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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes I am bitter but read on.....
First remember that you are destined to be together. It’s a shame he’s married but that is just bad luck and has nothing to do with why you want him. Like that time you chose blonde barbie over brunette barbie but then your friend chose brunette barbie and suddenly you realised you wanted that? Just bad luck
Second reassure yourself that his wife doesn’t understand him it’s a marriage of convenience he was never really in love with her.
Remind yourself also that it is ok to have sex with him as his wife won’t I mean she might not want to have sex because he’s a complete prick to her but hey if she refuses to have sex with him ever night he has every right to get it elsewhere and she cannot blame you
Third he will absolutely leave her and walk of into the sunset with you
Now of course he’ll loose his kids at least for a while when he runs off with you. And yes he’ll miss them but your love will be enough to compensate. He may cry for the first few months he might get depressed for not seeing his kids but that will pass in a year or three.
And of course eventually his kids will visit and you will be a big happy family the kids won’t hate you for breaking up the family they new and loved They won’t resent you for making their mum sad
His ex will hate you but that shouldn’t effect your perfect life I mean you will not have to see her I mean sure she will be I. Your life forever but it won’t effect you much except for birthday parties school events medical emergency weddings.
Remember there will be a lot of pressure on you to compensate for the fact that your partner left his wife for you. Every time you have a fight every time he feels low or misses the kids he may look at you and think what the hell has he done but you can cope with that. You will make his sacrifice worthwhile. Your life will heal all.
Finally you will never be able to forget your partner was cheating on his wife to be with you. You will never be able to fully relax because you know that if he can do it once he will do it again you know he can lie you know he can manipulate you know !!!!!
But of course he won’t this time it’s different!!!!!!
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It seems quite accomplish liar to have a mistress and a wife so can you believe it in a sham marriage or is he just that type of guy who likes to f*** every girl he can..
As they say there's always two sides to every story.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you the wife in this situation op? That's how I read it. Sounds like whatever the situation there's a whole lot of communicating to be done....
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. "
Get the hell out of here with your rational thinking! Bring me more blind hysteria...  |
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So you don’t think that when someone breaks a commitment that they made and leave there partner for so called true love the likelihood is when that goes stale they will find someone else new and exciting to fuck.
These people have lack of morals self esteem or the value system that places importance on fidelity
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"So you don’t think that when someone breaks a commitment that they made and leave there partner for so called true love the likelihood is when that goes stale they will find someone else new and exciting to fuck.
These people have lack of morals self esteem or the value system that places importance on fidelity
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No I don't think so. The new relationship may not go stale. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t work out if you were the mistress or the wife. From the way the first posts reads to me the mistress but the last post reads like the wife.
Danish x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you don’t think that when someone breaks a commitment that they made and leave there partner for so called true love the likelihood is when that goes stale they will find someone else new and exciting to fuck.
These people have lack of morals self esteem or the value system that places importance on fidelity
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Maybe, maybe not. I don’t think the majority of men on here are looking to find true love and run off though. |
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"So you don’t think that when someone breaks a commitment that they made and leave there partner for so called true love the likelihood is when that goes stale they will find someone else new and exciting to fuck.
These people have lack of morals self esteem or the value system that places importance on fidelity
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I think its the belief that there's such a thing as "true love" that's half of the problem.
You meet someone, you get on with them, have great sex initially, but after a while it gets less passionate and a bit samey.
That's the inevitable trajectory of any relationship. But people start thinking they can't have "true love" and maybe their "true love" is out there somewhere... |
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"So you don’t think that when someone breaks a commitment that they made and leave there partner for so called true love the likelihood is when that goes stale they will find someone else new and exciting to fuck.
These people have lack of morals self esteem or the value system that places importance on fidelity
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Not always.
I know a few people who have stayed in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the kids, or finances, or convenience ... but when the opportunity of finding new happiness with someone else came along, they took it & it’s been the right thing to do in their circumstances.
Equally, there are blokes (& women) out there who will lie & cheat and feel no remorse whatsoever.
It’s not a ‘one size fits all’ situation.
I’m sorry that, whatever end of the situation you found yourself in, you got hurt  |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. "
Well said Nora |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you don’t think that when someone breaks a commitment that they made and leave there partner for so called true love the likelihood is when that goes stale they will find someone else new and exciting to fuck.
