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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are people now happy to play on first meets and already have hotels booked, or are they happy to with a 2nd social to play?
Do you think having another social is wasting time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had meets where the social became more or was actually I overlooked.
In general though I'd insist on a social being just that.
If we then wanted more I arrange it separately. Not sure about a second social. Depends on the situation. |
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I play on first meets. I host at our house and have a sit and chat with someone first and then if it’s mutually what we want then we head upstairs. I don’t really see the point in a separate social as I talk to people a lot before an arranged meet anyway. |
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"Are people now happy to play on first meets and already have hotels booked, or are they happy to with a 2nd social to play?
Do you think having another social is wasting time? "
Well, we can’t speak for others but if we click we’d be happy to play  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My opinion is a social is a must. There might be an instant spark... There might be absolutely nothing.... Or there might simply be someone who you get on well with but no sexual chemistry.
You can never tell until you meet someone face to face.
Just my opinion! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My opinion is a social is a must. There might be an instant spark... There might be absolutely nothing.... Or there might simply be someone who you get on well with but no sexual chemistry.
You can never tell until you meet someone face to face.
Just my opinion! "
Definitely this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always used to insist on a social but my free time is rare,so now I'd rather chat for a while first then just meet in a hotel. It's worked out ok so far   |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Are people now happy to play on first meets and already have hotels booked, or are they happy to with a 2nd social to play?
Do you think having another social is wasting time? "
I go with the flow, prepare for everything expect nothing. |
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"My opinion is a social is a must. There might be an instant spark... There might be absolutely nothing.... Or there might simply be someone who you get on well with but no sexual chemistry.
You can never tell until you meet someone face to face.
Just my opinion! "
And ours too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on your goals and exactly what you're looking to achieve?
Having a drink and a few giggles with a beautiful lady can be a very pleasurable experience. I've enjoyed a drink with some women much more than an sex with others....
The build up can be electric if you play it right.....
Some ppl want a cock inside them and no kissing, others want the drama and build up and some love... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always prepare for socials in the same way we would prepare for a play meet. As yet we haven't had a social that has evolved into a play on the first meeting but we are certainly open to it if we click. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My current fwb played on our first meet was only ment to be a coffee and chat but ten minutes later she dragged me back to hers and had her way with me mmmm good time that was |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on a few factors.
If I'm in Northern Ireland, it will generally be a social first.
If I'm elsewhere, I'll have a hotel booked anyway, so a social can lead wherever it ends up going but doesn't have to lead to play.
I will never set up a play meet without socialising first though. |
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"Are people now happy to play on first meets and already have hotels booked, or are they happy to with a 2nd social to play?
Do you think having another social is wasting time? "
If we meet through fab, we would generally have a drink and a chat before heading off for a place where we can play... even if we've had a social previously. I can't imagine a situation where we'd just lay naked in a hotel room, legs akimbo, waiting for our meet to arrive.
Cal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I haven’t been meeting for years but when I did this year, we had a social but the hotel was already booked using Dayuse, so we could make the most of the day, if things worked out well. The social didn’t last very long before we were charging off to the hotel  |
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"Are people now happy to play on first meets and already have hotels booked, or are they happy to with a 2nd social to play?
Do you think having another social is wasting time?
If we meet through fab, we would generally have a drink and a chat before heading off for a place where we can play... even if we've had a social previously. I can't imagine a situation where we'd just lay naked in a hotel room, legs akimbo, waiting for our meet to arrive.
Cal"
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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With someone new I could never arrange a play meet without there having been some element of social first - however I have had first meets where we've booked a hotel in advance with the agreement being that we'd spend some social time together first, and if we both want to take it further then we have an option to do so - if either or both of us don't want to take it further, then the lady gets to use the room and I come home, but we still split the cost of the room. |
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I have done both - had a social then next meet for fun, then sometimes straight to business having chatted on phone beforehand.
One memorable meet was meant to be a social and it ended so much more... was one of the wettest I have ever enjoyed.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to insist on a social meet first which worked fine unless the person is miles away, which I find tends to be the case.
So now I combine both but with the caveat of spending social time together first and if we’re both not feeling it then it doesn’t go ahead.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to insist on a social meet first which worked fine unless the person is miles away, which I find tends to be the case.
So now I combine both but with the caveat of spending social time together first and if we’re both not feeling it then it doesn’t go ahead.. "
I tend to go with a "social with potential". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to insist on a social meet first which worked fine unless the person is miles away, which I find tends to be the case.
So now I combine both but with the caveat of spending social time together first and if we’re both not feeling it then it doesn’t go ahead..
I tend to go with a "social with potential". "
its how i always did it before get the seduction on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to insist on a social meet first which worked fine unless the person is miles away, which I find tends to be the case.
So now I combine both but with the caveat of spending social time together first and if we’re both not feeling it then it doesn’t go ahead..
I tend to go with a "social with potential". "
Yes, that sounds good
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"Are people now happy to play on first meets and already have hotels booked, or are they happy to with a 2nd social to play?
Do you think having another social is wasting time?
I go with the flow, prepare for everything expect nothing."
Exactly this. Sometimes a social has turned into more but sex is never guaranteed, it's a social that is arranged. No expectations x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are people now happy to play on first meets and already have hotels booked, or are they happy to with a 2nd social to play?
Do you think having another social is wasting time?
If we meet through fab, we would generally have a drink and a chat before heading off for a place where we can play... even if we've had a social previously. I can't imagine a situation where we'd just lay naked in a hotel room, legs akimbo, waiting for our meet to arrive.
Cal"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to insist on a social meet first which worked fine unless the person is miles away, which I find tends to be the case.
So now I combine both but with the caveat of spending social time together first and if we’re both not feeling it then it doesn’t go ahead.. "
Yep this is my approach now. Time is too valuable to waste opportunities |
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We always said that if we click we play .
Never any pressure , but yes it’s a waste of time if everyone gets on and wants to play on the first meet . And we found 90% of the time we played on the first meet . The odd 10% was when the person or people we met weren’t what we expected or there was no connection . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re happy to play on a first meet, but we’ve usually chatted lots so have got to know each other better. We always have a drink and a chat first though x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I usually play on first meet. Nothing wrong with that.
I find if a meet up has been agreed on then there's usually been enough chatting already and sex is expected on both side. But I have had meets when I was fully aware there's going to be no naughtiness going on and that's fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We will only meet in clubs and never promise or commit to anything. For us it will always depend on the mood and chemistry of the night as such can be a yes we might play. As facilities available being in a club... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We love a social first. We have occasionally played on the same night too, but the build up in between a social meet and a play meet is always fun if you get on really well at the social first xx |
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