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Has any woman actually been turned down by a man on her ?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Leading of the back of another thread. Ladies have you ever been turned down by a single bloke on here, or is it yet to happen ?

Thanks in advance X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

* on here ffs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No but I haven't asked any either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"* on here ffs"

Lol the first one was funnier

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

Quite a lot i should imagine..

Many single guys wont just go with anyone...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning.

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple over a year ago

Reading

No never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I have, I guess we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. But I’ve never messaged one asking to meet either so I guess it doesn’t count.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight"

I didn’t even message him to begin with. He messaged me asking me to lose weight and tone up so I would be more attractive for him

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I have, I guess we can't be everyone's cup of tea."

Dafuq would turn you down ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight"

You look gorgeous! X I’ve had a few men on vanilla dates say they only like size 8 women of which I’m not one of lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

I didn’t even message him to begin with. He messaged me asking me to lose weight and tone up so I would be more attractive for him

What a Dick he is x

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

What about when you’ve met someone a couple of times but they tell you they’re not feeling it and don’t want to meet you again even though you want to? That’s being turned down right?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"What about when you’ve met someone a couple of times but they tell you they’re not feeling it and don’t want to meet you again even though you want to? That’s being turned down right?

Yeah, I think so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What about when you’ve met someone a couple of times but they tell you they’re not feeling it and don’t want to meet you again even though you want to? That’s being turned down right?

That’s the slow fade.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

And no, I've yet to be and I do ask men for meets etc.

It'll happen soon though undoubtedly, I'm on too much of a good streak.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes a few. I didn’t normally as a rule approach men but on the rare occasion I did, a few of them turned me down for being too fat etc.

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

I didn’t even message him to begin with. He messaged me asking me to lose weight and tone up so I would be more attractive for him

Haha what a nob

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ladies, feel free to message me so that I can turn you down, and allow you to have that very rare experience.

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"What about when you’ve met someone a couple of times but they tell you they’re not feeling it and don’t want to meet you again even though you want to? That’s being turned down right?

That’s the slow fade. "

At least they are being honest with you though.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

If woman asked more they most likely would be, and because men get so frustrated "when" a woman actually looks interested he never going to turn it down and asks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I have, back on my old profile. My boobs were too small with for one bloke and another didn't like women with short hair. It's fair enough, we all have our preferences. I would never volunteer the reason for turning someone down though, but they were very specific

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Kind of. I was messaged by a man and we had a nice chat, then he asked for a face pic, so I sent him the worse pic I could find, with no make up and my hair scraped back. He was very polite in his rejection, after he saw my pic.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

Yep. Mostly because of my dreads or my expectations...if what they said was true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I have, back on my old profile. My boobs were too small with for one bloke and another didn't like women with short hair. It's fair enough, we all have our preferences. I would never volunteer the reason for turning someone down though, but they were very specific

Short hair and small boobs is my favourite combination.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I get turned down in clubs all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What about when you’ve met someone a couple of times but they tell you they’re not feeling it and don’t want to meet you again even though you want to? That’s being turned down right?

I don't get told, they just fade away; which doesn't bother me with men from here.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Yep. Mostly because of my dreads or my expectations...if what they said was true."

...and for having hair where it’s supposed to be.

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

I've been turned down, or blocked a few messages in. I know I'm not everyone's favourite flavour, but that's life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Short hair and small boobs is my favourite combination. "

Well I've got long hair and bigger boobs now, so that's my luck out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Short hair and small boobs is my favourite combination. "

That’s me out too lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep. Mostly because of my dreads or my expectations...if what they said was true."

your dreads are awesome

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sure. Life goes on.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Short hair and small boobs is my favourite combination.

Well I've got long hair and bigger boobs now, so that's my luck out

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Yep. Mostly because of my dreads or my expectations...if what they said was true.

your dreads are awesome"

Thanks! Not everyone thinks so and that’s just fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've turned a few couples and single females down .. I know I'm no Adonis.However for me there has to be some mutual attraction and chemistry. This is why I tend to meet in the club's lately at least you can have other options if they're not what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning. "

You got stood up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Short hair and small boobs is my favourite combination. "

Ffs. Cheeky69 cancel that comment on the other thread!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep more than once and been stood up 8 times. Even had a guy meet me for coffee. Took one look at me says no thanks and left coffee shop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning.