These people have lack of morals self esteem or the value system that places importance on fidelity
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Couples fucking other people, even with knowledge and consent, is not fidelity. |
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all.
Well said Nora"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. "
this is why i never wanted to know cos its not my problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you don’t think that when someone breaks a commitment that they made and leave there partner for so called true love the likelihood is when that goes stale they will find someone else new and exciting to fuck.
These people have lack of morals self esteem or the value system that places importance on fidelity
Not always.
I know a few people who have stayed in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the kids, or finances, or convenience ... but when the opportunity of finding new happiness with someone else came along, they took it & it’s been the right thing to do in their circumstances.
Equally, there are blokes (& women) out there who will lie & cheat and feel no remorse whatsoever.
It’s not a ‘one size fits all’ situation.
I’m sorry that, whatever end of the situation you found yourself in, you got hurt "
Unfortunately not everyone marries the right person the first time round, sometimes things don’t work out and sometimes married people go about finding a new love in completely the wrong way, sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t.
For the record that’s not how doughnut and I got together but I can talk from experience of those around me, I’m sure some people that have met through an affair has lasted the course, which I’m not condoning their behaviours at all but it happens unfortunately.
Danish x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?"
I came on here just for a shag but happened to find love. I found it in the most oddest place!
Danish x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was the other woman. Although we didn't meet on here...that was 13 years ago. We are still together and strong as ever. His ex wife has remarried and is happy.
Some people marry the wrong person first time round...it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
I came on here just for a shag but happened to find love. I found it in the most oddest place!
Danish x"
Were you open to that though? I think it depends on what kind of person you are, what you’re looking for and the mindset. I know that I won’t fall in love and want to “be” with someone. I don’t want that. I have too much going on in real life and I neither want that or have time for it. I have a few friends on here that I love to bits and care a lot for but I still wouldn’t want a proper relationship. I’m quite strong minded though and wouldn’t let it happen as I have my priorities all set out as such. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?"
Where else am i going to find my kinky future swinging partner? |
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Yes I am bitter but read on.....
First remember that you are destined to be together. It’s a shame he’s married but that is just bad luck and has nothing to do with why you want him. Like that time you chose blonde barbie over brunette barbie but then your friend chose brunette barbie and suddenly you realised you wanted that? Just bad luck
Second reassure yourself that his wife doesn’t understand him it’s a marriage of convenience he was never really in love with her.
Remind yourself also that it is ok to have sex with him as his wife won’t I mean she might not want to have sex because he’s a complete prick to her but hey if she refuses to have sex with him ever night he has every right to get it elsewhere and she cannot blame you
Third he will absolutely leave her and walk of into the sunset with you
Now of course he’ll loose his kids at least for a while when he runs off with you. And yes he’ll miss them but your love will be enough to compensate. He may cry for the first few months he might get depressed for not seeing his kids but that will pass in a year or three.
And of course eventually his kids will visit and you will be a big happy family the kids won’t hate you for breaking up the family they new and loved They won’t resent you for making their mum sad
His ex will hate you but that shouldn’t effect your perfect life I mean you will not have to see her I mean sure she will be I. Your life forever but it won’t effect you much except for birthday parties school events medical emergency weddings.
Remember there will be a lot of pressure on you to compensate for the fact that your partner left his wife for you. Every time you have a fight every time he feels low or misses the kids he may look at you and think what the hell has he done but you can cope with that. You will make his sacrifice worthwhile. Your life will heal all.
Finally you will never be able to forget your partner was cheating on his wife to be with you. You will never be able to fully relax because you know that if he can do it once he will do it again you know he can lie you know he can manipulate you know !!!!!
But of course he won’t this time it’s different!!!!!!
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The way I read this, you were/are the mistress. I may be wrong however, if people play with fire and get burnt don’t play the victim....
There we are, the world put to rights again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes I am bitter but read on.....
First remember that you are destined to be together. It’s a shame he’s married but that is just bad luck and has nothing to do with why you want him. Like that time you chose blonde barbie over brunette barbie but then your friend chose brunette barbie and suddenly you realised you wanted that? Just bad luck
Second reassure yourself that his wife doesn’t understand him it’s a marriage of convenience he was never really in love with her.
