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families are just plain weird at times
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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my mum has been doing our family tree and has done incredibly well on it and had it viewable on the site she has been working on so i thought i would show a cousin i knew would be interested well when i went to look it has been set to private, when i rang her to check i was looking at the right thing she informed me that she had locked it as another cousins wife had been taking all the information from it and she still holds a grudge with her for a comment many years ago
ffs i seriously think all the elders in jy family are children really
they all hold grudges over stupid things i really don't get it, when i just rang her i said about wanting to show my cousin she said he could research it himself so i asked what her beef is with him she said that she sent him christmas cards 6 years on the trot and never got one in return 
its quite good to be the youngest yet the maturist in the family believe it or not
i think i'm about the only member that speaks to everyone and refuses to be drawn into their arguements or take sides
i refuse to let my boys be the same i will make sure thay remain friends and never hold grudges as long as i'm drawing breath
so am i alone or are there others on here with rediculous families? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My family.. well lets just say there is a reason that I dont have much to do with them
On one side they dislike me because i am my mothers daughter..( like I can help that)
On the other they think I did too well for myself as why did I need to get a degree..
Family.. cant pick them  my friends are the family I pick for myself.
cali |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My family.. well lets just say there is a reason that I dont have much to do with them
On one side they dislike me because i am my mothers daughter..( like I can help that)
On the other they think I did too well for myself as why did I need to get a degree..
Family.. cant pick them my friends are the family I pick for myself.
cali "
thing is i wouldn't pick a different family as as individuals i love them all immensely (well my maternal lot as my paternal lot are a whole different story i would certainly trade all of those in gladly) i would just like them all to grow up and get over their petty squabbles |
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So have you ever done group dynamics, it explains why families fight so much. I am the youngest of five and the negotiator and peace maker even after all I have been though. Familes you have to love them you get sent to jail if you kill them lol. |
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By *annGentMan
over a year ago
With a cracking view |
In my eyes, I'm the white sheep of our family
Learnt early to worry about myself, not them.
Have spoken to my brother twice in 21 years !
Chat to my parents about once a month, but try and keep it by email.
Just chalk and cheese.
I'm happy for people who have happy family lives, it's just not ours, and as the saying goes, you can't choose your family. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I need to read thread titles more carefully
I was going to reply to a thread that said fannies are just plain weird at times  "
Nope fannies aint weird just their life support systems xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your not alone. My mum has 6 sisters, she speaks to some of her sisters and not to others, and they speak to some but not others. I can never figure out their reasonings as they are a bit hush hush on the subject, but when funerals come around they are all very awkward affairs.
My dad has only just started speaking to me again after 3 years. He goes in his strops for hardly anything at all. When he found out I was pregnant at 17 he didn't talk to me for 6 months until I was desperately ill in hospital when pregnant with her.
The next time he stropped with me was because it was my daughters birthday and he travelled 3 hours to pay us a surprise visit and we were out. We'd taken our daughter out to celebrate her birthday and he hadn't told us he would be up but he still didn't talk to me for 2 years.
The latest time was becuase I got sick of him threatening to take me out of the will if i didn't get rid of my dogs, stop smoking or the million and one other things he tried to get me to change about myself. I accused of him of trying to control me instead of just loving me for who I am and he didn't talk to me for 3 years. Every time I rand him he just past the phone str8 to my mum without saying a word and when I went down to visit he would be out. I tried to get my mum to play devils advocate but she wouldn't put herself in the middle. I just sent him stacks of I love you texts until he cracked, took forever tho!
Such a shame, I love my dad so much, I was always a daddy's girl. he has now has early onset altzheimers (not sure how you spell it) so it's always a huge fear that he'll go off in a strop with me and that will be the last time he remembers me. You would think after my only brother died at the age of 29 he would cherish his remaning family.
I could never ever be like that with any of my kids. |
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"Your not alone. My mum has 6 sisters, she speaks to some of her sisters and not to others, and they speak to some but not others. I can never figure out their reasonings as they are a bit hush hush on the subject, but when funerals come around they are all very awkward affairs.
My dad has only just started speaking to me again after 3 years. He goes in his strops for hardly anything at all. When he found out I was pregnant at 17 he didn't talk to me for 6 months until I was desperately ill in hospital when pregnant with her.
The next time he stropped with me was because it was my daughters birthday and he travelled 3 hours to pay us a surprise visit and we were out. We'd taken our daughter out to celebrate her birthday and he hadn't told us he would be up but he still didn't talk to me for 2 years.
The latest time was becuase I got sick of him threatening to take me out of the will if i didn't get rid of my dogs, stop smoking or the million and one other things he tried to get me to change about myself. I accused of him of trying to control me instead of just loving me for who I am and he didn't talk to me for 3 years. Every time I rand him he just past the phone str8 to my mum without saying a word and when I went down to visit he would be out. I tried to get my mum to play devils advocate but she wouldn't put herself in the middle. I just sent him stacks of I love you texts until he cracked, took forever tho!
Such a shame, I love my dad so much, I was always a daddy's girl. he has now has early onset altzheimers (not sure how you spell it) so it's always a huge fear that he'll go off in a strop with me and that will be the last time he remembers me. You would think after my only brother died at the age of 29 he would cherish his remaning family.
I could never ever be like that with any of my kids."
As saying go nowt as queer as folk.
My grandfather once told me love is all consuming and to give love unconditionally is the one true thing you can give anyone. Try to never judge and most if all try and forgive. Wise man my grandfather, very lucky to have known him. |
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