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"Quite a few on that tv show Catfish. "Have you seen the original film? | |||
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"Has anyone fallen for someone through just chatting , without actually meeting " Yes, definitely developed feelings. Well aware that the situation could totally change in the meeting in person of someone, but I still think it’s possible to develop real feels - even with the increased potential with a virtual interaction that there’s a huge amount of projection of what you hope someone to be going on, as this can still happen in person to a lesser degree, and even knowing someone in person feelings can change so it’s not always cut and dry that you have to have met to experience feelings even if they do change when you come face to face, that doesn’t have to negate what was experienced beforehand. | |||
"Sure, you can make very strong connections with a lot of communication, but you'd be wise to leave the handbrake firmly on 'til you meet someone in person a few times!"  | |||
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"No but I started to after seeing someone very regularly over about a year. " That’s just normal. | |||
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"We only met once then after chatting non stop we had fallen in love by the next time we met two weeks later , that was two and a half years later we’re now engaged!" That’s lovely news xx | |||
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"Has anyone fallen for someone through just chatting , without actually meeting " Not nearly as often as I've instantly decided that not in a million years would I even want to be stood in the same bus shelter as the person I'm talking to. | |||
"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . " The term batshit crazy is disrespectful, it may not be the epitome of disrespectful but it still is. Thinking that emotional attachment sits detached from cognitive reasoning is oversimplifying things massively. Do you genuinely not think someone can feel for another without still knowing they might not be all they say they are? Perhaps you do, there’s nowt as strange as folk I guess. | |||
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"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. " Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing. | |||
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"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing. "I'd like to crawl through the phone screen sometimes and just lick them | |||
"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing.
I'd like to crawl through the phone screen sometimes and just lick them "Someone who is playful with words and ideas is a beautiful thing. Doesn't have to be crass or graphic... | |||
"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing. "I think lust could be the right word , but I always see lust a craving for sex , but it’s not the sex , it’s the friendship too x | |||
"Yep perfectly possible to become infatuated with someone if you are messaging each other frequently and opening up emotionally to each other." Infatuated is a good word | |||
"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing.
I'd like to crawl through the phone screen sometimes and just lick them "Funny you should say that ... | |||
"Yep perfectly possible to become infatuated with someone if you are messaging each other frequently and opening up emotionally to each other. Infatuated is a good word" It’s not a great feeling when unwanted though. | |||
"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing.
I'd like to crawl through the phone screen sometimes and just lick them
Someone who is playful with words and ideas is a beautiful thing. Doesn't have to be crass or graphic..."Very true. I like that exchange of quick wit. Mental masturbation where you both enjoy the energy in your conversation and it flows and you feel fuzzy and happy inside and smile like a right dork. | |||
"Yep perfectly possible to become infatuated with someone if you are messaging each other frequently and opening up emotionally to each other. Infatuated is a good word It’s not a great feeling when unwanted though." It has always been my biggest woe. I can quite quickly become someones wide eyed biggest fan, as they run away screaming  | |||
"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing.
I'd like to crawl through the phone screen sometimes and just lick them
Someone who is playful with words and ideas is a beautiful thing. Doesn't have to be crass or graphic...
Very true. I like that exchange of quick wit. Mental masturbation where you both enjoy the energy in your conversation and it flows and you feel fuzzy and happy inside and smile like a right dork. "Some of the very best conversations I have on here are rarely about sex, but sometimes some flirty hinting about what could be on offer, well, it helps stoke the imagination. | |||
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"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing.
I'd like to crawl through the phone screen sometimes and just lick them
Someone who is playful with words and ideas is a beautiful thing. Doesn't have to be crass or graphic...
Very true. I like that exchange of quick wit. Mental masturbation where you both enjoy the energy in your conversation and it flows and you feel fuzzy and happy inside and smile like a right dork. "That is a very lovely thing | |||
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"Yep perfectly possible to become infatuated with someone if you are messaging each other frequently and opening up emotionally to each other. Infatuated is a good word It’s not a great feeling when unwanted though. It has always been my biggest woe. I can quite quickly become someones wide eyed biggest fan, as they run away screaming "I find talking shite most of the time is a good way of protecting myself from such situations. It’s worked for five years | |||
"I like words and someone can easily make me fall in love/lust with them through sharing of allsorts via messaging alone. Lusting after someone because of their words is a definite thing. "Which a bit of a relief for me. I'd be fucked otherwise. Or not as the case may be. | |||
" Very true. I like that exchange of quick wit. Mental masturbation where you both enjoy the energy in your conversation and it flows and you feel fuzzy and happy inside and smile like a right dork. Some of the very best conversations I have on here are rarely about sex, but sometimes some flirty hinting about what could be on offer, well, it helps stoke the imagination." Yes! I mean, I do like the explicit "fuck you get me hard" chat but sometimes it's really fun to talk about everything but sex and just hint at it. One of the most enjoyable I've had (ta work phone censorship) had lots of reference to what we'd been reading. | |||
" Very true. I like that exchange of quick wit. Mental masturbation where you both enjoy the energy in your conversation and it flows and you feel fuzzy and happy inside and smile like a right dork. Some of the very best conversations I have on here are rarely about sex, but sometimes some flirty hinting about what could be on offer, well, it helps stoke the imagination. Yes! I mean, I do like the explicit "fuck you get me hard" chat but sometimes it's really fun to talk about everything but sex and just hint at it. One of the most enjoyable I've had (ta work phone censorship) had lots of reference to what we'd been reading. " I don't like to go down the sex chat route, but when the conversation isn't going well.. It usually ends up being a boring sex chat for me. | |||
"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . The term batshit crazy is disrespectful, it may not be the epitome of disrespectful but it still is. Thinking that emotional attachment sits detached from cognitive reasoning is oversimplifying things massively. Do you genuinely not think someone can feel for another without still knowing they might not be all they say they are? Perhaps you do, there’s nowt as strange as folk I guess." I hadn’t meant batshit crazy to be as disrespectful as you think it is , so for that I apologise . Do I genuinely think someone can’t feel for another without meeting them ? Of course they can , but fall in love with ? Only if they are willing to accept that the person they fell for may not be what they thought they were . Upon meeting , the disappointment may be huge if you realise the person you fell for is a liar , and this in itself is surely something everyone can do without in their life . I’ve seen on the tv show people meet up with the one they fell for , and a guy is a woman and vice versa . Or the pics are someone twenty or thirty years younger . Or the person is twenty stone heavier ! Not only this , but they are doing the very same thing with loads of other people at the same time ! So when I say that disrespectful phrase , I am basing it in what I’ve seen . Why would anyone want to do this if they have any level of self respect ? Surely the risk that the person isn’t what they portray themselves as is too great to go falling in love with isn’t it ? Or do some people go through life living in a dream or a fantasy . In which case I guess they wouldn’t want to meet in reality anyway . | |||
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"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. " A very reasoned and sensible observation | |||
"Quite a few on that tv show Catfish. "Some people really fall for the catfish. It's so sad to watch the disappointment and emotions that they go thro when they realise the truth. | |||
"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. " Exactly. And no need to cast stigmatising slurs around for anyone that does develop connections in this way. Well said. | |||
If so then definitely. | |||
"Cheesy garlic bread is a feeling, yes?
