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By *rinthia OP Man
over a year ago
dundee |
so im at the local swimming pool with my grandson
splashing away enjoying the day when someone catches my eye.
its a fellow faber who ive been chatting to back and forwards for a few weeks, trying to get a meet.
shes there with 2 young kids and her husband.
now she told me she wasnt married.
so i just smiled, she smiled back but we didnt talk....
did i do the right thing?
she hasnt spoke on here again
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
You did absolutely the right thing 
As for the married thing - how do you know the man was her husband? Could it have been a brother, boyfriend or any number of other possibilities - either way not approaching her was the right thing to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?
They both had rings on
And.... so they are both wearing a ring .."
It's more than likely he was her husband though. |
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By *rinthia OP Man
over a year ago
dundee |
"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?
They both had rings on
And.... so they are both wearing a ring .."
yes both wearing rings
I wasnt stalking them but just there manorisms together , they were a couple |
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"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?
They both had rings on
And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..yes both wearing rings
I wasnt stalking them but just there manorisms together , they were a couple"
Well now she knows you know if she reads this thread.... |
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"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?
They both had rings on
And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..
It's more than likely he was her husband though."
Yes ... but could be brother and sister who both happen to be married taking kids swimming ... although we could keep making up tenuous scenarios ...
Just all too easy to make assumptions that's all |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?
They both had rings on
And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..
It's more than likely he was her husband though.
Yes ... but could be brother and sister who both happen to be married taking kids swimming ... although we could keep making up tenuous scenarios ...
Just all too easy to make assumptions that's all"
Ultimately though, if she was married though...people lie on Fab shocker  |
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By *rinthia OP Man
over a year ago
dundee |
There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.
If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting
But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.
So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen |
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"There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.
If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting
But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.
So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen"
Chalk it up to experience ... move on |
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By *rinthia OP Man
over a year ago
dundee |
"There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.
If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting
But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.
So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen
Chalk it up to experience ... move on"
Yep .... moving on |
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By *VxrMan
over a year ago
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"I'd say you did the right thing in a public setting but how do you know he was her husband?
They both had rings on
And.... so they are both wearing a ring ..
It's more than likely he was her husband though.
Yes ... but could be brother and sister who both happen to be married taking kids swimming ... although we could keep making up tenuous scenarios ...
Just all too easy to make assumptions that's all"
Very true. I've had the same thing when seen out for lunch with my sister & her little one I was presumed married with a kid.
Saying that if she was wearing a wedding ring she's married regardless of him being her husband or someone else's. |
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"so im at the local swimming pool with my grandson
splashing away enjoying the day when someone catches my eye.
its a fellow faber who ive been chatting to back and forwards for a few weeks, trying to get a meet.
shes there with 2 young kids and her husband.
now she told me she wasnt married.
so i just smiled, she smiled back but we didnt talk....
did i do the right thing?
she hasnt spoke on here again
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Why what else could you have done that wouldn't have been petty? |
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She should have told you she was married (if she was). When a married man posts on here he's advised to at least be upfront with prospective meets giving them the opportunity to decide if they want to be involved.
Yes, you did the right thing |
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"There’s no doubt that she knows I know!.
If she had told me she was married then fine, I could have chosen then if I wanted to keep chatting
But I did ask her and she said she wasn’t.
So for the past 2 weeks I’ve been building up some sort of relationship in my head that just never going to happen"
Relationship??
Well perhaps a rethink is needed she probably only wants some no strings fun , not a relationship.
But steering clear was 100% the right thing,we would be mortified if someone approached us in a vanilla setting with family. |
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By *rinthia OP Man
over a year ago
dundee |
"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend. "
Well..... they were very close friends |
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"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend.
Well..... they were very close friends"
I found out that someone was in a relationship by his face coming up on ‘ people I may know’ on Facebook, I would have been fuming if I had bumped into him out. |
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By *rinthia OP Man
over a year ago
dundee |
"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend.
Well..... they were very close friends
I found out that someone was in a relationship by his face coming up on ‘ people I may know’ on Facebook, I would have been fuming if I had bumped into him out. "
Would you have confronted him while his partner was there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She may well be married but another option is that she could be widowed, therefore wearing a ring and not married. She could have just been with a friend.
Well..... they were very close friends
I found out that someone was in a relationship by his face coming up on ‘ people I may know’ on Facebook, I would have been fuming if I had bumped into him out.
Would you have confronted him while his partner was there?"
No. I just wouldn’t speak to him again. If it had been a long term thing and I didn’t know about his partner then I may have. |
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OP regardless of whether or not someone is in a relationship it's never a good idea to approach them in a public place when you spot them out and about.
We all have our reasons for wanting to keep this side of our lives private!
Wearing a ring doesn't always mean somebody is married although it usually does. I wear a wedding ring and I've never been married. My ring used to belong to my grandmother and I've worn it since the day she died over 20 years ago. I wear it for sentimental reasons and never take it off. |
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