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What do you think when people drop preferences for you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.
I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.
I see it as a compliment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure "
I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile |
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"There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.
I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.
I see it as a compliment."
Unless you went on to play them then they have stuck to their rules rather than flexed them surely |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure
I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile"
Why dont you just ask them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.
I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.
I see it as a compliment.
Unless you went on to play them then they have stuck to their rules rather than flexed them surely "
I don't understand what you mean. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure
I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile
Why dont you just ask them "
Ask them why they waved their preferences? |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
I think that people have a physical set of preferences, and a personality/mental compatibility. The second of which is far more likely with some interaction, either in real life or on a forum where they can gauge your personality.
It is tricky to box up something so complex as attraction into a few tick boxes.. |
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"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)"
I'd consider it to be kind of sweet. I have a friend with a very specific requirement. But I know of one man she's played with who utterly misses that mark and she thinks he's so fabulous it's the one time she didn't care. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"No ones ever told me they’re dropping their preferences for me so unsure
I'm not saying they have to let you know, it can be told by looking at their profile
Why dont you just ask them
Ask them why they waved their preferences?"
Yes because normally they are only a guide after all. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
It's happen to me over my age. One lady had her age preference some 10 years younger than me; we got chatting through the forum and then met; we had a fantastic time together and the very next day she raised her age limit.
So, if you have preferences but are flexible with them you discovery something positive. |
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"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)"
I sometimes get messages saying things like "we normally only meet special women not like you, but we're prepared to make an exception". I don't entertain it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)
I sometimes get messages saying things like "we normally only meet special women not like you, but we're prepared to make an exception". I don't entertain it. "
That's how I see it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I assume a man has ignored his usual preferences over me I either think yes, I'll chat to him, or no, don't fancy him.
Why he's done it I don't know or care. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok how about it if they state it as a requirement? (Blah Blah blah ONLY!!!!)"
I would point out to them that I'm not blah blah blah and wait for their reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I wouldn't really know if they had, unless something was very specifically stated on their profiles ie no brunettes, no short women etc. What sort of preferences are you talking about Op? |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"To be honest I wouldn't really know if they had, unless something was very specifically stated on their profiles ie no brunettes, no short women etc. What sort of preferences are you talking about Op? "
It's a height thing at a guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be honest I wouldn't really know if they had, unless something was very specifically stated on their profiles ie no brunettes, no short women etc. What sort of preferences are you talking about Op?
It's a height thing at a guess"
Any preference, whether it's race, height, tattoos, endowment, body type etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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High priestess of penis states that "preferences aren’t set in stone. Even the most fussy people like myself will bend preferences if the person is obscenely handsome (like Morningstar) with a big dick." |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"To be honest I wouldn't really know if they had, unless something was very specifically stated on their profiles ie no brunettes, no short women etc. What sort of preferences are you talking about Op?
It's a height thing at a guess
Any preference, whether it's race, height, tattoos, endowment, body type etc."
Well I've met skinny and a dad bod but that's not on my profile. A lot of people use athelic on profiles but my idea of athelic could be different from others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it, they must really like something about me.
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They're settling for 2nd/3rd/etc best."
If I didn't meet what it said on their profile ie. Age, size I wouldn't even reply, so would never meet
I wouldn't change my preference just for a meet |
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When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .
We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest I wouldn't really know if they had, unless something was very specifically stated on their profiles ie no brunettes, no short women etc. What sort of preferences are you talking about Op?
It's a height thing at a guess
Any preference, whether it's race, height, tattoos, endowment, body type etc."
I don't think I met anyone who was that specific! |
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"When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .
We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .
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Blokes generally say that because they think it's what women want to hear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"High priestess of penis states that "preferences aren’t set in stone. Even the most fussy people like myself will bend preferences if the person is obscenely handsome (like Morningstar) with a big dick.""
If someone worded it like that to me I’d tell them to stick their preferences up their arse!
I don’t need anyone to bend anything for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .
We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .
Blokes generally say that because they think it's what women want to hear. "
You can have quality and quantity. There’s also just quantity.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"High priestess of penis states that "preferences aren’t set in stone. Even the most fussy people like myself will bend preferences if the person is obscenely handsome (like Morningstar) with a big dick."
If someone worded it like that to me I’d tell them to stick their preferences up their arse!
I don’t need anyone to bend anything for me."
Haha half the people who winked me have a profile that resembles that  |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Is it, they must really like something about me.
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They're settling for 2nd/3rd/etc best."
4th, 5th or just some lonesome lady.
Just stop moaning and get on with it, and count yourself lucky she picked you and prepared to give you a chance now don't fuck it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are some preferences that are stated as a form of filtering and some which are hard and fast.
I have had socials with ladies who will never play with a married man, but they have 'flexed' their rules enough to meet me for a chat.
I see it as a compliment.
Unless you went on to play them then they have stuck to their rules rather than flexed them surely "
I imagined they were chatting with the view of the next meeting being something more.
So they have relaxed their rules by meeting even for a social, someone who is attached. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it, they must really like something about me.
or
They're settling for 2nd/3rd/etc best.
4th, 5th or just some lonesome lady.
Just stop moaning and get on with it, and count yourself lucky she picked you and prepared to give you a chance now don't fuck it up. "
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"When we were meeting you wouldn’t believe how man of the people we met had shit like ‘ quality over quantity ‘ , and such stupid phrases on it .
We are the complete opposite , meeting and playing with over a thousand people over the years . So there’s half the folk we met that changed from what they wrote on their profile .
Blokes generally say that because they think it's what women want to hear.
You can have quality and quantity. There’s also just quantity...."
We had an incredible quantity of quality .
We were very lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Preferences are just that. What someone prefers, rather than something being set in stone.
And, once in a while, we encounter someone who challenges our pre-concieved ideas/ preferences.."
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