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over a year ago
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I don’t think there is a right or wrong age, I said on another thread a moment ago I wish I had waited until I was older to have kids but my mum had me when she was 32 and she was always an ‘old mum’ to me, all my friends at school parents were much younger than mine so I made the decision to have all mine by the time I was 26 (made it with two weeks to spare!). I do wish I waited and lived a bit for myself.
That said, I’m very broody since we got married but as I am 40 in July and while there is nothing wrong with having a baby on your 40’s. We both decided that it was a little too old for me and my eldest turned 18 this year so we can see a light at the end of the tunnel, still doesn’t stop the yearning though lol.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Interesting to read those comments.
Of the body is ready to handle a baby then I guess late teens like 19 to early 30s probably best time.
Yes if you have kid at 40 they be like 20 when your 60!
Depressing thought hey.
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"Interesting to read those comments.
Of the body is ready to handle a baby then I guess late teens like 19 to early 30s probably best time.
Yes if you have kid at 40 they be like 20 when your 60!
Depressing thought hey.
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Not really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting to read those comments.
Of the body is ready to handle a baby then I guess late teens like 19 to early 30s probably best time.
Yes if you have kid at 40 they be like 20 when your 60!
Depressing thought hey.
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Not overly a depressing thought, just more a practical one from my point of view.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I had one at thirty and one at thirty four. The second time was miles easier. I think it probably depends more on your health and fitness levels than your age. "
Totally agree.
Defo Health and Fitness!! |
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"Interesting to read those comments.
Of the body is ready to handle a baby then I guess late teens like 19 to early 30s probably best time.
Yes if you have kid at 40 they be like 20 when your 60!
Depressing thought hey.
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Giving birth is important but raising kids is a much bigger factor. The 19 year old version of me would've been a crap dad. By the time I'd 'matured' in my early 30s - I'd become adequate |
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"Giving birth is important but raising kids is a much bigger factor. The 19 year old version of me would've been a crap dad. By the time I'd 'matured' in my early 30s - I'd become adequate"
Yes matured and sensible.
Spend more time with them as they grow up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"From a purely medical pount of view, I believe it is late teens to mid 20s.
Nita
Yep that’s what my midwife friends tell me  "
Guess it must be right then.
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I had my first pregnancy at 33, my second at 35 and my third at 46. I have no experience of being pregnant in my teens or twenties so I can't compare but I didn't find the first two particularly difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From a purely medical pount of view, I believe it is late teens to mid 20s.
Nita"
This, ask the midwife this is what they’ll tell you
All to do with pelvic flexibility and muscles.
However Having had my first at 19....I couldn’t tell you if this is true a she took 2 days of labour to make her appearance! |
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37 for me. Found pregnancy difficult (probably more to do with a less than supportive partner as it goes). 45 now and wish I'd had the chance to have another |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting to read those comments.
Of the body is ready to handle a baby then I guess late teens like 19 to early 30s probably best time.
Yes if you have kid at 40 they be like 20 when your 60!
Depressing thought hey.
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No really- I was late to the party at 38 but I am blessed and although the majority of my mummy friends are younger than me, I think she and they help to keep me young, although I have always had a youthful outlook.
In my 20's I was no where near ready to be a mum- too busy having fun! |
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Physically it's aged beween 20 - 35, and if having more than one then 18 months between each is best for recovery. So i got told off my midwife when i was worried about being pregnant right after my 3rd c-section.
I only had kids in my 20s and my last live child aged 30. Don'tthink there is an ideal age forme personally, i wouldn't manage a baby or pregnancy now i reckon. |
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It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ? |
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I had my daughter when I was 26 and she’s now 9 however I have two friends my age who both have sons that will be 18 this year!
I want another baby but I worry that I’m gonna go past the age to have another one. |
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?"
Some of it can be, i know my oldest son has inherited my eyeball shape and so needed glasses from a young age the same as i did. My daughter wears glasses as well but i'm not sure why and she only started to need them after she started secondary school.
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?"
If you're genetically predisposed to have short or long site then I'd say it has everything to do with genetics.
I haven't noticed more children wearing glasses though. |
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?"
No.
I think it's better detection rates so abnormalities can be corrected early. |
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?"
No, it’s because they have their vision checked in reception class at school now and letters are sent home to advise that a full eye test is needed. Because of this, issues with vision are picked up earlier. It was only noticed that I had a problem when I went to secondary school, was sat at the back of a large classroom and couldn’t read the board. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Could be early detection.
But these days they spend so much time on the iPads and parents smart phones.
Makes you think back then we just had television and pen and paper. |
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I had my son at 25 i didnt plan in advance to have one then but works out it was perfect age for me. He had left home by the time i was 41. I split up with his dad so we didnt have anymore but at 32 i made a decision i wouldnt be having any more even if i met someone who wanted one. 32 was definetly my cut off point. However a close friend had an unplanned first and only baby at 45. Shes an excellent mother but im glad its not me |
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I had mine at 19 and it was a breeze really. I was young and fit. I'm 35 now and friend are pregnant or have toddlers and I think bugger that. Feel way too old to have another |
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?
