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Why is it some guys string women along ask to meet but have no intention of meeting !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A lady on here got let down twice but if you saw her pictures she is an absolute stunning looking lady.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It happens to men as well

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some (men and women) don't have the nerve. Some don't actually want to, just like seeing if they can. Some aren't who they claim to be. Occasionally real life gets in the way. And more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A lady on here got let down twice but if you saw her pictures she is an absolute stunning looking lady."

They've got no bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He over faced himself and got scared? Dont know unless we ask him really

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

P"
that maybe true but I feel sorry for the ladies who get let down not knowing why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe she looks nothing like her pics being filtered to death saw her and walked away

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some (men and women) don't have the nerve. Some don't actually want to, just like seeing if they can. Some aren't who they claim to be. Occasionally real life gets in the way. And more. "
you could be but why do ppl do somthing like that to some who genuinely wants meet even if it's a social ?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Some (men and women) don't have the nerve. Some don't actually want to, just like seeing if they can. Some aren't who they claim to be. Occasionally real life gets in the way. And more. you could be but why do ppl do somthing like that to some who genuinely wants meet even if it's a social ?"

Takes all sorts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A lady on here got let down twice but if you saw her pictures she is an absolute stunning looking lady.

They've got no bollocks."
your rite there mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"He over faced himself and got scared? Dont know unless we ask him really

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perhaps or he may be 1 them guys who gets a perverse kick out of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they did turn up but realised she was 10 years older and 5 dress sizes bigger than her pics so they walked on by

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some (men and women) don't have the nerve. Some don't actually want to, just like seeing if they can. Some aren't who they claim to be. Occasionally real life gets in the way. And more. you could be but why do ppl do somthing like that to some who genuinely wants meet even if it's a social ?

Takes all sorts. "
yes but gets genuine guys a bad reputation and makes women wary

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe they did turn up but realised she was 10 years older and 5 dress sizes bigger than her pics so they walked on by

P"
lol dumb sob with years comes experence and wot does size matter .

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's not gender specific.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe they did turn up but realised she was 10 years older and 5 dress sizes bigger than her pics so they walked on by

Plol dumb sob with years comes experence and wot does size matter ."

So? If the person they were due to meet had misled them, no amount of experience would make a difference, and size does matter to many.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He over faced himself and got scared? Dont know unless we ask him really

perhaps or he may be 1 them guys who gets a perverse kick out of it."

Or his car broke down or his dog died. We may never know. It certainly wont ruin it for 'good guys' fear not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because we have cock and we can

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch."

Anyone else and I'd think this were a joke...not you though Sappster

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She’s not the 1st and won’t the last to be let down.

Not sure what you’re hoping will happen as a result of this post?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women do it too mind...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same with some women, the chase is better than the catch lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not gender specific. "

This

Can happen to anyone for many different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch.

Anyone else and I'd think this were a joke...not you though Sappster

Who me?

I'm a pussycat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch."

Ochh they went a long way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Same with some women, the chase is better than the catch lol."

Ha ha true! The ones doing that do it for point scoring, but no intention of meeting. The tell tell signs are always there...

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Some (men and women) don't have the nerve. Some don't actually want to, just like seeing if they can. Some aren't who they claim to be. Occasionally real life gets in the way. And more. you could be but why do ppl do somthing like that to some who genuinely wants meet even if it's a social ?

Takes all sorts. yes but gets genuine guys a bad reputation and makes women wary"

Being wary is a good thing. Because all sorts are out there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not gender specific. "

^^^^^^

I was let down last min (then blocked) by some lass I'd already had a social with before had...

Shes "outstanding pillar of the fab community" apparently.

Deffo needs to be striped of that title now.

Like a few have already said, some like the chase.. Some like the idea.. And some are just downright rude... Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Same with some women, the chase is better than the catch lol.

Ha ha true! The ones doing that do it for point scoring, but no intention of meeting. The tell tell signs are always there..."
That is right it is lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What does looks have to do with someone being stood up? It happens to most at some point. It's not just single females. It's not nice, but it is the nature of the site and the lady in question should just repert It, if she's upset

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not gender specific.

^^^^^^

I was let down last min (then blocked) by some lass I'd already had a social with before had...

Shes "outstanding pillar of the fab community" apparently.

Deffo needs to be striped of that title now.

Like a few have already said, some like the chase.. Some like the idea.. And some are just downright rude... Lol"

Did she cancel with You? Or just not show up? If she cancelled, then she is well within her right to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not gender specific.

^^^^^^

I was let down last min (then blocked) by some lass I'd already had a social with before had...

