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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are you ever put off from a person because of their profile text?
Regularly I see ‘be creative in your message’ ‘stand out from the hundreds of messages I receive a day’.
Kudos for you and all that but it’s not a job interview... sometimes I did it harder to say anything when there’s that sort of profile because I already feel the need to impress. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I should add, I’m not saying my profile is the best thing ever.
I just feel like if I feel the need to impress from the off then I will never impress you, sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Quite often.
A friendly and vaguely humorous profile attracts me far more than a chiché filled list of rants."
My thoughts exactly. Far more attracted to someone who has something about them rather than putting up barriers instantly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I read “give the best oral and can do it all night long....” massive eye rolls from me
Though I am aware my profile may come across as stand-off ish but hey ho, I won’t lose sleep over it Kx |
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I just feel like if I feel the need to impress from the off then I will never impress you, sorry. "
I have to be impressed in order to move to the next level, im not going with anyone who doesn't impress me. |
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Some profiles are like the text version of Krypton Factor. All those obstacles to overcome are baffling. I prefer the ones that cut the waffle and the dislikes list. Luckily men tend to be straight forward in their profiles which makes things a lot easier to navigate. |
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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago
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"Some profiles are like the text version of Krypton Factor. All those obstacles to overcome are baffling. I prefer the ones that cut the waffle and the dislikes list. Luckily men tend to be straight forward in their profiles which makes things a lot easier to navigate. "
I'm easy  |
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I just feel like if I feel the need to impress from the off then I will never impress you, sorry.
I have to be impressed in order to move to the next level, im not going with anyone who doesn't impress me."
Are you saying the cock pic needs to be in focus too?  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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Yes I’m put off by shouty profiles, profiles that are lists of things and men’s profiles that come across like they don’t even like women.
If you boast, sound arrogant or big yourself up as being the best at something. They are all things that I find unappealing in a person. |
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I just feel like if I feel the need to impress from the off then I will never impress you, sorry.
I have to be impressed in order to move to the next level, im not going with anyone who doesn't impress me.
Are you saying the cock pic needs to be in focus too? "
At least 1 of the 30 should be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to think that my profile is ok (please tell me if it is not!) And understand where you are comming from OP.
I also getbthat the male/female ratio on here pretty much means a woman can put any demands she wants and hoops to jump through and obsticles, barriers etc (or just preferences as i believe they are actually called) on their profile and still get hundreds of messages. Most of which are probably not what she was looking for and thus leads to the read my profile rants.
I think it kinda cuts both ways mate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like to think that my profile is ok (please tell me if it is not!) And understand where you are comming from OP.
I also getbthat the male/female ratio on here pretty much means a woman can put any demands she wants and hoops to jump through and obsticles, barriers etc (or just preferences as i believe they are actually called) on their profile and still get hundreds of messages. Most of which are probably not what she was looking for and thus leads to the read my profile rants.
I think it kinda cuts both ways mate."
While I agree with you, if I know I’m not for someone I wouldn’t get in touch.
However if someone makes it more difficult than it already is then I just feel like ‘what’s the point?’ Makes me feel that even if they were to get back in touch, I could piss them off at the drop of a hat. |
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By *hezGeekCouple
over a year ago
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Having seen the messages that we get from guys somehow mistaking us for a single woman, I can see why many put barriers and blockers up. If they want to be impressed, then it’s your job to impress them. Don’t want to or feel too intimidated? Then look elsewhere. People here have a right to ask to be messaged in a manner that suits them. |
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If a profile is a list of demands I usually stop reading. I know it can be difficult if you have strong preferences or are looking for something quite specific to get the point across that you're not open to meeting everyone. If the demands relate to the type of messages they don't want to receive I usually just think 'use your filters'. I'm not keen on cock pics, messages that just say Hi or How U, or meet now requests... But I use my filters wisely and don't get hundreds of messages a day anyway... So it's quite easy to manage my mail and not get huffy when someone does slip a cock pic or message that doesn't captivate my mind into my mailbox  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer someone that writes something more thought provoking - the list of demands may not necessarily put me off, if there is something else interesting in the profile.
