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Swingers clubs... yay or nay???

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

I don't go to clubs as have dreadful social anxiety so am very uncomfortable in group situations. Plus I much prefer getting to know someone one on one. If there were more clubs with a purely social element and not dress down I think I'd be more interested.

How about you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd like to go to a club but there isn't so much opportunity up here.

I also wouldn't want to go alone.

I think it would be good if clubs had social only events where people could mingle without the dress down part of it or feel like there might be any pressure at all to play. I think it would be good for nervous newbies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd like to go to a club but there isn't so much opportunity up here.

I also wouldn't want to go alone.

Very much so. I wouldn't want to meet new people in my undies.. I'd be far happier to get out a bit if there were more social only nights. I think it would be good for clubs too allowing people to familiarise themselves with somewhere without the pressure of everything else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did once was a crazy crazy crazy day

total wtf day but fun funny and naughty for most of it as well as a lot surreal but with a sexy hot bonus and trip to the sexy dentist lady

I think that covers it

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

Yes, for actual face to face interaction.

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I know Xtasia do social events - FFFF.

You can stayed clothed too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love going to the club's... In fact it's some time since i had a meet outside of a club .. I love the social side to swinging clubs and have met some wonderful people on my travels x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So unlikely but never say never

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Doesn't appeal to me in the slightest

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By *ddit...Man over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

I really enjoyed... been to a few Cams. .. Cupids. .. townhouse..

The experience is really exciting especially to begin with... but slowly realised I enjoyed more the social side of the clubs and that I prefer 1 on 1.

I would really enjoy a social from on here so I'm going to try to come along to one..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes to socialise and meet like-minded people, and have a good dance when I can. Rarely play in clubs but hope to make contacts for future assignations

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

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By *r MoriartyMan over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

We go to clubs fairly regularly, we like a night out occasionally so it's good for that and people usually socialise more than in a vanilla venue.

We also feel it's more likely we will meet others to play with at clubs as it's proven extremely difficult on here and we both find it easier judging if we are attracted to people in the flesh. If we don't play with anyone it's also just good for a perv and we both enjoy being watched so it ticks those boxes too.

The club we go to is purely social when you go in and you never need dress down or even see a naked person while there if you don't want, that all goes on in a separate area.

The only thing I don't like about clubs occasionally is the presumptions that we have had some women make, we have had a few times now when they have touched without asking which isn't on. That's not really the clubs fault though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I love going to the club's... In fact it's some time since i had a meet outside of a club .. I love the social side to swinging clubs and have met some wonderful people on my travels x "

Makes perfect sense if you are getting all you need from the club nights. Meeting people face to face is so much better than scanning profiles online!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Doesn't appeal to me in the slightest"

Any particular part?

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By *ddit...Man over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

"I'd like to go to a club but there isn't so much opportunity up here.

I also wouldn't want to go alone.

The townhouse in Merseyside is great.. you don't have to dress down on the bottom level where the bar is... if you go upstairs where the play areas are you need to strip down..

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By *adeiteWoman over a year ago

Stafford

I will one day work up the courage and confidence to go to a club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As you know we are newbies, and was very anxious about going to a club to play for the first time but we went to the Attic in the day, and they were really lovely, gave us a tour, and made sure we weren't 'bothered' by anyone, whilst we played with each other, in the cinema. Then when we wanted to take things further without the eyes of others we rented a private room upstairs. Perfect for us.

We were impressed with the club and will return for more day fun and can't wait to experience the club at night.

You know we would accompany you, so you wouldn't have to go alone

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise. "

That's good to know

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

Different clubs have different vibes. Some you have to dress down some dont. I have a social side like any other place you can go and just enjoy that if you want. Its not a mass of naked people getting on.

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

I like going to clubs and have always had a great time even on the occasions that I didn’t play. I’ve met some lovely people and not really encountered anything negative. I do prefer dress down clubs though. Even though I’m a bit self conscious and can be shy, I feel them easier for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I much prefer 1 on 1 i like intimate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you?

We go to clubs fairly regularly, we like a night out occasionally so it's good for that and people usually socialise more than in a vanilla venue.

The club we go to is purely social when you go in and you never need dress down or even see a naked person while there if you don't want, that all goes on in a separate area.

Yeah heard quite a lot about unwelcome touching.. its very offputting. The concept of being seen as fair game because of the nature of the club isn't good at all, especially as a singleton. I'd only go somewhere that I could stay dressed.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

I prefer to meet at clubs. I get more social anxiety at a private meet. I often go just socially to clubs.. ( well that's the plan)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As you know we are newbies, and was very anxious about going to a club to play for the first time but we went to the Attic in the day, and they were really lovely, gave us a tour, and made sure we weren't 'bothered' by anyone, whilst we played with each other, in the cinema. Then when we wanted to take things further without the eyes of others we rented a private room upstairs. Perfect for us.

We were impressed with the club and will return for more day fun and can't wait to experience the club at night.