If so then definitely."It absolutely is.  | |||
"Cheesy garlic bread is a feeling, yes?
If so then definitely.
It absolutely is. "My therapist lied to me.  .
That took me more therapy finding out it wasn't a feeling. I knew I was right | |||
So yes, it's entirely possible. But like someone else has already stated,the key is having your guard up initially and also trusting your instincts xx | |||
"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . " Whilst I understand what you're saying regarding the TV show I think that you're failing to contextualise the programme in itself and how and why it came about. The simple fact is that more people are meeting online and developing feelings, the show came about because of this. I think that modern communication methods mean that we can effectively spend the majority of our days with people hundreds of miles away. If you do that with someone that you have an affinity with, then feelings will develop in the usual way. The programme in itself may focus on the extreme cases but it's not hard to extrapolate that by virtue of its existence, other healthy relationships do grow from the same source. | |||
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"100% yes. I first started chatting to my OH online, not fab. It was just a random meeting in a chat room. It then progressed to msn messenger (back in the day) which then progressed to swapping numbers and chatting on the phone, swapping face pics and chatting on cam. This carried on for about 6 weeks before we actually met in person, but in those 6 weeks I spent more time talking and getting to know him and a deep emotional connection developed. I knew I'd fallen for him but was wary that I wouldn't feel the same if a physical connection wasn't there. I needn't have worried though, we were both honest with the pictures we had exchanged and we had seen each other on cam. I found my best friend and my soul mate all rolled into one. Within 8 weeks I'd moved over 100 miles to live with him leaving behind my home, job, friends and family. And we've been happily married for over 10 years
So yes, it's entirely possible. But like someone else has already stated,the key is having your guard up initially and also trusting your instincts xx "Fancy a threesome? | |||
"You kinda can fall for someone through chat..... ....but its just that, its chat love, it could all change when you meet.... " Could....but not always | |||
"100% yes. I first started chatting to my OH online, not fab. It was just a random meeting in a chat room. It then progressed to msn messenger (back in the day) which then progressed to swapping numbers and chatting on the phone, swapping face pics and chatting on cam. This carried on for about 6 weeks before we actually met in person, but in those 6 weeks I spent more time talking and getting to know him and a deep emotional connection developed. I knew I'd fallen for him but was wary that I wouldn't feel the same if a physical connection wasn't there. I needn't have worried though, we were both honest with the pictures we had exchanged and we had seen each other on cam. I found my best friend and my soul mate all rolled into one. Within 8 weeks I'd moved over 100 miles to live with him leaving behind my home, job, friends and family. And we've been happily married for over 10 years
So yes, it's entirely possible. But like someone else has already stated,the key is having your guard up initially and also trusting your instincts xx
Fancy a threesome?"Totally | |||
"You kinda can fall for someone through chat..... ....but its just that, its chat love, it could all change when you meet.... Could....but not always" Tru dat | |||
"You kinda can fall for someone through chat..... ....but its just that, its chat love, it could all change when you meet.... Could....but not always Tru dat" Obvs.... I'm always right | |||
"You kinda can fall for someone through chat..... ....but its just that, its chat love, it could all change when you meet.... Could....but not always Tru dat Obvs.... I'm always right "I found through personal experience, women usually are..... | |||
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"You kinda can fall for someone through chat..... ....but its just that, its chat love, it could all change when you meet.... Could....but not always Tru dat Obvs.... I'm always right
I found through personal experience, women usually are..... "Correct response  | |||
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"You can fall in love, or become infatuated, for sure. But not with the actual person, only the version of them that you have been allowed to see. Our brains are very good at filling in the gaps so we can convince ourselves that we have developed feelings for a fully 3 dimensional human being, when in fact we've only seen a scribble drawing of them in a notebook. " I concur with this, but also think it’s important to remember that this is still an issue on having met someone, albeit you have considerably more information to help assess and analyse someone you’ve met than someone you haven’t. But it’s never foolproof. | |||
"Quite a few on that tv show Catfish.
