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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes you can go alone
It’s a social - why would you need to fancy anyone?
Unsure - I’ve never been. I’ve heard they’re all very welcoming and friendly though  |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes you can go alone
It’s a social - why would you need to fancy anyone?
Unsure - I’ve never been. I’ve heard they’re all very welcoming and friendly though "
Maybe a silly question. Just not sure if there was any pressure.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
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Do it!
I can only go on the ones I've been to, held in a pub, sometimes a separate room, other times it's been just a side area, so not totally closed off from the general public. It's just a good way to chat to people, no pressure to fancy anyone, though if that does happen, great!
Course you can go alone if you're confident to do that, plenty do.
It's just a good night out getting to know fellow swingers and having a laugh in a no pressure environment.
I can't recommend socials enough.
There's one in Chester next month, thread in forum. |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x "
Thank you...... I think my mind run away with me |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
Do it!
I can only go on the ones I've been to, held in a pub, sometimes a separate room, other times it's been just a side area, so not totally closed off from the general public. It's just a good way to chat to people, no pressure to fancy anyone, though if that does happen, great!
Course you can go alone if you're confident to do that, plenty do.
It's just a good night out getting to know fellow swingers and having a laugh in a no pressure environment.
I can't recommend socials enough.
There's one in Chester next month, thread in forum. "
I really want to now.
Just not sure I could go alone.....
Need to make some friends and maybe tag along x |
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Socials are usually held in a pub or a private venue and are an opportunity for like minded people to meet up , chat , and have a drink or two . The ones we have attended in Gloucester have a selection of single women , single men , TVs and couples and sometimes those who have hotel accommodation may invite others to it afterwards if that’s what’s wanted .
But by and large they are just a flirty night of getting to know other local swingers . And there’s every chance there won’t be anyone you fancy , but that doesn’t matter at all . Depending on who else attends it’ll be a great night out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Dressing up???  "
You're trying to make an impression. I went in jeans and tee-shirt. Everyone was in shorts and trousers and dresses (not the men) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Dressing up???
You're trying to make an impression. I went in jeans and tee-shirt. Everyone was in shorts and trousers and dresses (not the men) "
Shirts not shorts |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I've been to loads of socials in my time on here, though not for a few years!
I've been to some local one's and the couples (women won't let their man stray in case you try to snag them!  so I left early) I have also been down to a few down south and had a wonderful time! And well worth the money. OP only you know what your local vicinity is like, but I am a great advocate and BTW I've been to all of them on my own, I never get why men always need someone to go with, they are just like going to the pub on your own, so go for it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you find one you want to go to, join in on the thread, even ask for someone to buddy you, there'll be plenty of offers. If the organisers are any good they will offer to meet you outside and introduce you to people as well.
I like to get there either first or very early so I can see people arriving, rather than walking into an already full room.
Just wear smart casual, as you would if you were meeting friends in the pub.
If I can help in any other way feel free to pm me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep meaning to get along to a social but they often seem to clash with work travels or holidays. I was meant to be going to a all male social with some of the other guys that frequent the forum on Saturday night but work has got in the way again 
I’ll get to one eventually |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
Do it!
I can only go on the ones I've been to, held in a pub, sometimes a separate room, other times it's been just a side area, so not totally closed off from the general public. It's just a good way to chat to people, no pressure to fancy anyone, though if that does happen, great!
Course you can go alone if you're confident to do that, plenty do.
It's just a good night out getting to know fellow swingers and having a laugh in a no pressure environment.
I can't recommend socials enough.
There's one in Chester next month, thread in forum.
I really want to now.
Just not sure I could go alone.....
Need to make some friends and maybe tag along x"
If that makes you feel more confident but there is something really empowering about walking in to something like that on your own
Have you had any 1 to 1 socials yet? Maybe try and arrange a couple of those, get your confidence up a bit? |
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Dressing up??? "
Most people make an effort , not fancy dress , but most women dress as if it’s a night out at a club and men smart . |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Dressing up???
Most people make an effort , not fancy dress , but most women dress as if it’s a night out at a club and men smart ."
Oh that’s ok then.... I wouldn’t have the confidence to turn up in my undies
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
See if you can get on the reserve list for the Manchester lounge social in case anyone drops out. They're really friendly and lots of singles in the same boat
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"If you find one you want to go to, join in on the thread, even ask for someone to buddy you, there'll be plenty of offers. If the organisers are any good they will offer to meet you outside and introduce you to people as well.
I like to get there either first or very early so I can see people arriving, rather than walking into an already full room.
Just wear smart casual, as you would if you were meeting friends in the pub.
If I can help in any other way feel free to pm me. "
Thank you so much..... where are the meet threads??
Do you go to any around Manchester? X |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
See if you can get on the reserve list for the Manchester lounge social in case anyone drops out. They're really friendly and lots of singles in the same boat
Thank you x
Where do I do this? (I’m probs being dumb now lol )
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you find one you want to go to, join in on the thread, even ask for someone to buddy you, there'll be plenty of offers. If the organisers are any good they will offer to meet you outside and introduce you to people as well.
I like to get there either first or very early so I can see people arriving, rather than walking into an already full room.
Just wear smart casual, as you would if you were meeting friends in the pub.
If I can help in any other way feel free to pm me.
Thank you so much..... where are the meet threads??
Do you go to any around Manchester? X"
Check out the meet forum think it's down as Moriatys party and yes I'm going |
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I help run a social in Leicester. It's all about likeminded people getting together, in a vanilla environment, to chat without having to whisper 'Fab' carefully, to swap stories and numbers and enjoy each other's company. There's no pressure, no expectation and no need to fancy anyone. Go enjoy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you find one you want to go to, join in on the thread, even ask for someone to buddy you, there'll be plenty of offers. If the organisers are any good they will offer to meet you outside and introduce you to people as well.
I like to get there either first or very early so I can see people arriving, rather than walking into an already full room.
Just wear smart casual, as you would if you were meeting friends in the pub.
If I can help in any other way feel free to pm me.
Thank you so much..... where are the meet threads??
Do you go to any around Manchester? X"
There's a forum called "meet requests and parties" or you could do a search for towns near you and see what pops up.
Chester is my nearest one 1hr45m drive away, that's the only one I've been to. But after 4 times I've made some lovely friends
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you find one you want to go to, join in on the thread, even ask for someone to buddy you, there'll be plenty of offers. If the organisers are any good they will offer to meet you outside and introduce you to people as well.
I like to get there either first or very early so I can see people arriving, rather than walking into an already full room.
Just wear smart casual, as you would if you were meeting friends in the pub.
If I can help in any other way feel free to pm me.
Thank you so much..... where are the meet threads??
