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So you have an online existence on here- and that's all fine and good - Men and women give you attention , talk to you , fawn and engratiate. It fulfills your needs to an extent. You've got a few pics of your genitals and you've done the angle pics to make you appear slimmer and done the lighting so your undies look classy.
In reality though .... attention is hard fought. Your looks don't frighten dogs and children but your personality probably could do with a fucking good overhaul....
So ..... Is it better to bask in the adoration of fuck seekers you don't know or use a bit of brain , muscle and character to have occassional fun/contact ( of any kind ) in less harried offline situations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You cannot beat reality in my opinion.
The way someone moves, smells, smiles, how they interact.
Online is good too and has its place, but very different and can be a confidence boost or killer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Offline reality world is where it matters, function and to be thought of well there beats all this in a heartbeat.
This environment can for some create a false sense of self which imo isn’t healthy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you have an online existence on here- and that's all fine and good - Men and women give you attention , talk to you , fawn and engratiate. It fulfills your needs to an extent. You've got a few pics of your genitals and you've done the angle pics to make you appear slimmer and done the lighting so your undies look classy.
In reality though .... attention is hard fought. Your looks don't frighten dogs and children but your personality probably could do with a fucking good overhaul....
So ..... Is it better to bask in the adoration of fuck seekers you don't know or use a bit of brain , muscle and character to have occassional fun/contact ( of any kind ) in less harried offline situations. "
You've just described me granny |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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It does fulfil a huge need for some people and provides the satisfaction and validation they require in their lives. To a certain extent I feel we all benefit from it to a certain degree. It’s the extent to which we take it.
I personally find it a sad message on here and other social media sites that woman in particular. And more specifically older woman feel the need to garner the attention and validation constantly. It’s completely the wrong message we should be giving to the young woman out there who we want to encourage to be strong, independent and have their own worth.
Just my opinion anyway
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What if your just here to fulfil a physical want, much easier here than in the vanilla world.
It's a transaction we get what we want , said guy gets what he wants it's a win win.
No emotional gubbins, perfect. |
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"So you have an online existence on here- and that's all fine and good - Men and women give you attention , talk to you , fawn and engratiate. It fulfills your needs to an extent. You've got a few pics of your genitals and you've done the angle pics to make you appear slimmer and done the lighting so your undies look classy.
In reality though .... attention is hard fought. Your looks don't frighten dogs and children but your personality probably could do with a fucking good overhaul....
So ..... Is it better to bask in the adoration of fuck seekers you don't know or use a bit of brain , muscle and character to have occassional fun/contact ( of any kind ) in less harried offline situations.
You've just described me granny "
Pure accident. I never knew she was on here ! |
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"Hah so yeah, keeping it real from me, sorry Granny, let my mouth run away with me Lex "
Funny how we tend to view things. In my experience on line it's the youngers who seek approval and attention. That might just be because there are more of them I guess. |
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"My body confidence has grown since being on here but I don't think my personality can come through online. I think I'm better IRL than I am on here x"
My body looks like someone let it down 
My personality doesn't come through either I am best observed in my natural habitat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fawners and flatterers on here have the opposite effect on me.
Even though I've put on a lot of weight I still get offline attention.
On here though, it's from men I wouldn't consider anything other than sex with.
In the real world I have had men of all ages chat me up for sex.
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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"Funny how we tend to view things. In my experience on line it's the youngers who seek approval and attention. That might just be because there are more of them I guess. "
I think the much younger ones, I see it as a more natural trait, a sad sign of the social media times we live in.
And view as older women a responsibility to encourage them away from the need. To be comfortable and confident in ourselves without the need for constant validation.
You got me rolling this morning granny  |
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"What if your just here to fulfil a physical want, much easier here than in the vanilla world.
It's a transaction we get what we want , said guy gets what he wants it's a win win.
No emotional gubbins, perfect. "
Couldn't agree more. It's probably something a good looking couple don't have to deal with as often as a single. |
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"The fawners and flatterers on here have the opposite effect on me.
Even though I've put on a lot of weight I still get offline attention.
On here though, it's from men I wouldn't consider anything other than sex with.
In the real world I have had men of all ages chat me up for sex.
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Same here for your first line. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's much easier to meet men on here than at a bar/pub as men in pubs are rarely out to find a fuck. At my age the single men in bars are few and far between, so most of them will be behaving themselves.
The chances of coming across someone looking for the same thing as me, in a bar, is very slim.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm wonder what the inspiration was for this post...
I’m under no illusions that men want a fuck out of me on here. But then I can get the same calibre of men in real life, on a dating site, down Asda’s, in my gym, B&Q, doesn’t matter. If sex was my goal I’d get it wherever I went with whoever I want.
So adoration on here means nothing. Doesn’t give me a false sense of worth, doesn’t make me over confident or change my personality one jot because I know what I’m capable of pulling in the real world anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"shit ....and the second"
This place is only different for me than the real world because it has a high concentration of men looking for sex. Out in the real world I wouldn't come into contact with so many. |
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"Hmmm wonder what the inspiration was for this post...
I’m under no illusions that men want a fuck out of me on here. But then I can get the same calibre of men in real life, on a dating site, down Asda’s, in my gym, B&Q, doesn’t matter. If sex was my goal I’d get it wherever I went with whoever I want.
So adoration on here means nothing. Doesn’t give me a false sense of worth, doesn’t make me over confident or change my personality one jot because I know what I’m capable of pulling in the real world anyway.
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What she said  |
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"Hmmm wonder what the inspiration was for this post...