Have you seen the original film?"I have | |||
"You can fall in love, or become infatuated, for sure. But not with the actual person, only the version of them that you have been allowed to see. Our brains are very good at filling in the gaps so we can convince ourselves that we have developed feelings for a fully 3 dimensional human being, when in fact we've only seen a scribble drawing of them in a notebook. I concur with this, but also think it’s important to remember that this is still an issue on having met someone, albeit you have considerably more information to help assess and analyse someone you’ve met than someone you haven’t. But it’s never foolproof." I suppose the natural and rather bleak extrapolation from that is that we can never truly know someone... | |||
"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . Whilst I understand what you're saying regarding the TV show I think that you're failing to contextualise the programme in itself and how and why it came about. The simple fact is that more people are meeting online and developing feelings, the show came about because of this. I think that modern communication methods mean that we can effectively spend the majority of our days with people hundreds of miles away. If you do that with someone that you have an affinity with, then feelings will develop in the usual way. The programme in itself may focus on the extreme cases but it's not hard to extrapolate that by virtue of its existence, other healthy relationships do grow from the same source. " If people are honest in the first place then I totally agree with you . The issues arise when people fall for the persona that the other person portrays online , and that’s not always the reality . Anyone would advise against allowing words and pictures on a screen to be a reality , particularly if you’re vulnerable enough to be sucked in by someone well versed in the art of online seduction . | |||
"You kinda can fall for someone through chat..... ....but its just that, its chat love, it could all change when you meet.... Could....but not always Tru dat Obvs.... I'm always right
I found through personal experience, women usually are.....
Correct response "Was I correct or were you? | |||
"You can fall in love, or become infatuated, for sure. But not with the actual person, only the version of them that you have been allowed to see. Our brains are very good at filling in the gaps so we can convince ourselves that we have developed feelings for a fully 3 dimensional human being, when in fact we've only seen a scribble drawing of them in a notebook. I concur with this, but also think it’s important to remember that this is still an issue on having met someone, albeit you have considerably more information to help assess and analyse someone you’ve met than someone you haven’t. But it’s never foolproof." I agree. One of my exes was a Walter Mitty and I didn't find out for two years We were living together by that point. The person I fell in love with was a fictional version of him with enough of the real him thrown in to be convincing. And it's not that I'd have cared about his work history anyway. | |||
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"You can fall in love, or become infatuated, for sure. But not with the actual person, only the version of them that you have been allowed to see. Our brains are very good at filling in the gaps so we can convince ourselves that we have developed feelings for a fully 3 dimensional human being, when in fact we've only seen a scribble drawing of them in a notebook. I concur with this, but also think it’s important to remember that this is still an issue on having met someone, albeit you have considerably more information to help assess and analyse someone you’ve met than someone you haven’t. But it’s never foolproof. I suppose the natural and rather bleak extrapolation from that is that we can never truly know someone... " We never truly know ourselves never mind anyone else. All we can do is continue to be open to learning about each other if we want a relationship to flourish. Especially as we are changing continually too, some more than others. | |||
"You can fall in love, or become infatuated, for sure. But not with the actual person, only the version of them that you have been allowed to see. Our brains are very good at filling in the gaps so we can convince ourselves that we have developed feelings for a fully 3 dimensional human being, when in fact we've only seen a scribble drawing of them in a notebook. I concur with this, but also think it’s important to remember that this is still an issue on having met someone, albeit you have considerably more information to help assess and analyse someone you’ve met than someone you haven’t. But it’s never foolproof. I suppose the natural and rather bleak extrapolation from that is that we can never truly know someone... " I don’t think that’s a bleak concept though, I think it’s rather amazing that we are so multifaceted that we are never fully known - we can be known really well within the dynamic of close relationships but still we are these unique individual creative beings that there are still aspects of us yet to be discovered. And as much to self-discover as to be discovered by others. I find it rather a wonderful joy. | |||
"A guy that I got chatting too on here (he left a while back but we have each other on snapchat and kik) claimed he had feelings for me for a while. We had never met, had only video chatted twice and he had the tendency to ghost me for months then pop back up with an apology. Nope. Blamed the fact he had feelings....unsure how much I believe " I had one of those as well...disappear for ages then pop up and say hi, or sorry my phone fell into a chasm or he'd explain he got "the fear" eventually I blocked him as I realised all interactions were on his terms. | |||
"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. Exactly. And no need to cast stigmatising slurs around for anyone that does develop connections in this way. Well said. "But the stigmatising slurs are my speciality . My posts would be dull , boring and unimaginative without a bit of a stigmatising slur slipped in here and there  | |||
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"You can fall in love, or become infatuated, for sure. But not with the actual person, only the version of them that you have been allowed to see. Our brains are very good at filling in the gaps so we can convince ourselves that we have developed feelings for a fully 3 dimensional human being, when in fact we've only seen a scribble drawing of them in a notebook. I concur with this, but also think it’s important to remember that this is still an issue on having met someone, albeit you have considerably more information to help assess and analyse someone you’ve met than someone you haven’t. But it’s never foolproof. I suppose the natural and rather bleak extrapolation from that is that we can never truly know someone... I don’t think that’s a bleak concept though, I think it’s rather amazing that we are so multifaceted that we are never fully known - we can be known really well within the dynamic of close relationships but still we are these unique individual creative beings that there are still aspects of us yet to be discovered. And as much to self-discover as to be discovered by others. I find it rather a wonderful joy. " Much more eloquently put than what I said but I agree | |||
"It's quite easy to carry off a persona on a forum basis but on a one-to-one chat? Naah, in think most people would see through it. I reckon you can gauge people quite closely by chatting to them." I disagree, you only ever get to see what they are willing to show you (and a little around the edges that they may not consciously show you) but you still never fully know what is or isn’t going on for them. Not saying it’s something bad, but whilst I get what you mean in terms of seeing a level of consistency through one to one chat versus forum musings, it’s still just a snapshot of the dynamic those two have when chatting and unlikely to be an entire picture of someone’s reality. | |||
"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . Whilst I understand what you're saying regarding the TV show I think that you're failing to contextualise the programme in itself and how and why it came about. The simple fact is that more people are meeting online and developing feelings, the show came about because of this. I think that modern communication methods mean that we can effectively spend the majority of our days with people hundreds of miles away. If you do that with someone that you have an affinity with, then feelings will develop in the usual way. The programme in itself may focus on the extreme cases but it's not hard to extrapolate that by virtue of its existence, other healthy relationships do grow from the same source. If people are honest in the first place then I totally agree with you . The issues arise when people fall for the persona that the other person portrays online , and that’s not always the reality . Anyone would advise against allowing words and pictures on a screen to be a reality , particularly if you’re vulnerable enough to be sucked in by someone well versed in the art of online seduction ." True, but it's no different really from dating someone. When people first meet it's often the case that they 'portray' a person until you get to know them better. Whilst I understand your points, I also think that with video chatting, phone calls and modern messaging, it's just as possible to get as full a view of a person digitally as it is personally. A manipulator and a practiced liar is just as adept in person as online. | |||
"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. Exactly. And no need to cast stigmatising slurs around for anyone that does develop connections in this way. Well said.
