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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Do you, just curious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No never do you ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On here I do. If I didn't I would not consider meeting anyone, even the ones who think they are a 10.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have standards, I have preferences. Big difference. Can I adapt who I'm attracted to? No..

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No, I'm not desperate for a shag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have done ... never ever again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I'm not desperate for a shag. "

This

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

This post is of a lower standard than I normally bother with but anything for you OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

Why should I?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer people who float my boat not those willing to float any boat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jesus, no!

This is about my partner indulging me and giving me little treats in the form of new playthings and shared experiences. It is not a desperate search for a shag, I can afford to be choosy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I prefer people who float my boat not those willing to float any boat"

I like this

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Aww Op, what happened to your longer op? About lowering your standards in terms of women's looks on here compared to the vanilla world?

I don't lower my standards - I like what I like on here and the real world. I don't feel like I have to compromise so maybe it's different for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't lower them if you had none to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know, try me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aww Op, what happened to your longer op? About lowering your standards in terms of women's looks on here compared to the vanilla world?

I don't lower my standards - I like what I like on here and the real world. I don't feel like I have to compromise so maybe it's different for me."

Oh dear.. did he bottle it!?!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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Dropped them once. Won't again

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Aww Op, what happened to your longer op? About lowering your standards in terms of women's looks on here compared to the vanilla world?

I don't lower my standards - I like what I like on here and the real world. I don't feel like I have to compromise so maybe it's different for me.

Oh dear.. did he bottle it!?!

Yeah and then some bitch had to bring it up. What a bitch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aww Op, what happened to your longer op? About lowering your standards in terms of women's looks on here compared to the vanilla world?

I don't lower my standards - I like what I like on here and the real world. I don't feel like I have to compromise so maybe it's different for me.

Oh dear.. did he bottle it!?!

Yeah and then some bitch had to bring it up. What a bitch.

The OP shot himself in the foot then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t need to drop my standards because I’m so far below everyone elses’ it’s a moot point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can't lower them if you had none to begin with. "

Bingo!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, but luckily I quite enjoy masturbation...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't fuck anyone who I think thinks he's too good for me.

He doesn't deserve my pussy.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I won't fuck anyone who I think thinks he's too good for me.

He doesn't deserve my pussy. "
Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, never

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

They're not as high on here as in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, but luckily I quite enjoy masturbation...

My right hand has standards so won’t touch it anymore but my left hand after years of neglect has lower standards thankfully. It’s just a bit shit at it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I prefer people who float my boat not those willing to float any boat

I like this

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glad you do I'm not upto everyone's standards but I'm no bus willing to let anybody ride me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A line in Adam ants song prince charming comes to mind ,dont you ever lower yourself forgetting all your standards

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Unfortunately yes I have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unfortunately yes I have.

Really? That surprises me

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Unfortunately yes I have.

Really? That surprises me

Yes, me to. No need Spidey! Do not do that again...Ok?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won't fuck anyone who I think thinks he's too good for me.

He doesn't deserve my pussy. Sorry

I'm not

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Unfortunately yes I have.

Really? That surprises me

Yes, me to. No need Spidey! Do not do that again...Ok?"

Absolutely.... Hot to trot...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say I'm very selective in the sense I know what I want... In a deviant with class

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely you just fuck people you’re attracted to, otherwise you might just as well have a wank.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely you just fuck people you’re attracted to, otherwise you might just as well have a wank. "

I'd rather have a wank tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely you just fuck people you’re attracted to, otherwise you might just as well have a wank.

I'd rather have a wank tbh"

Seems to be my go to option...

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By *am4CamWoman over a year ago

Fairy Land

Nope. To do so would be counter productive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely you just fuck people you’re attracted to, otherwise you might just as well have a wank.

I'd rather have a wank tbh

Seems to be my go to option..."

Look at it this way... Its no effort really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely you just fuck people you’re attracted to, otherwise you might just as well have a wank.

I'd rather have a wank tbh

Seems to be my go to option...

Look at it this way... Its no effort really

Who have you been talking too?..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My standards are way higher on here in terms of physical attraction. They have to tick all my physical attribute boxes. In the real world, if I ever found myself looking for a relationship again then I'd be much less demanding when it comes to physical attraction. I might lower my standards on here for personality though. After all, I don't have to talk to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards"
Durrrr sex? Myself only in the sense of what I would and wouldn't date.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"On here I do. If I didn't I would not consider meeting anyone, even the ones who think they are a 10."