You know we would accompany you, so you wouldn't have to go alone

Jo.Xx "

Ha ha you're so kind..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I will one day work up the courage and confidence to go to a club "

What's stopping you so far?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like going to clubs and have always had a great time even on the occasions that I didn’t play. I’ve met some lovely people and not really encountered anything negative. I do prefer dress down clubs though. Even though I’m a bit self conscious and can be shy, I feel them easier for some reason.

Really?? I'm really shy so even a group is scary.. never mind half dressed.. but I'm totally different one on one..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise. "

I went to Pandoras with my OH, although you're allowed to stay fully clothed in the bar, when everyone else is either naked or dressed down, being the only couple still dressed made us stick out like a sore thumb, so we necked our drinks and left lol

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

Yes, me and Girl both go to clubs. They are great and real good part of theislife style. Find it a great place to meet others, socialise, escape the grind of the world, perv, discover new things and play if the mood/flow goes that way. Ironicly I find that dress down clubs are more easy flowing socially. Feels like there are less barriers getting in the way of just connecting with others on a level (so much so we now want to try our first nude night and see how it goes). We find it's the best place to meet people we get on with. After all people's persona online and in real life can be very different. At a club you meet people for real, in safety without going out your way as you planned to go anyway. Plus there are lots of intresting people to meet. What is important is that you understand yourself and your boundries well before going. Clubs are all different but pick a good one and I know you'll have a great time. Really you won't know unless you try.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've been to clubs and have mostly enjoyed them - although wouldn't go alone and also find that my social backwardness doesn't necessarily lend itself to meeting new people in that environment.

Many clubs do though have social areas (that are distinctly separate from the play areas) and host social only events, as well as newbie ones - not all are dress down either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return.. "

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

I would love to go to a club but with someone I trust and have built a sexual bond with.

I don’t think I could have sex with randoms but I’d love to be played with in that environment with the person i had gone with.

Now I just have to find him!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I know Xtasia do social events - FFFF.

You can stayed clothed too

^^^This! I attended a foam party at Xtasia, and had such a wonderful weekend, highly recommend it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We were impressed with the club and will return for more day fun and can't wait to experience the club at night.

You know we would accompany you, so you wouldn't have to go alone

Jo.Xx

Ha ha you're so kind..

I really am

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, me and Girl both go to clubs. They are great and real good part of theislife style. Find it a great place to meet others, socialise, escape the grind of the world, perv, discover new things and play if the mood/flow goes that way. Ironicly I find that dress down clubs are more easy flowing socially. Feels like there are less barriers getting in the way of just connecting with others on a level (so much so we now want to try our first nude night and see how it goes). We find it's the best place to meet people we get on with. After all people's persona online and in real life can be very different. At a club you meet people for real, in safety without going out your way as you planned to go anyway. Plus there are lots of intresting people to meet. What is important is that you understand yourself and your boundries well before going. Clubs are all different but pick a good one and I know you'll have a great time. Really you won't know unless you try."

Thankyou. I've never socialised in groups, only with people I know. I'm very awkward still so may try a club with a social bar area to begin. I much prefer meeting face to face but find the club idea very overwhelming.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

This is what worries me...I’m interested in going to Pandora’s but the thought of being the only dressed pair in the bar...

Yeah, not going to do that yet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id love to go to my local club which would be CJs i think nerves would get the better of me though, quite like the thought of it, watching and being watched maybe act out a fantasy or two.. maybe one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you?

I would love to go to a club but with someone I trust and have built a sexual bond with.

I don’t think I could have sex with randoms but I’d love to be played with in that environment with the person i had gone with.

Now I just have to find him!

That's the difference isn't it?! While different kettle of fish as a single!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yay, love Xtasia as loads of different themes on the nights and always have a great time when we've visited. Really need to get back there asap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been to clubs and have mostly enjoyed them - although wouldn't go alone and also find that my social backwardness doesn't necessarily lend itself to meeting new people in that environment.

Many clubs do though have social areas (that are distinctly separate from the play areas) and host social only events, as well as newbie ones - not all are dress down either."

Think that's the difference.. attending anywhere as a single and lacking the social confidence to chat to random people! Not a good mix..

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

I go to clubs

I enjoy the atmosphere, the vibe and the mood it sets. It's being able to be social in a non conventional setting that's a little bit playful and open to possibilities.

Great for a perve too

Same can be said for private parties

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Id love to go to my local club which would be CJs i think nerves would get the better of me though, quite like the thought of it, watching and being watched maybe act out a fantasy or two.. maybe one day "

Would you go alone or only with someone you knew?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Clubs are the place to meet people you can really get a feel for somebody before anything happens.

You quickly get over the dressed down as everybody's in the same boat some people will stripped completely naked but others will just keep a towel or shawl over them.

Caz has a little satin dressing gown still see her butt..

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you?

I would love to go to a club but with someone I trust and have built a sexual bond with.

