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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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On a scale of 1-10 how broken would you say you are.
Feel free to use your own definitions of broken as one persons 10 may be another's 2 
Im just curious how far from the "norm" we all consider ourselves to be. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Broken as in physically and / or psychologically?
Physical maybe a 3/10 as I still ache slightly from a gym session. Psychologically a 0/10. Life is good at the moment   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When it comes to romantic relationships I'm struggling, so I'm going to say a 10 for that.
Mental health wise I'm much better than I was, so I'm going with a 6.
Health wise I'm deteriorating rapidly so 6 and falling fast.
Tiredness I'll give a 9 to, as I'm almost always tired or exhausted.
Well being, I'm feeling ok considering, so I'm going with an 8.
Sex wise I'm a 10  |
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"Feeling really down atm, just lost really...
So 0 mentally
Oh is 0 broken? I’ll change mine to 9.5 then "
Uhmmmmmm The Q was .... HOW broken are you so I'd be saying 10 is broken and 0 is mended. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feeling really down atm, just lost really...
So 0 mentally
Oh is 0 broken? I’ll change mine to 9.5 then
Uhmmmmmm The Q was .... HOW broken are you so I'd be saying 10 is broken and 0 is mended. "
Yeah that’s how I read it too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I'm broken at all. I'm lucky in that I've accepted and dealt with any issues I've had in the past, they didn't break me because I'm still here, I'm just a little more experienced in life. |
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"I don't think I'm broken at all. I'm lucky in that I've accepted and dealt with any issues I've had in the past, they didn't break me because I'm still here, I'm just a little more experienced in life. "
I think this is it. Sometimes life deals you a crap hand and you end up a little battered, but for some we rise from the ashes. |
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About a 2 (10 being broken). I know I have things to fix but nothing that is stopping me living life. A few weeks ago I would have said 0.5 but its always good to look for things to improve or in some ways treat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a lovely chat yesterday with Ads and a friend about depression etc and they hit the nail on the head, no matter how broken etc you feel, you always have some bounce, you are never just on the floor with nothing left, there is some light at the end of the tunnel.
I’ve been left feeling like I have nothing left but something Ads says to me time and time again ‘have you got a roof over your head? Have you eaten today? Do you have people round you that love you?’ And the answer to those things is yes and it does lift me.
Something else that stuck with me yesterday was when someone ask how you are or says ‘I’ve had a really bad day’ they are basically trying to get it off their chests and we should listen and not say back ‘your day has been bad, mine has been...’ (unless it’s prevalent to their troubles).
Right now I’m not really feeling broken, even financially for example, we don’t have much left until the end of the month but I have food in the fridge etc, right now life is pretty ok.
Geeky x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm literally broken- or my knee is... It's healing, just not fast enough.
Oh I hope you fully recover very soon. "
Thank you, it's been 5 months now... Who would have thought that a silly slip on wet bathroom floor would have such dire consequences... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few years ago after a catalogue of disaster I was physically and mentally broken. It's no exaggeration to say that I could see no way out. These days I'm a 4 ish.. I may be a distance from where I'd like to be, but from where I've been it's a world of difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feeling really down atm, just lost really...
So 0 mentally
Oh is 0 broken? I’ll change mine to 9.5 then
Uhmmmmmm The Q was .... HOW broken are you so I'd be saying 10 is broken and 0 is mended. "
That's how I read it too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feeling really down atm, just lost really...
So 0 mentally
Oh is 0 broken? I’ll change mine to 9.5 then
Uhmmmmmm The Q was .... HOW broken are you so I'd be saying 10 is broken and 0 is mended.
That's how I read it too."
Which means I need to change sex wise to 0, cos I'm a plum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meh I am not sure where begin.
Mental health it varies between 5 to a 8
Physical a 8 apart from a few aches
Emotional a 5 at the moment.
For a happy hump day. I ain't feeling it.
As I am in a over thinking and I wish for a kill switch at times.