Brilliant answer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here I do. If I didn't I would not consider meeting anyone, even the ones who think they are a 10.

Brilliant answer

Then I would not consider meeting anyone but hey thats me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not a chance!!!

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards"

When we had a night out and we were looking for fun , as long as the people we played with were clean and respectful that was enough .

In order to lower standards you have to have high standards to begin with . Ours never were that high .

And if you set them really high you don’t end up meeting anyone , and what’s the point of that ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards

When we had a night out and we were looking for fun , as long as the people we played with were clean and respectful that was enough .

In order to lower standards you have to have high standards to begin with . Ours never were that high .

And if you set them really high you don’t end up meeting anyone , and what’s the point of that ?"

Again, just fuck the people you’re attracted to, am I missing something here ?!

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards

When we had a night out and we were looking for fun , as long as the people we played with were clean and respectful that was enough .

In order to lower standards you have to have high standards to begin with . Ours never were that high .

And if you set them really high you don’t end up meeting anyone , and what’s the point of that ?

Again, just fuck the people you’re attracted to, am I missing something here ?! "

Exactly this .

It’s so much more fun to find most people attractive in some way or another than to not find anyone attractive

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards

When we had a night out and we were looking for fun , as long as the people we played with were clean and respectful that was enough .

In order to lower standards you have to have high standards to begin with . Ours never were that high .

And if you set them really high you don’t end up meeting anyone , and what’s the point of that ?

Again, just fuck the people you’re attracted to, am I missing something here ?!

Exactly this .

It’s so much more fun to find most people attractive in some way or another than to not find anyone attractive

Is essentially another way people on here try to differentiate themselves from the rest of us dirty slappers. "look at me and my incredibly high standards that I won't lower for anyone".

As you say, let's not be up our own arses. If we fancy someone and they're up for it, we fuck them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely you just fuck people you’re attracted to, otherwise you might just as well have a wank. "

well that’s the end of this debate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whats interesting is the people saying no are the same ones usualy having a go at somone for xyz preference and saying "everyone is beautiful"

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan over a year ago

Salisbury

Guilty as charged.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have sidestepped personality in favour of physicality with some of my meets.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No its a personality that gets me in to bed!

I like clean though, just washed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would I want to, I like what I like and that’s no different here or anywhere else. I don’t often see someone that tickles my fancy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Whats interesting is the people saying no are the same ones usualy having a go at somone for xyz preference and saying "everyone is beautiful"

Do you drop yours then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why would I want to, I like what I like and that’s no different here or anywhere else. I don’t often see someone that tickles my fancy. "

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Women don't on here or in real life they don't need to. It's only men that drop standards in terms of attractiveness. You only see women drop standards for a high profile male, if they're a nymphomaniac or doing it to please their partner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't have standards, I have preferences. Big difference. Can I adapt who I'm attracted to? No.. "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women don't on here or in real life they don't need to. It's only men that drop standards in terms of attractiveness. You only see women drop standards for a high profile male, if they're a nymphomaniac or doing it to please their partner."

Good answer but I don't think all men are like that. I could of met up with quite a few women who I have chatted with online over time.. But I wouldn't meet them, because I wasn't attracted enough to go out of my way to meet them.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like this guy....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never have and never will

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

I like this guy...."
I like you too my man.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Nope, haven't had sex in two years, why would I start now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

True

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards"
charitable and selfless.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have preferences on my profile, they are not 100% set in stone.

If I met someone slightly out of those lines, and liked them then of course I'm not going to say no.

Standards? I only have sex with people I'm attracted to.

I certainly wouldn't throw myself at someone, beg them to fuck me just to score points.

Is that a standard or having some dignity?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, haven't had sex in two years, why would I start now? "

No disrespect.... but if you’re not looking for sex... what would you be doing on a swingers site?

Not a dig at you.... but you post you haven’t had sex in two years like it’s a badge of honor...

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Not looking for a woman that lowers her standards.... looking for one that lowers her knickers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards"

I'm charitable. I like making men feel good about themselves, after pulling a hottie like me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have preferences on my profile, they are not 100% set in stone.

If I met someone slightly out of those lines, and liked them then of course I'm not going to say no.

Standards? I only have sex with people I'm attracted to.

I certainly wouldn't throw myself at someone, beg them to fuck me just to score points.

