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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way? |
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I tend to think that if you're after purely sexual satisfaction/fantasy, then any and all discrimination is fine (doesn't mean you have to be a dick about it).
For a relationship things can be a bit different....and getting to know someone overrides most discrimination.
However you can get accused of it regardless of whether it's true... Recently a club I go to and myself got accused of being racist and anti Asians.... Funnily enough at that very club just the last week we saw Asians and black men, and I fucked two of them!!!
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Only huge cocks for me and on men who don't try to treat me like a filthy secret eg they are comfortable with thier own sexuality
Wud I choose to meet a guy in a wheelchair ? Don't know cos never been in that position but if I find him attractive and he meets my criteria then why not |
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?"
I'm not sure that you can associate discrimination with attraction. Attraction is a natural response to how a package of attributes come together to create a person. We all know that physical attraction can very quickly be overridden by someones personality... in both directions.
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over a year ago
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?"
Interesting question OP.
I think that people use the phrase "it's my preference" as a blanket under which a whole host of different processes hide. Often it's simply based around sexual history and what 'works' for them, sometimes it's a darker mental process.
Actually getting someone to own that on the forums is a very unlikely thing though, bigotry and descrimination usually puts a bit of a crimp in people wanting to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think that many people won't even be aware they are doing it.
We all discriminate subconsciously, we have deep rooted beliefs and expectations which affect our decisions but outwardly we think we are making them based on the things we should like personality or looks.
It's hard to get to know someone beyond the initial impression and many won't get that far which is where I think fab can be a hinderance. It's much easier to look beyond "flaws" if you meet in the real world, you can't just ignore or dismiss someone and by engaging you give them the chance to actually show the personality or make the connection we are all looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?"
I think most that say they would have sex with a disabled person are just virtue signalling on the forum. Can’t be seen to be a bad egg and all that. |
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"I think that many people won't even be aware they are doing it.
We all discriminate subconsciously, we have deep rooted beliefs and expectations which affect our decisions but outwardly we think we are making them based on the things we should like personality or looks.
It's hard to get to know someone beyond the initial impression and many won't get that far which is where I think fab can be a hinderance. It's much easier to look beyond "flaws" if you meet in the real world, you can't just ignore or dismiss someone and by engaging you give them the chance to actually show the personality or make the connection we are all looking for. "
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We live in a time that saying anything contrary to what's popular is seen as an ism and the person an ist.
Heaven help you if you prefer slim, perky tittied women on here, or heterosexual, same ethnicity playmates...ooh, you can't say what you really, really want.
My friends and loved ones are like Bertie Bassett: all sorts. My sexual partners are specific and I don't care how lovely, kind, sexy, funny someone is outwith what I'm looking for, I don't care, as I'm meeting who I want for casual sex, no diversity monitoring required! |
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"We live in a time that saying anything contrary to what's popular is seen as an ism and the person an ist.
Heaven help you if you prefer slim, perky tittied women on here, or heterosexual, same ethnicity playmates...ooh, you can't say what you really, really want.
My friends and loved ones are like Bertie Bassett: all sorts. My sexual partners are specific and I don't care how lovely, kind, sexy, funny someone is outwith what I'm looking for, I don't care, as I'm meeting who I want for casual sex, no diversity monitoring required!"
Very true and eloquently put x |
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"I tend to think that if you're after purely sexual satisfaction/fantasy, then any and all discrimination is fine (doesn't mean you have to be a dick about it).
For a relationship things can be a bit different....and getting to know someone overrides most discrimination.
However you can get accused of it regardless of whether it's true... Recently a club I go to and myself got accused of being racist and anti Asians.... Funnily enough at that very club just the last week we saw Asians and black men, and I fucked two of them!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We live in a time that saying anything contrary to what's popular is seen as an ism and the person an ist.
Heaven help you if you prefer slim, perky tittied women on here, or heterosexual, same ethnicity playmates...ooh, you can't say what you really, really want.
My friends and loved ones are like Bertie Bassett: all sorts. My sexual partners are specific and I don't care how lovely, kind, sexy, funny someone is outwith what I'm looking for, I don't care, as I'm meeting who I want for casual sex, no diversity monitoring required!"
I think you summed that up perfectly |
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?
I think most that say they would have sex with a disabled person are just virtue signalling on the forum. Can’t be seen to be a bad egg and all that. "
not just disability. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We live in a time that saying anything contrary to what's popular is seen as an ism and the person an ist.
Heaven help you if you prefer slim, perky tittied women on here, or heterosexual, same ethnicity playmates...ooh, you can't say what you really, really want.
My friends and loved ones are like Bertie Bassett: all sorts. My sexual partners are specific and I don't care how lovely, kind, sexy, funny someone is outwith what I'm looking for, I don't care, as I'm meeting who I want for casual sex, no diversity monitoring required!"