But the stigmatising slurs are my speciality .
My posts would be dull , boring and unimaginative without a bit of a stigmatising slur slipped in here and there "Or show compassion, empathy and acquired learning. | |||
"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . Whilst I understand what you're saying regarding the TV show I think that you're failing to contextualise the programme in itself and how and why it came about. The simple fact is that more people are meeting online and developing feelings, the show came about because of this. I think that modern communication methods mean that we can effectively spend the majority of our days with people hundreds of miles away. If you do that with someone that you have an affinity with, then feelings will develop in the usual way. The programme in itself may focus on the extreme cases but it's not hard to extrapolate that by virtue of its existence, other healthy relationships do grow from the same source. If people are honest in the first place then I totally agree with you . The issues arise when people fall for the persona that the other person portrays online , and that’s not always the reality . Anyone would advise against allowing words and pictures on a screen to be a reality , particularly if you’re vulnerable enough to be sucked in by someone well versed in the art of online seduction . True, but it's no different really from dating someone. When people first meet it's often the case that they 'portray' a person until you get to know them better. Whilst I understand your points, I also think that with video chatting, phone calls and modern messaging, it's just as possible to get as full a view of a person digitally as it is personally. A manipulator and a practiced liar is just as adept in person as online. " If I say I am a 6 foot 2 athletic 32 year old , with blonde hair and I live in my own country house , I’m a non smoker and put pics up of someone that depict how I describe myself , I’m lying . If I turn up to meet someone after saying I’m as I described myself online ( as above ) , and I’m actually a balding 57 year old retired twat , married and I smoke twenty a day , I would expect to be told to sling my hook . And that’s exactly why meeting in person is essential before falling for someone . Despite the fact that they may still be able to manipulate you in person , at least you can actually see that they are who they say they are . And that they are clean , take care of themselves and are what you expected , not reeking of cigarettes . | |||
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"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . Whilst I understand what you're saying regarding the TV show I think that you're failing to contextualise the programme in itself and how and why it came about. The simple fact is that more people are meeting online and developing feelings, the show came about because of this. I think that modern communication methods mean that we can effectively spend the majority of our days with people hundreds of miles away. If you do that with someone that you have an affinity with, then feelings will develop in the usual way. The programme in itself may focus on the extreme cases but it's not hard to extrapolate that by virtue of its existence, other healthy relationships do grow from the same source. If people are honest in the first place then I totally agree with you . The issues arise when people fall for the persona that the other person portrays online , and that’s not always the reality . Anyone would advise against allowing words and pictures on a screen to be a reality , particularly if you’re vulnerable enough to be sucked in by someone well versed in the art of online seduction . True, but it's no different really from dating someone. When people first meet it's often the case that they 'portray' a person until you get to know them better. Whilst I understand your points, I also think that with video chatting, phone calls and modern messaging, it's just as possible to get as full a view of a person digitally as it is personally. A manipulator and a practiced liar is just as adept in person as online. If I say I am a 6 foot 2 athletic 32 year old , with blonde hair and I live in my own country house , I’m a non smoker and put pics up of someone that depict how I describe myself , I’m lying . If I turn up to meet someone after saying I’m as I described myself online ( as above ) , and I’m actually a balding 57 year old retired twat , married and I smoke twenty a day , I would expect to be told to sling my hook . And that’s exactly why meeting in person is essential before falling for someone . Despite the fact that they may still be able to manipulate you in person , at least you can actually see that they are who they say they are . And that they are clean , take care of themselves and are what you expected , not reeking of cigarettes ." You’re arguing a point noone is contesting. We’re talking about the fact that a connection/feelings can develop through virtual communication, how one then polices that (by remaining guarded or not) is on a spectrum that’s individual with those saying they wouldn’t allow it to happen (you) and others saying they might. The OP asks if anyone ever has, some have said yes. We understand you haven’t and you think those have are @£&@@&:!? | |||
"So watching the tv show Catfish helped me understand how this might happen . I’m glad I did because I would think someone has to be batshit crazy to fall for someone they’ve never met . Actually , having watched the show a few times , I now know that the people this happens to actually are batshit crazy ! I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way , but falling for someone you’ve never actually seen in real life is the very epitome of a disjointed perspective of reality isn’t it ? The person could be any age , any sex , and not look anything like the pics they may have provided you with . They could be sitting in a prison cell , locked up for sexual assault or any other crime . How and why people fall for this is beyond me , but there’s nowt so strange as folk I guess . Whilst I understand what you're saying regarding the TV show I think that you're failing to contextualise the programme in itself and how and why it came about. The simple fact is that more people are meeting online and developing feelings, the show came about because of this. I think that modern communication methods mean that we can effectively spend the majority of our days with people hundreds of miles away. If you do that with someone that you have an affinity with, then feelings will develop in the usual way. The programme in itself may focus on the extreme cases but it's not hard to extrapolate that by virtue of its existence, other healthy relationships do grow from the same source. If people are honest in the first place then I totally agree with you . The issues arise when people fall for the persona that the other person portrays online , and that’s not always the reality . Anyone would advise against allowing words and pictures on a screen to be a reality , particularly if you’re vulnerable enough to be sucked in by someone well versed in the art of online seduction . True, but it's no different really