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Me? I couldn't it a figure on it, but I'd say I'm that cracked mug in the cupboard... You know... The slightly chipped one... The one you feel that miniscule tug in the handle that warns it might come off completely someday... But you still use it and its still your favourite mug because tea from anything else just isn't the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty integrated. I healed a little bit of my unintegrated self last month and life has been very good since. I’m always a work in progress but I’m content. My only physical issue is controlled hypertension because I need meds to keep it controlled. But that improved as my fitness improved and weight reduced so again all moving in the right direction
As for being normal - I’m a bit of a chameleon so I appear more normal to some people than others. I have many faces - not just two faced |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is fighting a secret battle you don’t know about. Except for me. I am fighting my battle very publicly and it is with an angry squirel with serious issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This time 2 years ago I was almost very fucking broken. Had a full on breakdown in May 2017.
Now I'm not broken. I do carry scars though, I don't see the good in people as much as I used to. I did that too much previously and found myself making excuses for the shitty behaviour of others, now I sense people instead of trusting them automatically. I listen to my gut far more, and I'm not afraid to trust it.
Abuse my trust and it's game over, which sounds harsh but it's my reality now so I suppose that's a bit extreme and says I'm not as unbroken as maybe I think I am.
I'd say I don't necessarily fit into the "normal" bracket, but fuck, there is no normal, not really. Everyone has their own normality and what some people consider normal others think it crazy.
On a scale of 10 I'd put myself at a 2
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"Everyone is fighting a secret battle you don’t know about. Except for me. I am fighting my battle very publicly and it is with an angry squirel with serious issues."
Be careful with them angry squirrels with issues....they always go for the nuts first!!! |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
A box at end of your bed |
"I'm more broken than all the glass in a green house, i gave up along time ago so now I just float through life. Enjoy the ride as they say and remember the good not the bad "
that about sums it up for me too. |
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Right now.
Physically, very broken.. I've just crawled out of the gym
If we're talking mentally broken.
Then I suppose I am to a degree.
Life events always leave scars, some never heal.
But others have made me stronger than I've ever been.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm literally broken- or my knee is... It's healing, just not fast enough.
Oh I hope you fully recover very soon.
Thank you, it's been 5 months now... Who would have thought that a silly slip on wet bathroom floor would have such dire consequences... "
how horrible and I can imagine it's been very frustrating.
Well I hope you are very much on the mend soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on your perception of broken.
Obviously I have ups and downs in life as everybody does and there are days I feel pretty crap and other days on top of the world. Then there are those times in life that everything just feels a complete mess and totally broken, but they always end up repairing themselves even if it's not always in the way I want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not broken at all. I’ve experienced lots of things in my life that lots of others have, like bereavement but I have my health, I have a roof over my head and people that love me. I’m happy "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm probably around an 8 or a 9. I got sent on a stress management course at work and it turns out I've been burned out since I was a teenager , which probably accounts for the awful state of my mental health! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been through a lot (too much it feels like). So I would say I'm a 8 out of 10 now, used to be 10 years ago.
Not a bad thing, I think most will go through similar or worse at some point. Makes you see things differently, become more caring and understanding. More human as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"7, maybe 8. Depressed, lonely, but trying to work through it."
'Working through it'. Does that mean trying to bare with it and sit it out? (Will not work). Or making changes to your life that will get you back to yourself? I hope it's the last one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Physically, I'm pretty good. Had a heart scare a few years back which was a worry but ran 11 marathons since then. My body survived years of alcohol abuse pretty much unscathed (realistically I probably should have cirrhosis of the liver) so it's doing me proud way too young to he having a second cateract operation though! So I'd say 2 or 3 out of ten at the most.