I appreciate that women must have lots of tedious messages to deal with - but if the sole focus of the profile is to get people to jump through hoops then I happily take their advice and 'jog on' - it is a two way street and I am better than that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a profile is a list of demands I usually stop reading. I know it can be difficult if you have strong preferences or are looking for something quite specific to get the point across that you're not open to meeting everyone. If the demands relate to the type of messages they don't want to receive I usually just think 'use your filters'. I'm not keen on cock pics, messages that just say Hi or How U, or meet now requests... But I use my filters wisely and don't get hundreds of messages a day anyway... So it's quite easy to manage my mail and not get huffy when someone does slip a cock pic or message that doesn't captivate my mind into my mailbox "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I prefer someone that writes something more thought provoking - the list of demands may not necessarily put me off, if there is something else interesting in the profile.
I appreciate that women must have lots of tedious messages to deal with - but if the sole focus of the profile is to get people to jump through hoops then I happily take their advice and 'jog on' - it is a two way street and I am better than that."
agree and short messages back. How can you make conversation with short messages back?! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes, I need the text to be pleasing to me.
The amount of men in my area, tend to have just 1 line along the lines of 'just ask'
Yeah, that is really going to get my attention NOT! "
Oh, and then they have audacity to send a message saying 'Tell me a bit about yourself'
F**k off and sort your profile out first that tells me a bit about you! There's enough information already on mine  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone needs to "try" to impress me I wouldn't be interested.
The people I like, do it without trying. "
Exactly! I don’t feel the need to feel like I have to try and impress anyone. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"It seems that awful profile text really doesn’t put people off. If you have a functioning vagina and a pair of breasts the messages keep arriving  "
But the proportion of "viable " messages might be higher if the profile text wasn't awful.
As we see from other responses above, poor profile text puts off the discerning, leaving just the knuckle draggers. I'd be surprised if that was what anyone wanted. |
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"Yes, I need the text to be pleasing to me.
The amount of men in my area, tend to have just 1 line along the lines of 'just ask'
Yeah, that is really going to get my attention NOT!
Oh, and then they have audacity to send a message saying 'Tell me a bit about yourself'
F**k off and sort your profile out first that tells me a bit about you! There's enough information already on mine "
What you into babe?
I've found "it's in my profile" is a great conversation killer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I read “give the best oral and can do it all night long....” massive eye rolls from me
Though I am aware my profile may come across as stand-off ish but hey ho, I won’t lose sleep over it Kx "
Not your missing out on the best fuck of your life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I read “give the best oral and can do it all night long....” massive eye rolls from me
Though I am aware my profile may come across as stand-off ish but hey ho, I won’t lose sleep over it Kx
Not your missing out on the best fuck of your life "
Oh that is well haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a resteraunt menu in hand would you ...
Shut yours eyes and point at something you hope you are going to like?
Or would you read it and pick something you actually like?
I appreciate a well written honest profile everytime. If you have nothing on it I'm not interested.
If i don't like something it's not going in me!!  food or body parts.... |
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"In a resteraunt menu in hand would you ...
Shut yours eyes and point at something you hope you are going to like?
Or would you read it and pick something you actually like?
I appreciate a well written honest profile everytime. If you have nothing on it I'm not interested.
If i don't like something it's not going in me!! food or body parts...."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The “Professional Swingers” profiles are hard to get on with with their huge list of demands.
I also find statuses telling everyone how filthy/dirty people are quite amusing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is why I leave my profile as bare as possible. I just know if I started waffling on I'll only sound a twat "
If you started waffling on..? Only if..?
Only joking! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Text will put me off, definitely. I read a profile before looking at photos.
Short one, 'will fill in later' or 'ask me' I will avoid like the plague. But surprisingly, couples and single female profiles have these and still have verifications.
Text talk. Luckily this is being seen less and less.
Kik. If I see someone's Kik address, it usually means they are just after wank fodder.
Demands. From putting a certain word into the subject line to must have 12" cock, smooth all over, blah, blah.
Much prefer to read a long profile as you tend to get more of an idea than just looking at one paragraph and 120 photos. |
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