from dating someone. When people first meet it's often the case that they 'portray' a person until you get to know them better. Whilst I understand your points, I also think that with video chatting, phone calls and modern messaging, it's just as possible to get as full a view of a person digitally as it is personally. A manipulator and a practiced liar is just as adept in person as online. If I say I am a 6 foot 2 athletic 32 year old , with blonde hair and I live in my own country house , I’m a non smoker and put pics up of someone that depict how I describe myself , I’m lying . If I turn up to meet someone after saying I’m as I described myself online ( as above ) , and I’m actually a balding 57 year old retired twat , married and I smoke twenty a day , I would expect to be told to sling my hook . And that’s exactly why meeting in person is essential before falling for someone . Despite the fact that they may still be able to manipulate you in person , at least you can actually see that they are who they say they are . And that they are clean , take care of themselves and are what you expected , not reeking of cigarettes ." I think you're taking things to the extreme in order to prove your point! Yes, these things can be proven in person. They can also be proven via phone calls and through other means. I think we're kind of getting off topic here though, you don't agree that love is possible without meeting in person and think that people should exercise caution. I disagree that its necessary but agree that diligence is necessary. I don't think that anyone sets out to fall for someone else online, however it does happen, far more often than people realise. | |||
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"100% yes. I first started chatting to my OH online, not fab. It was just a random meeting in a chat room. It then progressed to msn messenger (back in the day) which then progressed to swapping numbers and chatting on the phone, swapping face pics and chatting on cam. This carried on for about 6 weeks before we actually met in person, but in those 6 weeks I spent more time talking and getting to know him and a deep emotional connection developed. I knew I'd fallen for him but was wary that I wouldn't feel the same if a physical connection wasn't there. I needn't have worried though, we were both honest with the pictures we had exchanged and we had seen each other on cam. I found my best friend and my soul mate all rolled into one. Within 8 weeks I'd moved over 100 miles to live with him leaving behind my home, job, friends and family. And we've been happily married for over 10 years
So yes, it's entirely possible. But like someone else has already stated,the key is having your guard up initially and also trusting your instincts xx "Yup, I think the ne'ersayers forget that sometimes people can be entirely honest in their online persona, and unafraid of true self-disclosure, and this can lead to a true connection developing which is only enchanced by meeting. | |||
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"100% yes. I first started chatting to my OH online, not fab. It was just a random meeting in a chat room. It then progressed to msn messenger (back in the day) which then progressed to swapping numbers and chatting on the phone, swapping face pics and chatting on cam. This carried on for about 6 weeks before we actually met in person, but in those 6 weeks I spent more time talking and getting to know him and a deep emotional connection developed. I knew I'd fallen for him but was wary that I wouldn't feel the same if a physical connection wasn't there. I needn't have worried though, we were both honest with the pictures we had exchanged and we had seen each other on cam. I found my best friend and my soul mate all rolled into one. Within 8 weeks I'd moved over 100 miles to live with him leaving behind my home, job, friends and family. And we've been happily married for over 10 years
So yes, it's entirely possible. But like someone else has already stated,the key is having your guard up initially and also trusting your instincts xx
Yup, I think the ne'ersayers forget that sometimes people can be entirely honest in their online persona, and unafraid of true self-disclosure, and this can lead to a true connection developing which is only enchanced by meeting."Absolutely  - well said. | |||
"100% yes. I first started chatting to my OH online, not fab. It was just a random meeting in a chat room. It then progressed to msn messenger (back in the day) which then progressed to swapping numbers and chatting on the phone, swapping face pics and chatting on cam. This carried on for about 6 weeks before we actually met in person, but in those 6 weeks I spent more time talking and getting to know him and a deep emotional connection developed. I knew I'd fallen for him but was wary that I wouldn't feel the same if a physical connection wasn't there. I needn't have worried though, we were both honest with the pictures we had exchanged and we had seen each other on cam. I found my best friend and my soul mate all rolled into one. Within 8 weeks I'd moved over 100 miles to live with him leaving behind my home, job, friends and family. And we've been happily married for over 10 years
So yes, it's entirely possible. But like someone else has already stated,the key is having your guard up initially and also trusting your instincts xx
Yup, I think the ne'ersayers forget that sometimes people can be entirely honest in their online persona, and unafraid of true self-disclosure, and this can lead to a true connection developing which is only enchanced by meeting."Absolutely. Not everyone is trying to fool everyone else. | |||
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"100% yes. I first started chatting to my OH online, not fab. It was just a random meeting in a chat room. It then progressed to msn messenger (back in the day) which then progressed to swapping numbers and chatting on the phone, swapping face pics and chatting on cam. This carried on for about 6 weeks before we actually met in person, but in those 6 weeks I spent more time talking and getting to know him and a deep emotional connection developed. I knew I'd fallen for him but was wary that I wouldn't feel the same if a physical connection wasn't there. I needn't have worried though, we were both honest with the pictures we had exchanged and we had seen each other on cam. I found my best friend and my soul mate all rolled into one. Within 8 weeks I'd moved over 100 miles to live with him leaving behind my home, job, friends and family. And we've been happily married for over 10 years
So yes, it's entirely possible. But like someone else has already stated,the key is having your guard up initially and also trusting your instincts xx
Yup, I think the ne'ersayers forget that sometimes people can be entirely honest in their online persona, and unafraid of true self-disclosure, and this can lead to a true connection developing which is only enchanced by meeting."Well said | |||
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"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. Exactly. And no need to cast stigmatising slurs around for anyone that does develop connections in this way. Well said.