Remind yourself also that it is ok to have sex with him as his wife won’t I mean she might not want to have sex because he’s a complete prick to her but hey if she refuses to have sex with him ever night he has every right to get it elsewhere and she cannot blame you
Third he will absolutely leave her and walk of into the sunset with you
Now of course he’ll loose his kids at least for a while when he runs off with you. And yes he’ll miss them but your love will be enough to compensate. He may cry for the first few months he might get depressed for not seeing his kids but that will pass in a year or three.
And of course eventually his kids will visit and you will be a big happy family the kids won’t hate you for breaking up the family they new and loved They won’t resent you for making their mum sad
His ex will hate you but that shouldn’t effect your perfect life I mean you will not have to see her I mean sure she will be I. Your life forever but it won’t effect you much except for birthday parties school events medical emergency weddings.
Remember there will be a lot of pressure on you to compensate for the fact that your partner left his wife for you. Every time you have a fight every time he feels low or misses the kids he may look at you and think what the hell has he done but you can cope with that. You will make his sacrifice worthwhile. Your life will heal all.
Finally you will never be able to forget your partner was cheating on his wife to be with you. You will never be able to fully relax because you know that if he can do it once he will do it again you know he can lie you know he can manipulate you know !!!!!
But of course he won’t this time it’s different!!!!!!
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Look, I said I'm sorry.
Are we still on for bowling? |
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Yes I am bitter but read on.....
First remember that you are destined to be together. It’s a shame he’s married but that is just bad luck and has nothing to do with why you want him. Like that time you chose blonde barbie over brunette barbie but then your friend chose brunette barbie and suddenly you realised you wanted that? Just bad luck
Second reassure yourself that his wife doesn’t understand him it’s a marriage of convenience he was never really in love with her.
Remind yourself also that it is ok to have sex with him as his wife won’t I mean she might not want to have sex because he’s a complete prick to her but hey if she refuses to have sex with him ever night he has every right to get it elsewhere and she cannot blame you
Third he will absolutely leave her and walk of into the sunset with you
Now of course he’ll loose his kids at least for a while when he runs off with you. And yes he’ll miss them but your love will be enough to compensate. He may cry for the first few months he might get depressed for not seeing his kids but that will pass in a year or three.
And of course eventually his kids will visit and you will be a big happy family the kids won’t hate you for breaking up the family they new and loved They won’t resent you for making their mum sad
His ex will hate you but that shouldn’t effect your perfect life I mean you will not have to see her I mean sure she will be I. Your life forever but it won’t effect you much except for birthday parties school events medical emergency weddings.
Remember there will be a lot of pressure on you to compensate for the fact that your partner left his wife for you. Every time you have a fight every time he feels low or misses the kids he may look at you and think what the hell has he done but you can cope with that. You will make his sacrifice worthwhile. Your life will heal all.
Finally you will never be able to forget your partner was cheating on his wife to be with you. You will never be able to fully relax because you know that if he can do it once he will do it again you know he can lie you know he can manipulate you know !!!!!
But of course he won’t this time it’s different!!!!!!
Look, I said I'm sorry.
Are we still on for bowling?"
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I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however |
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
Where else am i going to find my kinky future swinging partner?
I thought you'd found him "
When one wants kids and the other doesn’t then it’s never going to work. |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however "
The moral police will be judging you soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon"
Haha bring it on fella |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella "
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts |
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
Where else am i going to find my kinky future swinging partner?
I thought you'd found him
When one wants kids and the other doesn’t then it’s never going to work. "
Ha sorry, it didn't work out :_( |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts"
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!! |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!! "
Or try to discuss any issue in an abscract non personalised way... |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!! "
I actually caught a woman having a peak at my bulge in the pool today,maybe I should have called a constable |
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
Where else am i going to find my kinky future swinging partner?
I thought you'd found him
When one wants kids and the other doesn’t then it’s never going to work.
Ha sorry, it didn't work out :_("
I’ll live. I didn’t have all eggs in one basket. |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
Or try to discuss any issue in an abscract non personalised way... "
Haha and request a yes or no answer  |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
I actually caught a woman having a peak at my bulge in the pool today,maybe I should have called a constable "
Maybe she was a constable and thought you had a massive dangerous weapon in the pool. |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
Or try to discuss any issue in an abscract non personalised way...