Mentally, well I'm a mess but I'm getting better every week. One breakdown and one attempt at calling it quits last year, well that's pretty much rock bottom. But that's not the whole picture, 3 1/2 years sober is a huge positive but it takes some adjusting and the demons of a lot of shit aren't always quiet. On a good day I'd say 5 or 6, a bad day easily 10 and let's not think about the really bad days! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"7, maybe 8. Depressed, lonely, but trying to work through it."
Tough things to deal with and an all too often deadly combination for men. I've been there as well. Message me if you want to chat, no ulterior motive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very, in many different ways. At the moment about a 6
However, last time I checked broken crayons can still colour in or make pretty pictures. "
I love this, beautiful sentiment x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Physically, I'm pretty good. Had a heart scare a few years back which was a worry but ran 11 marathons since then. My body survived years of alcohol abuse pretty much unscathed (realistically I probably should have cirrhosis of the liver) so it's doing me proud way too young to he having a second cateract operation though! So I'd say 2 or 3 out of ten at the most.
Mentally, well I'm a mess but I'm getting better every week. One breakdown and one attempt at calling it quits last year, well that's pretty much rock bottom. But that's not the whole picture, 3 1/2 years sober is a huge positive but it takes some adjusting and the demons of a lot of shit aren't always quiet. On a good day I'd say 5 or 6, a bad day easily 10 and let's not think about the really bad days! "
I can’t imagine how that must feel, but I would think to achieve 3 1/2 years of being sober is bloody hard work, so that alone is a massive achievement... |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
"Me? I couldn't it a figure on it, but I'd say I'm that cracked mug in the cupboard... You know... The slightly chipped one... The one you feel that miniscule tug in the handle that warns it might come off completely someday... But you still use it and its still your favourite mug because tea from anything else just isn't the same "
Not sure where I am on the scale right now, but a tad better for the above... and less off the handle.
Physically, I've been better and worse but my arm and leg aren't as broken as they were and my fingers are completely healed. My arm still goes 'clunk' when I lift with it to too much. I'll be fine by summer.
The noggin is less easy to judge. Slightly numb and seemingly impervious to the kind of shit that might've brought about a spin in the past. Not sure if that's a good or a bad sign. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Physically I'm fit and healthy and, luckily, I always have been. Emotionally I have some deep scars but they are healed. It's taken a huge amount of time and effort to get to this point. Life is good.
Why do you ask Op, are you wobbling? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a scale of 1-10 how broken would you say you are.
Feel free to use your own definitions of broken as one persons 10 may be another's 2
Im just curious how far from the "norm" we all consider ourselves to be."
Isn't this the same as asking for ur greatest song ever. Tomorrow will bring a different answer.
Me, I'm broke, mostly from outside influences, kinda had enough now. Keep on smiling and don't let it show but fuck me, life really does like to take a good run up when it's about to kick you squarely in the nuts. I have the most amazing girlfriend who I love completely, I have the most amazing daughter who is beyond words. They are the reason for my smile, without them I'd be lost. I've always worked, harder than most, and life has never been so hard. So yeah, today it's 8-9. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"7, maybe 8. Depressed, lonely, but trying to work through it.
'Working through it'. Does that mean trying to bare with it and sit it out? (Will not work). Or making changes to your life that will get you back to yourself? I hope it's the last one "
"Working on it" as in getting help and trying to change my thought processes. Unfortunately that doesn't do much for the "Don't have any friends, don't know how to make them" side of things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"7, maybe 8. Depressed, lonely, but trying to work through it.
Tough things to deal with and an all too often deadly combination for men. I've been there as well. Message me if you want to chat, no ulterior motive."
Got past the deadly stage a long time ago, thankfully, and I've got that bad since. |
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On the basis i have a fractured collar bone and a broken rib that is detached from my sternum, i would say around 6.5.
It only hurts to sneeze or cough and a left handed wank just doesn't feel quite the same. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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"Honestly without a job i feel like less than i was confidence is beginning to drain the longer im without work and a car"
I can understand that feeling...it begins to gnaw at you, doesn’t it? You’re awesome though, so keep that pecker up. You’ll get through this.
