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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi!
As the male half of the couple it’s proving difficult to attract even the slightest attention from women!
Vixen has had a number of meets and is fully embracing the lifestyle with a few regular friends!
She wants me to join the fun but how best to go about it?
We get lots of views from males and that is obviously down to Vixens pics?
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear it's not just us single guys that struggle to get meets on here as part of a couple I would have though you would get loads of interest.
Hope a lady cums your way soon Op.
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How about a single male profile? Not saying you'll have more luck but you'll know that people are looking to find out about you alone.
Apart from that men on their own do get fewer opportunities than women |
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Op if you’re looking for attention, either as a couple and/or playing solo, then your profile needs to reflect that too. Right now it’s all focused on vixen, hence why she will be getting attention and none is directed at you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear it's not just us single guys that struggle to get meets on here as part of a couple I would have though you would get loads of interest.
Hope a lady cums your way soon Op.
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Cheers fella |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"She's got a fanny & tits, you haven't
That will always reflect in 'attention' levels
It's as simple and crude as that I'm afraid"
And they are great tits!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It probably needs to be driven by the fem half of a couple. You are competing with all the other single men on here, so what you are looking for is quite niche."
She has said that - and she is so much better at chatting and flirting than me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Op if you’re looking for attention, either as a couple and/or playing solo, then your profile needs to reflect that too. Right now it’s all focused on vixen, hence why she will be getting attention and none is directed at you. "
Noted! Will make a few changes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How about a single male profile? Not saying you'll have more luck but you'll know that people are looking to find out about you alone.
Apart from that men on their own do get fewer opportunities than women"
Could give it a go! Thanks for commenting |
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"It probably needs to be driven by the fem half of a couple. You are competing with all the other single men on here, so what you are looking for is quite niche.
She has said that - and she is so much better at chatting and flirting than me"
It's our thing too. But so hard to arrange on here. |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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"It probably needs to be driven by the fem half of a couple. You are competing with all the other single men on here, so what you are looking for is quite niche.
She has said that - and she is so much better at chatting and flirting than me"
I really do think most women are brtter at that chat up thing anyway.
Having just recently broken up after a 15 year relationship & marriage I will be the first to admit my chat up and flirting skills are very rusty.
Anyway good luck in your quest OP
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It probably needs to be driven by the fem half of a couple. You are competing with all the other single men on here, so what you are looking for is quite niche.
She has said that - and she is so much better at chatting and flirting than me
I really do think most women are brtter at that chat up thing anyway.
Having just recently broken up after a 15 year relationship & marriage I will be the first to admit my chat up and flirting skills are very rusty.
Anyway good luck in your quest OP
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She could make a fortune writing dirty stories!!
Good luck to you as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It probably needs to be driven by the fem half of a couple. You are competing with all the other single men on here, so what you are looking for is quite niche.
She has said that - and she is so much better at chatting and flirting than me
It's our thing too. But so hard to arrange on here."
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Hi similar position to myself. I think half the problem is we're just not desperate enough. We have an emotional and sexual support structure in our wives. So we're not on fab desperately looking for an outlet. I certainly don't have the time or inclination to continually search for and message women. Plus I'm not likely to be in a position to need to lower my standards just for a fuck. I have no interest in a "social meet" as I'd much rather take my wife out for a drink than a stranger. I know that's important to alot of women on here, but i just don't have the time. The few local women i have conversed with have turned out to be playing away, then they need you to start jumping through hoops of when its safe to meet etc. Sod that. |
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"Hi similar position to myself. I think half the problem is we're just not desperate enough. We have an emotional and sexual support structure in our wives. So we're not on fab desperately looking for an outlet. I certainly don't have the time or inclination to continually search for and message women. Plus I'm not likely to be in a position to need to lower my standards just for a fuck. I have no interest in a "social meet" as I'd much rather take my wife out for a drink than a stranger. I know that's important to alot of women on here, but i just don't have the time. The few local women i have conversed with have turned out to be playing away, then they need you to start jumping through hoops of when its safe to meet etc. Sod that. "
Exxactly this!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi similar position to myself. I think half the problem is we're just not desperate enough. We have an emotional and sexual support structure in our wives. So we're not on fab desperately looking for an outlet. I certainly don't have the time or inclination to continually search for and message women. Plus I'm not likely to be in a position to need to lower my standards just for a fuck. I have no interest in a "social meet" as I'd much rather take my wife out for a drink than a stranger. I know that's important to alot of women on here, but i just don't have the time. The few local women i have conversed with have turned out to be playing away, then they need you to start jumping through hoops of when its safe to meet etc. Sod that. "
Think you’ve nailed it! Not desperate enough!
You may have read out profile, if not no worries!