You got stood up

A few times by one guy that I’ve spoken to on whatsapp daily since last August. The others were from dating apps. All talk but not so reliable and cancelling or not even letting me know sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is not responding to winks a turn down?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is not responding to winks a turn down?"

I forget to look at winks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes!

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes ~ too skinny for him he said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning.

You got stood up

A few times by one guy that I’ve spoken to on whatsapp daily since last August. The others were from dating apps. All talk but not so reliable and cancelling or not even letting me know sometimes. "

That's poor form by my fellow human species.

Did you carry on chatting on watsapp ? Did he ever turn up lol

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Not exactly they wanted to play with Dick,not me, I said I'd have to ask him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning.

You got stood up

A few times by one guy that I’ve spoken to on whatsapp daily since last August. The others were from dating apps. All talk but not so reliable and cancelling or not even letting me know sometimes.

That's poor form by my fellow human species.

Did you carry on chatting on watsapp ? Did he ever turn up lol "

He’s used some lame excuse about his daughter and not the first time. A quick text would suffice. I came back from visiting family earlier to meet. I had to threaten to report him to get a response.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Few years ago I was I met this guy 3 times. Socially- no sex, just kissing and touching, fully clothed. He said he actually wanted to date me. Then he stood me up when we were meant to meet 4th time. Gave silly excuse then when I didn't want to meet him again he accused me of sleeping with everyone on fab coz this is a sex site. The fact he met me on here didn't seem to matter to him..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is not responding to winks a turn down?"

Oh well they should be poised ready to jump when I say, of course!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning.

You got stood up

A few times by one guy that I’ve spoken to on whatsapp daily since last August. The others were from dating apps. All talk but not so reliable and cancelling or not even letting me know sometimes.

That's poor form by my fellow human species.

Did you carry on chatting on watsapp ? Did he ever turn up lol

How annoying in this modern age of mobile phones, to have the decency to get in touch..

He was obviously exceptional ... at not turning up lol

I am beginning to feel more sympathy for you Lola

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

* to not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, in exchange of a face pic with “so you’re a bloke?!” And then blocked..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got ghosted by a woman from a couple the morning of our long pre-arranged meet. She contacted me, we got chatting and she wanted to pop my cherry and it was all good. I even removed my lady garden at her request. She started talking about wanting me to domme her, but as I'd never slept with a woman before I wasn't comfortable with that. She gave me their address and left instructions, but then I heard zilch. It was all very odd. And before anyone says 'it was a fake profile' we had meets in common so it was definitely genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning.

You got stood up

A few times by one guy that I’ve spoken to on whatsapp daily since last August. The others were from dating apps. All talk but not so reliable and cancelling or not even letting me know sometimes.

That's poor form by my fellow human species.

Did you carry on chatting on watsapp ? Did he ever turn up lol

How annoying in this modern age of mobile phones, to have the decency to get in touch..

He was obviously exceptional ... at not turning up lol

I am beginning to feel more sympathy for you Lola

He just ghosted me the day before and until the day after when I said I would report him. He did this before a couple of times. He goes quiet and then comes up with an excuse. Shame, as we had a nice friendship forming but with no trust or respect it can’t continue.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

Yeah because I posted in tits out Tuesday and put a pic with my tits out. He then said I wasn’t for him

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"Yeah because I posted in tits out Tuesday and put a pic with my tits out. He then said I wasn’t for him

Bet he had a good look at yours and everyone else’s first though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning.

You got stood up

A few times by one guy that I’ve spoken to on whatsapp daily since last August. The others were from dating apps. All talk but not so reliable and cancelling or not even letting me know sometimes.

That's poor form by my fellow human species.

Did you carry on chatting on watsapp ? Did he ever turn up lol

How annoying in this modern age of mobile phones, to have the decency to get in touch..

He was obviously exceptional ... at not turning up lol

I am beginning to feel more sympathy for you Lola

It surprises me you have given this 'timewaster' more than one chance..

Was it George lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Them turning up is definitely more of a problem than them turning me down.

I've only been turned down when I've said no to them first, and then they suddenly change their mind and say that they didn't want to meet me anyway because I'm a fat bitch, or something similar.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah because I posted in tits out Tuesday and put a pic with my tits out. He then said I wasn’t for him

He's one of those men who want you all to himself maybe.