Do you go to any around Manchester? X
Check out the meet forum think it's down as Moriatys party and yes I'm going "
Bumped it to the top of the section. You can put a message on there or PM the lounge social profile that has commented x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"I've been to loads of socials in my time on here, though not for a few years!
I've been to some local one's and the couples (women won't let their man stray in case you try to snag them! so I left early) I have also been down to a few down south and had a wonderful time! And well worth the money. OP only you know what your local vicinity is like, but I am a great advocate and BTW I've been to all of them on my own, I never get why men always need someone to go with, they are just like going to the pub on your own, so go for it! "
Thanks.
I’d like to go with a friend just the first time I spose.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd consider going to one in Leeds or Wakefield, I'll have to take a look and see what's happening "
The Barnsley ones are known for being good fun and friendly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been to quite a few socials.
Even if you do fancy someone you should be doing no more than exchanging contact details. Just your fab name if you like.
Just dress how you feel comfortable in a pub.
Circulate and say hi to as many as you can. You’ll get Veris a plenty.
Enjoy the socialising with like minded people. That’s what it’s all about. |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"I’ve been to quite a few socials.
Even if you do fancy someone you should be doing no more than exchanging contact details. Just your fab name if you like.
Just dress how you feel comfortable in a pub.
Circulate and say hi to as many as you can. You’ll get Veris a plenty.
Enjoy the socialising with like minded people. That’s what it’s all about. "
So you go alone? X |
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"I'd consider going to one in Leeds or Wakefield, I'll have to take a look and see what's happening
The Barnsley ones are known for being good fun and friendly"
I would probably be wanting a drink or 2 to settle the nerves  and Barnsley is a bit too far to get back home from |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Dressing up???
Most people make an effort , not fancy dress , but most women dress as if it’s a night out at a club and men smart ."
I dress in jeans, jumper and boots if it's cold out. For a social in a pub I dress how I would for a drink with my family and friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been to quite a few socials.
Even if you do fancy someone you should be doing no more than exchanging contact details. Just your fab name if you like.
Just dress how you feel comfortable in a pub.
Circulate and say hi to as many as you can. You’ll get Veris a plenty.
Enjoy the socialising with like minded people. That’s what it’s all about.
So you go alone? X"
I do. The people I've socialised with at the STP socials have all been lovely and down to Earth, and you don't have to wear a dress and heels. Come in a t-shirt and leggings if you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd consider going to one in Leeds or Wakefield, I'll have to take a look and see what's happening
The Barnsley ones are known for being good fun and friendly
I would probably be wanting a drink or 2 to settle the nerves and Barnsley is a bit too far to get back home from"
That's why people book a hotel.
Well one of the reasons.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error"
Did you turn up in your birthday suit then pal?
No messing about with this one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Did you turn up in your birthday suit then pal?
No messing about with this one "
I was casual... Everyone else was smart casual |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
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You should attend one, they’re a great no pressure way of meeting real people and finding out if you actually fancy them.
Lots attend alone and you’ll be made most welcome.
If you don’t fancy any one then no problem, you’ll still meet lots of very interesting people.
The group socials are the only reason we stay on the site, they’re just so enjoyable.
We always treat them as an adventure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been to quite a few socials.
Even if you do fancy someone you should be doing no more than exchanging contact details. Just your fab name if you like.
Just dress how you feel comfortable in a pub.
Circulate and say hi to as many as you can. You’ll get Veris a plenty.
Enjoy the socialising with like minded people. That’s what it’s all about.
So you go alone? X"
Yes.  |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
You should attend one, they’re a great no pressure way of meeting real people and finding out if you actually fancy them.
Lots attend alone and you’ll be made most welcome.
If you don’t fancy any one then no problem, you’ll still meet lots of very interesting people.
The group socials are the only reason we stay on the site, they’re just so enjoyable.
We always treat them as an adventure "
Thank you..... I’m definitely going to x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve been to quite a few socials.
Even if you do fancy someone you should be doing no more than exchanging contact details. Just your fab name if you like.
Just dress how you feel comfortable in a pub.
Circulate and say hi to as many as you can. You’ll get Veris a plenty.
Enjoy the socialising with like minded people. That’s what it’s all about.
So you go alone? X
Yes. "
I’m gonna do it...... x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Group socials are a great way to meet up with others you've got to know from the forums, socialise and have fun - think of it as a drink in the pub with work colleagues, some of whom you don't usually have a lot to do with, and you'll not go far wrong.
The biggest problem I have at them is recognising people with their clothes on!! Especially if I've not seen their face before |
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over a year ago
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x"
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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It was going to a social that led to having female friends on here. When I take a break from Fab I come back for the socials, not always but mostly.
We had the STP on Saturday and I just loved watching people chatting to each other.
In the dim and distant past there used to be lounge-based socials in clubs so those who wanted to could hook up and play. Absolutely no pressure to do anything. I had my birthday party in a club as big social - dancing, barbecue, chatting and some people having a fab time in a room together (sadly, not me).
The thing I enjoyed about those socials was the getting together in the pub/hotel bar first then people going off to change into their sexy selves and then seeing them again the next morning over breakfast back in civvies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Did you turn up in your birthday suit then pal?
No messing about with this one
I was casual... Everyone else was smart casual"
Only having the banter here obvs pal think you know me bi now
Op socials are an amazing way to get to know fellow likemined people in a non pressurised and totally chilled out environment
Couldn't recommend them enough x
Must say though there's a lot of hotels booked on the night so obvs if there is lots of that clicking n sparking don't always just have to be a social if those desires and needs must jay x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local "
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x |
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x"
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It was going to a social that led to having female friends on here. When I take a break from Fab I come back for the socials, not always but mostly.
We had the STP on Saturday and I just loved watching people chatting to each other.
In the dim and distant past there used to be lounge-based socials in clubs so those who wanted to could hook up and play. Absolutely no pressure to do anything. I had my birthday party in a club as big social - dancing, barbecue, chatting and some people having a fab time in a room together (sadly, not me).
The thing I enjoyed about those socials was the getting together in the pub/hotel bar first then people going off to change into their sexy selves and then seeing them again the next morning over breakfast back in civvies."
I’m so excited to go to one x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My first social, I made the mistake of not dressing up.
School boy error
Did you turn up in your birthday suit then pal?