Haha and request a yes or no answer "
All instructions followed. I shall just poke my eyes out and cut my tongue off now. Save everyone the hassle ha |
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
Where else am i going to find my kinky future swinging partner?
I thought you'd found him
When one wants kids and the other doesn’t then it’s never going to work.
Ha sorry, it didn't work out :_(
I’ll live. I didn’t have all eggs in one basket. "
Let me know if you want to talk about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
I actually caught a woman having a peak at my bulge in the pool today,maybe I should have called a constable
Maybe she was a constable and thought you had a massive dangerous weapon in the pool. "
Ooooooh never thought of that,what do you think nora? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do meet married men! For me its the security of knowing that 'this' will not go any further cos he has his responsibilities he needs to deal with. Doesn't mean we can't enjoy the fun though ...  |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
Or try to discuss any issue in an abscract non personalised way...
Haha and request a yes or no answer "
I the risk of hijacking the thread, what's so fucking difficult about saying whether or not you consider the term "fat" to be inherently offensive. |
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"I do meet married men! For me its the security of knowing that 'this' will not go any further cos he has his responsibilities he needs to deal with. Doesn't mean we can't enjoy the fun though ... "
Not many of you on here! Would love to chat haha |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
I actually caught a woman having a peak at my bulge in the pool today,maybe I should have called a constable
Maybe she was a constable and thought you had a massive dangerous weapon in the pool.
Ooooooh never thought of that,what do you think nora? "
I think she was probably cross eyed and was looking at the younger more well endowed fella at the other side of the pool darling. Sorry x |
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"I do meet married men! For me its the security of knowing that 'this' will not go any further cos he has his responsibilities he needs to deal with. Doesn't mean we can't enjoy the fun though ... "
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
Or try to discuss any issue in an abscract non personalised way...
Haha and request a yes or no answer
I the risk of hijacking the thread, what's so fucking difficult about saying whether or not you consider the term "fat" to be inherently offensive. "
Meh don’t worry about it. Threads are there to be hijacked. Can always do a married men are scum part deux thread.
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"I do meet married men! For me its the security of knowing that 'this' will not go any further cos he has his responsibilities he needs to deal with. Doesn't mean we can't enjoy the fun though ...
Exactly "
My kind of girls! |
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
I actually caught a woman having a peak at my bulge in the pool today,maybe I should have called a constable
Maybe she was a constable and thought you had a massive dangerous weapon in the pool.
Ooooooh never thought of that,what do you think nora?
I think she was probably cross eyed and was looking at the younger more well endowed fella at the other side of the pool darling. Sorry x"
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I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
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"I'm a married man. On here looking for extra curricular activities. Judge me however you will but as another user said you don't know all the story. You pre judge something based on what you think. Which you are entitled to do, doesn't make it right however
The moral police will be judging you soon
Haha bring it on fella
And what ever you do, do not, I repeat do not look at a woman's breasts
And for God’s sake don’t comment on what you think her body size should be labelled as!!
I actually caught a woman having a peak at my bulge in the pool today,maybe I should have called a constable
Maybe she was a constable and thought you had a massive dangerous weapon in the pool. "
'You'll never go in the water again!'.. |
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
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Get out. Shocking...how could you |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
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I'm sure she thinks the same |
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
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Talk to your wife? |
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"I do meet married men! For me its the security of knowing that 'this' will not go any further cos he has his responsibilities he needs to deal with. Doesn't mean we can't enjoy the fun though ...
Exactly
My kind of girls! "
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"Sometimes you just can't help who you fall in love with! I don't think anyone has an agenda when they come on sites like this to find love. Some things are just meant to be!!"
Or not as the case may be! |
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. "
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Good jolly, just had a skim read. My opinion is 9/10 a man who is having his cake and eating it is extremely unlikely to leave his wife of how ever many years for a woman he meets on here.
If you're meeting married men knowingly you have to realise this otherwise you are going to get hurt and turn into a bitter lady. Enjoy your time together then walk away, until the next time. |
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
Talk to your wife? "
What's it got to do with you? |
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
Talk to your wife?
What's it got to do with you? "
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
Talk to your wife?
What's it got to do with you? "
Nothing, but then if someone posts something about their life in a public forum, they're opening it up to public discussion. |
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Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
I came on here just for a shag but happened to find love. I found it in the most oddest place!