I don’t think I could have sex with randoms but I’d love to be played with in that environment with the person i had gone with.

Now I just have to find him!

That's the difference isn't it?! While different kettle of fish as a single! "

I’d go with you if there was a bar and no pressure to play... x

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By *ik MMan over a year ago

Lancashire

Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

Ha ha could you handle another night with me???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!! "

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I know Xtasia do social events - FFFF.

You can stayed clothed too

^^^This! I attended a foam party at Xtasia, and had such a wonderful weekend, highly recommend it

I remember you! It was an awesome night

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

Ha ha could you handle another night with me??? "

I love karaoke

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Can I come too???

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By *ik MMan over a year ago

Lancashire

"Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

Ha ha could you handle another night with me??? "

With pleasure

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Woman very much in charge at clubs as well as on the fab..

There is definitely no pressure to play .

Check the reviews but all club know the women are the clients that must be looked after guy are the cash cows..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not for us so far. Never say never though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Ha ha yey!!! Let's set a new clothed theme

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yay yay

Yay yo

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

Ha ha could you handle another night with me???

With pleasure

Sadist

you're on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Can I come too???

Of course

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I like going to clubs. I’ve been to a lot (I’m nosey and a bit of box ticker of places). I go now and again every few months. I like people watching. That doesn’t mean watching people having sex, just watching people.

I like meeting new people so I’m always the one happy to introduce myself. I don’t go as a single guy anymore though. Oh and 90% of those are I’ve been to I wouldn’t be bothered about returning to.

One thing I do like is combining a club visit with a night away to a new city or town. I look at doing something nice in a new area that weekend too.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Ha ha yey!!! Let's set a new clothed theme

Ha! This could be a game changer

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By *ik MMan over a year ago

Lancashire

"Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

Ha ha could you handle another night with me???

With pleasure

Sadist

you're on. "

I’ll hold you to that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

Ha ha could you handle another night with me???

I love karaoke

I can't sing for toffee. Love watching other people though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Havent been to any clubs for a long time....love daytime clubs and relaxing in the pool etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Ha ha yey!!! Let's set a new clothed theme

Ha! This could be a game changer

Sounds like a great plan doesn't it!?!

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I do like clubs, I've been to 11/12 different ones and they each have their own vibes and plus points. I found that the social aspect in clubs is far more prevalent than many expect and if you go to certain clubs you don't need to dress down at all.

Personally I find the atmosphere in them to be far more relaxed than on a regular night out, the people are more sociable and more open to chatting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Townhouse used to do a social / quiz night / karaoke events. I’m not sure if they still do or if you’re any good at quizzes but you’d be welcome to join me

Ha ha could you handle another night with me???

With pleasure

Sadist

you're on.

I’ll hold you to that! "

Ha ha bring it

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I've been to more club nights than socials. I think a couple of years ago I really enjoyed them but what I'm wanting has sort of changed and I have little to no interest in them. I might be if I went with the right people.

I did find the dress down thing a bit

at first but I got kind of use to it. They can be a bit nerve wracking but everyone tends to be lovely. The attention was a bit overwhelming but in a good way as well.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

So am I, very (not so much as I was). Oddly enough one of the things that has helped my social awkwardness, social skills and social confidence was attending my first clubs as single. For me it was one of the hardest things I'd ever done and I've been in some situations. Going to a place alone and forcing my self to make conversation with complete steangers (Something I'd normally avoid). But I knew what i wanted and what adventures were possible so pushed my self (propelled by a stiff drink before band). Personally speeching it has been the best medicine for this in all my lifetime. Because of the FAB and club scene I am also far more body confident, know my self far better, love my self more and care less about how others view me.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"Havent been to any clubs for a long time....love daytime clubs and relaxing in the pool etc "

Ooooo I’d like one with a pool....

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By *londie8399Couple over a year ago

blackpool

xtasia in west bromich have a bar attached called firts there is no dress down at all hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been to more club nights than socials. I think a couple of years ago I really enjoyed them but what I'm wanting has sort of changed and I have little to no interest in them. I might be if I went with the right people.

I did find the dress down thing a bit

at first but I got kind of use to it. They can be a bit nerve wracking but everyone tends to be lovely. The attention was a bit overwhelming but in a good way as well."

I think that's where I struggle with the point of going in that I don't want sex with random people. So on that basis I don't really want to be dressed down because that's not why I'd go.. it would be purely a social thing for me and I'd rather be sat in a corner with people I know or wanted to meet..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only club I would go to is Le boudoir...