No messing about with this one
I was casual... Everyone else was smart casual
Only having the banter here obvs pal think you know me bi now
Op socials are an amazing way to get to know fellow likemined people in a non pressurised and totally chilled out environment
Couldn't recommend them enough x
Must say though there's a lot of hotels booked on the night so obvs if there is lots of that clicking n sparking don't always just have to be a social if those desires and needs must jay x"
I’m sold! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If not already get in touch with your regions socials
Pretty face like yours will be more than welcome and sure everyone will be as nice as can possibly be and welcome you into our beautiful and amazing world x |
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
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We’ve only just started going to socials. Been to a couple now, next one booked. It’s just full of normal people that happen to swing. Chat to loads. Swap fab names if you want. Swap numbers if you want. As it’s usually held in a pub it’s pretty normal apart from you’re surrounded by friendly people that actually want to talk! Lol. Just have a read on what’s on and make a jump to the unknown. Nothing ventured nothing gained etc xx no one will bite (unless you ask! Lol) x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been to quite a few socials.
Even if you do fancy someone you should be doing no more than exchanging contact details. Just your fab name if you like.
Just dress how you feel comfortable in a pub.
Circulate and say hi to as many as you can. You’ll get Veris a plenty.
Enjoy the socialising with like minded people. That’s what it’s all about.
So you go alone? X
Yes.
I’m gonna do it...... x"
Go for it. It’s just a social so what’s there to worry about x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it "
I really want to come to that one...... x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If not already get in touch with your regions socials
Pretty face like yours will be more than welcome and sure everyone will be as nice as can possibly be and welcome you into our beautiful and amazing world x"
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over a year ago
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it
I really want to come to that one...... x"
They hold one at fairly regular intervals there will be another MLS up soon that you can attend I'm sure. |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it
I really want to come to that one...... x
They hold one at fairly regular intervals there will be another MLS up soon that you can attend I'm sure."
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it
I really want to come to that one...... x"
People drop out.. just keep it free and I'm sure they'll let you know x |
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over a year ago
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it
I really want to come to that one...... x
They hold one at fairly regular intervals there will be another MLS up soon that you can attend I'm sure.
That’s good to know, thanks "
Just be prepared to dance naked round a open fire chanting and wailing to greek goddess Aphrodite |
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*waves*
As Crimson has said, it’s just a bunch of folks with Fab in common, standing around, eating cake, chatting shit, having a bevvy or a brew and then being kicked out at closing time because there’s so much gossiping to do, we’ve lost track of time.
The hosts of any such event will make sure you are met, introduced and included.
Green arrow us to see our social threads, there’s far to much chat about cake though. |
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Rock up, eat drink and be merry then later many of the couples (or people who have partnered up) and single fems will head off to a near by club while the majority of the single guys either head home or just have a night out |
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"I'm exactly the same very awkward lol
What looking for a titivating story for the newspaper ??.
Is the OP a journo or what exactly is it you are implying? 29 meets you know the crack..#awkward"
Aliot more than 29 meets ....but no I don't so enlighten me. Where you never new on here? |
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"I'm exactly the same very awkward lol
What looking for a titivating story for the newspaper ??.
Is the OP a journo or what exactly is it you are implying? 29 meets you know the crack..#awkward
Aliot more than 29 meets ....but no I don't so enlighten me. Where you never new on here? "
Boring people like to invent imaginary drama to spice thier lives up is my take on her posts lol.
Op normal person nervous about meeting a large group of strangers vs op being a secret undercover daily mail reporter she has detected!?
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"I'm exactly the same very awkward lol
What looking for a titivating story for the newspaper ??.
Is the OP a journo or what exactly is it you are implying? 29 meets you know the crack..#awkward
Aliot more than 29 meets ....but no I don't so enlighten me. Where you never new on here?
Boring people like to invent imaginary drama to spice thier lives up is my take on her posts lol.
Op normal person nervous about meeting a large group of strangers vs op being a secret undercover daily mail reporter she has detected!?
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By *harmingCMan
over a year ago
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I struggled to go to my first but it got easier and everyone was really nice, it’s like going out for a drink with your mates, it’s just your not mates yet, but you all have something in common 
Usually it’s made quiet clear at socials that it’s just that and nothing is expected to happen other than getting to know one another, everyone’s been the new nervous person at some point so they are always happy to help you out and give you advise
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm exactly the same very awkward lol
What looking for a titivating story for the newspaper ??.
Is the OP a journo or what exactly is it you are implying? 29 meets you know the crack..#awkward
Aliot more than 29 meets ....but no I don't so enlighten me. Where you never new on here?
Boring people like to invent imaginary drama to spice thier lives up is my take on her posts lol.
Op normal person nervous about meeting a large group of strangers vs op being a secret undercover daily mail reporter she has detected!?
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Group socials are a great way to meet up with others you've got to know from the forums, socialise and have fun - think of it as a drink in the pub with work colleagues, some of whom you don't usually have a lot to do with, and you'll not go far wrong.
The biggest problem I have at them is recognising people with their clothes on!! Especially if I've not seen their face before "
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"If not already get in touch with your regions socials
Pretty face like yours will be more than welcome and sure everyone will be as nice as can possibly be and welcome you into our beautiful and amazing world x"
Thank you x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
stockport |
"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it
I really want to come to that one...... x
People drop out.. just keep it free and I'm sure they'll let you know x"
I will. Thanks again x |
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Jump in op. I always attend on my own. A good host will introduce you to a friendly face or two and help get the ball rolling.
Just need to find one now that’s not full x
If spaces to the Manchester one become free give me a shout. I'm local
Deffo. If you know of any others you go to let me know x
I've only been to one so not met that many people myself! Chatted to quite a few going to the Manchester one though so looking forward to it
I really want to come to that one...... x
They hold one at fairly regular intervals there will be another MLS up soon that you can attend I'm sure.
That’s good to know, thanks
Just be prepared to dance naked round a open fire chanting and wailing to greek goddess Aphrodite "
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"*waves*
As Crimson has said, it’s just a bunch of folks with Fab in common, standing around, eating cake, chatting shit, having a bevvy or a brew and then being kicked out at closing time because there’s so much gossiping to do, we’ve lost track of time.
The hosts of any such event will make sure you are met, introduced and included.
Green arrow us to see our social threads, there’s far to much chat about cake though. "
Thank you..... even better if there’s cake involved |
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"Yes you can go alone
It’s a social - why would you need to fancy anyone?
Unsure - I’ve never been. I’ve heard they’re all very welcoming and friendly though
Maybe a silly question. Just not sure if there was any pressure.
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There's no pressure at all x |
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x "
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie. |
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie."
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie.
Yep. I can confirm; wannabe social slag, always ends up Billy no mates crying into a pint "
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Thanks!!
I’ll take you up on that x
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie."
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over a year ago
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie.