Shes "outstanding pillar of the fab community" apparently.

Deffo needs to be striped of that title now.

Like a few have already said, some like the chase.. Some like the idea.. And some are just downright rude... Lol

Did she cancel with You? Or just not show up? If she cancelled, then she is well within her right to do so. "

Absolutely within rights to cancel.

No show = poor show

Cancel = someone with a conscience who's being considerate

The 2 are hugely different

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By *lfretonguyMan over a year ago

back in derby

Everyone gets stood up looks size and anything else has nothing to do with it . There dick heads in every walk of life and always ways will be I only meet at clubs first time then if no show there’s always something else to watch or be entertained

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By *urreyguy34Man over a year ago

Weybridge

I d never cancel on a meet if I was lucky enough to be able to arrange one!!!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Happens to me all the time. That’s why I only go to clubs now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I d never cancel on a meet if I was lucky enough to be able to arrange one!!!

Really? What if your dog died that morning or you got called into work?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With less than 2 hours to go and she did so knowing I could of had my nephew and neices that day.... I found it fecking rude af to be honest.

I get a cancel and no show are different.

But with that little time left, I find it downright rude...

Some seem to forget that your actually wasting someones time who has invested time in you...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

" Shes "outstanding pillar of the fab community" apparently."

Did she say that about HERSELF?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Happens to me all the time. That’s why I only go to clubs now. "
swines are missing out on a gem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Shes "outstanding pillar of the fab community" apparently.

Did she say that about HERSELF?

oh please dont get me started haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With less than 2 hours to go and she did so knowing I could of had my nephew and neices that day.... I found it fecking rude af to be honest.

I get a cancel and no show are different.

But with that little time left, I find it downright rude...

Some seem to forget that your actually wasting someones time who has invested time in you... "

Depends entirely on your attitude. I have had people travel hundreds of miles, paid for hotels and expressly said you can cancel at any point with no guilt trip over wasting any time. Those are the people I want to meet.

You wern't forced into meeting you chose to do so even given your restrictions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With less than 2 hours to go and she did so knowing I could of had my nephew and neices that day.... I found it fecking rude af to be honest.

I get a cancel and no show are different.

But with that little time left, I find it downright rude...

Some seem to forget that your actually wasting someones time who has invested time in you...

You wern't forced into meeting you chose to do so even given your restrictions. "

I hear ya on this one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch."
ouch!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With less than 2 hours to go and she did so knowing I could of had my nephew and neices that day.... I found it fecking rude af to be honest.

I get a cancel and no show are different.

But with that little time left, I find it downright rude...

Some seem to forget that your actually wasting someones time who has invested time in you... "

That's not exactly last minute though, is It? I know of some who have cancelled as the person is actually heading for the door

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looks don’t stop you being let down or messed about. A guy I met last year contacted me after 10 months, nagged a bit for me to meet again then when I said yes he ignored me!

I’ve put it down to either him wanting an ego boost and seeing if he could still have me, or him forgetting but then realising again that I’m still the same bat shit crazy person he stopped meeting 10 months prior to him getting back in touch!

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By *urreyguy34Man over a year ago

Weybridge

"I d never cancel on a meet if I was lucky enough to be able to arrange one!!!

Really? What if your dog died that morning or you got called into work? "

I’m self employed and would stick the dog in the freezer till later on

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

It happens all the time. Alot of men are all talk and no action. That is why i prefer parties and clubs rather than one to one meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I d never cancel on a meet if I was lucky enough to be able to arrange one!!!

Really? What if your dog died that morning or you got called into work?

I’m self employed and would stick the dog in the freezer till later on

That's dedication for you

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"They like the thrill of the chase to remind them they've "still got it"

Then reality hits that his wife would use his nut sack as earrings if he got caught, so it stays a fantasy

Not always of course

I have fashioned some very fetching earrings out of nut sacks.

And a brooch.

Anyone else and I'd think this were a joke...not you though Sappster

Who me?

I'm a pussycat"

Yeah and pussycats have claws!!

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By *ynetaurusMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Could be a severe case of " Fanny Fright"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, it can be justified however you want... But me, I'm a big believer in Treat others how you'd wish to be treated yourself.

Ya won't change my mind on it unfortunately, I'm just a guy who says he is going to do something and does it. I expect others to do the same when an agreement is reached.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, or have a weighty conscious that prevents me from letting people down

I'm done on this 1 now anyway.... I need to discuss these 10p/20p Freddos in another thread...

Chocolate is life

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

i Always assume I’ve prob been let down for a better offer.