They keep the riff raf and the undesirables out....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been to about 10 clubs all over the country, both as a single and as a couple. Some clubs were more fun than others. Also been to forum socials in a few clubs.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple over a year ago

Central Scotland

We have 2 reasonably nearby and picked one based on reviews on here and what friends had said. Only been once and very recently to valentines party night but it was a fab experience and we'll definitely go back. Downstairs was clothed and social with lots of areas - dance floor, bar, a room off the bar with couches and a couple of others. We got there early and had a tour too which was good. No pressure to play and plenty seem to go just for the social aspect which is good. A few rooms upstairs where you can close the door and not be interrupted or joined if you don't want to be. We were definitely more shy than usual but won't be next time

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah love this

I don't think I'm in the right place for dress down.. I've only done one group social, which was a huge thing for me. The idea of socialising dressed is much more appealing at the moment and kind of what I'm missing most.. just more face to face interaction to begin!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd like to go to a club but there isn't so much opportunity up here.

I also wouldn't want to go alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We have 2 reasonably nearby and picked one based on reviews on here and what friends had said. Only been once and very recently to valentines party night but it was a fab experience and we'll definitely go back. Downstairs was clothed and social with lots of areas - dance floor, bar, a room off the bar with couches and a couple of others. We got there early and had a tour too which was good. No pressure to play and plenty seem to go just for the social aspect which is good. A few rooms upstairs where you can close the door and not be interrupted or joined if you don't want to be. We were definitely more shy than usual but won't be next time

V x"

The Manchester clubs seem to be all dressdown which really puts me off. The place you went to sounds great!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been to about 10 clubs all over the country, both as a single and as a couple. Some clubs were more fun than others. Also been to forum socials in a few clubs. "

Sounds like it's very much about picking the right club to try.. definitely going to look into local ones with bar areas to start

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do like clubs, I've been to 11/12 different ones and they each have their own vibes and plus points. I found that the social aspect in clubs is far more prevalent than many expect and if you go to certain clubs you don't need to dress down at all.

Personally I find the atmosphere in them to be far more relaxed than on a regular night out, the people are more sociable and more open to chatting. "

I struggle to make much sense with clothes on so that's going to have to be the way forward..

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Personally I find the atmosphere in them to be far more relaxed than on a regular night out, the people are more sociable and more open to chatting. "

Totally agree.

The main 4 clubs i go to 3 of them are dress how you like up or down its your choice.

There is NEVER any pressure to play no matter what you are wearing and if you only want 121 meets then thats all you bloody do, why do people think it's a bloody free for all?

I've not had/wanted sex in a year lost my mojo but i still go to clubs because i have fun there meeting people seeing friends and having a bloody good dance.

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By *inkyman1964Man over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

Some Clubs can be about socializing, checkout the reviews on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been to about 10 clubs all over the country, both as a single and as a couple. Some clubs were more fun than others. Also been to forum socials in a few clubs.

Sounds like it's very much about picking the right club to try.. definitely going to look into local ones with bar areas to start

You could wear like a lacy or pvc dress at a 'dress down' club. It doesn't necessarily have to be lingerie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been to about 10 clubs all over the country, both as a single and as a couple. Some clubs were more fun than others. Also been to forum socials in a few clubs.

Sounds like it's very much about picking the right club to try.. definitely going to look into local ones with bar areas to start

You could wear like a lacy or pvc dress at a 'dress down' club. It doesn't necessarily have to be lingerie.

That's useful to know.. it's hard to picture the complete unknown!

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

I've been to several clubs, first on my own and later accompanied by female friends. Some of then were dress down sone weren't. It's definitely an experience that I feel would be daunting for people with social anxiety or body awareness issues....particularly if it's a dress down club.

I enjoy it because it's an environment that is an invitation to let go of inhibitions and go with the flow...especially on busy party nights. The cross section of individuals you'll see is remarkable and you'll come across people from all walks of life and age groups. I suppose in a club environment, everyone is part of a tribe united in their appreciation for the lifestyle. It is certainly much different from meeting people from here 1:1. I personally love it and adds variety and spice to my sex life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been to about 10 clubs all over the country, both as a single and as a couple. Some clubs were more fun than others. Also been to forum socials in a few clubs.

Sounds like it's very much about picking the right club to try.. definitely going to look into local ones with bar areas to start

You could wear like a lacy or pvc dress at a 'dress down' club. It doesn't necessarily have to be lingerie.

That's useful to know.. it's hard to picture the complete unknown! "

Great advice ... As long as it's a little provocative and has a sexy look to it you will be fine ... It doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be naked, wrapped in a towel or in sexy langerie.dress to impress but whatever you feel comfortable with. And remember no pressure to play and no means No. Quest is my regular club and I have to say that the majority of single males are very polite and respectful or they risk not been allowed back ... Dave and Jo keep a really nice club . My advice would be to look at the Club rules and etiquette . There's more to it than meets the eye.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

25 March 2016 this was a club night it like a mini dress put full bottom pants...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"25 March 2016 this was a club night it like a mini dress put full bottom pants...

Fab thanks

it's so hard to know what to expect with the huge variation in both clubs and people!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been to about 10 clubs all over the country, both as a single and as a couple. Some clubs were more fun than others. Also been to forum socials in a few clubs.