Danish x
Were you open to that though? I think it depends on what kind of person you are, what you’re looking for and the mindset. I know that I won’t fall in love and want to “be” with someone. I don’t want that. I have too much going on in real life and I neither want that or have time for it. I have a few friends on here that I love to bits and care a lot for but I still wouldn’t want a proper relationship. I’m quite strong minded though and wouldn’t let it happen as I have my priorities all set out as such. "
When I came on here, I was heading in a direction I hated, sleeping with anyone and maybe I was looking for something more but when doughnut and I started chatting it just felt different x |
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"I just hope they get the same feeling when he moves on to his next victim because he will victim  its shagging not murder"
My thoughts exactly - victim, really...  |
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"Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
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But doesn't swinging involve openness and honesty?
I can see why people think swinging whilst having an unknowing partner is not what it's all about. |
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"Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
But doesn't swinging involve openness and honesty?
I can see why people think swinging whilst having an unknowing partner is not what it's all about. "
Well exactly .
I’m unsure of what exactly the op is on about .
I’m guessing she was having an affair with a guy who said he wa soon a leave his wife etc.... and it didn’t turn out how she wanted it to .
So I guess it had nothing to do with swinging anyway .
And certainly nothing to do with being honest and open . |
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. "
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"Married men do get a bad press on here from both M & F, I never see anything said about married women doing exactly the same thing though... just my thoughts.
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I agree it happens for both still doesn’t make it right.
Just my experience and was hoping it would hit a nerve with some people but they obviously don’t see that they are doing anything wrong |
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
I came on here just for a shag but happened to find love. I found it in the most oddest place!
Danish x
Were you open to that though? I think it depends on what kind of person you are, what you’re looking for and the mindset. I know that I won’t fall in love and want to “be” with someone. I don’t want that. I have too much going on in real life and I neither want that or have time for it. I have a few friends on here that I love to bits and care a lot for but I still wouldn’t want a proper relationship. I’m quite strong minded though and wouldn’t let it happen as I have my priorities all set out as such.
When I came on here, I was heading in a direction I hated, sleeping with anyone and maybe I was looking for something more but when doughnut and I started chatting it just felt different x"
That’s lovely though. I’ve seen a few people on here with similar stories x |
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"Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
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Correct me if I’m wrong but from recent threads I think you’ll find that an awful lot of people on here aren’t actually swingers. In fact people are on here for all sorts of reasons. Some don’t even meet people, some are looking for just the one FWB, the list goes on. |
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"Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
Correct me if I’m wrong but from recent threads I think you’ll find that an awful lot of people on here aren’t actually swingers. In fact people are on here for all sorts of reasons. Some don’t even meet people, some are looking for just the one FWB, the list goes on. "
no swinger here didnt like the swappage |
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
Talk to your wife? "
About what? What can she do about him wanting sex with other women?
The chances of her being ok with it are pretty slim you think? |
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"I am a married potential cheat.
I love and adore my wife.
I also find you lovely ladies irresistible.
I am not proud of this but to me the act of sex and loving a life long partner are different.
Talk to your wife?
About what? What can she do about him wanting sex with other women?
The chances of her being ok with it are pretty slim you think?"
Yes, but I am starting from the perhaps naive assumption that if you choose to share your life with someone you can be open with them about your needs and desires.
I know it's not easy. I couldn't do it twenty years ago. But it's the only way to avoid misery in my view. |
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"Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
Correct me if I’m wrong but from recent threads I think you’ll find that an awful lot of people on here aren’t actually swingers. In fact people are on here for all sorts of reasons. Some don’t even meet people, some are looking for just the one FWB, the list goes on. "
and we don’t take up any more (cyber) space than anyone else on here. |
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I could forgive and accept a one off thing (we all have needs) even if it happened a few times, but a long term “affair” with the same person makes it a whole new ball game, there would be a level of romance,tenderness, affection and intimacy that I feel is just not there with meets.
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"Married men do get a bad press on here from both M & F, I never see anything said about married women doing exactly the same thing though... just my thoughts.
I agree it happens for both still doesn’t make it right.
Just my experience and was hoping it would hit a nerve with some people but they obviously don’t see that they are doing anything wrong "
Maybe there wasn't a nerve to be hit?? |
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Those dirty married slut wives shagging everyone
Those dirty married slut men wanting to dick others
Those little hussy slags letting married men shag them
Those poor wives...bless them.