Yep. I can confirm; wannabe social slag, always ends up Billy no mates crying into a pint "
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Dont be embarrassed if you dont know ask
Shit i asked if i need a passport to go to scotland once and now i know
But if you like been surrounded by friendly naughty minded people and having a good time making new friends you will enjoy it
I hate groups of people and hsd a good time at the one i went to |
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Get yourself along to one ASAP girl! They really are the way to go. I've travelled over to Manchester a few times to attend the wonderful Lounge Socials hosted by SexyBrunette and MissRed (yeah yeah Moriarty... And you too ), and absolutely hate that I haven't been able to attend any of the recent ones as they are such good fun, and such a lovely relaxed way to meet people without any pressure... And if you're really lucky, someone might catch your eye and you may find yourself making plans to meet them afterwards |
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie.
Yep. I can confirm; wannabe social slag, always ends up Billy no mates crying into a pint
Fuck you bitch "
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We went to our first social at the end of last year and we were also very anxious about what was expected fortunately we chose the aforementioned Manchester Lounge Social as it seemed that those we speak to on the forums were attending.
The hosts do a fantastic job of making you feel relaxed and so does everyone else!
We couldn’t wait to put our name down for the next one!!
Hopefully there will be some space for you OP as it seems it’s something you really want to do and the MLS, for us, was the perfect introduction into the group socials!
Good luck
Jo&D.Xx |
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"We went to our first social at the end of last year and we were also very anxious about what was expected fortunately we chose the aforementioned Manchester Lounge Social as it seemed that those we speak to on the forums were attending.
The hosts do a fantastic job of making you feel relaxed and so does everyone else!
We couldn’t wait to put our name down for the next one!!
Hopefully there will be some space for you OP as it seems it’s something you really want to do and the MLS, for us, was the perfect introduction into the group socials!
Good luck
Jo&D.Xx"
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"We went to our first social at the end of last year and we were also very anxious about what was expected fortunately we chose the aforementioned Manchester Lounge Social as it seemed that those we speak to on the forums were attending.
The hosts do a fantastic job of making you feel relaxed and so does everyone else!
We couldn’t wait to put our name down for the next one!!
Hopefully there will be some space for you OP as it seems it’s something you really want to do and the MLS, for us, was the perfect introduction into the group socials!
Good luck
Jo&D.Xxwas good wasnt it "
It was! We will be a little sad this time as you aren’t able to make it 
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I love going to socials and prefer to go on my own actually so I can circulate and not get stuck sitting with the same people!
I find I meet a better calibre of men st the socials as they are genuinely interested to meet people and mingle rather than some of the guys I encounter at clubs that are rushing around wanking and desperately trying to get laid. I have met some brilliant people thru socials who have gone on to be good friends and / or playmates.
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"We went to our first social at the end of last year and we were also very anxious about what was expected fortunately we chose the aforementioned Manchester Lounge Social as it seemed that those we speak to on the forums were attending.
The hosts do a fantastic job of making you feel relaxed and so does everyone else!
We couldn’t wait to put our name down for the next one!!
Hopefully there will be some space for you OP as it seems it’s something you really want to do and the MLS, for us, was the perfect introduction into the group socials!
Good luck
Jo&D.Xxwas good wasnt it
It was! We will be a little sad this time as you aren’t able to make it
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na im a bloody bore compared to some folks going plus i lost my hat |
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie.
Yep. I can confirm; wannabe social slag, always ends up Billy no mates crying into a pint
Lol "
Haha this is a good one Bladey, you have appalling time keeping skills and navigation skills, you’d never bloody get there! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I have been to a few with Jack
You meet and have a drink /laugh with lots of good people
You may meet someone you want to play with in future ,in which case you swap details etc.
Try one op,great way to get to know people and you will be made welcome . |
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Well I’m sure you will find someone you will find attractive so that’s a check go alone I’d say meet in a public place and make sure someone knows where you are and how long you intend to be go for a coffee something like that
What are people’s experiences?
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"I've been to a couple. It's best to treat it as a normal evening out, otherwise you might overthink it and won't be able to relax. Go with the flow is how I approach these things, if you do happen to meet someone you like the look of, well that's a bonus It doesn't mean you have to drag them off and five them a blowie in the car park, but you could make arrangements for another time.
Good luck OP, take your time, there's no pressure and it's your rules always remember x
Not read the whole thread I didn't need to this is all you need to know. Wise words indead. I go to loads and I've taken loads who just need to walk in with somebody. You see my name on a social list and wonna go just ask as I know within 10/20 mins you'll be off hopefully having a ball and I'll be Billy no mates yet again. Seriously read my veri mail if you wish no biggie.
Yep. I can confirm; wannabe social slag, always ends up Billy no mates crying into a pint
Fuck you bitch
I really do miss you lot!!! "
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Get yourself along to one ASAP girl! They really are the way to go. I've travelled over to Manchester a few times to attend the wonderful Lounge Socials hosted by SexyBrunette and MissRed (yeah yeah Moriarty... And you too ), and absolutely hate that I haven't been able to attend any of the recent ones as they are such good fun, and such a lovely relaxed way to meet people without any pressure... And if you're really lucky, someone might catch your eye and you may find yourself making plans to meet them afterwards "
I think I’m going. So excited x |
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over a year ago
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"We went to our first social at the end of last year and we were also very anxious about what was expected fortunately we chose the aforementioned Manchester Lounge Social as it seemed that those we speak to on the forums were attending.
The hosts do a fantastic job of making you feel relaxed and so does everyone else!
We couldn’t wait to put our name down for the next one!!
Hopefully there will be some space for you OP as it seems it’s something you really want to do and the MLS, for us, was the perfect introduction into the group socials!
Good luck
Jo&D.Xx"
Thank you!! Hopefully see you there xx |
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over a year ago
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"Generally for big, organised socials there ends up being threads on the forums with who's going and predrinks/after parties etc worth keeping an eye out for if you're going to any
V x"
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"Get yourself along to one ASAP girl! They really are the way to go. I've travelled over to Manchester a few times to attend the wonderful Lounge Socials hosted by SexyBrunette and MissRed (yeah yeah Moriarty... And you too ), and absolutely hate that I haven't been able to attend any of the recent ones as they are such good fun, and such a lovely relaxed way to meet people without any pressure... And if you're really lucky, someone might catch your eye and you may find yourself making plans to meet them afterwards "
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"Get yourself along to one ASAP girl! They really are the way to go. I've travelled over to Manchester a few times to attend the wonderful Lounge Socials hosted by SexyBrunette and MissRed (yeah yeah Moriarty... And you too ), and absolutely hate that I haven't been able to attend any of the recent ones as they are such good fun, and such a lovely relaxed way to meet people without any pressure... And if you're really lucky, someone might catch your eye and you may find yourself making plans to meet them afterwards
We've missed you! "
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
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Its probably better to chat ot other people going beforehand then there is someone there to welcome you on arrival but its very much down to you what you do and how long you stay there are no commitments. |
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"Bumping it up!