Some of it can be, i know my oldest son has inherited my eyeball shape and so needed glasses from a young age the same as i did. My daughter wears glasses as well but i'm not sure why and she only started to need them after she started secondary school.
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Me and my ex both have dicky eyes - manpup has 20/20 vision - at the moment. Optician did say that she'd probably end up needing glasses as she became more and more exposed to computer screens through school |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?
No, it’s because they have their vision checked in reception class at school now and letters are sent home to advise that a full eye test is needed. Because of this, issues with vision are picked up earlier. It was only noticed that I had a problem when I went to secondary school, was sat at the back of a large classroom and couldn’t read the board. "
Hardly a good test. The school never even sent a missive home to say she could see the blackboard. If parent or parents have eye problems then kids will be genetically predisposed - although as already mentioned we've dodged a bullet |
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"I never wanted children but still feel too young at 47 even if I had wanted them. "
You look in good shape at 47.
So is it health and fitness or the AGE that stops us ?
Does anyone know the oldest lady to give birth on record at the moment ?
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?
No, it’s because they have their vision checked in reception class at school now and letters are sent home to advise that a full eye test is needed. Because of this, issues with vision are picked up earlier. It was only noticed that I had a problem when I went to secondary school, was sat at the back of a large classroom and couldn’t read the board.
Hardly a good test. The school never even sent a missive home to say she could see the blackboard. If parent or parents have eye problems then kids will be genetically predisposed - although as already mentioned we've dodged a bullet "
I was wearing glasses not long after i started school, they've always done these tests so far as i know? Might just be a lancashire thing? |
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"I never wanted children but still feel too young at 47 even if I had wanted them.
You look in good shape at 47.
So is it health and fitness or the AGE that stops us ?
Does anyone know the oldest lady to give birth on record at the moment ?
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I don't but my gynaecologist told me the oldest woman he'd seen who conceived naturally and carried to full term was 54. The oldest woman he'd seen who was still having regular periods was 62. Its about improved nutrition and physiological age.
As I said earlier I conceived naturally at 46 |
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Interesting read on here today.
Do you think as men get older the sperm quality is not as good or is the sperm from a 20 year old the same as say 60 years old ? |
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"Interesting read on here today.
Do you think as men get older the sperm quality is not as good or is the sperm from a 20 year old the same as say 60 years old ?"
Sperm count and motility can drop but in terms of quality, it should be the same unless there have been environmental or lifestyle impact.
I had my first at 26, had severe hyperemesis and on one hospital stay had a doctor remark on seeing a 'normal ages first time mum'  apparently it's medically in the acceptable range but all he'd seen that week were teenagers or 'geriatric' mothers - 35+ 
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"I had my daughter when I was 26 and she’s now 9 however I have two friends my age who both have sons that will be 18 this year!
I want another baby but I worry that I’m gonna go past the age to have another one. "
How many offers of impregnation have you had since saying you are worried? |
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Had mine at 30,34 and 37.
First was the most difficult due to pre-eclampsia, early induction and post-natal depression. Also had a botched episiotomy repair which took around 9 months to heal.
Second was a breeze, easy pregnancy, natural birth after two hours labour with only entonox for pain, third pregnancy involved high BP again, and followed by post-natal depression.
Make of that what you will. |
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First one at 22. The second one at 38. My second was far easier. My first one caused complications, which is why there is such a big gap in age.
Medically speaking, the best age is actually the teen years. |
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?"
Genetics don't change over just one or two generations.
I'm not aware of stats on more glasses being worn by kids but if you're right, then maybe more scre time or perhaps better diagnosis of the need for glasses |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never wanted children but still feel too young at 47 even if I had wanted them.
You look in good shape at 47.
So is it health and fitness or the AGE that stops us ?
Does anyone know the oldest lady to give birth on record at the moment ?
I don't but my gynaecologist told me the oldest woman he'd seen who conceived naturally and carried to full term was 54. The oldest woman he'd seen who was still having regular periods was 62. Its about improved nutrition and physiological age.
As I said earlier I conceived naturally at 46"
A woman round my area gave birth at 66 and 67.
Selfish is all I think of her (and pretty damn stupid too ) |
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?
Genetics don't change over just one or two generations.
I'm not aware of stats on more glasses being worn by kids but if you're right, then maybe more scre time or perhaps better diagnosis of the need for glasses"
There are theories that it's damage from too many ultrasounds.
Could also just be we have better tech for screening young kids and know that glasses at an early age can fix issues before the eyes mature so they're not needed after rather than waiting to do eye tests and some needing glasses for life.
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?"
I spoke to an optician a while back and he thought it was due to spending more time looking at screens and not getting out into daylight enough. In his opinion that all effected eye health. |
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"It’s that balance in life.
I tell you something though, more and more kids are wearing glasses these days at a young age.
Never use to see as many when I was younger.
Do you think something to do with genetics ?
I spoke to an optician a while back and he thought it was due to spending more time looking at screens and not getting out into daylight enough. In his opinion that all effected eye health. "
I've read the same somewhere. |
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I had my son at 15. He is my birthday boy today, 32, and we are both in perfect health still. Never regretted having him so young, and no, he was not planned. Regardless of age, you are never prepared for what motherhood throws at you. Tough slog but worth every drop of sweat, blood and tear  |
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