Bet he looks at other women's boobs on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"Yeah because I posted in tits out Tuesday and put a pic with my tits out. He then said I wasn’t for him

Bet he had a good look at yours and everyone else’s first though

Exactly. And his cock out on his. Men!!! Lol

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"Yeah because I posted in tits out Tuesday and put a pic with my tits out. He then said I wasn’t for him

He's one of those men who want you all to himself maybe.

Bet he looks at other women's boobs on here."

Exactly and shows his cock.

I’m not bothered to be honest. Wasn’t feeling it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I have, I guess we can't be everyone's cup of tea.

Dafuq would turn you down ? "

Ha ha it's happened twice!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

I didn’t even message him to begin with. He messaged me asking me to lose weight and tone up so I would be more attractive for him

At least he gave you chance to sample his magnificence!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

I didn’t even message him to begin with. He messaged me asking me to lose weight and tone up so I would be more attractive for him

Should have said I could do but would not make you attractive what an ass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going quiet on me when trying to arrange a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Going quiet on me when trying to arrange a meet "

Noooooooo wayyyyyyyy

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

Yarp. I'm not on a pedestal so will message folks I fancy. Many turn me down. It's character building

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After he messaged us, I got turned down by a guy because he didn’t like goth girls with tats ...as I have a full sleeve it was obviously a nine starter

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/645029

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

None starter for fucks sake!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, the latest was just a couple of hours ago. His loss!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many times, and one when we met for a social, after chatting a while, as he apparently didn’t realise I was so fat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Leading of the back of another thread. Ladies have you ever been turned down by a single bloke on here, or is it yet to happen ?

Thanks in advance X "

Worse !!!

been in relationships where I’ve been turned down nothing worse than feeling unwanted, it’s how I ended up back on fab my husband wouldn’t go near me even before the wedding was questionable but put it down to his insecurities and thinking once that commitment was made things would be different and guess what a ring on finger didn’t help so I ended up having a one night stand but guess what he knew immediately becUse he was on fab had been for years so now we know why he didn’t want any at home !

Nothing worse to feel like that from someone you care about but rejections from fab tongue in cheek and respect to any man who rejects me, rather an honest guy kno king me back than one just fuxking because any holes a goal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I turn down winks if that counts.

Very often the women who wink me look for exceptional vwe guys 30+

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes has happened to me a couple of times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've turned a few down,mainly because I didn't find them attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If woman asked more they most likely would be, and because men get so frustrated "when" a woman actually looks interested he never going to turn it down and asks."

All guys??

You do keep saying quys would never turn down an offer. There's a lot of guys who have filters that they maintain. Maybe it's hard for some to comprehend but some of us do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning. "

No way!! #shocked!

Why bottle when you have come so far!

Opportunity missed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes a few, I just get the polite conversation that goes nowhere x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, but tbf I knew he wasn't meeting but thought I'd try my luck anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really respect the women who have posted in this thread.....

It shows humility

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not turned down but turning up is another thing. Would rather they say no at the beginning. "

Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yarp. I'm not on a pedestal so will message folks I fancy. Many turn me down. It's character building

Good to see you back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes a few times

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I've had polite "thanks but no thanks" after sending a face pic. Can't be everyones type. Had a few that have arranged to meet too and they've gone silent on the day. All part of a learning curve x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep, not in the first instance though.

We saw each other quite a few times and then out of the blue he let me down on the day and decided I wasn’t for him.

Never really understood as to why but heigh ho shit happens....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve turned down quite a lot.

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By *greygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

well i am a bit small for lots of men on fab .but have never been turned down .and been asked back too.but have never asked a guy so not to sure how that would work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. Just life isn't it! Plenty more men on fab :D

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I asked someone if they fancied a coffee when I was next over their way. He said no because he wasn’t meeting. I think he may be exclusively meeting someone but that’s none of my business. It was a friendly gesture that’s all and I’m pleased that I put myself out there. It was very brave for me

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By *reeMan over a year ago

Paisley

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight"

That guy sounds like a cheeky bugger!!