I couldn't agree more I know what I want and don't and don't see why i should have to succumb to peer pressure to consider people I am not attracted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im not afraid to say it as i said yesterday a wheelchair would put me off would be an instant friendzone only
And if theres no banter i wont either has to be a little spark when searching |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say about no text speak on my profile because half the time I don't understand it. Shortened words yes but a message saying "wuu2 bbe" is a no from me x"
Me too |
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?"
That makes so much sense OP at first read, so wanted to post something immediately. Now I'll look to see what feedback has arisen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?"
of course we do and it's always a better thing not to discriminate up front on our profiles ,it really is down to each individual person as to how shallow they are ,I met a deaf woman from a site and we are still friends years later |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Discrimination and attraction are very different things! I have friends of all types, genders, nationalities and religions therefore I don't discriminate on a personal level but when it comes to sharing time and body with another person then attraction rules though this isn't discrimination in life. |
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"With friends I don't care what size you are but for just a sexual relationship I do as I don't find large people sexually attractive "
I think that's what some people struggle with, so bandy around words like shallow.
My friends and loved ones come is all shapes, sizes and ethnicities but my sexual playmates don't! |
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Discriminatively, selectively - yes. The same attributes that attract me to one person can turn me off the next. I can’t explain why I’m attracted to some people rather than others but I refuse to be available to everyone just to appear like a virtuous Fab forum saint. Fuck that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say about no text speak on my profile because half the time I don't understand it. Shortened words yes but a message saying "wuu2 bbe" is a no from me x"
This, and text speak has nothing to do with Dyslexia, it's just laziness. I have Dyslexia and wouldn't dream of using it, you may notice small errors in my text like letters of words muddled.
Text speak and Snapchat filters! no for real, you do not have fucking bunny ears and oogly eyes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that many people won't even be aware they are doing it.
We all discriminate subconsciously, we have deep rooted beliefs and expectations which affect our decisions but outwardly we think we are making them based on the things we should like personality or looks.
It's hard to get to know someone beyond the initial impression and many won't get that far which is where I think fab can be a hinderance. It's much easier to look beyond "flaws" if you meet in the real world, you can't just ignore or dismiss someone and by engaging you give them the chance to actually show the personality or make the connection we are all looking for. "
One of the main reasons I meet for a social within 2 weeks of first chatting. I don't want to waste our time chatting if there's nothing going to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Discriminatively, selectively - yes. The same attributes that attract me to one person can turn me off the next. I can’t explain why I’m attracted to some people rather than others but I refuse to be available to everyone just to appear like a virtuous Fab forum saint. Fuck that. "
Very much this for me too!
I'm openly discriminatory/ judgemental/ whatever '-ist' people want to call it. If they feel the need to try and shame me for it that's fine but it won't work.
I don't think I've ever actually said what my 'no' preferences are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's very much a forum trait though, and can come across it out in the non-fab world. I think being too PC and too agreeable makes people seem very shallow, weak willed and generally uninteresting/unattractive to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do people mean when they call others shallow?
I'm never 100% sure what they're getting at. "
I always think it's a form of name calling to try and get the other person to fuck them to prove they're not shallow at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do people mean when they call others shallow?
I'm never 100% sure what they're getting at.
I always think it's a form of name calling to try and get the other person to fuck them to prove they're not shallow at all. "
As you're the only one to reply, I'm going with your answer! |
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"What do people mean when they call others shallow?
I'm never 100% sure what they're getting at. "
They mean they are only attracted to perfect looks etc, and not someone who is not. ie - if you only like slim women and not bbws, ergo you're shallow as pussy is pussy! |
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"I tend to think that if you're after purely sexual satisfaction/fantasy, then any and all discrimination is fine (doesn't mean you have to be a dick about it).
For a relationship things can be a bit different....and getting to know someone overrides most discrimination.
However you can get accused of it regardless of whether it's true... Recently a club I go to and myself got accused of being racist and anti Asians.... Funnily enough at that very club just the last week we saw Asians and black men, and I fucked two of them!!!
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Wow good for not many of you out there I must say |
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"I think that many people won't even be aware they are doing it.
We all discriminate subconsciously, we have deep rooted beliefs and expectations which affect our decisions but outwardly we think we are making them based on the things we should like personality or looks.
It's hard to get to know someone beyond the initial impression and many won't get that far which is where I think fab can be a hinderance. It's much easier to look beyond "flaws" if you meet in the real world, you can't just ignore or dismiss someone and by engaging you give them the chance to actually show the personality or make the connection we are all looking for. "
I totally agree with this hence why I don’t have much luck on here but that is human nature I guess and the keyword we are all missing out is stereotypes and ability to look beyond. Believe it or not we are not all the same |
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I have been around the block enough times to know what I find attractive. I make no apologies for applying that filter on here. And I have no problem with people applying the same to me. |
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"I say about no text speak on my profile because half the time I don't understand it. Shortened words yes but a message saying "wuu2 bbe" is a no from me x
This, and text speak has nothing to do with Dyslexia, it's just laziness. I have Dyslexia and wouldn't dream of using it, you may notice small errors in my text like letters of words muddled.