Is that a standard or having some dignity? "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, haven't had sex in two years, why would I start now?

No disrespect.... but if you’re not looking for sex... what would you be doing on a swingers site?

Not a dig at you.... but you post you haven’t had sex in two years like it’s a badge of honor..."

I don’t think she said she didn’t want sex, just not come across anyone that wets her appetite.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Nope

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? "
Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me. "

Is that saying that the majority of men are a solid 9/10 in every case and are pity fucking their way through fab?

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan over a year ago

Salisbury

"I'm intrigued to know why some of you lowered your standards"

I like sucking cock. I don't really give a shit who's. Also i would never have a homosexual relationship, ergo i lower my standards for sex with men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me. "

How do you know what their standards are and what are you using as evidence?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously I only meet people for sex I’m sexually attracted to, but unlikely to meet many who are actually attracted to me sexually. I’d be much more likely to meet people socially if at all.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

Is that saying that the majority of men are a solid 9/10 in every case and are pity fucking their way through fab?

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No but there isn't a lot of 9/10 women on here.

The prospect of NSA sex without investment or groundwork is very appealing to men but not to women.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How do you know what their standards are and what are you using as evidence?"

Their standard is usually whatever their wife looks like. The evidence is the number of "fab single" men....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

No. I often get told I should be more flexible, if they choose to ignore my profile and message anyway they only waste their own time.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How do you know what their standards are and what are you using as evidence?"
When I see a Susan Boyle lookalike has just been given a seeing to by some gymrat looking for their first veri it is pretty obvious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, haven't had sex in two years, why would I start now?

No disrespect.... but if you’re not looking for sex... what would you be doing on a swingers site?

Not a dig at you.... but you post you haven’t had sex in two years like it’s a badge of honor...

I don’t think she said she didn’t want sex, just not come across anyone that wets her appetite. "

Hey welcome back.... I didn’t realize it was you until I checked out your profile... I thought you and whitey got married and bought a mansion in Hither Green lol.....

I get what she is saying....... but it’s like me going to drug/alcohol counseling every week and telling my group... I’m going to party and drink tonight after this meeting....

After awhile people will ask me “ what am I doing at rehab, if I don’t want to stop drinking/drugs “

So I’m asking “ What is she wasting her time on Fab , if she not willing to lower her standards “

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe the folks with the really high standards should lower them just enough to actually get some of the sex.

It might make them sound a wee bit happier

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How do you know what their standards are and what are you using as evidence? When I see a Susan Boyle lookalike has just been given a seeing to by some gymrat looking for their first veri it is pretty obvious. "

And that. ^

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Nope, haven't had sex in two years, why would I start now?

No disrespect.... but if you’re not looking for sex... what would you be doing on a swingers site?

Not a dig at you.... but you post you haven’t had sex in two years like it’s a badge of honor..."

It's not a badge of honour in the slightest I am dying to have sex, I just can't find someone I want to have sex with! Does that equate to you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

100% lol I see this all the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

Oh you have been reading the can’t find a fwb threads also....

They are comedy gold ..... the real answer to all their questions is what you just wrote... but no one is brave enough to post it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haven’t yet, but as they say every holes a goal

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Dropping if you wish you use the word standard would be meeting someone that in normal real life I wouldn't have looked twice at. Then you get yourself into a situation you cant get out of. Yep it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How many Susan Boyle lookalikes and gym rats are on here? A lot?

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

leeds

I fancy who I fancy, whether that be here or in a bar.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, haven't had sex in two years, why would I start now?

No disrespect.... but if you’re not looking for sex... what would you be doing on a swingers site?

Not a dig at you.... but you post you haven’t had sex in two years like it’s a badge of honor...

I don’t think she said she didn’t want sex, just not come across anyone that wets her appetite.

Hey welcome back.... I didn’t realize it was you until I checked out your profile... I thought you and whitey got married and bought a mansion in Hither Green lol.....

I get what she is saying....... but it’s like me going to drug/alcohol counseling every week and telling my group... I’m going to party and drink tonight after this meeting....

After awhile people will ask me “ what am I doing at rehab, if I don’t want to stop drinking/drugs “

So I’m asking “ What is she wasting her time on Fab , if she not willing to lower her standards “"

I won’t meet people just for sex, they have to ignite something inside of me to even get me interested. The odd one does that but not often. I don’t need sex that badly so I can wait as long as it takes also.