But the stigmatising slurs are my speciality .
My posts would be dull , boring and unimaginative without a bit of a stigmatising slur slipped in here and there
Or show compassion, empathy and acquired learning. "There’s enough people on here doing that already , so I’m happy to offer an alternative
You’re not the first person to suggest I show empathy and compassion , but if that’s not something I am familiar in doing , then I’m surely showing myself in a false light aren’t I ?
And the reality is that I may well be a very compassionate and empathetic person in the real world . You just don’t know , because this is just an online forum , and the only information you have is the words on a screen .
I figure it’s easy to adopt a compassionate and liberal view on every topic on here . We can all agree that it’s nice to be nice to everyone , and join in on having a go at every capitalist and right wing Sun reading rotter out there . But the reality is that these people , and people like me exist , and we are equally as entitled to have our views , (however uncompassionate or lacking in empathy you think they are ) , as you and and the others who spend your lives defending every downtrodden and minority group that exists are .
I don’t really want to go further but someone said on another thread that I dislike the status quo to be altered , and he may have been right . Some things are fine as they are in my opinion . Modern thinking sometimes does my head in , so many genders , what they teach kids these days , people falling in love with people they’ve never actually met etc..... I’m way too old fashioned to understand so much of what’s going on . And I have always seen thing as very much black and white . It helps me go make sense of so much that just doesn’t make sense in this crazy world .
If that means I come across as lacking compassion and empathy then I’ll accept that , but as I said , I’m far from being alone with my way of seeing things . And debates would be bloody boring , uninspiring and pretty pointless if we all see things the same way wouldn’t they ? | |||
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I still love her, we still talk every day, and every day I wish I was what she is looking for....
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"I did. She captivated me made me laugh, smile, think, she challenged me, enthralled me, I spent hours every day talking with her. We talked about everything, life, families, dreams, hope's, fears, and much more. She made me more confident open and prepared to share stuff I had never spoken about before. I adore her. She was everything I could ever wish for in a friend or maybe even a lover, or more. Then we met, just once
I still love her, we still talk every day, and every day I wish I was what she is looking for....
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"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. Exactly. And no need to cast stigmatising slurs around for anyone that does develop connections in this way. Well said.
But the stigmatising slurs are my speciality .
My posts would be dull , boring and unimaginative without a bit of a stigmatising slur slipped in here and there
Or show compassion, empathy and acquired learning.
There’s enough people on here doing that already , so I’m happy to offer an alternative
You’re not the first person to suggest I show empathy and compassion , but if that’s not something I am familiar in doing , then I’m surely showing myself in a false light aren’t I ?
And the reality is that I may well be a very compassionate and empathetic person in the real world . You just don’t know , because this is just an online forum , and the only information you have is the words on a screen .
I figure it’s easy to adopt a compassionate and liberal view on every topic on here . We can all agree that it’s nice to be nice to everyone , and join in on having a go at every capitalist and right wing Sun reading rotter out there . But the reality is that these people , and people like me exist , and we are equally as entitled to have our views , (however uncompassionate or lacking in empathy you think they are ) , as you and and the others who spend your lives defending every downtrodden and minority group that exists are .
I don’t really want to go further but someone said on another thread that I dislike the status quo to be altered , and he may have been right . Some things are fine as they are in my opinion . Modern thinking sometimes does my head in , so many genders , what they teach kids these days , people falling in love with people they’ve never actually met etc..... I’m way too old fashioned to understand so much of what’s going on . And I have always seen thing as very much black and white . It helps me go make sense of so much that just doesn’t make sense in this crazy world .
If that means I come across as lacking compassion and empathy then I’ll accept that , but as I said , I’m far from being alone with my way of seeing things . And debates would be bloody boring , uninspiring and pretty pointless if we all see things the same way wouldn’t they ? "I fully respect your right to your opinion. There does seem to sometimes (absolutely not always) be a propensity to immediately accuse others of being unfair (my words, not yours) if they challenge your language or opinion or explain why. You talk of having a debate but that involves letting people challenge views or “jokes”. I think it’s perfectly possible to have a differing opinion without resorting to stigmatising slurs, and forgive me for not thinking it makes debates less boring and for expanding on what it demonstrates lack of, when you suggest that I’m inhibiting debate by not being comfortable with language that stigmatises health conditions being used as a means to label behaviour you don’t agree with. I think a quickness to taking offence is the last label you would want to have levelled at you and yet, you seem quick to assume others are trying to clip your free speech by disagreeing and explaining why. I have no ill wishes towards you and have enjoyed conversation with you, I don’t mean to upset by clarifying when I have differing views. I simply countered your summary of your posts with an opposing one. Such is the joy of differing opinions. You’ll note it was your comments I described not you as a person, don’t take it so personally. | |||
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Have you seen the original film?"It was a TV series on MTV for years before the film! | |||
"Quite a few on that tv show Catfish.
Have you seen the original film?
It was a TV series on MTV for years before the film!"Incorrect. The show was based on the film. | |||
"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. Exactly. And no need to cast stigmatising slurs around for anyone that does develop connections in this way. Well said.
But the stigmatising slurs are my speciality .
My posts would be dull , boring and unimaginative without a bit of a stigmatising slur slipped in here and there
Or show compassion, empathy and acquired learning.
There’s enough people on here doing that already , so I’m happy to offer an alternative
You’re not the first person to suggest I show empathy and compassion , but if that’s not something I am familiar in doing , then I’m surely showing myself in a false light aren’t I ?
