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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So ... the girls on here are good for living out your fantasies but not for settling down with?  "
Exactly, happy to shag them but not take them home to meet mum  |
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"So ... the girls on here are good for living out your fantasies but not for settling down with?
Exactly, happy to shag them but not take them home to meet mum "
He didn't say that or even imply it to be fair to him. |
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Would you not rather meet ‘the one’ then share your fantasies with her? Not all relationships have to be missionary on a Saturday afternoon.
Not that you can’t dabble before you settle down, of course.
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"Soon you may discover that a lot of the 'girls' are men.
Alice Winger is most definitely not a man I will have you know young lady 
Alright Alice luv...... nice legs."
*searches for the lezzer emoji  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Soon you may discover that a lot of the 'girls' are men.
Alice Winger is most definitely not a man I will have you know young lady
Alright Alice luv...... nice legs.
*searches for the lezzer emoji "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You asked for tiles on what you’re doing wrong. First thing I look at on your profile and it’s pictures of you and a bird. Puts me off when I see pictures of guys with birds on their profile. Sure it puts others off too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So ... the girls on here are good for living out your fantasies but not for settling down with?
Exactly, happy to shag them but not take them home to meet mum "
I wouldn't have taken any of the men I've met on here home to meet my mum.
I'm assuming couples don't look at potential sex partners as life partners, so why should single people.
I'm here for sex, not a boyfriend. |
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The photos with the woman are very off putting, unless of course it’s a couple’s account. I also don’t like the phase and would be put off reading about going for a social before “getting down to business”, maybe I’m reading too much into it but it feels like an expectation that there will be some business. You should never expect it, not even on here |
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you"
Personally, several of your photos would put me off.
Pics of multiple women does not say discreet to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, I think some of the terms and phrases you use in your profile and in this thread starter could be have been worded better
Some of it might be useful language if you were chatting to your mates, but in terms of attracting bed partners, it is less likely to be effective
As others have pointed out, some see it as 'bad form' to show pics of you with former meets or partners
Your cock pic isn't really appealing - it looks sore to me (not in a medical sense, but as in it's just been ragged around for hours)
Those couple of things aside though, your biggest downfall is that your a bloke, a single bloke, a single bloke amongst thousands that find it difficult to make the site work for them. There's not a right lot you can do about that. |
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you
Personally, several of your photos would put me off.
Pics of multiple women does not say discreet to me "
It's also not very discreet to have pics of a lady who has distinctive tattoos which are clearly visible - anyone who has seen these tattoos would recognise her! Did you get her permission to publish her photos online OP? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you"
There are an awful lot of things that I would probably tweak or do completely differently if I were you OP, but I'm not. You run your profile how you want to, not worded by others.
I will ask though, is being polite and not getting nasty the best that you can do or that ladies should expect? Or is it just basic human decency? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What were you expecting when you signed up OP? Us women aren't just on here to fulfill the fantasies of men and couples. We do actually have needs and wants of our own too.
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Exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women are also on here for their needs and wants.
Lots of women like to chat.
You’re nice and don’t get mean? Okay, that is expected surely, are you wanting praised for that?
What were you expecting when you signed up OP?
Efforts in = results out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen "
There are plenty of successful men on here who have made an effort and have had results. It really is all about effort. |
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you
There are an awful lot of things that I would probably tweak or do completely differently if I were you OP, but I'm not. You run your profile how you want to, not worded by others.
I will ask though, is being polite and not getting nasty the best that you can do or that ladies should expect? Or is it just basic human decency? "
This. So often I see things like (not usually in so many words) "I'm not abusive, I'm owed sex!" Nope. Congratulations, you're not in the bottom 20% of Fab! That doesn't win prizes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen
There are plenty of successful men on here who have made an effort and have had results. It really is all about effort. "
To me it's just luck, other men have it easier because they fit into most women's criteria. |
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"Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen
There are plenty of successful men on here who have made an effort and have had results. It really is all about effort. "
Effort plus attraction. I don't want anyone to think that x amount of work means they get a shag. But a lack of effort is strongly connected to not getting what you want. |
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"Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen
There are plenty of successful men on here who have made an effort and have had results. It really is all about effort.
To me it's just luck, other men have it easier because they fit into most women's criteria."
So find ones who want you and/or work on yourself. |
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"Soon you may discover that a lot of the 'girls' are men.
And visa versa
When have girls pretended to be men??"
Girls pretending to be men and men pretending to be girl sounds like a fun party theme to me  |
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"Soon you may discover that a lot of the 'girls' are men.
And visa versa
When have girls pretended to be men??
Tuesdays. Always Tuesdays.....
Then you'll grumble about it 2 days later "
My grumbles are mainly work based at the moment.  |
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"Soon you may discover that a lot of the 'girls' are men.
And visa versa
When have girls pretended to be men??
Tuesdays. Always Tuesdays.....