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By *eachPreacherMan over a year ago

Kent/London

Ive turned down the a few women (though I've turned down more couples than single women), it's usually if they are too far or ask for something/have something on their profile that turns me off or is a big red flag for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I asked someone if they fancied a coffee when I was next over their way. He said no because he wasn’t meeting. I think he may be exclusively meeting someone but that’s none of my business. It was a friendly gesture that’s all and I’m pleased that I put myself out there. It was very brave for me

Nice new profile pic lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

Nice new profile pic lady

Thank you lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. But I’ve never messaged one asking to meet either so I guess it doesn’t count. "

I don't think many women ask men to meet

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Not directly, but I chased one pretty hard and he always changed the subject away from meeting. I think he left without meeting anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. But I’ve never messaged one asking to meet either so I guess it doesn’t count.

I don't think many women ask men to meet"

I’ve had quite a few. Maybe because Itend not to ask them. I find when I ask I never get it quite right. My timing is shite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. But I’ve never messaged one asking to meet either so I guess it doesn’t count.

I don't think many women ask men to meet

I’ve had quite a few. Maybe because Itend not to ask them. I find when I ask I never get it quite right. My timing is shite."

Hmm maybe I should hold back then.. I have a habit of asking to soon and I think that puts alot of women off.

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By *aul40Man over a year ago

millom

Wow who missed you your stunning

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By *eo_72Man over a year ago

Mansfield

The only ones I’ve had to turn down so far are

Aged between 18-65

Bust size small to tit wank tastic

From stunners to a face like a bulldog licking piss off a nettle

And because they have a pussy too big for my tiny penis

Other than that it’s super on here

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It happens to me all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. Everyone is allowed to have preferences.

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I’ve had a few instances with guys who haven’t really kept any conversation going, that’s just life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had to turn a woman down, because I was afraid of catching an STD from her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had to turn a woman down, because I was afraid of catching an STD from her. "

How did you know she had one?

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Yep, im not everybody's cup of tea and dont mind admitting it.

One that stood out was a guy citing he wouldnt meet me as i had previously met a bi guy, which was odd as i had no veris on show at thd time so unless he had been secretly stalking me then not sure how he would know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had to turn a woman down, because I was afraid of catching an STD from her.

How did you know she had one?"

I didn't know, I had that feeling.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had to turn a woman down, because I was afraid of catching an STD from her.

How did you know she had one?

I didn't know, I had that feeling. "

Really? May I ask why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had to turn a woman down, because I was afraid of catching an STD from her.

How did you know she had one?

I didn't know, I had that feeling. "

I’ve turned people down before because they’ve been with people I can’t stand or with people who have bareback pics. Probably loads of ridiculous reasons but it’s my choice. Don’t blame you if you weren’t sure. Your choice.

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By *hatYorkLadMan over a year ago

York

I've turned a few locals down, I was polite about it though. One of who was very attractive but I already had plans that weekend!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had to turn a woman down, because I was afraid of catching an STD from her.

How did you know she had one?

I didn't know, I had that feeling. "

How?

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"Leading of the back of another thread. Ladies have you ever been turned down by a single bloke on here, or is it yet to happen ?

Thanks in advance X "

In my 5 years on here I’ve been turned down (or message ignored) around a dozen times I reckon!

I’m pro-active though - I’ll message forumites I like the look of - and guys from hot photos etc! Doesn’t bother me at all tbh - nobody can possibly be everybody’s type!

I’ve met some gorgeous guys by making the first move so I’ll continue to do it until the no’s way outweigh the yes’s!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She told me she liked having bareback sex with multiple men and she slept with men in clubs who used the same condoms on women "going from one to the other"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not yet x

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I turned someone down recently. She was too fat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

omg,,what a strange question,,lol,ffs op

I so hope people on here aint that fucking desperate

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By *ictor and RosieCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

I was turned down 3 times. Once when I messaged a bloke. He said I wasn't his type. ( fair enough) The other 2 times I met them in a pub and they had a drink with me then they said they had to leave to get home to their baby sitter..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. "
then hes a bloody div

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was turned down 3 times. Once when I messaged a bloke. He said I wasn't his type. ( fair enough) The other 2 times I met them in a pub and they had a drink with me then they said they had to leave to get home to their baby sitter..

