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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely. I didn't post on these forums for months cause I didn't think anybody would really care about my opinion. That's changed though and I don't shut up now after taking the plunge! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
^ this.
Sometimes the ban is so worth the freedom of speech  "
 Indeed. It's not my problem if some people cannot handle the truth. It is quite amusing when given a timeout, like a naughty kid put on a naughty step or having sweets taken away for 3 days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
Rarely but perhaps sometimes I ought to particularly when I’m not feeling well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
Women on FAB actually get banned?  "
Not me sir . Never ever. Banned? What’s that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
Many times I have done that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
Women on FAB actually get banned? "
Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
^ this.
Sometimes the ban is so worth the freedom of speech
Indeed. It's not my problem if some people cannot handle the truth. It is quite amusing when given a timeout, like a naughty kid put on a naughty step or having sweets taken away for 3 days "
I had a ban once for 'bullying'. I was completely gobsmacked because my 'comment was just this emoji
It was in response to a TV saying he was very convincing and nobody ever stared when he went out dressed in public. I thought he was joking, hence my response. Turns out he wasn't 
I did pm and apologise though as I would never deliberately be unkind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
Women on FAB actually get banned?
Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer "
And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?). |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Yes, a fair amount. It also depends on what I'm writing and what frame of mind I'm in.
As you say though, sometimes I just think "what's the point", it's highly unlikely that even the most reasoned argument will change someone's stance. |
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
Women on FAB actually get banned?
Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer
And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?)."
You are nosey aren’t you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
Women on FAB actually get banned?
Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer
And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?)."
Obviously not.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
Women on FAB actually get banned?
Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer
And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?).
You are nosey aren’t you? "
Perhaps he should try to get a ban to see what's it like haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I always write what I think. And sometimes end up with 24, 48 or 72 hour ban
Women on FAB actually get banned?
Oh I have been about 8 times since I joined forums last summer
And your account has never been deleted by the (moderaters?).
You are nosey aren’t you?
Perhaps he should try to get a ban to see what's it like haha"
Me, never, I am friendly and nice.  |
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
Yeah I never used to but through fear of offending I dont |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, a fair amount. It also depends on what I'm writing and what frame of mind I'm in.
As you say though, sometimes I just think "what's the point", it's highly unlikely that even the most reasoned argument will change someone's stance. "
That is kind of my way about it. I don't shy away from speaking up or offering my opinion but I notice a losing battle (not that I'm right/wrong) but no amount of logic, or detailed explanation will ever change the view point or stance of the targeted party. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do hesitate quite a bit, 99% of the time our threads get ignored anyway so sometimes we see something and sometimes we will comment and then see loads of replies to everyone else and not us. we see threads and see who the posters are and think fuck it there isn’t any point!.
Sometimes if we feel strongly about a subject we will comment regardless, swings and roundabouts really. We aren’t phased by it anymore to be honest lol.
Danish x |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes, a fair amount. It also depends on what I'm writing and what frame of mind I'm in.
As you say though, sometimes I just think "what's the point", it's highly unlikely that even the most reasoned argument will change someone's stance.
That is kind of my way about it. I don't shy away from speaking up or offering my opinion but I notice a losing battle (not that I'm right/wrong) but no amount of logic, or detailed explanation will ever change the view point or stance of the targeted party. "
Yeah this. So often I type out a reply. Then change my mind deciding it's not worth the heartache when I get nonsense in reply.
Same with Facebook or Twitter (mostly. Had an amazingly amusing exchange yesterday that livened up my lunchtime but that's because every reply I got was more conspiracy theory nonsense then the last...) |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Sometimes. But i think it's more because i can't be arsed to get into an in depth debate with someone. Far too time consuming "
Better time management is the answer there. I have alloted times during the day;
8-8.45 - argue with strangers
1-1.30 - vent my spleen
6-7 - chess with pigeons
I find it's very useful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes. But i think it's more because i can't be arsed to get into an in depth debate with someone. Far too time consuming
Better time management is the answer there. I have alloted times during the day;
8-8.45 - argue with strangers
1-1.30 - vent my spleen
6-7 - chess with pigeons
I find it's very useful "
Very productive indeed. I wish i had the same discipline |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Occassionally and I must learn not to bite as much. However, I believe some comments shouldn't just be ignored for an easy life as then it almost accepts that it's OK. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Occassionally and I must learn not to bite as much. However, I believe some comments shouldn't just be ignored for an easy life as then it almost accepts that it's OK."
I’m glad you do. Yours is often the voice of reason. I’ve often read your posts and thought you summed things up a lot better than I could |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Occassionally and I must learn not to bite as much. However, I believe some comments shouldn't just be ignored for an easy life as then it almost accepts that it's OK.
I’m glad you do. Yours is often the voice of reason. I’ve often read your posts and thought you summed things up a lot better than I could "
Ha ha Not that well for my frequent trips off here! Just can't help myself sometimes when we are supposed to be discussing and it's like talking to a wall!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban."
