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Would you date a porn star/ sex worker
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Probably been asked before and wanders into the realms of being comfortable with your partner and many lovers.
I suppose the idea is, the difference between a huge amount of loveless professional sex and really being THE ONE they make love to. Does that concept actually work/exist or is it a nice sounding myth?  |
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Ive never dated a porn star or sex worker but in theory it wouldnt bother me its only a job. If i was young gorgeous and intelligent id love to be a high class hooker flying around with successful business men and getting paid loads for it |
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I have dated an escort before now, had no issues with it as at the end of the day I was the one she wanted to be with (the break up was for other reasons). I’d ask how her day went and I’d leave up to her on if she wanted to give me a detailed answer or not (normally it was the “weird” clientele she would go on about). |
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People are being very open, however jealousy and envy are factors in any relationship and the idea of having a part of someone that is exclusively yours.
Not saying that insecurity is a good thing. Just saying that it would be an elephant in the room. |
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"People are being very open, however jealousy and envy are factors in any relationship and the idea of having a part of someone that is exclusively yours.
Not saying that insecurity is a good thing. Just saying that it would be an elephant in the room. "
Possibly, but surely swingers have a slightly different mindset from the "norm" diluting your point. |
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"People are being very open, however jealousy and envy are factors in any relationship and the idea of having a part of someone that is exclusively yours.
Not saying that insecurity is a good thing. Just saying that it would be an elephant in the room. "
The question was asked on a swingers site
Swingers actively share their bodies with others. Whether they get paid for it is by the by |
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Allowing others to have sex with a partner is done for all manner of reasons. Push/pull factors. Pleasing and being comfortable with the idea.
Being with someone who has sex as a way to earn money, isn't really giving them the emotional permission, as you are entering the arrangement on a take it or leave it basis |
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over a year ago
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"I date the person not the job they do surely it shouldn't matter if you like the person."
And if he was a hitman, serial killer, drug dealer? Genuine question. |
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"Allowing others to have sex with a partner is done for all manner of reasons. Push/pull factors. Pleasing and being comfortable with the idea.
Being with someone who has sex as a way to earn money, isn't really giving them the emotional permission, as you are entering the arrangement on a take it or leave it basis "
what do you mean by emotional permission |
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"People are being very open, however jealousy and envy are factors in any relationship and the idea of having a part of someone that is exclusively yours.
Not saying that insecurity is a good thing. Just saying that it would be an elephant in the room. "
Hence why she wouldn’t do anal or kissing, they were something she would only ever do with me. |
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It’s all very well saying yes , and saying it’s the person not what they do for a living . But the fact is that there will always be certain issues that arise .
As we are swingers , it’s not the jealousy . More so the fact that sex would be very much taking work home . A successful sex worker on AW will get a couple of meets a day . So getting home from that and having sex again is not high on the agenda . Therefore the partner will feel somewhat unwanted , or if sex is had , the partner may feel it’s just to keep them happy .
There’s no way I’d date a sex worker as this exact scenario that I’ve described has happened to the only two couples I know where one of them is a sex worker . I want to feel like the act of sex between me and my partner is freely given because she wants to do it as much as I do . Anything less and I would rather have a wank . |
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"It’s all very well saying yes , and saying it’s the person not what they do for a living . But the fact is that there will always be certain issues that arise .
As we are swingers , it’s not the jealousy . More so the fact that sex would be very much taking work home . A successful sex worker on AW will get a couple of meets a day . So getting home from that and having sex again is not high on the agenda . Therefore the partner will feel somewhat unwanted , or if sex is had , the partner may feel it’s just to keep them happy .
There’s no way I’d date a sex worker as this exact scenario that I’ve described has happened to the only two couples I know where one of them is a sex worker . I want to feel like the act of sex between me and my partner is freely given because she wants to do it as much as I do . Anything less and I would rather have a wank ."
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"It’s all very well saying yes , and saying it’s the person not what they do for a living . But the fact is that there will always be certain issues that arise .
As we are swingers , it’s not the jealousy . More so the fact that sex would be very much taking work home . A successful sex worker on AW will get a couple of meets a day . So getting home from that and having sex again is not high on the agenda . Therefore the partner will feel somewhat unwanted , or if sex is had , the partner may feel it’s just to keep them happy .
There’s no way I’d date a sex worker as this exact scenario that I’ve described has happened to the only two couples I know where one of them is a sex worker . I want to feel like the act of sex between me and my partner is freely given because she wants to do it as much as I do . Anything less and I would rather have a wank .
Busman's holiday. "
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yes because they're just normal people like the rest of us...the only difference is that their 'work' is a bit different to what most of us do to get paid.
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Possibly, would depend on who they are and what motivated them to work in porn. If it was simply for the money and love for the work then maybe but if there were addictions involved then no.
I know I would struggle if they were involved in scenes they were being degraded in too. |
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I used to work for a guy who was a male escort. He never had a problem with girlfriends... He was never without one... But they never lasted more than a week or two before they moved on.
He made way more money doing two evenings a week as an escort than on his full time "normal" job. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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No. I can get territorial over fellas so if they were stripping off every night and women were pawing them, or if they were being paid to escort and bone other women, i’d be even more of a mentally frazzled woman than i am now.
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The head can be a funny thing at times about roles and sex. Many years ago I used to be a collared sub to a married Gorgeous Mistress and all that goes with it. One day she wanted me to f*** her, just because she wanted me to. Couldn't get my head round that at all and it didn't happen, because of the way I saw her role between us. Could crop up the same dating as the above etc. Just saying  |
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