At least they have the housework to keep them occupied |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
Correct me if I’m wrong but from recent threads I think you’ll find that an awful lot of people on here aren’t actually swingers. In fact people are on here for all sorts of reasons. Some don’t even meet people, some are looking for just the one FWB, the list goes on. "
This is very true |
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"Those dirty married slut wives shagging everyone
Those dirty married slut men wanting to dick others
Those little hussy slags letting married men shag them
Those poor wives...bless them.
At least they have the housework to keep them occupied "
I expected that. |
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"Those dirty married slut wives shagging everyone
Those dirty married slut men wanting to dick others
Those little hussy slags letting married men shag them
Those poor wives...bless them.
At least they have the housework to keep them occupied
I expected that. "
What that people would mostly just say
- it is between them
- I don't knowingly meet married people
- no one knows the true story
- don't meet married folk and let yourself get into that situation
Or is it just me being commented upon..?? |
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"Those dirty married slut wives shagging everyone
Those dirty married slut men wanting to dick others
Those little hussy slags letting married men shag them
Those poor wives...bless them.
At least they have the housework to keep them occupied
I expected that.
What that people would mostly just say
- it is between them
- I don't knowingly meet married people
- no one knows the true story
- don't meet married folk and let yourself get into that situation
Or is it just me being commented upon..??"
Yeah it’s pick on you day . Gives me a break |
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"Those dirty married slut wives shagging everyone
Those dirty married slut men wanting to dick others
Those little hussy slags letting married men shag them
Those poor wives...bless them.
At least they have the housework to keep them occupied
I expected that.
What that people would mostly just say
- it is between them
- I don't knowingly meet married people
- no one knows the true story
- don't meet married folk and let yourself get into that situation
Or is it just me being commented upon..??
Yeah it’s pick on you day . Gives me a break "
Makes a change for it to be public like |
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My ex cheated on me twice, leaving our 13 year marriage for a girl 15 younger than me! It shattered my world.
But! One of my dearest friends sent me a text and she put
“Every time you’re hurting remember this- when the mistress becomes the wife, it leaves a vacancy”
Since we divorced I’ve remarried to the best man I ever could’ve met and my life has done a 360 for the better.
But still there in the back of my mind I’m waiting for karma to to be dealt, as my ex has cheated on EVERY single partner no matter how short or long a time he was with them |
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"Sometimes these forums make me laugh .
Swinging as a concept is the agreement of all parties to enjoy liberated nsa sex together .
Or is it ?
Threads like this seem to be the very polar opposite of what swinging is in my book .
But doesn't swinging involve openness and honesty?
I can see why people think swinging whilst having an unknowing partner is not what it's all about. "
I didn’t think swinging was about being deceitful. |
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Ok so I'm thinking we're having a go at the men but there are alot of ladies on here doing the same thing 
Pot and kettle maybe!
And what was said can easily be said about women!!
I'm all about girl power and all that but what's good for the Goose....
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Now if a man was to have written about getting with a married woman who won't leave her hubby because he offers her financial stability and two holidays abroad and a flash car and lifestyle she can't give up to live in squalor he'd love told to man the fuck up and enjoy what scraps he's thrown |
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"Now if a man was to have written about getting with a married woman who won't leave her hubby because he offers her financial stability and two holidays abroad and a flash car and lifestyle she can't give up to live in squalor he'd love told to man the fuck up and enjoy what scraps he's thrown"
No. I don’t think so. Not by me he wouldn’t. |
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men again eh ?? like there's no cheating women on here ?? lol ... trouble is we are in a day and age where people tend to give up very easy on their marriage and think the grass is greener on the other side rather than put the effort into there relationship...a marriage is and should never be easy it needs to be worked at from both side's.
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"Now if a man was to have written about getting with a married woman who won't leave her hubby because he offers her financial stability and two holidays abroad and a flash car and lifestyle she can't give up to live in squalor he'd love told to man the fuck up and enjoy what scraps he's thrown
No. I don’t think so. Not by me he wouldn’t. "
well your one of the few Nora xxseems it's become a new sport on here lately beat up on single guys that may be attached as it's easier to be a self righteous keyboard warrior from the safety of your front room |
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"men again eh ?? like there's no cheating women on here ?? lol ... trouble is we are in a day and age where people tend to give up very easy on their marriage and think the grass is greener on the other side rather than put the effort into there relationship...a marriage is and should never be easy it needs to be worked at from both side's.