You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher. |
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
Think before I speak? No not a condition I suffer with |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I don't often delete or even edit what I say - when I do it's usually because I've taken so long to type out a point that the point has already been made (and usually more succinctly) or the thread has changed tangent since I started typing.
I'll occasionally delete because I think life's too short and it's not worth getting into an argument - sometimes, especially with particularly opinionated posters, it's a question of picking your battles and it not being worth wasting your breath - although like Saffron I do think when someone is way off the mark with an opinion that leaving it uncountered is as good as agreeing with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't often delete or even edit what I say - when I do it's usually because I've taken so long to type out a point that the point has already been made (and usually more succinctly) or the thread has changed tangent since I started typing.
I'll occasionally delete because I think life's too short and it's not worth getting into an argument - sometimes, especially with particularly opinionated posters, it's a question of picking your battles and it not being worth wasting your breath - although like Saffron I do think when someone is way off the mark with an opinion that leaving it uncountered is as good as agreeing with them."
But if you hadn’t of agreed with Saffron, you couldn’t of said on the forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
......just did, then thought fuck it...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes as already been reported by someone lol because I said I found them a 2 out 10 and got banned for bullying for 3days even though they were asking for rates out of ten
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.
You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher. "
The young 'uns won't get that reference.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.
You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.
The young 'uns won't get that reference. "
No. I don’t understand that at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.
You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.
The young 'uns won't get that reference.
No. I don’t understand that at all "
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"No I post it anyway. It's possible to have an opinion without getting a forum ban.
You need to let me in on the secret! I spend so much time in Fab jail they’re starting to call me Fletcher.
The young 'uns won't get that reference. "
Shut up godber |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I want to reply to a post I Will, if I don't post it's because I'm not that interested enough to spend time typing.
I haven't been on here cor a long time but when I was posting regularly I always posted my opinion regardless but never had a forum ban because you don't need to be rude to state your opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I want to reply to a post I Will, if I don't post it's because I'm not that interested enough to spend time typing.
I haven't been on here cor a long time but when I was posting regularly I always posted my opinion regardless but never had a forum ban because you don't need to be rude to state your opinion."
I liked your posts. And your outfits. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I type then delete. Sometimes a thread is set up to goad people and it’s just pointless. Sometimes people are spoiling for a fight, I’m not interested in being part of that so I don’t bother. I’m sure I’m not missing out on anything either |
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Learnt to hold back especially when you realise in the grand scheme of things, completely pointless.
Had myself a nice time out from the forums and have found myself a lot happier avoiding the nonsense |
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
Abort abort abort. Mission compromised, I say again, mission compromised, abort.
That's the noise my back button makes..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the time!! Especially if the thread is getting long.... I hate being the one that kills a thread!! Have thought about deleting this one....but being brave and risking it!!
PT x |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
I normally write something out, then think I am being way over the top, then delete it, then send it to a friend.. then post a modified version.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation
Abort abort abort. Mission compromised, I say again, mission compromised, abort.
That's the noise my back button makes..... "
Haha accurate representation of my thought process when I do it |
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation
Abort abort abort. Mission compromised, I say again, mission compromised, abort.
That's the noise my back button makes.....
Haha accurate representation of my thought process when I do it "
I wish I could add it as a key tone..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just had 3 separate instances of doing it just now. Didn't have the energy or fucks to continue a discussion (which would turn to an argument) once I'd replied to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh, I've lost count of the times I've hovered my thumb over the 'Post Message' button and then thought "What's the point? They're doing such a good job of hanging themselves anyway" and carried on regardless |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
Do this many times sometimes it is just not worth the hassle. |
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"Do you ever sit there, reading through a thread, find a post you want to reply to (usually in disagreement) word out an fairly detailed response and just before you click to post it you decide not to because you can't be bothered with the can of worms that will be opened?
Let's see how many people don't reply to this because of forum hesitation "
more often than I care to say sometimes you just have a second though and realise they are just not worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do this too. I'm also guilty though of sometimes seeing a thread and thinking of a post but, in trying to write it off quickly, it ends up littered with spelling mistakes and then I have to send another one to correct it and then because I was rushing it ends up fucked up so I "remove post" which then puts another entry for me on the thread and then any credibility I might of had is well and truly gone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve changed over time the way I post.
I try not to reply in haste, give myself time to word a response in a way that’s not going to end up in a slanging match and a timeout.
I say what I think but I’m not good with confrontation and try and steer clear of drama lamas
Occasionally I go at it full steam ahead if someone has pressed my buttons & I think I’m right, however I’m happy to admit when I get it wrong.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't hesitate, but only on occasions I find myself needing to be a little assertive. Generally I just share my thoughts/opinions and tell the truth. Some of the well known forumites don't like it, but that has never stopped me. |
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