Sounds like it's very much about picking the right club to try.. definitely going to look into local ones with bar areas to start

You could wear like a lacy or pvc dress at a 'dress down' club. It doesn't necessarily have to be lingerie.

That's useful to know.. it's hard to picture the complete unknown!

It's all really useful info

I think going somewhere meeting a small group in exactly the same position purely for a social would be a great start. I'm surprised at how many are in the same boat and not always singles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve only been to one, and it was a little while ago. Initially it was an early evening social, but I decided to stay a little longer. There wasn’t any pressure, the hosts were wonderful, the other attendees were welcoming and happy to chat. Can’t say anything bad about the experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you?

You're super confident though! I'm total opposite socially and much prefer observing from a corner!

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

Its a yes for me but you do have to pick the right days to go and find clubs you like and remember it can be great one day and poor another as mist of it is down ot the people who go when you are.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We enjoy clubs and love the opportunity to visit a new one.

Cal

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The best thing about clubs is that there's always a variety of different folk to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve been to Quest in Leeds which was ok but absolutely love my local club, Club f in County Durham. I attend about twice a month. I initially attended alone but the staff are very nice and always chat so you don’t feel awkward. It’s a big part of my social life and really enjoy going.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you?

You're super confident though! I'm total opposite socially and much prefer observing from a corner! "

I think in your case a trip with a small group of people to a non dress down club would be ideal start. Sort of a pub night out with friends with a saucier backdrop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not for me. Too expensive for solo men to get in & I'm not really confident enough to go on my own, also I'm not a late night person. Much prefer playing in privacy of mine or someone else's bed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No for me just feel they rip single guys off

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By *am4CamWoman over a year ago

Fairy Land

I used to in my old Fab life. Great way of meeting people and finding one’s feet socially. I have found myself missing the experience of late.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I go to clubs but very rarely play. I'm there to socialise and spend time with my friends. I feel safer going to clubs as a single woman than I ever would going out in town as one

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Lost count of how many clubs we have been to, both as a couple and as singles before getting together. We love dress down clubs, it adds to the sexy vibe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nay!

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

I do! Mature Mischief - a very relaxed and social gathering! Not at all as you would imagine Saffron

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At some stage I’ll get round to it. There are plenty to choose from near Cloud Cuckoo Land

It might be something I get the opportunity to do on holiday in GC this year. We’ll just have to see.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Not a lot of clubs around here that I'm aware of anyhow. Did go to Secrets once and would love to go again but until I find someone I feel connected with that's not going to happen. But my lord it brought out a side of me I didn't even know I had...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would love to go but anxiety stops me.. I haven't even been to any vanilla club since the 90s. I would have to have someone holding my hand!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not for me

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

"I would love to go but anxiety stops me.. I haven't even been to any vanilla club since the 90s. I would have to have someone holding my hand! "

You look great sure you would be fine ..

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

"Lost count of how many clubs we have been to, both as a couple and as singles before getting together. We love dress down clubs, it adds to the sexy vibe. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would you go alone or only with someone you knew? "

Im not sure, did speak about it with a friend but she wasnt to keen would maybe go with a guy if i meet the right guy

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Would you go alone or only with someone you knew?

Im not sure, did speak about it with a friend but she wasnt to keen would maybe go with a guy if i meet the right guy"

The lady herself CJ is on fab have been to her club cjs in Glasgow number of time you can say full clothed all time if you went in to my friend's you would find her she's wearing a purple pvc dress..

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"I go to clubs but very rarely play. I'm there to socialise and spend time with my friends. I feel safer going to clubs as a single woman than I ever would going out in town as one "

Absolutely. You just know any unwanted approaches will be dealt with and there’s far far less chance of any d*unken idiots harrassing you like in non swingers clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Can I come too???

Totes... I'll make badges for us all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Ha ha yey!!! Let's set a new clothed theme

Ha! This could be a game changer

Boom!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love clubs but enjoy private meets too, but with clubs you have the social side and if you like others watching you or you enjoy watching others you can do that too, plus you have dark rooms and rooms with glory holes some have a sex cinema and loads of other rooms to suit everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve attended a few club nights as well daytime spa type ones in the past, haven’t been for a few years now.

Always gone with someone I have had total trust in, wouldn’t consider going on my own.

Overall enjoyed the experience, however at times I felt very overwhelmed by all the attention and didn’t enjoy some aspects like some people assuming they could touch me just because they could.

Can’t really say I’m in a rush to go back but I’m not adversed to the idea either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quest and Pandoras Leeds you can stay fully dressed in the bar all night and just socialise.

Ha ha see!! That'd be me!! I'd hyperventilate and run never to return..

Lol! We haven't been to another one since

I'm sorry this just made me proper chuckle!! This is my fear.. that I'd stick out and lose all bottle completely!! It's hard enough just going to a social!!

Lol, let's all go together!!! We can all stay fully clothed whilst having a cheeky perv on those who aren't

Ha ha yey!!! Let's set a new clothed theme

Ha! This could be a game changer

Boom! "

Ha ha sounds like a plan

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you?