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"men again eh ?? like there's no cheating women on here ?? lol ... trouble is we are in a day and age where people tend to give up very easy on their marriage and think the grass is greener on the other side rather than put the effort into there relationship...a marriage is and should never be easy it needs to be worked at from both side's.
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Who said a marriage should never be easy ?
I’ve given up on 2 shit marriages and this time round I’m finally happy . And it is easy , it’s not hard work , and we are both very happy without having to try at it . |
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"Surely nobody comes on here wanting to find love or use it as a dating site or am I wrong ?
I came on here just for a shag but happened to find love. I found it in the most oddest place!
Danish x"
That’s brilliant, they do say it will happen when you least expect it
Really happy for you xx |
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"Now if a man was to have written about getting with a married woman who won't leave her hubby because he offers her financial stability and two holidays abroad and a flash car and lifestyle she can't give up to live in squalor he'd love told to man the fuck up and enjoy what scraps he's thrown
No. I don’t think so. Not by me he wouldn’t. well your one of the few Nora xxseems it's become a new sport on here lately beat up on single guys that may be attached as it's easier to be a self righteous keyboard warrior from the safety of your front room"
Oh I know. All the time. Amuses me how people worry about what everyone else is doing with their lives. I’m only concerned with mine. However, bullying and judging is wrong and it pisses me off. |
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"Ok so I'm thinking we're having a go at the men but there are alot of ladies on here doing the same thing
Pot and kettle maybe!
And what was said can easily be said about women!!
I'm all about girl power and all that but what's good for the Goose....
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Absolutely, I see them both in the same way. |
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The way I see it ,don't get wrapped up in someone's personal life and vice versa they're little secrets are theirs and yours are yours ,just enjoy your time together and don't expect anything other than mutual respect and kindness and of course have fun |
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"Married men do get a bad press on here from both M & F, I never see anything said about married women doing exactly the same thing though... just my thoughts.
I agree it happens for both still doesn’t make it right.
Just my experience and was hoping it would hit a nerve with some people but they obviously don’t see that they are doing anything wrong "
What do you mean? Someone on here? |
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Yes I am bitter but read on.....
First remember that you are destined to be together. It’s a shame he’s married but that is just bad luck and has nothing to do with why you want him. Like that time you chose blonde barbie over brunette barbie but then your friend chose brunette barbie and suddenly you realised you wanted that? Just bad luck
Second reassure yourself that his wife doesn’t understand him it’s a marriage of convenience he was never really in love with her.
Remind yourself also that it is ok to have sex with him as his wife won’t I mean she might not want to have sex because he’s a complete prick to her but hey if she refuses to have sex with him ever night he has every right to get it elsewhere and she cannot blame you
Third he will absolutely leave her and walk of into the sunset with you
Now of course he’ll loose his kids at least for a while when he runs off with you. And yes he’ll miss them but your love will be enough to compensate. He may cry for the first few months he might get depressed for not seeing his kids but that will pass in a year or three.
And of course eventually his kids will visit and you will be a big happy family the kids won’t hate you for breaking up the family they new and loved They won’t resent you for making their mum sad
His ex will hate you but that shouldn’t effect your perfect life I mean you will not have to see her I mean sure she will be I. Your life forever but it won’t effect you much except for birthday parties school events medical emergency weddings.
Remember there will be a lot of pressure on you to compensate for the fact that your partner left his wife for you. Every time you have a fight every time he feels low or misses the kids he may look at you and think what the hell has he done but you can cope with that. You will make his sacrifice worthwhile. Your life will heal all.
Finally you will never be able to forget your partner was cheating on his wife to be with you. You will never be able to fully relax because you know that if he can do it once he will do it again you know he can lie you know he can manipulate you know !!!!!
But of course he won’t this time it’s different!!!!!!
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"Married men do get a bad press on here from both M & F, I never see anything said about married women doing exactly the same thing though... just my thoughts.
I agree it happens for both still doesn’t make it right.
Just my experience and was hoping it would hit a nerve with some people but they obviously don’t see that they are doing anything wrong "
Generally men get bashed more as they tend to be the ones starting the threads bemoaning about their partner, therefore inviting criticism & judgement.