Oh and the White thing, he was never my type and we were only ever friends.

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS over a year ago

Leeds

Aren't we all being a little judgemental? I look to meet when the urge becomes a surge of lustful energy. That's primarily why I'm here. You are not always going to meet Adonis, but then again I wouldn't say yes to meeting a clone of Jabba The Hutt. But surely if you want to get it on when the mood takes you, there has to be a little bit of compromise along the way?

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How many Susan Boyle lookalikes and gym rats are on here? A lot? "
Seen a fare few.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Aren't we all being a little judgemental? I look to meet when the urge becomes a surge of lustful energy. That's primarily why I'm here. You are not always going to meet Adonis, but then again I wouldn't say yes to meeting a clone of Jabba The Hutt. But surely if you want to get it on when the mood takes you, there has to be a little bit of compromise along the way?

Of course its judgemental! It's fab!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How do you know what their standards are and what are you using as evidence?

Their standard is usually whatever their wife looks like. The evidence is the number of "fab single" men....

Does that standard also apply to male half of a fabs couple playing solo on here?

Higher, lower or equal to wifey....

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If by standards you mean not do anything I don't want to do ... then no I don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How many Susan Boyle lookalikes and gym rats are on here? A lot? Seen a fare few. "

Out of how many men?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Whats interesting is the people saying no are the same ones usualy having a go at somone for xyz preference and saying "everyone is beautiful"

Do you drop yours then?"

Yeah obviously, i mean only way i can drop lower than my first girlfirend is if i start a long distance thing with rose west.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very good post... As my buddy used to say when he would go home with a unattractive woman from the bar...

“ Miss America isn’t walking around this bar at 3 am “

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How do you know what their standards are and what are you using as evidence?

Their standard is usually whatever their wife looks like. The evidence is the number of "fab single" men....

Does that standard also apply to male half of a fabs couple playing solo on here?

Higher, lower or equal to wifey...."

You'd have to check the verifications i guess.

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS over a year ago

Leeds

Very good post... As my buddy used to say when he would go home with a unattractive woman from the bar...

“ Miss America isn’t walking around this bar at 3 am “"

I love that quote!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How do you know what their standards are and what are you using as evidence?

Their standard is usually whatever their wife looks like. The evidence is the number of "fab single" men....

Does that standard also apply to male half of a fabs couple playing solo on here?

Higher, lower or equal to wifey....

You'd have to check the verifications i guess. "

That’s not answering my question....

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Not when it comes to coffee and sex.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How many Susan Boyle lookalikes and gym rats are on here? A lot? Seen a fare few.

Out of how many men? "
You know the ratios are really distorted on here with men compared to women. I don't know why you're asking rhetorical questions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The truth is alot of men will sleep with almost any woman and looks don't come into it.

Women don't seem to like to hear this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How many Susan Boyle lookalikes and gym rats are on here? A lot? Seen a fare few.

Out of how many men? You know the ratios are really distorted on here with men compared to women. I don't know why you're asking rhetorical questions."

Because you said you had concrete evidence that lots of men are lowering their standards. Your evidence was that gym rats are fucking Susan Boyle lookalikes. What about the rest of the men on here, as the gym rats make up a fraction of the men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How many Susan Boyle lookalikes and gym rats are on here? A lot? Seen a fare few.

Out of how many men? You know the ratios are really distorted on here with men compared to women. I don't know why you're asking rhetorical questions.

And that wasn't a rhetorical question.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

[Removed by poster at 05/03/19 23:31:28]

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Standards removed by poster at 05/03/19 23:31:28]"
Yay!!

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Concrete evidence that a lot of men drop their standards? Yeah 100% come on now don't play silly with me.

How many Susan Boyle lookalikes and gym rats are on here? A lot? Seen a fare few.

Out of how many men? You know the ratios are really distorted on here with men compared to women. I don't know why you're asking rhetorical questions.

"
A lot of them men are moaning about not getting replies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, haven't had sex in two years, why would I start now? "
Your saving Yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With the ratio of men to women on Fab, women can have their pick of men on here.For men unless you’re extremely good looking,big cock,or come across as charismatic you probably have to lower your standards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The truth is alot of men will sleep with almost any woman and looks don't come into it.

Women don't seem to like to hear this."