More fool them then! What a body!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"omg,,what a strange question,,lol,ffs op

I so hope people on here aint that fucking desperate"

Why strange and what makes it desperate?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

More fool them then! What a body! "

yea but flattery like that does nothin for women,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"omg,,what a strange question,,lol,ffs op

I so hope people on here aint that fucking desperate

Why strange and what makes it desperate? "

cos it seems most guys on here would shag anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"omg,,what a strange question,,lol,ffs op

I so hope people on here aint that fucking desperate

Why strange and what makes it desperate?

cos it seems most guys on here would shag anything"

You could be correct. Many not all.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight"

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"omg,,what a strange question,,lol,ffs op

I so hope people on here aint that fucking desperate

Why strange and what makes it desperate?

cos it seems most guys on here would shag anything

You could be correct. Many not all. "

yeap,,its not a guy thing though,but like you say not all

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say."

I had that after id already met the person four times!

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Seems to be double standards with the fat shaming. I have seen comments where the bloke is referred to as fat or profile advice threads where the guy is out of shape. Seems it is fair game to condemn a man if he is fat. There are numerous times where a woman has said the guy looked nothing like his pic cos he was fat. So preferences are only allowed when it suits?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

Jeez ...some people

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Seems to be double standards with the fat shaming. I have seen comments where the bloke is referred to as fat or profile advice threads where the guy is out of shape. Seems it is fair game to condemn a man if he is fat. There are numerous times where a woman has said the guy looked nothing like his pic cos he was fat. So preferences are only allowed when it suits? "

Shaming isn't good either way. There are numerous times where thinner women are made to feel bad. Numerous times when 'Dad bods' have been celebrated. We can all probably name anything to make our arguments and find the evidence in the threads. Look at the whole.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

Wow 15 months...do you think anything else could have been behind it. That's long time to suddenly come off with that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

Wow 15 months...do you think anything else could have been behind it. That's long time to suddenly come off with that."

I agree. That will not be the real reason and a cop out.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

Wow 15 months...do you think anything else could have been behind it. That's long time to suddenly come off with that.

I agree. That will not be the real reason and a cop out. "
so in 15 months you didn't manage to grow taller for him? You shudda made more effort.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

Wow 15 months...do you think anything else could have been behind it. That's long time to suddenly come off with that.

I agree. That will not be the real reason and a cop out. "

He had moved on. I ended it. Feedback was that I was too short.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

Wow 15 months...do you think anything else could have been behind it. That's long time to suddenly come off with that.

I agree. That will not be the real reason and a cop out. so in 15 months you didn't manage to grow taller for him? You shudda made more effort. "

I know! Either that or I shrunk over the 15 months.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

Wow 15 months...do you think anything else could have been behind it. That's long time to suddenly come off with that.

I agree. That will not be the real reason and a cop out. so in 15 months you didn't manage to grow taller for him? You shudda made more effort.

I know! Either that or I shrunk over the 15 months."
pr he had a growth spurt. These things happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

That's a really shitty thing for him to say.

I had that after id already met the person four times!

I was dropped for being too short after 15 months of seeing each other every week, sometimes several times, going away together etc.

Wow 15 months...do you think anything else could have been behind it. That's long time to suddenly come off with that.

I agree. That will not be the real reason and a cop out.

He had moved on. I ended it. Feedback was that I was too short.

What a silly thing to say and reflects him as a person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ha,,,a guy once dumped me cos he was scared his friends would find out

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’ve only messaged 2 guys myself and they fizzled out.

I’ve not actively been turned down, conversion tends to stop or slows down (if you’re messaging me now, I’ve not replied because life is “argh” not because of this). Had one guy who just stopped replying to messages the day before a meet and was never to be heard of again.

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By *ictor and RosieCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

More fool them then! What a body! "

Lol.. Thanks.. One did actually have to get home to his baby sitter but the other one found me a bit to brash I think ! I can get a bit to full on after a few glasses of cava,, But ..hey,, that's me !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Leading of the back of another thread. Ladies have you ever been turned down by a single bloke on here, or is it yet to happen ?

Thanks in advance X "

In a word, no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

I didn’t even message him to begin with. He messaged me asking me to lose weight and tone up so I would be more attractive for him

What a Dick he is x"

Your not fat your a perfect size for me

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By *adame1981Woman over a year ago

Leicester

I've been turned down lots

I've been stood up too many times to mention

I'm not everyone's cup of tea so I don't mind that however I do get annoyed at no shows as it's my time that's being wasted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Welcome to the forums my friend......

Please leave your personal opinions at the door... please grab your pitchfork and torch before you post anything because if you go against the fray you will become a pariah...