My fantasy is for Vixen to have fun and she is because she has many potential takers which she selects the best from! She is picky but that’s good! Quality not quantity
She wants me to have some fun but like you I am very busy and find that after a few messages from the male half of a couple the messages either stop or get deleted which is frustrating so think what’s the point |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have the same problem
That’s 3 of us on this thread now - we should all get together hahah
That could be fun
Actually Mr does work up in newcastle some times so pm us  "
Only 1 1/2 hours to Newcastle from us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky. "
I understand that but with us it’s actually the case! |
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky. "
But there are genuine couples that play like this. It's our kink. We are well verified and play in clubs. But we don't jump thro hoops just cos of the power dynamic on fab. That is lessened when you are in a club and see what is on offer. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
But there are genuine couples that play like this. It's our kink. We are well verified and play in clubs. But we don't jump thro hoops just cos of the power dynamic on fab. That is lessened when you are in a club and see what is on offer. "
Which clubs have you been to / go to?
This is something we are interested in trying |
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
But there are genuine couples that play like this. It's our kink. We are well verified and play in clubs. But we don't jump thro hoops just cos of the power dynamic on fab. That is lessened when you are in a club and see what is on offer.
Which clubs have you been to / go to?
This is something we are interested in trying "
We have tried many clubs between us:
Townhouse, Infusion, SX, No3, cupids, xtasia, chams, the attic, clubf, partners, amour, libertyx. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky. "
I'm the same, I'd rather meet genuinely single guys as they are who I'm looking for long term. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
But there are genuine couples that play like this. It's our kink. We are well verified and play in clubs. But we don't jump thro hoops just cos of the power dynamic on fab. That is lessened when you are in a club and see what is on offer.
Which clubs have you been to / go to?
This is something we are interested in trying We have tried many clubs between us:
Townhouse, Infusion, SX, No3, cupids, xtasia, chams, the attic, clubf, partners, amour, libertyx. "
As we are in Doncaster we were thinking Quest in Leeds or La Chambre in Sheffield |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
I'm the same, I'd rather meet genuinely single guys as they are who I'm looking for long term. "
Fully understand! |
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
I'm the same, I'd rather meet genuinely single guys as they are who I'm looking for long term. "
Isn't that like trying to buy a car from Hertz? |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
I'm the same, I'd rather meet genuinely single guys as they are who I'm looking for long term. "
I am genuine single guy looking for something long term such a shame we don't live nearer to each other  |
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
But there are genuine couples that play like this. It's our kink. We are well verified and play in clubs. But we don't jump thro hoops just cos of the power dynamic on fab. That is lessened when you are in a club and see what is on offer.
Which clubs have you been to / go to?
This is something we are interested in trying We have tried many clubs between us:
Townhouse, Infusion, SX, No3, cupids, xtasia, chams, the attic, clubf, partners, amour, libertyx.
As we are in Doncaster we were thinking Quest in Leeds or La Chambre in Sheffield"
We aren't looking to meet separately, but of the two clubs mentioned La Chambre would be our recommendation.
Not that there is anything wrong with Quest. We simply prefer La Chambre of the two.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
OP, as has already been suggested you'd probably fare better with a single male profile - especially if you take the time and effort to make it decent, and then get your approach etc right - ladies are generally wary of being approached from a couples profile as it can often be a ruse on the part of single males to get a meet - the flip side being that men will happily meet a lady from a couples profile due to the number imbalance amongst other things.
You will be placing yourself in the pool of single men, but like I said, get the profile right, along with the approach, expectations and attitude and there's no reason it can't work.
If you do go down that route, I'd suggest cross-referencing the single profile to both your couples profile, and also, if she has one, your partners single profile for complete transparency. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally when I'm looking for meets with a single/attached guy I would never look to a couples profile to achieve that as I have no wish to meet couples so I echo the above get a singles profile. me and my partner both have singles profiles and just reference each other on our profiles |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
I'm the same, I'd rather meet genuinely single guys as they are who I'm looking for long term.
Isn't that like trying to buy a car from Hertz?"
No idea. Never tried to buy a car from Hertz lol. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
I'm the same, I'd rather meet genuinely single guys as they are who I'm looking for long term.
I am genuine single guy looking for something long term such a shame we don't live nearer to each other "
Aww never mind, you're out of my age range too. Xx |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
A box at end of your bed |
"I always delete messages from couples who want to meet separately. Messages that say it's the female wanting to treat her man or male half of the couple saying the wife is away but he has permission seem suspect to me. I just won't entertain the idea as find it's too risky.
I'm the same, I'd rather meet genuinely single guys as they are who I'm looking for long term.
I am genuine single guy looking for something long term such a shame we don't live nearer to each other
Aww never mind, you're out of my age range too. Xx"
Yes but not by much I have been told I do not look my age in fact was told I look ten years younger think she may have been drinking LoL. Anyway your only as old as the women or man your feeling oops that don't work eather that would make you older  |
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