky enough to see/feel positively about most situations then you tend to be a happier person than those hanging on to negativity |
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The fact that you are asking us suggests there are feelings still there. She may just want a catch up..... but I think you need to go irrelevant of any out come.
Good luck and let us all know what happens. |
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