I do! Mature Mischief - a very relaxed and social gathering! Not at all as you would imagine Saffron "

I think the fact there's so much diversity makes it very difficult to picture and therefore become comfortable with the idea! I'd want to go purely for social so think the idea of going with others and dressed up is a great starting point. Learnt a lot today

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve attended a few club nights as well daytime spa type ones in the past, haven’t been for a few years now.

Always gone with someone I have had total trust in, wouldn’t consider going on my own.

Overall enjoyed the experience, however at times I felt very overwhelmed by all the attention and didn’t enjoy some aspects like some people assuming they could touch me just because they could.

Can’t really say I’m in a rush to go back but I’m not adversed to the idea either.

Sums up my thoughts entirely! The dressed social route with friends sounds like a good plan

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would love to go but anxiety stops me.. I haven't even been to any vanilla club since the 90s. I would have to have someone holding my hand! "

Snap! I'm very antisocial.. looks like there are lots of people in the same boat though that would like to go to dressed clubs as social meets so could be a good way to see what it's all about

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not a lot of clubs around here that I'm aware of anyhow. Did go to Secrets once and would love to go again but until I find someone I feel connected with that's not going to happen. But my lord it brought out a side of me I didn't even know I had...

Would you consider making it a social get together with anyone fairly local? Seems quite a few on here are interested in meeting up with a safety in numbers theme for newbies!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would love to go but anxiety stops me.. I haven't even been to any vanilla club since the 90s. I would have to have someone holding my hand!

Snap! I'm very antisocial.. looks like there are lots of people in the same boat though that would like to go to dressed clubs as social meets so could be a good way to see what it's all about

I absolutely can relate to this, my anxiety is from a more socialy awkward perspective

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not for me

Have you never been tempted even dressed as a social thing?

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple over a year ago

Reading

Not for us. Don't want the social side and don't need clubs for the types of meets we enjoy most.

Totally understand why other enjoy though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would love to go but anxiety stops me.. I haven't even been to any vanilla club since the 90s. I would have to have someone holding my hand!

Snap! I'm very antisocial.. looks like there are lots of people in the same boat though that would like to go to dressed clubs as social meets so could be a good way to see what it's all about

I absolutely can relate to this, my anxiety is from a more socialy awkward perspective"

I'm hopeless in groups and the thought makes me physically ill.. work in progress.. but a mini social with people in the same boat would be great fun. Totally takes the pressure off and puts faces to names at the same time

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I’ve visited 6 different clubs as a single guy, a total of 9 times. I thought the club scene would add an extra dimension to my slice of the swinging lifestyle, being ‘seduced’ I guess, by the amount of rave reviews you see in the clubs listings, and general forum chatter.

I must say, overall, for me, the club scene has been the biggest letdown I’ve ever known, and doubt I will ever visit another.

To answer the OP; nay

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve visited 6 different clubs as a single guy, a total of 9 times. I thought the club scene would add an extra dimension to my slice of the swinging lifestyle, being ‘seduced’ I guess, by the amount of rave reviews you see in the clubs listings, and general forum chatter.

I must say, overall, for me, the club scene has been the biggest letdown I’ve ever known, and doubt I will ever visit another.

To answer the OP; nay

That's interesting.. good to get the other side of the spectrum too! Anything in particular that disappointed you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clubs don't appeal to me.

I don't think it's my thing.

I would have gone a few years ago but I'm a lot less social now

I prefer one on one or two on one

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By *illen5Man over a year ago

Bath

I've heard all the rumours about inappropriate touching but it seems however I position myself in a club I can't get anyone to bump or brush past me, giving me something to complain about

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I must say, overall, for me, the club scene has been the biggest letdown I’ve ever known, and doubt I will ever visit another.

To answer the OP; nay

That's interesting.. good to get the other side of the spectrum too! Anything in particular that disappointed you? "

I could just about wear the gender disparity regarding entry fees, but being a single guy in those places is extremely hard work. Having spoken to many people about my experiences in clubs, I know I’ve just been unlucky with who was in when I was, and yes, I probably expected too much, but I never expected to leave early feeling bored and dejected

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

I've tried Clubs, but as I'm not much good at interacting conversation wise, I tend to be more sitting in the sidelines and people watching in the Bar / Social areas.

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By *illen5Man over a year ago

Bath

I've visited as a single guy and just managed to maintain a positive attitude.

I know that the single guys are the cash cows but i really wouldnt ever bother going as a single ever again. Even taking a non-partner is preferable

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I must say, overall, for me, the club scene has been the biggest letdown I’ve ever known, and doubt I will ever visit another.

To answer the OP; nay

That's interesting.. good to get the other side of the spectrum too! Anything in particular that disappointed you?

