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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"Not having much luck on this site so far so I figured I'll ask you all on mass if I should just give up!"
only you know if you should give up. We all face that same dilemma at some point as single males. I suggest learn to be hopeful but not expectant. Its a long hard... slog.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t give up. It’s not really possible to rate someone on a couple of pics and a couple of lines of text. Maybe do some more pics and add some more about yourself on your profile. You haven’t been on here that long, give it a bit longer. Good luck  |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"I won't give up but I think it'd be easier if I looked like you haha"
if you meant me, trust me, looking like me isnt all that. I'm struggling myself. But i know its not unusual so aint gonna beat myself up over it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need better pics OP and a good profile text. Entice them in. "
Thanks love I'll work on it.
I did wonder, I know I'm not the best looking bloke but I'm fun to be around, im a good all round bloke and good company. I think I struggle on here because of first impressions. Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need better pics OP and a good profile text. Entice them in.
Thanks love I'll work on it.
I did wonder, I know I'm not the best looking bloke but I'm fun to be around, im a good all round bloke and good company. I think I struggle on here because of first impressions. Thank you x"
You don't have to be the best looking guy on here but you seem very polite and that goes a long way. Get to a club  |
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By *pikeyMan
over a year ago
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Dude my advice would be get rid of cock pics, add more of a better discription of yourself, and get yourself along to a local swingers club, and good things come to thous who wait, 3 weeks is no time at all for been on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow harshness
Looks are so subjective , to someone you’re an absolute catch !!
New photos and witty profile and see what happens. "
gosh I wish I was like you,,your sooooooooooooo nice |
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"Wow harshness
Looks are so subjective , to someone you’re an absolute catch !!
New photos and witty profile and see what happens.
This "
Definitely this ... you have to find a way to stand out from the crowd .. a unique selling point ... good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow harshness
Looks are so subjective , to someone you’re an absolute catch !!
New photos and witty profile and see what happens.
gosh I wish I was like you,,your sooooooooooooo nice"
I’m a horrible witch 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Smile in the face photos.
And work on your profile a bit.
You are not as bad as you’ve been rated. Screw this sitr mate get out there and pull "
Cheers mate. I did try smiling but I looked like a special person. I struggle in person as I lack confidence. Was married for 10 years so sorta out of practice, she left me for another dude so confidence sorta rock bottom. Been going to The gym alot to Improve my body but face is still the same lol
Thanks for your kind words x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow harshness
Looks are so subjective , to someone you’re an absolute catch !!
New photos and witty profile and see what happens.
gosh I wish I was like you,,your sooooooooooooo nice
I’m a horrible witch
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lol |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
Taking all the above into consideration, i was told that my profile and pics were 'fine' but it still doesn't equate to a better chance of success. Pics and profile and manners will enhance chances of meets but nothing is guatanteed as a single bloke. We are just a few among 1000s competing for just a few women. Good luck though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not having much luck on this site so far so I figured I'll ask you all on mass if I should just give up!"
have you tried makeup,,false lashes? don't give up theres always hope |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You don't have to be the best looking guy on here but you seem very polite and that goes a long way. Get to a club "
I have thought about a club but it scare the shit out of me going in alone lol.
I'll update my profile and loss a little more weight then maybe give it go. Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't have to be the best looking guy on here but you seem very polite and that goes a long way. Get to a club
I have thought about a club but it scare the shit out of me going in alone lol.
I'll update my profile and loss a little more weight then maybe give it go. Thank you xx"
Just tank a half bottle of Bucky and you'll be sound |
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You seem to have plenty of potential and it would be disappointing if you give up. That you're considering this, is potentially down to your expectations. Typically it is tough for you single guys and all new users probably take a long time to settle in, understand how to maximise their potential and to gain others' trust etc.
You've asked us to look at you and having only seen this post and your profile, that's all I have to go on: you didn't ask for profile feedback. From my years of being here, the thing that lets people down, or helps them to get more success, is the quality of their profile, which is what will sell you. When people get a message from you, they'll always look at your profile - so anything that your profile can include, that gives a great overview and emphasises why you'd be a great person to know, is the icing on the cake.
Tips for your photos: if you could include one with a relaxed smile, it would be fantastic, as smiles are warm and inviting. Generally others don't want to see tons of, or any, cock pics - so I'd not suggest you add more. Consider what people would need to assess your suitability for meeting: how much they could fancy you (and how they'd judge that, such as seeing your physical build, to make a snap decision). Anything that gives pause for uncertainty, or doubt, is a reason that they may move on to the next person who they may be interested in.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't have to be the best looking guy on here but you seem very polite and that goes a long way. Get to a club
I have thought about a club but it scare the shit out of me going in alone lol.
I'll update my profile and loss a little more weight then maybe give it go. Thank you xx"
good luck mate we're all behind you |
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For a relaxed smiling pic, aim to get someone you know to take some, to have a choice. Selfies often have you concentrating, so you're not fully relaxed. Natural light outdoors could be great, as it will contrast with your other pics.
There are some fantastic people in Fab - quite a few of them have posted here: we're often in the forum and mean well. Use the forum and get to know us and potentially become friends, if you need someone to moan, chat with etc. It is often tough at first. You deserve good, after your past negative experiences: but don't rely on Fab to increase your confidence. In fact, I'd encourage you to ensure that it doesn't affect you negatively - take time out, if that happens. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
Its nice to see people being nice on here. Didnt expect that. Not from the initial harshness anyway! Understand why people are harsh but its nice to see people being generous to counter that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You seem to have plenty of potential and it would be disappointing if you give up. That you're considering this, is potentially down to your expectations. Typically it is tough for you single guys and all new users probably take a long time to settle in, understand how to maximise their potential and to gain others' trust etc.