Text speak and Snapchat filters! no for real, you do not have fucking bunny ears and oogly eyes! "
Same here could not put it better myself |
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?"
People post on the forum with comments that they hope will win favour with other users , or that make them feel better about themselves . Very few people post the actual truth , so I always look at these threads and take the answers with a large pinch of salt .
If the amount of people who would happily have sex with a random stranger in a wheelchair is as high as we are led to believe , then we can ascertain that a wheelchair user would be the most successful on here . The fact I see is that male wheelchair users often say on here that they can’t get a meet , despite all these fawning women saying how they would happily meet a wheelchair user . So I call bullshit on this one . Same with those with mental health issues . If someone says they have aspergers , bipolar , depression , ocd etc.... I bet there would be the same people saying that they would happily meet them . But once again in reality they wouldn’t . It’s just words on a screen and sycophantic behaviour . So I don’t believe for one minute that the amount of people who say they would , actually would when push comes to shove .
Oh and if it’s a fit guy with a great personality but he can’t spell , then I don’t doubt he would do well despite people saying they are looking for good grammar . Weight issues shouldn’t make any difference , especially for women as people really do like different sizes . Fat guys however will always struggle way more , especially if they can’t spell , have a mental illness , and are in a wheelchair . But if they put a post on here asking why they can’t get a meet they would be inundated with women saying they would happily meet them .
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By (user no longer on site)
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I discriminate. About so many things. I'm very particular when it comes to my fantasy sex. I don't want someone else's baggage dragged into my sex life and I want my juices flowing just by looking at them. I'm not sorry either. |
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?
People post on the forum with comments that they hope will win favour with other users , or that make them feel better about themselves . Very few people post the actual truth , so I always look at these threads and take the answers with a large pinch of salt .
If the amount of people who would happily have sex with a random stranger in a wheelchair is as high as we are led to believe , then we can ascertain that a wheelchair user would be the most successful on here . The fact I see is that male wheelchair users often say on here that they can’t get a meet , despite all these fawning women saying how they would happily meet a wheelchair user . So I call bullshit on this one . Same with those with mental health issues . If someone says they have aspergers , bipolar , depression , ocd etc.... I bet there would be the same people saying that they would happily meet them . But once again in reality they wouldn’t . It’s just words on a screen and sycophantic behaviour . So I don’t believe for one minute that the amount of people who say they would , actually would when push comes to shove .
Oh and if it’s a fit guy with a great personality but he can’t spell , then I don’t doubt he would do well despite people saying they are looking for good grammar . Weight issues shouldn’t make any difference , especially for women as people really do like different sizes . Fat guys however will always struggle way more , especially if they can’t spell , have a mental illness , and are in a wheelchair . But if they put a post on here asking why they can’t get a meet they would be inundated with women saying they would happily meet them .
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I agree with this but then again that's the pressure that being politically correct puts on many people today and it's especially true here and if kids are mentioned by men even more so ,I myself take people as I find them certainly in a face to face meet situation, here once again it's slightly different because you get glimpses of visual and the typed word to make a decision about meeting on and for a woman making a choice about a man any negative is amplified |
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"On the back of a recent thread I wanted to get some opinions on how people use fab.
Now many people state a physical disablitly wouldn't put them off, it's about the person etc however how many of us unknowingly discriminate when picking sexual partners
For example, lots of profiles states that they won't meet overweight people, or people that use txt speak, do we stop to consider whether they have a medical condition that causes weight gain, or if they are dyslexic so find txt speak and easier way to communicate?
Are we so afraid of looking discriminative that we must say publicly that we wouldn't be put off by a disability yet privately pick our partners in a more discriminative way?
People post on the forum with comments that they hope will win favour with other users , or that make them feel better about themselves . Very few people post the actual truth , so I always look at these threads and take the answers with a large pinch of salt .
If the amount of people who would happily have sex with a random stranger in a wheelchair is as high as we are led to believe , then we can ascertain that a wheelchair user would be the most successful on here . The fact I see is that male wheelchair users often say on here that they can’t get a meet , despite all these fawning women saying how they would happily meet a wheelchair user . So I call bullshit on this one . Same with those with mental health issues . If someone says they have aspergers , bipolar , depression , ocd etc.... I bet there would be the same people saying that they would happily meet them . But once again in reality they wouldn’t . It’s just words on a screen and sycophantic behaviour . So I don’t believe for one minute that the amount of people who say they would , actually would when push comes to shove .
Oh and if it’s a fit guy with a great personality but he can’t spell , then I don’t doubt he would do well despite people saying they are looking for good grammar . Weight issues shouldn’t make any difference , especially for women as people really do like different sizes . Fat guys however will always struggle way more , especially if they can’t spell , have a mental illness , and are in a wheelchair . But if they put a post on here asking why they can’t get a meet they would be inundated with women saying they would happily meet them .
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I couldnt actually agree more. Ive always posted about my mental illness and i often wonder how many stay away from me because of it. Quite a few i bet |
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