Interested to know more about swinging couples and after reading another thread about swapping with others in a club and a person getting annoyed when the female of couple didn't want to play with male of other couple ect.
If we agree that all people are equal but some perhaps are in more demand say why would it not be acceptable for the ones that did fancy playing to go ahead and the partners sit this one out for example.
I've heard some couples say that will only play with proper couples why is that? Just to know some reasons why |
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My answer would be as for the club thing .. what would then stop a single fella pairing up with a girl, who he can then convince you don't have to do anything.. just watch lol.. so he can get into couples only nights etc...
And as for proper couples only.. we don't see f-buddies.. Too many issues, wives husbands etc... can't call, be friends.. Nahhh rather the real couples thing.. |
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In all honesty, if we were out as a couple and Gary wasn't horny, it would make me non horny coz I'd be uncomfortable with it -- if that makes sense  OH bugger it, I know what I mean  |
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"In all honesty, if we were out as a couple and Gary wasn't horny, it would make me non horny coz I'd be uncomfortable with it -- if that makes sense OH bugger it, I know what I mean "
Makes sense... perfectly actually! |
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"So is it a safety thing when you say your not comfortable with it or a emotions/hurt feelings thing?"
No an emotional thing, I love him lol I don't want him to be bored! xx |
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"and neither of us can knit so what would you do then??
Nahh we love to both see as well as take part...  "
I wouldn't trust me in any environment with knitting needles  |
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"So for swinging couples it's about the pleasure of both parties and not the individuals. That must be real love."
For us, if we're out as a couple or in as a couple, then yeah baby! If you care about the others feelings, surely it's gotta matter! And it's not a free for all, it's an enhancement of our sex life, at the end of the day, we love our sex life so if it's not bettering it, then why bother! lol, it's not a popularity contest 
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i think the difference between your OP and the other thread is being upfront about whats on offer at the beginning ...that way all involved can make an informed decision. Some people might be more than happy for only one to play and would make it clear from the outset .
whats not ok is changing the goal posts when you've already started ( unless again you are all in agreement or someone feels unsafe etc ) . To set out as a full swap and then to only go through with one of the partners playing is not ok without the decision to continue being fully in the hands of the other couple at that point. If they are ok with that then fine, but if not then that should be ok too - as the circumstances have changed to one they may not be comfortable with.
I think we all understand that sometimes it just doesnt work or feel right....but if it appeared that someohw we'd been "tricked" into playing when one partner had no intention of actually joining in then i'd be pretty peed off too ! |
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"i think the difference between your OP and the other thread is being upfront about whats on offer at the beginning ...that way all involved can make an informed decision. Some people might be more than happy for only one to play and would make it clear from the outset .
whats not ok is changing the goal posts when you've already started ( unless again you are all in agreement or someone feels unsafe etc ) . To set out as a full swap and then to only go through with one of the partners playing is not ok without the decision to continue being fully in the hands of the other couple at that point. If they are ok with that then fine, but if not then that should be ok too - as the circumstances have changed to one they may not be comfortable with.
I think we all understand that sometimes it just doesnt work or feel right....but if it appeared that someohw we'd been "tricked" into playing when one partner had no intention of actually joining in then i'd be pretty peed off too ! "
I think you're absolutely right. As long as both are having fun, it's all good. But honesty is key!! If one is feeling shit, the night is not good and will not end well! For whatever reason, couples should never forget they're a couple ultimately and no one is worth breaking up a relationship for -- no matter how hot they are Again, I hope that makes sense You're making me miss him now, wish he'd hurry up and get home lol |
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"So for swinging couples it's about the pleasure of both parties and not the individuals. That must be real love."
Its about waking up in the morning intact mostly.... Same with most couples lol.. If the girls are happy, the fellas are...
For me, I relax more knowing she is in safe and capable friendly and conciderate hands.. and if i'm relaxed I tend to give the other fem a great time where possible.. so its a win win thing.
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"So for swinging couples it's about the pleasure of both parties and not the individuals. That must be real love.
Its about waking up in the morning intact mostly.... Same with most couples lol.. If the girls are happy, the fellas are...
For me, I relax more knowing she is in safe and capable friendly and conciderate hands.. and if i'm relaxed I tend to give the other fem a great time where possible.. so its a win win thing.
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so where were you on that junction again |
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You're making me miss him now, wish he'd hurry up and get home lol
aww hope you're not having to wait too long xx"
nope lol, he here now I'm introducing him to the forums, slowly |
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