Tbh I’d rather just be told than ghosted, least it gives me chance to make other arrangements with my day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to see if we can and yes we can

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"With less than 2 hours to go and she did so knowing I could of had my nephew and neices that day.... I found it fecking rude af to be honest.

I get a cancel and no show are different.

But with that little time left, I find it downright rude...

Some seem to forget that your actually wasting someones time who has invested time in you... "

It still very much depends though - if she cancelled with good reason and gave you that much notice then I don't see the issue? Her blocking you may have been down to how you reacted.

If she cancelled because she had a better offer, decided to wash her hair instead etc - then yeah it's poor form but she still gave you notice, and didn't actually just not show up.

The thing about your niece and nephew is actually irrelevant and could actually reflect worse on you that you put a meet ahead of family if I were to play devil's advocate a little.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, it can be justified however you want... But me, I'm a big believer in Treat others how you'd wish to be treated yourself.

Ya won't change my mind on it unfortunately, I'm just a guy who says he is going to do something and does it. I expect others to do the same when an agreement is reached.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, or have a weighty conscious that prevents me from letting people down

I'm done on this 1 now anyway.... I need to discuss these 10p/20p Freddos in another thread...

Chocolate is life

I can see where you're coming from, however I must tell you I've cancelled meets before now when on my single profile, as I felt I would be letting the person down more by going ahead with the meet and only really being half into it, than by cancelling the meet and giving the chance to meet someone else who was "feeling it"

Enjoy your choccie debate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, it can be justified however you want... But me, I'm a big believer in Treat others how you'd wish to be treated yourself.

Ya won't change my mind on it unfortunately, I'm just a guy who says he is going to do something and does it. I expect others to do the same when an agreement is reached.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, or have a weighty conscious that prevents me from letting people down

I'm done on this 1 now anyway.... I need to discuss these 10p/20p Freddos in another thread...

Chocolate is life

Enjoy your chocolate

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Shit happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He told her he was a 32 year old six foot banker , when he is really a 52 year old, 5ft 5 Tesco delivery driver.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do love a thread where someone gets offended on behalf of someone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happens quite a lot to me aswell I don't get it like if your that horny watch porn instead of wasting people's time saying your gonna meet and don't half r fakes/pic collectors for sure

I have a rule don't turn up blocked straight away no 2nd chances

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Looks don’t stop you being let down or messed about. A guy I met last year contacted me after 10 months, nagged a bit for me to meet again then when I said yes he ignored me!

U aint wrong im fucking stunning sexy as fuck and i been ditched before

but i do crow about it after

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He told her he was a 32 year old six foot banker , when he is really a 52 year old, 5ft 5 Tesco delivery driver."

If at least he would have been an Asda delivery driver

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why I have a social a 2 minute walk from my house, no time wasted

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By *urreyguy34Man over a year ago

Weybridge

"This is why I have a social a 2 minute walk from my house, no time wasted

Good idea sweetheart!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh my, you too...

Well live with it, I'm going nowhere and I could care less ya you 2 think...or anyone else for that matter.

It is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh my, you too...

Well live with it, I'm going nowhere and I could care less ya you 2 think...or anyone else for that matter.

It is what it is.

Me too? I never said anything about you leaving or staying, as frankly I couldn't care less about what you choose to do in that regard. I dont know you to care

. I was agreeing with the fact that perhaps you shouldn't start shagging off the socials, when you have no experience of going to one.

But youre right, it's of no consequence to anyone what you do, or don't do. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was agreeing with the fact that perhaps you shouldn't start slagging off the socials, when you have no experience of going to one"

You ain't got a clue what I've done and not done.

Shouldn't assume.

Now I got grub to attend too.

Enjoy ya evening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because there fools a decent guy never backs out or stands the lady up

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Christ alive. This is getting like car crash tv.

Please just leave it out now the lot of you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Christ alive. This is getting like car crash tv.

Please just leave it out now the lot of you xx"

Slowly backs off the thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Didnt realise it was a domestic i should read all comments before posting

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Why are we ‘slags’ because we choose to swing? Are the men slags too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are we ‘slags’ because we choose to swing? Are the men slags too?"

Exactly. Perhaps he was meant to go on Christian dating website and took a wrong turn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i Always assume I’ve prob been let down for a better offer.

Tbh I’d rather just be told than ghosted, least it gives me chance to make other arrangements with my day "

I was out having lunch with my 2 good swinging friends Goodnitegirl and femme fatale yesterday.

We were only just talking about this subject as it happened to me last week .. Good job I had a back up plan in a club .. I would rather they be honest instead of ghosting at least you can make plans with someone else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahhh this is what fab would be like with no moderators. A free for all.

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