And the reality is that I may well be a very compassionate and empathetic person in the real world . You just don’t know , because this is just an online forum , and the only information you have is the words on a screen .
I figure it’s easy to adopt a compassionate and liberal view on every topic on here . We can all agree that it’s nice to be nice to everyone , and join in on having a go at every capitalist and right wing Sun reading rotter out there . But the reality is that these people , and people like me exist , and we are equally as entitled to have our views , (however uncompassionate or lacking in empathy you think they are ) , as you and and the others who spend your lives defending every downtrodden and minority group that exists are .
I don’t really want to go further but someone said on another thread that I dislike the status quo to be altered , and he may have been right . Some things are fine as they are in my opinion . Modern thinking sometimes does my head in , so many genders , what they teach kids these days , people falling in love with people they’ve never actually met etc..... I’m way too old fashioned to understand so much of what’s going on . And I have always seen thing as very much black and white . It helps me go make sense of so much that just doesn’t make sense in this crazy world .
If that means I come across as lacking compassion and empathy then I’ll accept that , but as I said , I’m far from being alone with my way of seeing things . And debates would be bloody boring , uninspiring and pretty pointless if we all see things the same way wouldn’t they ?
I fully respect your right to your opinion. There does seem to sometimes (absolutely not always) be a propensity to immediately accuse others of being unfair (my words, not yours) if they challenge your language or opinion or explain why. You talk of having a debate but that involves letting people challenge views or “jokes”. I think it’s perfectly possible to have a differing opinion without resorting to stigmatising slurs, and forgive me for not thinking it makes debates less boring and for expanding on what it demonstrates lack of, when you suggest that I’m inhibiting debate by not being comfortable with language that stigmatises health conditions being used as a means to label behaviour you don’t agree with.
I think a quickness to taking offence is the last label you would want to have levelled at you and yet, you seem quick to assume others are trying to clip your free speech by disagreeing and explaining why. I have no ill wishes towards you and have enjoyed conversation with you, I don’t mean to upset by clarifying when I have differing views. I simply countered your summary of your posts with an opposing one. Such is the joy of differing opinions. You’ll note it was your comments I described not you as a person, don’t take it so personally. "I’m not in the slightest bit offended by anything you’ve said or implied . You and I are polar opposites , we both know that . I’m your worst nightmare as you are mine when it comes to politics , and many other subjects . Yet strangely I think we would probably get on if we were having a coffee and a natter ! I still maintain on this subject that until you meet someone face to face you just can’t be sure , so exercising caution is sensible before letting your guard down . But I’m sure it works out when both parties are honest from the off , exchanging pics that depict themselves realistically and being totally open in conversations . | |||
"I did. She captivated me made me laugh, smile, think, she challenged me, enthralled me, I spent hours every day talking with her. We talked about everything, life, families, dreams, hope's, fears, and much more. She made me more confident open and prepared to share stuff I had never spoken about before. I adore her. She was everything I could ever wish for in a friend or maybe even a lover, or more. Then we met, just once
I still love her, we still talk every day, and every day I wish I was what she is looking for....
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"I think it's entirely feasible to build a strong connection (call it love, lust, feelings, infatuation, whatever) with someone through messaging alone - when thoughts and words align closely and you realise that someone is completely on your wavelength - messages flow effortlessly and you almost sense what they are going to say before their next message arrives. Of course there's a danger that it may not translate to in person, and it may be more of a cerebral connection than a physical one, or the ravages of time and circumstance may see it fizzle out before it's been given a chance to be put to the test, but it can still be a *real* thing - just the same as having friends on here can be a real thing. I guess the key is having your guard up to it before you let it spiral out of control if you're not in a position to allow it to, and also against it not coming tumbling down if you do meet in person and it not being the same. Exactly. And no need to cast stigmatising slurs around for anyone that does develop connections in this way. Well said.
But the stigmatising slurs are my speciality .
My posts would be dull , boring and unimaginative without a bit of a stigmatising slur slipped in here and there
Or show compassion, empathy and acquired learning.
There’s enough people on here doing that already , so I’m happy to offer an alternative
You’re not the first person to suggest I show empathy and compassion , but if that’s not something I am familiar in doing , then I’m surely showing myself in a false light aren’t I ?
And the reality is that I may well be a very compassionate and empathetic person in the real world . You just don’t know , because this is just an online forum , and the only information you have is the words on a screen .
I figure it’s easy to adopt a compassionate and liberal view on every topic on here . We can all agree that it’s nice to be nice to everyone , and join in on having a go at every capitalist and right wing Sun reading rotter out there . But the reality is that these people , and people like me exist , and we are equally as entitled to have our views , (however uncompassionate or lacking in empathy you think they are ) , as you and and the others who spend your lives defending every downtrodden and minority group that exists are .
I don’t really want to go further but someone said on another thread that I dislike the status quo to be altered , and he may have been right . Some things are fine as they are in my opinion . Modern thinking sometimes does my head in , so many genders , what they teach kids these days , people falling in love with people they’ve never actually met etc..... I’m way too old fashioned to understand so much of what’s going on . And I have always seen thing as very much black and white . It helps me go make sense of so much that just doesn’t make sense in this crazy world .
If that means I come across as lacking compassion and empathy then I’ll accept that , but as I said , I’m far from being alone with my way of seeing things . And debates would be bloody boring , uninspiring and pretty pointless if we all see things the same way wouldn’t they ?