Then you'll grumble about it 2 days later
My grumbles are mainly work based at the moment. "
I hadn't noticed this trend  |
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"Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen "
Yes, unfortunately it doesn't always equate ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen
There are plenty of successful men on here who have made an effort and have had results. It really is all about effort.
To me it's just luck, other men have it easier because they fit into most women's criteria.
So find ones who want you and/or work on yourself. "
the only option is to work on my self.... Where I'm from I'm fairly certain there's no women that want me haha. ... I reckon I'm the most blocked/ignored guy in the north east. Must of read every profile , messaged every woman with a unique approach to every single one and altered my profile that many times haha ...I'm going to a club next week ... Not for sex but just to get to know people and see how that works. |
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you"
Unfortunately OP, the real world is generally run by men but the online world of these types of sites are 100% run by women !!! They make the rules and the hoops we have to jump through |
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"Efforts in = bugger all most the time ..... It's like that advert on YouTube you put all your efforts into something and get nothing in return....
Sorry Queen
There are plenty of successful men on here who have made an effort and have had results. It really is all about effort.
To me it's just luck, other men have it easier because they fit into most women's criteria."
Prey tell exactly what criteria I fit into? Bugger all to do with luck. Lots to do with hard work and effort. |
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"Soon you may discover that a lot of the 'girls' are men.
And visa versa
When have girls pretended to be men??
Tuesdays. Always Tuesdays.....
Then you'll grumble about it 2 days later
My grumbles are mainly work based at the moment.
I hadn't noticed this trend "
I'll PM you so you don't miss it. |
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The women on the site mostly want guys under 45 who look and smell like the guys in fragrance adverts on tv, who are single, REALLY SINGLE ! Once you go over that criteria you've got a slim chance of meeting anyone from the site, just look at the ages of the people on their veris before you message them, that'll give you some idea as to your chances of a reply at least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you
Unfortunately OP, the real world is generally run by men but the online world of these types of sites are 100% run by women !!! They make the rules and the hoops we have to jump through "
You have to jump through? You don’t *need* to jump through hoops at all. |
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you
Unfortunately OP, the real world is generally run by men but the online world of these types of sites are 100% run by women !!! They make the rules and the hoops we have to jump through
You have to jump through? You don’t *need* to jump through hoops at all. "
It's not compulsory to meet anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The women on the site mostly want guys under 45 who look and smell like the guys in fragrance adverts on tv, who are single, REALLY SINGLE ! Once you go over that criteria you've got a slim chance of meeting anyone from the site, just look at the ages of the people on their veris before you message them, that'll give you some idea as to your chances of a reply at least."
What fragrance men would that be? I haven’t met anyone who looks like a frangrance model from TV  |
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"The women on the site mostly want guys under 45 who look and smell like the guys in fragrance adverts on tv, who are single, REALLY SINGLE ! Once you go over that criteria you've got a slim chance of meeting anyone from the site, just look at the ages of the people on their veris before you message them, that'll give you some idea as to your chances of a reply at least."
If believing that helps you, have at it. |
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"The women on the site mostly want guys under 45 who look and smell like the guys in fragrance adverts on tv, who are single, REALLY SINGLE ! Once you go over that criteria you've got a slim chance of meeting anyone from the site, just look at the ages of the people on their veris before you message them, that'll give you some idea as to your chances of a reply at least."
Ahemcoughthatsbollocks.
I could provide proof if you like.  |
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"The women on the site mostly want guys under 45 who look and smell like the guys in fragrance adverts on tv, who are single, REALLY SINGLE ! Once you go over that criteria you've got a slim chance of meeting anyone from the site, just look at the ages of the people on their veris before you message them, that'll give you some idea as to your chances of a reply at least.
If believing that helps you, have at it. "
And if not believing that helps you, Likewise  |
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"The women on the site mostly want guys under 45 who look and smell like the guys in fragrance adverts on tv, who are single, REALLY SINGLE ! Once you go over that criteria you've got a slim chance of meeting anyone from the site, just look at the ages of the people on their veris before you message them, that'll give you some idea as to your chances of a reply at least.
If believing that helps you, have at it.
And if not believing that helps you, Likewise "
The vast majority of my meets don't meet that description, and saying people are unattainable seems self defeating? |
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"The women on the site mostly want guys under 45 who look and smell like the guys in fragrance adverts on tv, who are single, REALLY SINGLE ! Once you go over that criteria you've got a slim chance of meeting anyone from the site, just look at the ages of the people on their veris before you message them, that'll give you some idea as to your chances of a reply at least.
If believing that helps you, have at it.
And if not believing that helps you, Likewise "
It's really not true though. Would you like my proof? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all
I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.
I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find that someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??
I want to explore new things as well as meet women.
Would be really grateful for tips and advice.
Thank you"
Its plain and simple if a woman is interested if not its better for a woman just to delete as saying no thanks gets you hassle and sometimes abuse. |
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