You've asked us to look at you and having only seen this post and your profile, that's all I have to go on: you didn't ask for profile feedback. From my years of being here, the thing that lets people down, or helps them to get more success, is the quality of their profile, which is what will sell you. When people get a message from you, they'll always look at your profile - so anything that your profile can include, that gives a great overview and emphasises why you'd be a great person to know, is the icing on the cake.
Tips for your photos: if you could include one with a relaxed smile, it would be fantastic, as smiles are warm and inviting. Generally others don't want to see tons of, or any, cock pics - so I'd not suggest you add more. Consider what people would need to assess your suitability for meeting: how much they could fancy you (and how they'd judge that, such as seeing your physical build, to make a snap decision). Anything that gives pause for uncertainty, or doubt, is a reason that they may move on to the next person who they may be interested in.
Good luck!"
Thank you that's a really helpful comment. I was umming and arrring about putting up a cock pic but I looked at other men's profiles and they all seem to have them on. Should I switch it to private?
With feedback, if I'm not meeting people how can i get feedback?
Sorry if these are stupid questions, I've been out of the 'game' a long time
Thanks for helping x |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
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You don't have to be the best looking guy on here but you seem very polite and that goes a long way. Get to a club
I have thought about a club but it scare the shit out of me going in alone lol.
I'll update my profile and loss a little more weight then maybe give it go. Thank you xx
good luck mate we're all behind you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you’re happy showing your face, smile or at least try and look relaxed (and a little hint, try not to say you look like a special person, mums to a special person, like me, could see that in a negative light, even though it’s obviously not meant to be- anything construed as mocking or shaming is a huge no go on here) Sort that profile narrative out. Say a little bit about yourself, what you like etc- an idea of what you’re looking for.
Don’t put a time scale on yourself, not getting a meet etc straight away isn’t everything, try not to come across as petulant, blaming everything from the tides to comparing yourself to other men and making assumptions will never help you- avoid that! (Not that I’m saying you have btw, just giving tips on what to avoid) try and stay positive and people will notice. People want to meet others that they feel they’d be able to relax with etc. Good luck and hope you have a great fab experience x Viv x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take your face off your profile a bit and sell the other parts of yourself you are more confident in. Just let a bit of character out, dont describe yourself in just black and white like a list.
You want to jump off the page a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" (and a little hint, try not to say you look like a special person, mums to a special person, like me, could see that in a negative light, even though it’s obviously not meant to be- anything construed as mocking or shaming is a huge no go on here) "
Sorry if I caused offence. My youngest is severly disabled, yet she's the love of my life. I'd never say anything horrible about anyone with a disability. I have alot of arguments with people who say stuff about my daughter. I had a parent say to me the other day she shouldnt be in mainstream school. If she was a man I would have hit her. Just cuz she's different than other kids doesn't mean she should be denighed and education and she may not be able to talk but she shows her affection through hugs and physical actions.
I be more careful with my words in the future xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" (and a little hint, try not to say you look like a special person, mums to a special person, like me, could see that in a negative light, even though it’s obviously not meant to be- anything construed as mocking or shaming is a huge no go on here)
Sorry if I caused offence. My youngest is severly disabled, yet she's the love of my life. I'd never say anything horrible about anyone with a disability. I have alot of arguments with people who say stuff about my daughter. I had a parent say to me the other day she shouldnt be in mainstream school. If she was a man I would have hit her. Just cuz she's different than other kids doesn't mean she should be denighed and education and she may not be able to talk but she shows her affection through hugs and physical actions.
I be more careful with my words in the future xx"
Wasn’t offended, just pointing out that some things can be construed in a negative way, but thank you for your apology- see, this is what your profile should high light. Not your daughter/personal life to such a great extent- but that you’re considerate and polite. It’s an attractive trait xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wasn’t offended, just pointing out that some things can be construed in a negative way, but thank you for your apology- see, this is what your profile should high light. Not your daughter/personal life to such a great extent- but that you’re considerate and polite. It’s an attractive trait xx"
Thanks love. I'm going to start a fresh one tommorow when I have the time. I've always felt a little awkward trying to sell myself but I'll get over it and start again.
Thanking you kindly x |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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Wasn’t offended, just pointing out that some things can be construed in a negative way, but thank you for your apology- see, this is what your profile should high light. Not your daughter/personal life to such a great extent- but that you’re considerate and polite. It’s an attractive trait xx
Thanks love. I'm going to start a fresh one tommorow when I have the time. I've always felt a little awkward trying to sell myself but I'll get over it and start again.
Thanking you kindly x"
We all find it difficult don't be too hard yourself.
Be confident in your and you'll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Wasn’t offended, just pointing out that some things can be construed in a negative way, but thank you for your apology- see, this is what your profile should high light. Not your daughter/personal life to such a great extent- but that you’re considerate and polite. It’s an attractive trait xx
Thanks love. I'm going to start a fresh one tommorow when I have the time. I've always felt a little awkward trying to sell myself but I'll get over it and start again.
Thanking you kindly xWe all find it difficult don't be too hard yourself.
Be confident in your and you'll be fine. "
no,,he needs to be hard or he'll flop bigtime on here |
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