Will read this tomorrow. Looks like an informative thread for social newbies "
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There’s a Chester social on 16th with Chester social nw, the Manchester Lounge on 23rd and Manchester social on 30th!!! Our names are down for 16th and 23rd already! It’s a great way to meet new faces |
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x"
They post it in the UK forum. Lovely people.
www.fabswingers.com/forum/uk/843751 |
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules. "
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x"
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x
I can’t delete "
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x
I can’t delete
Ive reported it so hopefully its removed."
Lexi didn't mention it?
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x
I can’t delete
Ive reported it so hopefully its removed.
Lexi didn't mention it?
White knight white knight "
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x
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Lexi didn't mention it?
White knight white knight
Yes she did."
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x
I can’t delete
Ive reported it so hopefully its removed.
Lexi didn't mention it?
White knight white knight
Yes she did.
No she didn't
It was Mike rotch "
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x
I can’t delete
Ive reported it so hopefully its removed.
Lexi didn't mention it?
White knight white knight
Yes she did.
No she didn't
It was Mike rotch
Yes she did. Shes apologised. "
Mike just mentioned it was the gay village (which is huge). She mentioned the venue - which is against forum rules. Shes apologised and it's been removed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
"
I have had a couple of nice social meets. Met the lady in Costa had a coffee and got on like a house on fire. It can be a great way of meeting someone on “neutral territory “ without the pressure to play. At best you could find a playmate. We are great friends not playmates which suits us both.
As long as you don’t go with an agenda or expecting play, hopefully you won’t be disappointed. I enjoy socials wether in a club or in a pub etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"March 30 .... manchester gay village ....social ...check forums
I can’t find the thread x
Its best to not mention venues on the forum. Its against forum rules.
Oh bugger sorry I didn’t know x
I can’t delete
Ive reported it so hopefully its removed.
Lexi didn't mention it?
White knight white knight
Yes she did.
No she didn't
It was Mike rotch
Yes she did. Shes apologised.
Mike just mentioned it was the gay village (which is huge). She mentioned the venue - which is against forum rules. Shes apologised and it's been removed. "
Arrrr I'm sorry then only seen the mgv and thought that was the venue |
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"I didnt realise. Was my mistake. Sorry again "
Don't let it bother you too much l first times for everything I feel a pratt for saying it was someone else
It's only fab but can see where there coming from with locations etc else you'd get every Tom dick n Harry turning up uninvited etc I suppose x
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By * Lexi x OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I didnt realise. Was my mistake. Sorry again
Don't let it bother you too much l first times for everything I feel a pratt for saying it was someone else
It's only fab but can see where there coming from with locations etc else you'd get every Tom dick n Harry turning up uninvited etc I suppose x
Have a gawjus day "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Had some great social's on fab with interesting mature ladies,it's never led to anything because there has to be chemistry,you both have to connect,but if not then you get a nice chat with a fellow fabber. |
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They are usually very friendly places. If you tell the host in a thread that you are new, they'll usually introduce you to some people. It's a very relaxed atmosphere and hopefully there will be some mingling. They can be a lot of fun. It's not really about fancying people. It's a social event. Some have had meets off the back of it, but the primary aim is just for likeminded people to get together and have a good time getting to know people in the scene. Even make friends |
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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago
Fareham |
"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
"
We use socials prior to all meets, but just expect to be let down a lot, if you expect it and they show great, if not then hey ho their loss. But honesty we find is best, if not for you, say so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi!
I’m very new and it’s taken some courage to actually do this.
But I’m really keen to meet new people.
I’d like to to go to a social.
What usually happens?
Can you go alone?
What if I don’t fancy anyone?
What are people’s experiences?
We use socials prior to all meets, but just expect to be let down a lot, if you expect it and they show great, if not then hey ho their loss. But honesty we find is best, if not for you, say so"
I think the OP is speaking more about event socials, than one on one socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t know what I had in my head
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You probably had more of a party that turns into an orgy thing going through your head.. I know that was my initial thought on swinger socials.
I haven't been to one, but the truth sounds much more mundane. |
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For the love of God!! It took me ages to find a suitable social thread to post in. I been wondering about in many threads and they either been created by nutters or got crazies posting in them. I had totally forgotten about this thread.
Finally...
First of all congrats to the OP. If anyone wants to know how good socials can be contact her because she is an expert now and can't get enough of events
This is why I am back in here:
Friends you will remember years back when as an ordinary citizen I wondered into the scene in search of the X Factor... little did I know how exciting/addictive the Fabbing world/journey would be... good things led me to want to be more involved and share so I was using my profile as a forum. Always editing/updating it with upcoming parties/socials, where I was going and my stories on actual real events...
That all stopped because I started to get more into forum threads. So here is what happened at one of the social events I attended...
A group of us sitting in a lovely venue. Enjoying a chat and a very pretty, but fashionably late woman walks in. All of us turn around and look at the late comer as you do... there happened to be a spare seat next to me so she sat down. In my mind I was thinking oh here we go. Not all in a good way mind you because nobody likes a late comer coming in disturbing the peace so we get chatting...
The conversation flowed nicely and we realised we have many things in common... but then... out of the blue... no warning... no nothing... she tells me "I know you... you're the chin from the forums" oh fuck!! OMFG she is one of them lurkers!!
Shit!! She knew so many things... flippin heck I never been so scared in my life!! I was sat next to a feckin real life Ninja!! I used to think they were just made up to scare us... yikes!!
Right, not going into more details just now because it's not safe  but she confirmed there are clique groups within the forums. I know what you're thinking... tell us something we don't know because that is old news... fair enough guess what... the ninjas, lurkers, stalkers whatever have their own click on the outside looking in!! Eek!! Oh my lordy lord btw there is a difference between "click" and "clique" apparently it's because they have different turfs to do their thing... don't look at me I ain't got a clue!!
I even asked how does one get into this so called "click" thingy... she said don't bother trying because I won't be welcome or allowed in... not good enough or some nonsense like that!! Holy fuck!! This has completely blown things way out in the open on a different level now
Fastforward:
I survived. Lived to share this. We are mates now, but only barely because she thinks I ain't as funny as her. We all know I am fucking hilarious so she is well out of order. Apparently her inner lioness likes to come out and hunt... all that roar roar Leo malarkey... what the fuck does the universe know anyway!! Scorpios maybe horny folk, but we are good people. Plus sexercise is as good as any exercise to get the heart pumping... beating faster...
Why can't I be part of a clique/click group/cult !! Oh forget it. Fine. I will just have to carry on doing my own thing and somehow survive ha ha
For those still never been to a social:
Do it. Trust me. Attend one of your local ones or contact any organisers of the well known bigger events around the UK. You have nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain. Well a friend or two or more... socialise and you never know when a surprise could be waiting for you. |
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"For the love of God!! It took me ages to find a suitable social thread to post in. I been wondering about in many threads and they either been created by nutters or got crazies posting in them. I had totally forgotten about this thread.
