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"If it's your choice and you have clear boundaries in place its fine. Under what conditions have you been "accepted" and will you be meeting in person?" Well she has stated to me that if I follow her rules she will meet me in person I basically accepted that I am under her control with certain boundaries she got me to set up a slave profile on a different site she seems genuine I have a few pics of her I would be happy to show in the private messages | |||
"Then enjoy OP "Thank you its just a bit of fun in the end lol | |||
"If it's your choice and you have clear boundaries in place its fine. Under what conditions have you been "accepted" and will you be meeting in person? Well she has stated to me that if I follow her rules she will meet me in person I basically accepted that I am under her control with certain boundaries she got me to set up a slave profile on a different site she seems genuine I have a few pics of her I would be happy to show in the private messages" You shouldn't be showing her pictures to anybody else unless she's consented. Have you reverse searched the images she's sent you? I'm a cynical old bag and I'd hate to see your first experience of this be a bad one. | |||
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"Has this all been done on-line? Or have you met and spoken to this person? Personally I wouldn't accept any of that until I had had very long discussions with the Dom/me and was 100% certain that they were genuine, understood what I meant by my submission, and that I understood what they meant by domination. The second point I would struggle with at any time - depending on the context - asking questions and understanding is a fundamental part of BDSM being told you cannot do so would worry me - sure blurting out a question mid-scene might not be good (although if it were because something concerned you at that point then it absolutely should be allowed) but asking questions outside of that should not be an issue. A Dom/me and a sub to me are two sides of the same coin and equals in my book - yes there is power exchange and a need for rules to guide things, BUT they should come from a place of equality." Exactly! | |||
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"Then enjoy OP
Thank you its just a bit of fun in the end lol"If you see it as a "bit of fun" then that is your prerogative - but seeing it that way can lead you down a very dangerous route if you don't have your wits about you. Like Nicecouple561 I'm very cynical when it comes to BDSM and particularly on-line BDSM which usually seems too good to be true - I would have your guard well and truly up and be as certain as you can that this person is who they say they are. If they suggest you're not being a "true submissive" (and if they're not genuine they probably will) for wanting to establish that then I would walk away. | |||
"If it's your choice and you have clear boundaries in place its fine. Under what conditions have you been "accepted" and will you be meeting in person? Well she has stated to me that if I follow her rules she will meet me in person I basically accepted that I am under her control with certain boundaries she got me to set up a slave profile on a different site she seems genuine I have a few pics of her I would be happy to show in the private messages You shouldn't be showing her pictures to anybody else unless she's consented. Have you reverse searched the images she's sent you? I'm a cynical old bag and I'd hate to see your first experience of this be a bad one." No no your grand any advice is good advice and I appreciate it I'm guessing reverse searched is goggling it right | |||
"Has this all been done on-line? Or have you met and spoken to this person? Personally I wouldn't accept any of that until I had had very long discussions with the Dom/me and was 100% certain that they were genuine, understood what I meant by my submission, and that I understood what they meant by domination. The second point I would struggle with at any time - depending on the context - asking questions and understanding is a fundamental part of BDSM being told you cannot do so would worry me - sure blurting out a question mid-scene might not be good (although if it were because something concerned you at that point then it absolutely should be allowed) but asking questions outside of that should not be an issue. A Dom/me and a sub to me are two sides of the same coin and equals in my book - yes there is power exchange and a need for rules to guide things, BUT they should come from a place of equality." The voice of sense. I'm not really into all that, unless role playing, but I would 100% have to meet someone face to face for any of the things OP has mentioned to take place. But that's just me! Good luck, enjoy | |||
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"If it's your choice and you have clear boundaries in place its fine. Under what conditions have you been "accepted" and will you be meeting in person? Well she has stated to me that if I follow her rules she will meet me in person I basically accepted that I am under her control with certain boundaries she got me to set up a slave profile on a different site she seems genuine I have a few pics of her I would be happy to show in the private messages You shouldn't be showing her pictures to anybody else unless she's consented. Have you reverse searched the images she's sent you? I'm a cynical old bag and I'd hate to see your first experience of this be a bad one. No no your grand any advice is good advice and I appreciate it I'm guessing reverse searched is goggling it right"Google, tineye that sort of thing. | |||
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"Don't send any money " This!!! Unless you like to be financially dominated. | |||
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"Can I recommend that you read a couple of books on the subject op. We read a lot and continue to do so. Have a look at non fiction books on the book selling sites and choose a couple that have good reviews. It helps understand yourself and the dynamics involved. "Absolutely this - I'd recommend both "Screw The Roses Bring Me The Thorns" and "SM101" for starters | |||
"I would suggest you join the real fetish world. Go to events, clubs and munches. These give you a real insight into what does go on in the bdsm world. They will help guide you into the scene. You can then see if it really is the world for you " Thank you | |||
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"I like Domme women (I like loads of things) but you need to be carefull because 90% of the ones online are fakes or goals diggers who don't respect you. Even the real ones demand you to jump through hoops just to meet them. It's often not worth taking any of them seriously untill you met them 2 times. The intensity of the conversation most of them require before actually meeting you becomes an anti climax. As someone who's met the real ones at events or dated them...9/10 of them only lead to disapointment. They often just want material things from you however they disguise it of justify it. I'm not a swinger... I've been into bdsm for years so sometimes they act like that are experienced and genuine but they are just take people who are trying to use you.... I never figured out but it's either trying to get money or an eago boost for them. I don't think genuine dommes are aware of how many women online are just scamming people. If a woman is genuine she wouldn't put a stranger in such situations. Even if you have innocent intentions to socially meet a domme some of them aren't the people you think they are....it's all online immage related....They won't really be into it...They just want to gain your trust and make a fool of you.... Just be wise about it. They want you to jump through hoops before meeting them (which is fake behaviour).... " I'm not sure what events you've been to .. But 9/10s leading to disappointment does not represent the scene I am in.the fetish bdsm scene is not the sex scene so if you go into thinking that way you are definately going to be disillusioned. Most in the fetish scene are 100%genuine. They are helpful and are so welcoming. All newbies are shown exactly what is what. Most end up under someone's guidance. But you have to get into the scene and let yourself be seen and get known. It's no good going up a blind alley | |||
"I like Domme women (I like loads of things) but you need to be carefull because 90% of the ones online are fakes or goals diggers who don't respect you. Even the real ones demand you to jump through hoops just to meet them. It's often not worth taking any of them seriously untill you met them 2 times. The intensity of the conversation most of them require before actually meeting you becomes an anti climax. As someone who's met the real ones at events or dated them...9/10 of them only lead to disapointment. They often just want material things from you however they disguise it of justify it. I'm not a swinger... I've been into bdsm for years so sometimes they act like that are experienced and genuine but they are just take people who are trying to use you.... I never figured out but it's either trying to get money or an eago boost for them. I don't think genuine dommes are aware of how many women online are just scamming people. If a woman is genuine she wouldn't put a stranger in such situations. Even if you have innocent intentions to socially meet a domme some of them aren't the people you think they are....it's all online immage related....They won't really be into it...They just want to gain your trust and make a fool of you.... Just be wise about it. They want you to jump through hoops before meeting them (which is fake behaviour).... " Very true and agree have to say I'm a little taken back with the responses maybe Mondays aren't so bad after all lol | |||
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