That's a shame.. seems very much down to the crowd on the night. I think if I did go to one it would be almost as a mini social with others in a similar boat. Being socially awkward I wouldn't cope with just turning up to a room of strangers and would probably leave very soon myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A bonus warning BEWARE flying penises prepare to duck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've visited as a single guy and just managed to maintain a positive attitude.

I know that the single guys are the cash cows but i really wouldnt ever bother going as a single ever again. Even taking a non-partner is preferable"

Yeah I get that.. I'd never go alone. Don't think it's necessarily my scene but I'd go to meet friends as a social night if it was prearranged.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A bonus warning BEWARE flying penises prepare to duck"

Wangslap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A bonus warning BEWARE flying penises prepare to duck

Wangslap"
staill have the scars

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A bonus warning BEWARE flying penises prepare to duck

Wangslapstaill have the scars"

Ha ha you should have sued.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must say, overall, for me, the club scene has been the biggest letdown I’ve ever known, and doubt I will ever visit another.

To answer the OP; nay

That's interesting.. good to get the other side of the spectrum too! Anything in particular that disappointed you?

Absolutely.... I would be more than happy with the socially awkward lot... I would be more comfortable with those like myself than anyone else

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By *zzy69Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

Try Townhouse - you can stay dressed on the ground floor all night most nights.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Try Townhouse - you can stay dressed on the ground floor all night most nights. "

I think it's going to be the first venture

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By *JcouplemidlandsCouple over a year ago

Peak District

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

We go to Atlantis is Stoke quite a lot, we love it for the social side and the fact you don't have to dress down. Downstairs is just like a bar/nightclub and the play areas are upstairs. Everyone is very friendly and welcoming, if you ever fancy going give us a shout as we are there most Fridays and would happily show you around to put your mind at ease. X

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By *JohnMan over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If it wasn't a gazillion miles from you, I'd recommend ClubF's Sunday sessions. They're chilled, relaxed, and much quieter than Friday or Saturday. It's a friendly club to start with, and the Sunday crowd are even friendlier. You can stay dressed the whole time if you want. Most people don't play on Sundays - the focus is on the social side.

I'm very shy in person, and can have a bit of social anxiety sometimes. The club has been great for me. I've been making myself be a bit more outgoing, and actually talking with people rather than hiding in the corner. Somehow it just feels like a safe environment for this.

Your experience with a club will be different from everyone else's, and it's going to depend a lot on which club you go to, and what it's like on that particular night. It's worth trying though. If you don't like it, no one is forcing you to stay, and you don't have to go back. If you're not comfortable going on your own, I saw a "club buddies" thread in the forum somewhere - you'll be able to find someone to go with you (I would suggest not being dependent on them for transport home). Who knows, you might enjoy it, and you might, like me, find it helps your anxiety.

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By *zzy69Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

Hi Saffron- having read your profile can I suggest you try one of the BDSM social Tuesday evenings at Townhouse

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

The other important element regarding clubs, is being able to access them, that is, when I'm off, Clubs are invariably closed.

I have a fixed Rota each week, with Sundays & Mondays off. Plus I don't drive, so am reliant on public transport, so factoring that into a schedule makes it a non starter!

Around 18 months ago, I went to a newly opened club on a Sunday. I was the ONLY person there other than 2 staff. Plus, I had to leave at 9pm to get back home before the last trains stopped!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try Townhouse - you can stay dressed on the ground floor all night most nights. "

I'd love to try Townhouse if it weren't so far away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love them! When I meet as a single they where my initial meeting point as a single lady I felt safer that way.

Always a great way off meeting new people and getting verified.

Also less a lot less awkward if you’ve been chatting to someone and actually there not your type and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely yay for us. Tried two different ones so far (local ish). But as we like to go away many weekends anyway we are going to start traveling further afield and making a weekend of it. Friday night in a nice hotel, have a meal. Saturday exploring the area. And then Saturday night visiting the local club

Great way to meet new people without the bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've heard all the rumours about inappropriate touching but it seems however I position myself in a club I can't get anyone to bump or brush past me, giving me something to complain about"

Sounds like you don’t think it’s an issue and that’s fair enough, your POV.

However , I’m not talking about people casually bumping or brushing past me. I’m referring to people groping, trying to join in a situation they haven’t been asked to, it’s a violation and it isn’t nice!

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I must say, overall, for me, the club scene has been the biggest letdown I’ve ever known, and doubt I will ever visit another.

To answer the OP; nay

That's interesting.. good to get the other side of the spectrum too! Anything in particular that disappointed you?

Yep, whichever club you decide to visit, the place itself is just bricks and mortar, fixtures and fittings. What makes it a positive experience, is who is there when you are. You’ll be fine going in as a single female though, your presence is wanted

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

For me it is a definite yes to clubs, I find them a very friendly, social, no pressure place to be a safe place to catch up with friends and meet people. I know sometimes people find it hard but occasionally these are people who go there and don't smile or talk to anyone, they just sit or stand in the corner and don't interact.

I think the same people probably wouldn't inspire much conversation if they were at a pub by themselves.

