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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I see it more and more on fab.
Not how someone looks but how someone treats another person.
It’s easy to call someone think a stick insect or a BBW fat when you are behind a keyboard, but would you have the guts to face to face? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see it more and more on fab.
Not how someone looks but how someone treats another person.
It’s easy to call someone think a stick insect or a BBW fat when you are behind a keyboard, but would you have the guts to face to face? "
Are we talking about the forums or in messages? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I think most will say that on here.
It’s easy to turn someone down for a meet via messages but I find it awkward when on a meet to say not for me. "
Always meet in public then first. Better to be Safe than sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I see it more and more on fab.
Not how someone looks but how someone treats another person.
It’s easy to call someone think a stick insect or a BBW fat when you are behind a keyboard, but would you have the guts to face to face?
Are we talking about the forums or in messages? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I were talking to a skinny woman and size came I would say I'm fat, you're skinny.
It's the word I use to describe my size, back when I was skinny.
Oh I long for those days.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think most will say that on here.
It’s easy to turn someone down for a meet via messages but I find it awkward when on a meet to say not for me. Always meet in public then first. Better to be Safe than sorry. "
I do this  |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I think most will say that on here.
It’s easy to turn someone down for a meet via messages but I find it awkward when on a meet to say not for me. Always meet in public then first. Better to be Safe than sorry.
I do this "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I were talking to a skinny woman and size came I would say I'm fat, you're skinny.
It's the word I use to describe my size, back when I was skinny.
Oh I long for those days.
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Iv just read that and I didn't understand it, am I being thick |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see it more and more on fab.
Not how someone looks but how someone treats another person.
It’s easy to call someone think a stick insect or a BBW fat when you are behind a keyboard, but would you have the guts to face to face?
Are we talking about the forums or in messages? "
We tend not to get much abuse in messages but then we tend not to be noticed.
I agree the forums can be nasty, but I also think some work very hard to be offended. |
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"I think most will say that on here.
It’s easy to turn someone down for a meet via messages but I find it awkward when on a meet to say not for me. "
You'll get better at it. You have to. I find if you politely tell them to their face that you don't feel the connection/attraction is there, and they can see that you are sincere about it, they'll accept it. If you leave it until later and do it by text, they tend to eithrr go full-on keyboard warrior, or start trying to wear you down. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I see it more and more on fab.
Not how someone looks but how someone treats another person.
It’s easy to call someone think a stick insect or a BBW fat when you are behind a keyboard, but would you have the guts to face to face? "
I agree with you, but at the same point it's always been like this to a degree.
When I first joined, the forums could be a very hostile place, in many ways worse than they are now.
However that doesn't justify the behaviour or attitudes of some nor the intolerance and lack of respect shown.
I'm exactly the same in person as I am on the forums, generally calm and collected but if I have something to say, I will. |
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I agree the forums can be nasty, but I also think some work very hard to be offended. "
I took a break from the forum when there was a period people kept calling people like me "it" rather than he (i don't mind) or she. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I agree the forums can be nasty, but I also think some work very hard to be offended.
I took a break from the forum when there was a period people kept calling people like me "it" rather than he (i don't mind) or she."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think Fab isn't too bad at all. The mods sort out forum posts and messages that are outside the site rules.
Facebook and other sites are full of really vile, rude people. I find Fab quite peaceful in comparison. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I think Fab isn't too bad at all. The mods sort out forum posts and messages that are outside the site rules.
Facebook and other sites are full of really vile, rude people. I find Fab quite peaceful in comparison. "
I think the mods do a good job in dealing with people breaking the rules  |
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"Only nasty to people who deserve it. I'd have no problem telling them to their face either. "
So it's okay if you think that someone deserves it ?
That's very judgmental .......
Who decides what nasty is ? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Only nasty to people who deserve it. I'd have no problem telling them to their face either.
So it's okay if you think that someone deserves it ?
That's very judgmental .......
Who decides what nasty is ?"
Sue me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I were talking to a skinny woman and size came I would say I'm fat, you're skinny.
It's the word I use to describe my size, back when I was skinny.
Oh I long for those days.
Iv just read that and I didn't understand it, am I being thick"
If I was having a chin wag with a woman who was thin,and we started talking about our bodies, I would refer to mine as fat and hers as skinny. When I was skinny I would say "I'm skinny" and I would love to be able to say that now; but I'm fat. |
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"Only nasty to people who deserve it. I'd have no problem telling them to their face either.
So it's okay if you think that someone deserves it ?
That's very judgmental .......
Who decides what nasty is ? Sue me."
Why would I do that ? |
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"Are we talking that ugly that the tide wouldnt take them out? Or there that ugly youve seen a better head on a pint of lager? "
No we're talking ugly as in insulting other people's appearances just to make themselves feel less shitty. |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
I wouldn't ever call someone anything that I think they might find offensive to their face or online unless they had first done something to instigate it. Once I consider they deserve it then makes no difference if it's online or face to face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite shocked at the number of women who have had some seriously bad, as in scary illegal bad, experiences with other site members. Of all the ladies I chat too, about one third have talked about this. Not good. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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If I think someone has an ugly personality I either say so or just ignore them.
It's kinda tricky when you work with people like that, so I just get on with my job and stay quiet, which is hard for me.
Those who have met me will understand.
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I'm fairly tolerant except for people who are disrespectful, which I stop, once noticed. The forum environment here changes over time - we have seasonal bumps but I agree with others, the forum of yesteryears were somewhat tougher.
Consider visiting Politics, if you'd like a good, friendly chat with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I think the forums have mellowed over the years, whether that’s down to more moderation I’m not sure.
I rarely see the ripping to shreds of someone that used to take place.
Message wise it’s pretty much the same, I choose not to see it. |
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