Finally...
First of all congrats to the OP. If anyone wants to know how good socials can be contact her because she is an expert now and can't get enough of events
This is why I am back in here:
Friends you will remember years back when as an ordinary citizen I wondered into the scene in search of the X Factor... little did I know how exciting/addictive the Fabbing world/journey would be... good things led me to want to be more involved and share so I was using my profile as a forum. Always editing/updating it with upcoming parties/socials, where I was going and my stories on actual real events...
That all stopped because I started to get more into forum threads. So here is what happened at one of the social events I attended...
A group of us sitting in a lovely venue. Enjoying a chat and a very pretty, but fashionably late woman walks in. All of us turn around and look at the late comer as you do... there happened to be a spare seat next to me so she sat down. In my mind I was thinking oh here we go. Not all in a good way mind you because nobody likes a late comer coming in disturbing the peace so we get chatting...
The conversation flowed nicely and we realised we have many things in common... but then... out of the blue... no warning... no nothing... she tells me "I know you... you're the chin from the forums" oh fuck!! OMFG she is one of them lurkers!!
Shit!! She knew so many things... flippin heck I never been so scared in my life!! I was sat next to a feckin real life Ninja!! I used to think they were just made up to scare us... yikes!!
Right, not going into more details just now because it's not safe but she confirmed there are clique groups within the forums. I know what you're thinking... tell us something we don't know because that is old news... fair enough guess what... the ninjas, lurkers, stalkers whatever have their own click on the outside looking in!! Eek!! Oh my lordy lord btw there is a difference between "click" and "clique" apparently it's because they have different turfs to do their thing... don't look at me I ain't got a clue!!
I even asked how does one get into this so called "click" thingy... she said don't bother trying because I won't be welcome or allowed in... not good enough or some nonsense like that!! Holy fuck!! This has completely blown things way out in the open on a different level now
Fastforward:
I survived. Lived to share this. We are mates now, but only barely because she thinks I ain't as funny as her. We all know I am fucking hilarious so she is well out of order. Apparently her inner lioness likes to come out and hunt... all that roar roar Leo malarkey... what the fuck does the universe know anyway!! Scorpios maybe horny folk, but we are good people. Plus sexercise is as good as any exercise to get the heart pumping... beating faster...
Why can't I be part of a clique/click group/cult !! Oh forget it. Fine. I will just have to carry on doing my own thing and somehow survive ha ha
For those still never been to a social:
Do it. Trust me. Attend one of your local ones or contact any organisers of the well known bigger events around the UK. You have nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain. Well a friend or two or more... socialise and you never know when a surprise could be waiting for you."
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Hey Lexi
For me going to a social on my own is just like going to a pub on my own. A sociable outing no pressure. People I met were friendly and nice and some of them a little nervous and happy to just talk. Just as if you were in a pub if you don't fancy anyone that's fine. Theres no pressure just do your own thing. It's not about having sex but meeting like minded people who you may or may not click with x |
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over a year ago
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"For the love of God!! It took me ages to find a suitable social thread to post in. I been wondering about in many threads and they either been created by nutters or got crazies posting in them. I had totally forgotten about this thread.
Finally...
First of all congrats to the OP. If anyone wants to know how good socials can be contact her because she is an expert now and can't get enough of events
This is why I am back in here:
Friends you will remember years back when as an ordinary citizen I wondered into the scene in search of the X Factor... little did I know how exciting/addictive the Fabbing world/journey would be... good things led me to want to be more involved and share so I was using my profile as a forum. Always editing/updating it with upcoming parties/socials, where I was going and my stories on actual real events...
That all stopped because I started to get more into forum threads. So here is what happened at one of the social events I attended...
A group of us sitting in a lovely venue. Enjoying a chat and a very pretty, but fashionably late woman walks in. All of us turn around and look at the late comer as you do... there happened to be a spare seat next to me so she sat down. In my mind I was thinking oh here we go. Not all in a good way mind you because nobody likes a late comer coming in disturbing the peace so we get chatting...
The conversation flowed nicely and we realised we have many things in common... but then... out of the blue... no warning... no nothing... she tells me "I know you... you're the chin from the forums" oh fuck!! OMFG she is one of them lurkers!!
Shit!! She knew so many things... flippin heck I never been so scared in my life!! I was sat next to a feckin real life Ninja!! I used to think they were just made up to scare us... yikes!!
Right, not going into more details just now because it's not safe but she confirmed there are clique groups within the forums. I know what you're thinking... tell us something we don't know because that is old news... fair enough guess what... the ninjas, lurkers, stalkers whatever have their own click on the outside looking in!! Eek!! Oh my lordy lord btw there is a difference between "click" and "clique" apparently it's because they have different turfs to do their thing... don't look at me I ain't got a clue!!
I even asked how does one get into this so called "click" thingy... she said don't bother trying because I won't be welcome or allowed in... not good enough or some nonsense like that!! Holy fuck!! This has completely blown things way out in the open on a different level now
Fastforward:
I survived. Lived to share this. We are mates now, but only barely because she thinks I ain't as funny as her. We all know I am fucking hilarious so she is well out of order. Apparently her inner lioness likes to come out and hunt... all that roar roar Leo malarkey... what the fuck does the universe know anyway!! Scorpios maybe horny folk, but we are good people. Plus sexercise is as good as any exercise to get the heart pumping... beating faster...
Why can't I be part of a clique/click group/cult !! Oh forget it. Fine. I will just have to carry on doing my own thing and somehow survive ha ha
For those still never been to a social:
Do it. Trust me. Attend one of your local ones or contact any organisers of the well known bigger events around the UK. You have nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain. Well a friend or two or more... socialise and you never know when a surprise could be waiting for you."
Adam there isn’t a clique. There are friends who have met and/or chat. It’s easy to call it a clique with a derogatory accusatory edge which feeds peoples paranoia but basically the site will always be what you make of it. There will always be groups of friends and if you don’t make it into that group then that’s life.
I will continue to do my own things in my own way with people I get along with, irrespective of what others have to say.
Mind you, you know all this because I’ve told you before |
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"Adam there isn’t a clique. There are friends who have met and/or chat. It’s easy to call it a clique with a derogatory accusatory edge which feeds peoples paranoia but basically the site will always be what you make of it. There will always be groups of friends and if you don’t make it into that group then that’s life.
I will continue to do my own things in my own way with people I get along with, irrespective of what others have to say.
Mind you, you know all this because I’ve told you before "
Blimey, did I post that last night!?