I would class myself as a 7. I used to be a 9 or 10 but I’m getting better. The inside of my head isn’t as anxious as it used to be and I feel stronger in my own identity. It takes time to unravel learned behaviours, though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly without a job i feel like less than i was confidence is beginning to drain the longer im without work and a car
I can understand that feeling...it begins to gnaw at you, doesn’t it? You’re awesome though, so keep that pecker up. You’ll get through this.
I would class myself as a 7. I used to be a 9 or 10 but I’m getting better. The inside of my head isn’t as anxious as it used to be and I feel stronger in my own identity. It takes time to unravel learned behaviours, though."
yep i threw a pillow at jezza last week thanks tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly without a job i feel like less than i was confidence is beginning to drain the longer im without work and a car"
I found being out if work really challenging. Lack of routine was as tough as lack of money. Hope you find something soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly without a job i feel like less than i was confidence is beginning to drain the longer im without work and a car
I found being out if work really challenging. Lack of routine was as tough as lack of money. Hope you find something soon "
think thats it the laying around the waiting for calls emails its dumb but cheers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Physically, I'm pretty good. Had a heart scare a few years back which was a worry but ran 11 marathons since then. My body survived years of alcohol abuse pretty much unscathed (realistically I probably should have cirrhosis of the liver) so it's doing me proud way too young to he having a second cateract operation though! So I'd say 2 or 3 out of ten at the most.
Mentally, well I'm a mess but I'm getting better every week. One breakdown and one attempt at calling it quits last year, well that's pretty much rock bottom. But that's not the whole picture, 3 1/2 years sober is a huge positive but it takes some adjusting and the demons of a lot of shit aren't always quiet. On a good day I'd say 5 or 6, a bad day easily 10 and let's not think about the really bad days!
I can’t imagine how that must feel, but I would think to achieve 3 1/2 years of being sober is bloody hard work, so that alone is a massive achievement... "
Thank you it's been tough staying sober, started drinking at 16, used it to mask social anxiety and then to self medicate. But weird learning to socialise sober at this age  but the biggest adjustment is the amount of free time I have now i no longer deal with hangovers but and having removed myself from most social circles. But I'm massively proud of no longer being the d*unken tosser I so often was |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Physically, I'm pretty good. Had a heart scare a few years back which was a worry but ran 11 marathons since then. My body survived years of alcohol abuse pretty much unscathed (realistically I probably should have cirrhosis of the liver) so it's doing me proud way too young to he having a second cateract operation though! So I'd say 2 or 3 out of ten at the most.
Mentally, well I'm a mess but I'm getting better every week. One breakdown and one attempt at calling it quits last year, well that's pretty much rock bottom. But that's not the whole picture, 3 1/2 years sober is a huge positive but it takes some adjusting and the demons of a lot of shit aren't always quiet. On a good day I'd say 5 or 6, a bad day easily 10 and let's not think about the really bad days!
I can’t imagine how that must feel, but I would think to achieve 3 1/2 years of being sober is bloody hard work, so that alone is a massive achievement...
Thank you it's been tough staying sober, started drinking at 16, used it to mask social anxiety and then to self medicate. But weird learning to socialise sober at this age but the biggest adjustment is the amount of free time I have now i no longer deal with hangovers but and having removed myself from most social circles. But I'm massively proud of no longer being the d*unken tosser I so often was"
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By *aolo AMan
over a year ago
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Intetesting question ?? Defo damaged goods but also always been a little off the wall anyway? I always think David Bowie! It's only in my later life after a broken marraige I realised I'm Abstract Aesthetic and now I'm Okey with that, this and a Fetish site scene I finally feel comfortable hanging out with similar souls but bizarrely I've also realised I'm in a Twilight space twix Vanilla and Out there? I wish I could find a play partner on the same page but think she was a girl friend I had in my 20's but missed it?? ?? ..... |
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