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By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle and travel/hotel |
I last came back in January. I've had plenty of fun, I just seem to either go for ages without the desire to come or find myself reluctant to as it means the excitement will end.
I can play all night and day, I never run out of interest and have often exhausted the person I'm with, leaving them very satisfied and me still happy.
Am I abnormal?  or is this something I should embrace?
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm confused OP - are you saying you've not felt the desire to have sex (either with someone or masturbation) since January, or that you've had plenty of sex since then and just haven't cum when you have?
If it's the former, nothing particularly wrong or abnormal with that - we all go through periods when our mojo disappears for one reason or another and we just don't feel "in the mood" - if there are underlying factors behind it that you can identify, such as stress or depression, or simple tiredness, then you might want to address them if it's a concern.
If it's the latter, again no real cause for concern, unless as Delectable Dalliances suggested it's a case of you can't cum, rather than you can but you hold back, in which case you might want to get medically checked if it's an on going problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And yes - my balls are aching and I do shoot quite a fair bit (I get asked this all the time lol)  "
Out of curiosity, why don't you let go at the end? If i was with a guy and they didn't cum, bugger the fun, I'd feel like I'd failed |
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By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm confused OP - are you saying you've not felt the desire to have sex (either with someone or masturbation) since January, or that you've had plenty of sex since then and just haven't cum when you have?
If it's the former, nothing particularly wrong or abnormal with that - we all go through periods when our mojo disappears for one reason or another and we just don't feel "in the mood" - if there are underlying factors behind it that you can identify, such as stress or depression, or simple tiredness, then you might want to address them if it's a concern.
If it's the latter, again no real cause for concern, unless as Delectable Dalliances suggested it's a case of you can't cum, rather than you can but you hold back, in which case you might want to get medically checked if it's an on going problem."
Just to clarify - I've had plenty of sex but only came once. |
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By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago
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"I went through a phase like this for a couple of years it was more of a power trip for me also I just didn't want to come "
I think that there maybe I bit of that at play. I do enjoy the giving of pleasure more than being focused on my own needs. |
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By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago
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"And yes - my balls are aching and I do shoot quite a fair bit (I get asked this all the time lol)
Out of curiosity, why don't you let go at the end? If i was with a guy and they didn't cum, bugger the fun, I'd feel like I'd failed"
I do when I'm seriously turned on and hit that point of no return but it's almost like I need to decide to Cum rather than being stimulated by my lover at the time.
I also worry that it would make someone feel inadequate so I will sometimes ask if their upset with me. Only 1 ever was, I did want to Cum but her pussy was exhausted and she'd came so much she was knacked and I don't enjoy wanking off much lol but she really was great fun in the bed room which made things worse as I could have kept going all night. |
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By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've heard that delayed ejaculation is considered a mental health issue - maybe I just need some therapy ? interesting I never knew that. "
It can be a physical thing (which I've had confirmed isn't my case) in which case it's a state of mind issue. It's almost like my orgasm causes instant depression for a few days. Crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've heard that delayed ejaculation is considered a mental health issue - maybe I just need some therapy ? interesting I never knew that.
It can be a physical thing (which I've had confirmed isn't my case) in which case it's a state of mind issue. It's almost like my orgasm causes instant depression for a few days. Crazy "
Do you think that's why you stop yourself from orgasming? That it's a psychological fear that you will suffer that drop for a few days, as a result of your release? The drop could be chemical.
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gp |
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gp"
Absolute nonsense.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gpAbsolute nonsense. "
I can assure you it's not absolute nonsense.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gpAbsolute nonsense.
I can assure you it's not absolute nonsense. "
Yeahhhh no, its bollocks
https://www.nhs.uk/news/cancer/frequent-ejaculation-may-decrease-prostate-cancer-risk/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gp"
If it's a medical issue (pardon the pun), can I get relief on the NHS? Knowing my luck it will, wait in there, Nurse Barry will be with you shortly.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gpAbsolute nonsense.
I can assure you it's not absolute nonsense.
Yeahhhh no, its bollocks
https://www.nhs.uk/news/cancer/frequent-ejaculation-may-decrease-prostate-cancer-risk/"
I have seen that article before I actually think this 21 times thing is excessive. I wasn't referencing to that but not ejaculating for the time that the OP mentions is incredibly unhealthy for the prostrate which is what I said, I go by my own training within the field to know its not bollocks |
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gpAbsolute nonsense.
I can assure you it's not absolute nonsense. "
OP never said he can't cum. |
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By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gpAbsolute nonsense.
I can assure you it's not absolute nonsense. OP never said he can't cum. "
To clarify, I can Cum I just do the want to. I have plenty of sex but enjoy the feeling before and afterwards much much more than the feeling I get about 10 seconds after orgasm. I feels almost like guilt mixed with worthlessness.
However I have also been told that the not regularly ejaculating is bad for the prostrate too.
How that clears things up. |
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"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gpAbsolute nonsense.
I can assure you it's not absolute nonsense. OP never said he can't cum.
To clarify, I can Cum I just do the want to. I have plenty of sex but enjoy the feeling before and afterwards much much more than the feeling I get about 10 seconds after orgasm. I feels almost like guilt mixed with worthlessness.
However I have also been told that the not regularly ejaculating is bad for the prostrate too.
How that clears things up. "
That’s such a shame to have those feelings when you orgasm, if I was you I’d visit the go and have a chat about it, the doctor could send you to a specialist, regarding sex without orgasm I’d defiantly not like to have sex with a guy that didn’t want to orgasm with me it completes the act in my opinion, then you collapse and cuddle up both totally fulfilled |
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By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle and travel/hotel |
"It's really unhealthy for your prostate for you not to cum. Even if you can't cum with a partner you should masterbate regularly. If it's a issue even alone you need to see your gpAbsolute nonsense.
I can assure you it's not absolute nonsense. OP never said he can't cum.
To clarify, I can Cum I just do the want to. I have plenty of sex but enjoy the feeling before and afterwards much much more than the feeling I get about 10 seconds after orgasm. I feels almost like guilt mixed with worthlessness.
However I have also been told that the not regularly ejaculating is bad for the prostrate too.
How that clears things up.
That’s such a shame to have those feelings when you orgasm, if I was you I’d visit the go and have a chat about it, the doctor could send you to a specialist, regarding sex without orgasm I’d defiantly not like to have sex with a guy that didn’t want to orgasm with me it completes the act in my opinion, then you collapse and cuddle up both totally fulfilled "
To be honest, I think I know exactly what you mean. Maybe it's the intimacy I'm missing afterwards. Don't get me wrong, with the right person and in the right situation, I do enjoy my orgasm and live the cuddling etc afterwards. Unfortunately, people tend to only want the full time score and not the extra time.
However, if I'm still aroused and enjoying the sex but they've had enough after a few hours and are exhausted, or have and early start etc, then the act of making my self Cum feels even worse. Ugh |
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