I fully respect your right to your opinion. There does seem to sometimes (absolutely not always) be a propensity to immediately accuse others of being unfair (my words, not yours) if they challenge your language or opinion or explain why. You talk of having a debate but that involves letting people challenge views or “jokes”. I think it’s perfectly possible to have a differing opinion without resorting to stigmatising slurs, and forgive me for not thinking it makes debates less boring and for expanding on what it demonstrates lack of, when you suggest that I’m inhibiting debate by not being comfortable with language that stigmatises health conditions being used as a means to label behaviour you don’t agree with.
I think a quickness to taking offence is the last label you would want to have levelled at you and yet, you seem quick to assume others are trying to clip your free speech by disagreeing and explaining why. I have no ill wishes towards you and have enjoyed conversation with you, I don’t mean to upset by clarifying when I have differing views. I simply countered your summary of your posts with an opposing one. Such is the joy of differing opinions. You’ll note it was your comments I described not you as a person, don’t take it so personally.
I’m not in the slightest bit offended by anything you’ve said or implied . You and I are polar opposites , we both know that . I’m your worst nightmare as you are mine when it comes to politics , and many other subjects . Yet strangely I think we would probably get on if we were having a coffee and a natter !
I still maintain on this subject that until you meet someone face to face you just can’t be sure , so exercising caution is sensible before letting your guard down . But I’m sure it works out when both parties are honest from the off , exchanging pics that depict themselves realistically and being totally open in conversations ."And I still agree that you can’t be sure till you meet too. That’s not the point I was discussing. I may well be your worst nightmare, you aren’t mine - I just think you read me wrong (which is as much my fault as yours) and maybe I do the same with you. I have no doubt that we would get on over a drink and actually as much as you may not believe this, I don’t think people are only the composite of their political views, and I think a real life conversation would probably be a better medium for us to understand each other’s better. I’m glad there’s no offence taken (on either side). x | |||
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"Days before the internet people fell in love or thought they fell in love with the idea of the person writing them a letter with minimum to no initial contact." Nah I don’t get it. You can care about someone but how can you fall in love without meeting someone? | |||
"Days before the internet people fell in love or thought they fell in love with the idea of the person writing them a letter with minimum to no initial contact. Nah I don’t get it. You can care about someone but how can you fall in love without meeting someone? "People can and do. "There are more things in heaven and earth than are drempt of in your philosophy, Horatio." | |||
"Days before the internet people fell in love or thought they fell in love with the idea of the person writing them a letter with minimum to no initial contact. Nah I don’t get it. You can care about someone but how can you fall in love without meeting someone?
People can and do.
"There are more things in heaven and earth than are drempt of in your philosophy, Horatio." "Ok maybe so. I don’t think I could | |||
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"I find it interesting how I started a thread a couple of months ago asking pretty much exactly the same thing and the answers were almost universally for it being possible and likely. *gallic shrug*" Oh ok I’ll get me coat | |||
"I find it interesting how I started a thread a couple of months ago asking pretty much exactly the same thing and the answers were almost universally for it being possible and likely. *gallic shrug*" They've all since met up, fallen more in love and left fab. | |||
"I find it interesting how I started a thread a couple of months ago asking pretty much exactly the same thing and the answers were almost universally for it being possible and likely. *gallic shrug* Oh ok I’ll get me coat "I’ll join you | |||
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"I find it interesting how I started a thread a couple of months ago asking pretty much exactly the same thing and the answers were almost universally for it being possible and likely. *gallic shrug* Oh ok I’ll get me coat
I’ll join you "
TM, it is interesting. I thought at first it might just have been the tone of the first few posters because that can sometimes set the tone of a thread but it wasn't really. Not sure why it has changed.
Also  at that thread. | |||
"I find it interesting how I started a thread a couple of months ago asking pretty much exactly the same thing and the answers were almost universally for it being possible and likely. *gallic shrug* Oh ok I’ll get me coat
I’ll join you
TM, it is interesting. I thought at first it might just have been the tone of the first few posters because that can sometimes set the tone of a thread but it wasn't really. Not sure why it has changed.
Also at that thread."Tbh I didn’t read the whole thread . I rarely do lol | |||
"No but I started to after seeing someone very regularly over about a year. " I was the same a year ago...was seeing someone regularly for nsa then boom l catch feelings. .....the feeling of knowing smeone can't give you more than u want.. that shit was painful. ..never again | |||
"I find it interesting how I started a thread a couple of months ago asking pretty much exactly the same thing and the answers were almost universally for it being possible and likely. *gallic shrug* Oh ok I’ll get me coat
I’ll join you
TM, it is interesting. I thought at first it might just have been the tone of the first few posters because that can sometimes set the tone of a thread but it wasn't really. Not sure why it has changed.
Also at that thread.
Tbh I didn’t read the whole thread . I rarely do lol "I hate when threads get long and complicated and I don't have time..... ....im sure its marvelous.... | |||
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"I find it interesting how I started a thread a couple of months ago asking pretty much exactly the same thing and the answers were almost universally for it being possible and likely. *gallic shrug* They've all since met up, fallen more in love and left fab. "Not all..... | |||
"Has anyone fallen for someone through just chatting , without actually meeting " I’ve had very strong connections with men purely through chatting, when we’ve met it’s generally reinforced the feelings which is great. I don’t really want to catch those feels, that’s not what I’m looking for, however I do believe it’s possible place to start a relationship from. | |||
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"No but I started to after seeing someone very regularly over about a year. I was the same a year ago...was seeing someone regularly for nsa then boom l catch feelings. .....the feeling of knowing smeone can't give you more than u want.. that shit was painful. ..never again" Yeah but does it matter if you do? I can’t have sex with someone if I don’t have some sort of feelings anyway. Depends what you want. I had a FWB for 5 years and I loved him to bits and vice versa but that’s still all it was because I know what I want and I’m happy with my life as it is so I know I’ll never want anything more. I suppose it depends on the type of person someone is i guess. If you’re open to finding a relationship then I’m sure it can happen on here. | |||