I'm glad you have posted Babs because you're not part of the clique and you're one of the ones that has been consistent over the years in your views/opinions. That is why we are connected and get on well on here my post was not aimed at any specific groups or forumites that as you say have met/chat and are friends. As you're aware I have many groups of friends across Fab so I totally get that. I often get accused of being a forumite myself by cheeky buggers!
The bit about lurkers/click that was a joke I shared because I know some of the social attendees I have met would have giggled at reading that. Having said that I was going to post on the "clique" topic at a later date, but you mentioned some interesting points so I am going to do that now as my final post in this thread.
Some of the regular forum posters try to put people down or brush it aside when anyone mentions "clique" it appears to be a sensitive topic and for good reason... yes people do get jealous or try to be spiteful with a "derogatory accusatory edge" as you said, but I am not one of them. And because the way I am I say it exactly how it is not just being "selective" or turning a blind eye. Mates or no mates if it's wrong and I witness it I will call it out especially if the clique try to push/drive people out...
So here is my definition of "clique" and this is exactly what people mean when they mention it. Not to be confused by groups of friends enjoying friendly banter within the forums or otherwise...
A "clique" is when people will join together in 3s, 4s, 5s (there is no max number) I once witnessed at least 20 people! I don't exaggerate. They will jump on an individual(s) and either troll them or persistently quote their posts to bring them down. It becomes like a gang. Online bullies. This happens and I stand by that. That is what the surprise conversation was I had at a social. Just because some choose to turn a blind eye or pretend it ain't true that does occur therefore "clique" exist. Finally I am going to add another point. There are people within the forums that are waiting to "pounce" on individual(s) in a negative way, isolate them because for whatever reason they don't like them or see them as a threat or because who they are friends with. So they wait for them to slip up even with posting a particular "word" and next thing you know 3, 4, 5+ have latched onto it to cause problems.
As someone who has been to socials/events all over the UK for years on here I can vouch for them and always recommend/encourage people to attend because in my experience 99% is all good fun. Like with anything nothing is perfect therefore the 1% can be the negative individual(s).
That is life.
The OP of this thread is a prime example of how to do it. I remember coming in here weeks ago when she created the thread as someone looking into getting to socials. Fastforward to today and she enjoyed/loved the experience. That is what you call a happy ending
Right, I better get a wiggle on! Have a great weekend everyone. Over and out for now |
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"Adam there isn’t a clique. There are friends who have met and/or chat. It’s easy to call it a clique with a derogatory accusatory edge which feeds peoples paranoia but basically the site will always be what you make of it. There will always be groups of friends and if you don’t make it into that group then that’s life.
I will continue to do my own things in my own way with people I get along with, irrespective of what others have to say.
Mind you, you know all this because I’ve told you before
Blimey, did I post that last night!?
I'm glad you have posted Babs because you're not part of the clique and you're one of the ones that has been consistent over the years in your views/opinions. That is why we are connected and get on well on here my post was not aimed at any specific groups or forumites that as you say have met/chat and are friends. As you're aware I have many groups of friends across Fab so I totally get that. I often get accused of being a forumite myself by cheeky buggers!
The bit about lurkers/click that was a joke I shared because I know some of the social attendees I have met would have giggled at reading that. Having said that I was going to post on the "clique" topic at a later date, but you mentioned some interesting points so I am going to do that now as my final post in this thread.
Some of the regular forum posters try to put people down or brush it aside when anyone mentions "clique" it appears to be a sensitive topic and for good reason... yes people do get jealous or try to be spiteful with a "derogatory accusatory edge" as you said, but I am not one of them. And because the way I am I say it exactly how it is not just being "selective" or turning a blind eye. Mates or no mates if it's wrong and I witness it I will call it out especially if the clique try to push/drive people out...
So here is my definition of "clique" and this is exactly what people mean when they mention it. Not to be confused by groups of friends enjoying friendly banter within the forums or otherwise...
A "clique" is when people will join together in 3s, 4s, 5s (there is no max number) I once witnessed at least 20 people! I don't exaggerate. They will jump on an individual(s) and either troll them or persistently quote their posts to bring them down. It becomes like a gang. Online bullies. This happens and I stand by that. That is what the surprise conversation was I had at a social. Just because some choose to turn a blind eye or pretend it ain't true that does occur therefore "clique" exist. Finally I am going to add another point. There are people within the forums that are waiting to "pounce" on individual(s) in a negative way, isolate them because for whatever reason they don't like them or see them as a threat or because who they are friends with. So they wait for them to slip up even with posting a particular "word" and next thing you know 3, 4, 5+ have latched onto it to cause problems.
As someone who has been to socials/events all over the UK for years on here I can vouch for them and always recommend/encourage people to attend because in my experience 99% is all good fun. Like with anything nothing is perfect therefore the 1% can be the negative individual(s).
That is life.
The OP of this thread is a prime example of how to do it. I remember coming in here weeks ago when she created the thread as someone looking into getting to socials. Fastforward to today and she enjoyed/loved the experience. That is what you call a happy ending
Right, I better get a wiggle on! Have a great weekend everyone. Over and out for now "
I am with you on this Adam. I actually experienced five years ago being on the end of such a ganging up process when I challenged the ‘pack of wolves’ approach to dealing with people who hadn’t understood the unwritten rules of forum posting and had ventured into what became known as fabicide territory. By doing so as realised I had committed fabicide myself. Experiences like that and a few similar ones caused me to hide my profile for 8 months and rethink my forum presence. I came back because the forum has also been a wonderfully supportive place for me to work out, who I am as a sexual being and what that meant for life outside of Fab and have made some genuinely beautiful online friends who I am still yet to meet socially or otherwise.
I have never attended a social but a I will get round to it, in the meantime the more we can, as another friend says ‘be excellent to each other’ the more this place will thrive. |
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I've done a couple of socials and had a great time.
It was fun chatting to other people who share the lifestyle. It was relaxed, no pressure and very welcoming. And while there were good looking guys there I've never looked at a social as a hook up meet so wouldn't have mattered if I fancied anyone or not.
Go to one, you'll find its no where near as scary as you think.
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"Adam there isn’t a clique. There are friends who have met and/or chat. It’s easy to call it a clique with a derogatory accusatory edge which feeds peoples paranoia but basically the site will always be what you make of it. There will always be groups of friends and if you don’t make it into that group then that’s life.
I will continue to do my own things in my own way with people I get along with, irrespective of what others have to say.
Mind you, you know all this because I’ve told you before
Blimey, did I post that last night!?
I'm glad you have posted Babs because you're not part of the clique and you're one of the ones that has been consistent over the years in your views/opinions. That is why we are connected and get on well on here my post was not aimed at any specific groups or forumites that as you say have met/chat and are friends. As you're aware I have many groups of friends across Fab so I totally get that. I often get accused of being a forumite myself by cheeky buggers!