I’m under no illusions that men want a fuck out of me on here. But then I can get the same calibre of men in real life, on a dating site, down Asda’s, in my gym, B&Q, doesn’t matter. If sex was my goal I’d get it wherever I went with whoever I want.
So adoration on here means nothing. Doesn’t give me a false sense of worth, doesn’t make me over confident or change my personality one jot because I know what I’m capable of pulling in the real world anyway.
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The inspiration would be something as general as my limited experience online - the variety of people and posts. |
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"Hmmm wonder what the inspiration was for this post...
I’m under no illusions that men want a fuck out of me on here. But then I can get the same calibre of men in real life, on a dating site, down Asda’s, in my gym, B&Q, doesn’t matter. If sex was my goal I’d get it wherever I went with whoever I want.
So adoration on here means nothing. Doesn’t give me a false sense of worth, doesn’t make me over confident or change my personality one jot because I know what I’m capable of pulling in the real world anyway.
What she said "
In fact it doesn’t even give me more or less confidence. My confidence comes from looking in the mirror and thinking I look good that particular day.
Do you ever have days where you can do your make up exactly the same and your hair but some days you just look better than other days.
This place has no bearing on my confidence levels for real world situations, yes you can be more direct on here because you know guys are down to fuck but after that debacle with gym guy and me taking best part of 12 months to tell the guy I fancied him, I won’t ever do that again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Reading your post again Granny.
I guess if you’re looking just for sex then it really doesn’t matter how you’re achieving (within reason) the end goal either on or off here as you’ve described above.
If you’re looking for more than just meaningless fawning, adoration and sex as in a relationship then that’s when who you actually are as a person kicks in, that’s when reality bites.
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"Reading your post again Granny.
I guess if you’re looking just for sex then it really doesn’t matter how you’re achieving (within reason) the end goal either on or off here as you’ve described above.
If you’re looking for more than just meaningless fawning, adoration and sex as in a relationship then that’s when who you actually are as a person kicks in, that’s when reality bites.
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I agree. It was the disparity between the 'adoration' etc and the reality when people have to finally 'take the plunge' that got me thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Barbies. I'm a sucker for a slim blonde. 
I don't think she has a vulva. Barbie lookalikes."
You know if Barbie was real she wouldn’t be able to stand up with those body proportions.. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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" Barbies. I'm a sucker for a slim blonde.
I don't think she has a vulva. Barbie lookalikes.
You know if Barbie was real she wouldn’t be able to stand up with those body proportions.. "
Don't crush my dream. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"So you have an online existence on here- and that's all fine and good - Men and women give you attention , talk to you , fawn and engratiate. It fulfills your needs to an extent. You've got a few pics of your genitals and you've done the angle pics to make you appear slimmer and done the lighting so your undies look classy.
In reality though .... attention is hard fought. Your looks don't frighten dogs and children but your personality probably could do with a fucking good overhaul....
So ..... Is it better to bask in the adoration of fuck seekers you don't know or use a bit of brain , muscle and character to have occassional fun/contact ( of any kind ) in less harried offline situations. "
That's an interesting question, but it assumes that there's an inherent untruth in online interactions. I think that my pictures and how I am on here represent me the same as I am away from here.
I talk to people so I can meet them in reality and I see this as an extension of the real world.
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"So you have an online existence on here- and that's all fine and good - Men and women give you attention , talk to you , fawn and engratiate. It fulfills your needs to an extent. You've got a few pics of your genitals and you've done the angle pics to make you appear slimmer and done the lighting so your undies look classy.
In reality though .... attention is hard fought. Your looks don't frighten dogs and children but your personality probably could do with a fucking good overhaul....
So ..... Is it better to bask in the adoration of fuck seekers you don't know or use a bit of brain , muscle and character to have occassional fun/contact ( of any kind ) in less harried offline situations.
That's an interesting question, but it assumes that there's an inherent untruth in online interactions. I think that my pictures and how I am on here represent me the same as I am away from here.
I talk to people so I can meet them in reality and I see this as an extension of the real world.
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Then you don't fit my O.P and yes..... you look good and come across well. One of the decent folk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Whether its wanting to be adored by the masses or held in high regard by those that count it all boils down to happiness. So I suppose my answer is another question.
Does what you do ultimately make you happy?  |
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"Whether its wanting to be adored by the masses or held in high regard by those that count it all boils down to happiness. So I suppose my answer is another question.
Does what you do ultimately make you happy? "
That's THE ultimate question. Doesn't make what you do right though
It's a good question to ask about the O.P. though ... I guess if it makes you happy and harms no other ..... what diff does it make?
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"Whether its wanting to be adored by the masses or held in high regard by those that count it all boils down to happiness. So I suppose my answer is another question.
Does what you do ultimately make you happy?
That's THE ultimate question. Doesn't make what you do right though
It's a good question to ask about the O.P. though ... I guess if it makes you happy and harms no other ..... what diff does it make?
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......if it makes you happy....why the hell are you so sad....bloody tune! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whether its wanting to be adored by the masses or held in high regard by those that count it all boils down to happiness. So I suppose my answer is another question.
Does what you do ultimately make you happy?
That's THE ultimate question. Doesn't make what you do right though
It's a good question to ask about the O.P. though ... I guess if it makes you happy and harms no other ..... what diff does it make?
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Exactly my point, but what is viewed as 'right' I think is subjective to some extent.
Thank you for your answer, I would be interested to hear if those on the other side of the coin are happy |
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