Women aren’t free of people’s opinions but on here they tend to go about it in a more subtle way, drawer less attention to their situation.
Nerve wise, imo it’s not yours to hit. |
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"Married men do get a bad press on here from both M & F, I never see anything said about married women doing exactly the same thing though... just my thoughts.
I agree it happens for both still doesn’t make it right.
Just my experience and was hoping it would hit a nerve with some people but they obviously don’t see that they are doing anything wrong
Generally men get bashed more as they tend to be the ones starting the threads bemoaning about their partner, therefore inviting criticism & judgement.
Women aren’t free of people’s opinions but on here they tend to go about it in a more subtle way, drawer less attention to their situation.
Nerve wise, imo it’s not yours to hit."
Appears to be a few whingers on here some women are quite brazen about it and therefore they should be treated like us guys.
They should be ostracized, insulted and get the same treatment as us but they don't, it's all guys being nice to them saying nice things like "can I get a fuck please" .... |
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"Married men do get a bad press on here from both M & F, I never see anything said about married women doing exactly the same thing though... just my thoughts.
I agree it happens for both still doesn’t make it right.
Just my experience and was hoping it would hit a nerve with some people but they obviously don’t see that they are doing anything wrong
Generally men get bashed more as they tend to be the ones starting the threads bemoaning about their partner, therefore inviting criticism & judgement.
Women aren’t free of people’s opinions but on here they tend to go about it in a more subtle way, drawer less attention to their situation.
Nerve wise, imo it’s not yours to hit.
Appears to be a few whingers on here some women are quite brazen about it and therefore they should be treated like us guys.
They should be ostracized, insulted and get the same treatment as us but they don't, it's all guys being nice to them saying nice things like "can I get a fuck please" .... "
Supply & demand kicks in I guess.
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"men again eh ?? like there's no cheating women on here ?? lol ... trouble is we are in a day and age where people tend to give up very easy on their marriage and think the grass is greener on the other side rather than put the effort into there relationship...a marriage is and should never be easy it needs to be worked at from both side's.
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A certain amount of compromise certainly, but any relationship that requires work probably isn't much of a relationship. |
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"men again eh ?? like there's no cheating women on here ?? lol ... trouble is we are in a day and age where people tend to give up very easy on their marriage and think the grass is greener on the other side rather than put the effort into there relationship...a marriage is and should never be easy it needs to be worked at from both side's.
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I never get it when people say this....I actually don't think marriage should be hard work, if it is then maybe those people shouldn't be together |
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"men again eh ?? like there's no cheating women on here ?? lol ... trouble is we are in a day and age where people tend to give up very easy on their marriage and think the grass is greener on the other side rather than put the effort into there relationship...a marriage is and should never be easy it needs to be worked at from both side's.
I never get it when people say this....I actually don't think marriage should be hard work, if it is then maybe those people shouldn't be together"
We’ve been to hell and back, multiple times (married two years together eight) and the marriage side has never been difficult... |
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I don't meet anyone I know is attached,my choice ,but I don't abuse or have a go at married men or women on here.Its nine of my business unless they make it mine ie by messaging and trying to persuade me to meet or hiding their marital status.
Just my opinion but if you meet a man or woman and know they are married,you know what you are getting into .
Yes they may be the poor done to hubby or wife ,or they may be spinning the same old lines out.
I choose to avoid them because it doesn't sit well with me ,hard done to or not.plus there are plenty of single guys on here.
OP are you annoyed because he's done to you what he did to his wife?. |
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"Maybe, whatever the reason, he is a lying cheating bastard and I’m not willing to listen to why as I only see black or white and he obviously can’t be trusted with anyone as he’s the scum of the earth.
Or maybe:
He’s been married for 20 odd years, his wife does not want any intimacy but he still loves her but is finding it difficult to have to accept that he won’t ever have sex again for the rest of his life. Maybe he has children, maybe a disabled child who’s life would be turned upside down even more if the family were to split. Maybe he’s the nicest person ever who loves his family and has tried talking to his wife about it to no avail. Maybe he has a disabled wife who he loves but she is unable to have sexual relations.
Maybe, just maybe we shouldn’t judge everyone the same or maybe we shouldn’t judge at all. "
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