The bit about lurkers/click that was a joke I shared because I know some of the social attendees I have met would have giggled at reading that. Having said that I was going to post on the "clique" topic at a later date, but you mentioned some interesting points so I am going to do that now as my final post in this thread.
Some of the regular forum posters try to put people down or brush it aside when anyone mentions "clique" it appears to be a sensitive topic and for good reason... yes people do get jealous or try to be spiteful with a "derogatory accusatory edge" as you said, but I am not one of them. And because the way I am I say it exactly how it is not just being "selective" or turning a blind eye. Mates or no mates if it's wrong and I witness it I will call it out especially if the clique try to push/drive people out...
So here is my definition of "clique" and this is exactly what people mean when they mention it. Not to be confused by groups of friends enjoying friendly banter within the forums or otherwise...
A "clique" is when people will join together in 3s, 4s, 5s (there is no max number) I once witnessed at least 20 people! I don't exaggerate. They will jump on an individual(s) and either troll them or persistently quote their posts to bring them down. It becomes like a gang. Online bullies. This happens and I stand by that. That is what the surprise conversation was I had at a social. Just because some choose to turn a blind eye or pretend it ain't true that does occur therefore "clique" exist. Finally I am going to add another point. There are people within the forums that are waiting to "pounce" on individual(s) in a negative way, isolate them because for whatever reason they don't like them or see them as a threat or because who they are friends with. So they wait for them to slip up even with posting a particular "word" and next thing you know 3, 4, 5+ have latched onto it to cause problems.
As someone who has been to socials/events all over the UK for years on here I can vouch for them and always recommend/encourage people to attend because in my experience 99% is all good fun. Like with anything nothing is perfect therefore the 1% can be the negative individual(s).
That is life.
The OP of this thread is a prime example of how to do it. I remember coming in here weeks ago when she created the thread as someone looking into getting to socials. Fastforward to today and she enjoyed/loved the experience. That is what you call a happy ending
Right, I better get a wiggle on! Have a great weekend everyone. Over and out for now
I am with you on this Adam. I actually experienced five years ago being on the end of such a ganging up process when I challenged the ‘pack of wolves’ approach to dealing with people who hadn’t understood the unwritten rules of forum posting and had ventured into what became known as fabicide territory. By doing so as realised I had committed fabicide myself. Experiences like that and a few similar ones caused me to hide my profile for 8 months and rethink my forum presence. I came back because the forum has also been a wonderfully supportive place for me to work out, who I am as a sexual being and what that meant for life outside of Fab and have made some genuinely beautiful online friends who I am still yet to meet socially or otherwise.
I have never attended a social but a I will get round to it, in the meantime the more we can, as another friend says ‘be excellent to each other’ the more this place will thrive."
What is fabicide? I'm pretty sure I do it every time I post.
People have still been nice to me at socials though. You should try one, they're good. |
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"Adam there isn’t a clique. There are friends who have met and/or chat. It’s easy to call it a clique with a derogatory accusatory edge which feeds peoples paranoia but basically the site will always be what you make of it. There will always be groups of friends and if you don’t make it into that group then that’s life.
I will continue to do my own things in my own way with people I get along with, irrespective of what others have to say.
Mind you, you know all this because I’ve told you before
Blimey, did I post that last night!?
I'm glad you have posted Babs because you're not part of the clique and you're one of the ones that has been consistent over the years in your views/opinions. That is why we are connected and get on well on here my post was not aimed at any specific groups or forumites that as you say have met/chat and are friends. As you're aware I have many groups of friends across Fab so I totally get that. I often get accused of being a forumite myself by cheeky buggers!
The bit about lurkers/click that was a joke I shared because I know some of the social attendees I have met would have giggled at reading that. Having said that I was going to post on the "clique" topic at a later date, but you mentioned some interesting points so I am going to do that now as my final post in this thread.
Some of the regular forum posters try to put people down or brush it aside when anyone mentions "clique" it appears to be a sensitive topic and for good reason... yes people do get jealous or try to be spiteful with a "derogatory accusatory edge" as you said, but I am not one of them. And because the way I am I say it exactly how it is not just being "selective" or turning a blind eye. Mates or no mates if it's wrong and I witness it I will call it out especially if the clique try to push/drive people out...
So here is my definition of "clique" and this is exactly what people mean when they mention it. Not to be confused by groups of friends enjoying friendly banter within the forums or otherwise...
A "clique" is when people will join together in 3s, 4s, 5s (there is no max number) I once witnessed at least 20 people! I don't exaggerate. They will jump on an individual(s) and either troll them or persistently quote their posts to bring them down. It becomes like a gang. Online bullies. This happens and I stand by that. That is what the surprise conversation was I had at a social. Just because some choose to turn a blind eye or pretend it ain't true that does occur therefore "clique" exist. Finally I am going to add another point. There are people within the forums that are waiting to "pounce" on individual(s) in a negative way, isolate them because for whatever reason they don't like them or see them as a threat or because who they are friends with. So they wait for them to slip up even with posting a particular "word" and next thing you know 3, 4, 5+ have latched onto it to cause problems.
As someone who has been to socials/events all over the UK for years on here I can vouch for them and always recommend/encourage people to attend because in my experience 99% is all good fun. Like with anything nothing is perfect therefore the 1% can be the negative individual(s).
That is life.
The OP of this thread is a prime example of how to do it. I remember coming in here weeks ago when she created the thread as someone looking into getting to socials. Fastforward to today and she enjoyed/loved the experience. That is what you call a happy ending
Right, I better get a wiggle on! Have a great weekend everyone. Over and out for now
I am with you on this Adam. I actually experienced five years ago being on the end of such a ganging up process when I challenged the ‘pack of wolves’ approach to dealing with people who hadn’t understood the unwritten rules of forum posting and had ventured into what became known as fabicide territory. By doing so as realised I had committed fabicide myself. Experiences like that and a few similar ones caused me to hide my profile for 8 months and rethink my forum presence. I came back because the forum has also been a wonderfully supportive place for me to work out, who I am as a sexual being and what that meant for life outside of Fab and have made some genuinely beautiful online friends who I am still yet to meet socially or otherwise.
I have never attended a social but a I will get round to it, in the meantime the more we can, as another friend says ‘be excellent to each other’ the more this place will thrive.
What is fabicide? I'm pretty sure I do it every time I post.
People have still been nice to me at socials though. You should try one, they're good. "
Fabicide was a made up term describe the action of posting a thread where a pack wolves roasted you. As if you were dead to the Fab world even though only a small proportion of the site use the forum. It’s a myth.
As for going to an organised social I’ll get round to one eventually. In the meantime I’ll happily meet at a convenient time for coffee and chinwag on a one-to-one or small group basis. |
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