But all the hundreds of mails begging for sex...... ego

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say no, but by hell I look at my exes and have to admit that I so do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With the ratio of men to women on Fab, women can have their pick of men on here.For men unless you’re extremely good looking,big cock,or come across as charismatic you probably have to lower your standards."

Maybe they were too high to start with?

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

"
Stepping stones most of the time. Women need to be aware. I don't like the idea of them getting used and abused. Although a lot like that on here. It doesn't help them in the long run they become deluded.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not ever! Why would you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

Stepping stones most of the time. Women need to be aware. I don't like the idea of them getting used and abused. Although a lot like that on here. It doesn't help them in the long run they become deluded. "

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not ever! Why would you?"

I do think it would be interesting to dose some of the women on here up with a few hundred mg of testosterone for a few months and see how altitudes change

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

"
Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not ever! Why would you?

I do think it would be interesting to dose some of the women on here up with a few hundred mg of testosterone for a few months and see how altitudes change

what having a cock for a brain you mean? lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality."

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not ever! Why would you?

I do think it would be interesting to dose some of the women on here up with a few hundred mg of testosterone for a few months and see how altitudes change

I wouldn't be on here. I'd be down the gym getting a buff body.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

I don't. I'm actually feeling quite sad for the gym rats I'm turning down because I think I'm too good for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not ever! Why would you?

I do think it would be interesting to dose some of the women on here up with a few hundred mg of testosterone for a few months and see how altitudes change

what having a cock for a brain you mean? lol "

Pretty much, hormonal drive is very powerful.

When sex is a need on par with sleep amd food priorities change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

I don't. I'm actually feeling quite sad for the gym rats I'm turning down because I think I'm too good for them.

Darling, you are too good for them. Who wants a gym rat?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

I don't. I'm actually feeling quite sad for the gym rats I'm turning down because I think I'm too good for them.

Darling, you are too good for them. Who wants a gym rat? "

Susan Boyle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

But you just said you fucked 4 women in one night that were only 6 out of 10.. so who's using who? Who's the stepping stone and who's the knight in shining armour? I fear I'm lost in your point..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

I don't. I'm actually feeling quite sad for the gym rats I'm turning down because I think I'm too good for them.

Darling, you are too good for them. Who wants a gym rat? "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

Tommy Cooper ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No which is why I meet so infrequently

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

I love a kind face, sparkling eyes and not fat as a man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

What do you feel deluded about?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they were too high to start with?"

So should I lower my standards?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

What do you feel deluded about?"

That I’m so damn ugly and can pull fit men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

I fuck who I am attracted too. I have preferences (although not set in stone) but I won’t fuck anyone who I’m not attracted.

But then, I’m married. I’ve never been so desperate for a fuck that I’m willing to fuck someone I don’t think is attractive. I doubt I ever would be so desperate if I wasn’t married either.

My 10/10 won’t be everyone’s 10/10 so to others it may look like I’m ‘lowering my standards’ but I’m not. When I had my veris on show I would receive abuse about who I had met with.

Unless someone has told you ‘I was desperate for a fuck so fucked that woman because I was horny, I only think she’s a 4/10’ it isn’t fair to say someone else dropped their standards. They might be a 10/10 to them, but only a 4/10 for you.

But hey, I don’t tend to judge people on a 10/10 scale system.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they were too high to start with?

So should I lower my standards?"

If the 10s ain't biting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

What do you feel deluded about?

That I’m so damn ugly and can pull fit men

You have a different perception of deluded to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

What do you feel deluded about?

That I’m so damn ugly and can pull fit men

You have a different perception of deluded to me. "

I was being sarcastic about the deluded comment someone else posted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they were too high to start with?

So should I lower my standards?

If the 10s ain't biting."

Always live in hope there’s a 10 for me somewhere

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get this. If you choose to bump bones with someone then you have decided that they are what you desire. If you didn't desire them then you wouldn't... So this "standards" bollocks makes no sense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't be arsed to read the thread

I already know it's full of butthurt men that are crying because the "fat ugly slags" on Fab won't shag them and about how deluded they are and blahhhdeefuckingblahhhhh

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I don't get this. If you choose to bump bones with someone then you have decided that they are what you desire. If you didn't desire them then you wouldn't... So this "standards" bollocks makes no sense."

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex. "

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards? "

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thousands of Susan Boyles are getting fucked and loving it.

Thousands of Les Dawsons are wanking into their socks and crying.

If Susan Boyle is getting fucked (and loving it) by John Cena (who is hating himself), who is the loser?