If you are able to interact socially, then I think it's loves good work for you regardless of gender. If you find it hard to say hello to people and start a conversation, it's likely to be a more difficult situation for you, imho.

A way to help yourself along is let the club you are attending know when you arrive, or in advance, that it is your first time there and ask if somebody could show you around and maybe introduce you to people. That at least could break the ice a little bit.

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By *illen5Man over a year ago

Bath

"A bonus warning BEWARE flying penises prepare to duck"

I was with someone who dropped her lighter in a general shagging room. Plenty were just wanking themselves off. After picking it up was very careful how i stood up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes we like clubs on specific party nights or if we've arranged a meet, just the atmosphere and sexual charge in the places on a good night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We go most weekends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because of our complex living arrangements, swinging only happens as a spur of the moment thing these days. So clubs are our only option. Generally we find them welcoming and friendly, much easier to socialise in than say walking into a strange pub for the first time. Sometimes, actually very often sexual fun with others happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have never ever been to a club. Will be spending a weekend in Manchester next month and plan on going to one. Where do u recommend Do u have to be a member?. Are they all strip down. Are single males allowed. Do i need to be more active on my approach when in there or are newcomers approached quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We try and go once a month to a club and have it incorporated with a weekend away.

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

I love the club scene op!

I have few vanilla friends who don’t spend 99% of their free time with their families/other couples - so I’ve no social life outside my swinging friends!

We meet up at clubs - or I’ll go alone - knowing that I’ll know loads of people there anyway (though I knew absolutely no one when I first started going!) - and have a fabulous night socialising - both with people I know and new people I chat to! I find them far more sociable and friendly than any ‘normal ‘ club or bar! Not all of them have a compulsory dress down policy outside the play areas! Sometimes I play - sometimes I don’t - but I almost always have a great night!

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By *ty31Man over a year ago

NW London

I do go to clubs, I started when a couple I was talking to invited me to join them one evening. I had a very positive experience and haven't really looked back. I just found it easier to chat to people in person rather than go thru this sites messaging system. Over time I've been lucky to meet some.good friends and now it's mainly about socialising than looking for sex (but it's great when that happens too).

I do think clubs are more favourable for single ladies than single guys though as the regular ladies there do tend to take newbie ladies under their wing quite readily.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have never ever been to a club. Will be spending a weekend in Manchester next month and plan on going to one. Where do u recommend Do u have to be a member?. Are they all strip down. Are single males allowed. Do i need to be more active on my approach when in there or are newcomers approached quickly. "

Cupids is good. Have a look on their website for their rules and which nights single men are allowed.

Not sure what you mean are newcomers approached quickly. What do you think happens in clubs? It's not like on porn sites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't been to any swinging clubs because I don't know anyone who is into the lifestyle and i didn't realise swinging clubs were so common until using this site.

I have no intentions of visiting a swinging club.. But maybe a social one day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll love to go to a club but with everyone naked I’ll be walking around with a raging hard on

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

Cupids is good. Have a look on their website for their rules and which nights single men are allowed.

Not sure what you mean are newcomers approached quickly. What do you think happens in clubs? It's not like on porn sites.

Cupid

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

"I’ll love to go to a club but with everyone naked I’ll be walking around with a raging hard on"

Lol not what you think they are just chill...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nay from me. Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Probably be my worst nightmare to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nay from me. Doesn’t appeal to me at all. Probably be my worst nightmare to be honest. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wonder what kind of percentage of forumites go to clubs?

If it's a yes.. what do you enjoy most about them? Anything you'd change?

If it's a no.. what is stopping you?

How about you? "

I love going to my local club. Im actually very shy and struggle socially in vanilla life but at Club 29 i feel at ease.

It friendly, fun and safe and i love it.

I dont meet away from clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I mean, I’d like to. There’s a couple of things which put me off, I know the ratio of men to women will not be in my favour.

The likelihood of finding someone there who I want to be social / intimate with.

Actually ‘getting lucky’

The cost for a single man can also be off putting.

Arranging to meet someone there and then them not showing up..

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I had my first visit to a club on Saturday, Pandora’s in Leeds. I was nervous going but bit the bullet! I really enjoyed it. Very relaxed atmosphere, great staff, no pressures to do anything!

I did learn a lot about what not to do and what I want on future visits.

Thinking of going again this weekend.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been to a few. Some are a bit weird. As a single guy it’s Not for me really.

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By *_Yeah19Couple over a year ago

Lincoln

Yep, we like them but always go with the main intention of just playing together and if anything else happens then that’s a bonus

Would be nice to have one closer that doesn’t involve over an hour’s drive though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also at club f in County Durham. No pressure to dress down or play at all. Really friendly lovely club, I’m actually preferring the social to the actual play.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Doesn't appeal to me in the slightest"

Still doesnt

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Clubs are great and we always have fun, often in rather bizarre ways.

Think one of our first words on the way home is often ‘well that was odd’.

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