God speed my friend....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

I've been ghosted after a couple of meets with a local guy and turned down by a forumite

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

Got stood up a few times when I first joined, and very recently completely ghosted by someone I've known 6 yrs off of here.

That ones left me pretty hurt tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"omg,,what a strange question,,lol,ffs op

I so hope people on here aint that fucking desperate"

Hardly, it was slightly tongue n cheek. But I’ve seen some of your threads and it’s a lot less strange then the ones you generally start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"ha,,,a guy once dumped me cos he was scared his friends would find out

Yeah, that’s what he wanted you to believe.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

Yes. 16 over 6 years.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Women can message me all they like and only reasons I'd say no is work or distance

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I don't see why people can't be straight with others, could meet and make really good friend even if ya don't do naughty stuff

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By *armupartistMan over a year ago

York

I clearly won't be given the opportunity to turn you down Hepatica (such a

pretty flower) on grounds of my age if nothing else - pity - in all other respects i think we would hit it off...

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By *greygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

"well i am a bit small for lots of men on fab .but have never been turned down .and been asked back too.but have never asked a guy so not to sure how that would work."
wow woke up to messages from guys who have read this thread ,and all saying not to small for them and what they would do [ect]so big thanks to you all xxx.k

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan over a year ago

stockport wasteland

ANY WOMAN WANNA MEET GIVE ME A SHOUT WE SORT SOMETHING HAVE A LAUGH ATLEAST

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"ANY WOMAN WANNA MEET GIVE ME A SHOUT WE SORT SOMETHING HAVE A LAUGH ATLEAST"

Women famously don’t meet men who write with the caps lock on, that’s just one of the basics.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

Yep... Once... My roses turned out just stunning that year

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ANY WOMAN WANNA MEET GIVE ME A SHOUT WE SORT SOMETHING HAVE A LAUGH ATLEAST

Women famously don’t meet men who write with the caps lock on, that’s just one of the basics. "

Now then Tame. No due diligence on your part there. A veritable swathe of veris suggests that Neil has done fine with the shouty texts! Or is a hit with the hard of hearing perhaps.

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By *illen5Man over a year ago

Bath

"Yes ~ too skinny for him he said."

Having looked your profile they must be bonkers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve turned quite a few down, if I don’t think we’ll be a match, I’m not going to pursue it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve turned quite a few down, if I don’t think we’ll be a match, I’m not going to pursue it. "

Looking at some of the posts here, you must've been mad to have turned a lady down! You foolish free thinking individual you!

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By *illen5Man over a year ago

Bath

"ANY WOMAN WANNA MEET GIVE ME A SHOUT WE SORT SOMETHING HAVE A LAUGH ATLEAST

Women famously don’t meet men who write with the caps lock on, that’s just one of the basics. "

Haha. Strange but true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve turned quite a few down, if I don’t think we’ll be a match, I’m not going to pursue it.

Looking at some of the posts here, you must've been mad to have turned a lady down! You foolish free thinking individual you!"

Haha, well, I am a bit of a maverick!

But why would you meet someone you’ve no attraction to? I don’t get that... how can that get you going?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Yes. I was too fat for him. He would meet me if I lost weight

I didn’t even message him to begin with. He messaged me asking me to lose weight and tone up so I would be more attractive for him

"
Wtf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve turned quite a few down, if I don’t think we’ll be a match, I’m not going to pursue it.

Looking at some of the posts here, you must've been mad to have turned a lady down! You foolish free thinking individual you!

Haha, well, I am a bit of a maverick!

But why would you meet someone you’ve no attraction to? I don’t get that... how can that get you going? "

You should be grateful for what you are given! You'll be ostracised by all these chaps for such a flagrant display of rational thinking y'know?!

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By *rinthiaMan over a year ago

dundee

"Yep more than once and been stood up 8 times. Even had a guy meet me for coffee. Took one look at me says no thanks and left coffee shop"

That’s really bad, what was the guy thinking of...

I just don’t understand some people....

Hope you hit him in the back of the head with your coffee cup

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep... Once... My roses turned out just stunning that year

That made me spit my tea out and laugh...

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"What about when you’ve met someone a couple of times but they tell you they’re not feeling it and don’t want to meet you again even though you want to? That’s being turned down right?

That’s the slow fade.

At least they are being honest with you though.

Oh it hasn’t happened to me. I was just asking because I know someone else who it happened to and wanted to clarify.

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