I do agree it's not good if they're being used and abused or deluded.

But if they're riding that hot guy with their eyes wide open (and his are shut!) good for them.

Yeah men would do the same if the roles were reversed. You can't blame them. They just still need a sense of reality.

I hate feeling so deluded all the time

What do you feel deluded about?

That I’m so damn ugly and can pull fit men

You have a different perception of deluded to me.

I was being sarcastic about the deluded comment someone else posted. "

Apologies x

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS over a year ago

Walthamstow

On here I have no standards I welcome all to come play with me but at the end of the day it's my body so if they are not what I'm looking for or not as they described then it's my right to say no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits. "

I see people on using standards for women mostly for body shape and weight-sometimes adding face to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

I see people on using standards for women mostly for body shape and weight-sometimes adding face to it.

And, I'll add, that they will see a body and want to fuck it, without seeing the face or knowing anything about the woman's personality. But, as long as the body is ok, that's ticking the standards box for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits. "

I’ve been trying to say that this whole thread, basically you fuck who you are attracted too, if you’re not attracted to them what’s the point. Standards sounds like a bullshit term to me, where people are trying to put themselves on a pedestal.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

I see people on using standards for women mostly for body shape and weight-sometimes adding face to it.

I think that's right. The whole concept of "lowering standards" tends to misogyny. A lot of men see a hierarchy of status based on the women you fuck where youth and slimness get top marks. Hence a bloke having sex with someone not young and not slim is seen as lowering his standards.

As I've said before I think the reality is, if given the choice, most men would prefer slim young women, but that doesn't mean they don't also fancy women not in those categories. Just less so.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

It's fundamentally dehumanising. I apply standards to the food I eat and the books I read, not to the people I fuck.

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

NEVER

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

I see people on using standards for women mostly for body shape and weight-sometimes adding face to it.

As I've said before I think the reality is, if given the choice, most men would prefer slim young women, but that doesn't mean they don't also fancy women not in those categories. Just less so. "

You mean what someone says on here and what they actually do can be very different?... shocking!

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By *andare63Man over a year ago

oldham

I don’t like the word standards !!!

I prefer preferences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

It's fundamentally dehumanising. I apply standards to the food I eat and the books I read, not to the people I fuck. "

Totally. I wouldn’t ever say someone wasn’t up to my standard, just that I’m not attracted to them. No one is better or worse than anyone, it smacks of arrogance to think you do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

It's fundamentally dehumanising. I apply standards to the food I eat and the books I read, not to the people I fuck. "

Where as I do apply the same to my men as I do to my food and books I read

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

I see people on using standards for women mostly for body shape and weight-sometimes adding face to it.

As I've said before I think the reality is, if given the choice, most men would prefer slim young women, but that doesn't mean they don't also fancy women not in those categories. Just less so.

You mean what someone says on here and what they actually do can be very different?... shocking!

I often think this place would be a lot happier if we all accepted that the person we are shagging has a long list of people they'd rather have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally. I wouldn’t ever say someone wasn’t up to my standard, just that I’m not attracted to them. No one is better or worse than anyone, it smacks of arrogance to think you do. "

For the first time ever, I actually agree with you.

*doffs cap*

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

It's fundamentally dehumanising. I apply standards to the food I eat and the books I read, not to the people I fuck.

Where as I do apply the same to my men as I do to my food and books I read

I am afraid I am too much of an old lefty to apply a hierarchy of standards to people. There's people I fancy and people I don't. I don't think the latter are of a lower standard than the former.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are people I won't meet because they're up their arse... So nope, on here or real world they're the same.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Precisely.

The reality is there is always going to be someone you theoretically fancy more than the person you are actually having sex with.

Thus if you maintain that "standard" you will never have sex.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't have a type, so do I have no standards?

"standards" is a stupid word to use in this context, as it implies some kind of moral judgment. As that great sage Adam Ant put it

"don't you ever, don't you ever, lower yourself forgetting all your standards"

Basically we all have certain physical and/or mental traits we find sexually arousing and we have sex with people who have those traits.

I see people on using standards for women mostly for body shape and weight-sometimes adding face to it.

As I've said before I think the reality is, if given the choice, most men would prefer slim young women, but that doesn't mean they don't also fancy women not in those categories. Just less so. "

Hmmmm I'm not sure I agree just because a person is young and or slim doesn't necessarily make them attractive.

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